Post: #226

First flake in New Orleans (met her through some friends at a bar), an hour before we supposed to meet up at a gig: she fell off her bike. Sounds sincere enough but I had to lol.

Post: #227

1:18pm Kaotic: Still on for X at 8:30
1:19pm Girl: As long as I can fix my clutch cable <--- random, sounds like a suspicious excuse
2:36pm Kaotic: Better get on it, i dont wanna hear any excuses <---probably shouldn't of used the wink
4:19pm Girl: Ha ha ha okay
6:53pm Kaotic: So whats the deal<---felt like i should've waited
10:21pm Girl: Hey my bad
10:21pm Girl: I was helping a friend with a project <---no mention of the "clutch cable" she was fixing.
10:21pm Girl: Got distracted then got drunk <----"i hungout with a guy that interested me more and got drunk and fucked" (high probability)
11:06pm Girl: I owe you <---follow up text, sign of strong interest still ?

I have not responded, i feel like i have control of frame right now, just need advice on what to reply with, or wait a day and reply?

Post: #228

(06-05-2014 01:26 AM)kaotic Wrote:  1:18pm Kaotic: Still on for X at 8:30
1:19pm Girl: As long as I can fix my clutch cable <--- random, sounds like a suspicious excuse
2:36pm Kaotic: Better get on it, i dont wanna hear any excuses <---probably shouldn't of used the wink
4:19pm Girl: Ha ha ha okay
6:53pm Kaotic: So whats the deal<---felt like i should've waited
10:21pm Girl: Hey my bad
10:21pm Girl: I was helping a friend with a project <---no mention of the "clutch cable" she was fixing.
10:21pm Girl: Got distracted then got drunk <----"i hungout with a guy that interested me more and got drunk and fucked" (high probability)
11:06pm Girl: I owe you <---follow up text, sign of strong interest still ?

I have not responded, i feel like i have control of frame right now, just need advice on what to reply with, or wait a day and reply?

Yeah, that was a pathetic flake. Sleep on it and respond. Party on, Garth.

Post: #229

Quote:Yeah, that was a pathetic flake. Sleep on it and respond. Party on, Garth.

But what would be a good response?

I was thinking along the lines of

-10 points for the late reply, you're losing me, looks like you've got some ground to make up !

or something more teasing ?

Post: #230

(06-05-2014 11:36 AM)kaotic Wrote:  

Quote:Yeah, that was a pathetic flake. Sleep on it and respond. Party on, Garth.

But what would be a good response?

"K"

Here is the flake I got last night(she is cancelling our plans for this evening)

"Hey there. I am so sorry but I am not going to be able to make it tomorrow. I'm moving some stuff this week and it's taking longer than I thought it would. I apologize. I will contact you next week once things have slowed down."

I have a few others. 2 of them were really hot ukrainians that flaked at the last minute. I was doing so good this year with having chicks not flake. I guess I was due for a stretch of this.

Post: #231

(06-05-2014 11:41 AM)eradicator Wrote:  

(06-05-2014 11:36 AM)kaotic Wrote:  

Quote:Yeah, that was a pathetic flake. Sleep on it and respond. Party on, Garth.

But what would be a good response?

"K"

Here is the flake I got last night(she is cancelling our plans for this evening)

"Hey there. I am so sorry but I am not going to be able to make it tomorrow. I'm moving some stuff this week and it's taking longer than I thought it would. I apologize. I will contact you next week once things have slowed down."

I have a few others. 2 of them were really hot ukrainians that flaked at the last minute. I was doing so good this year with having chicks not flake. I guess I was due for a stretch of this.

The thing with "K" is she already apologized and said she owed me. I don't think "K" would get me anywhere. Wouldn't this be the perfect opportunity to have her hangout on my terms again....in essence a restart in planning ?

I was thinking a little tease and "since you owe me now you can meet me at xyz and you buy the first round since you flaked last time"

Post: #232

(06-05-2014 11:59 AM)kaotic Wrote:  

(06-05-2014 11:41 AM)eradicator Wrote:  

(06-05-2014 11:36 AM)kaotic Wrote:  

Quote:Yeah, that was a pathetic flake. Sleep on it and respond. Party on, Garth.

But what would be a good response?

"K"

Here is the flake I got last night(she is cancelling our plans for this evening)

"Hey there. I am so sorry but I am not going to be able to make it tomorrow. I'm moving some stuff this week and it's taking longer than I thought it would. I apologize. I will contact you next week once things have slowed down."

I have a few others. 2 of them were really hot ukrainians that flaked at the last minute. I was doing so good this year with having chicks not flake. I guess I was due for a stretch of this.

The thing with "K" is she already apologized and said she owed me. I don't think "K" would get me anywhere. Wouldn't this be the perfect opportunity to have her hangout on my terms again....in essence a restart in planning ?

I was thinking a little tease and "since you owe me now you can meet me at xyz and you buy the first round since you flaked last time"

You can. I am just going to tell my flake, if she contacts me, to come to my house and chill. That way if she flakes again, at least I put no effort into the date and am not losing any time. I had to do some decent legwork for my flake to set the date up. It didn't cost me any money or anything, just my time. And when I finally had it sorted, I was relieved(it involved getting her comp tickets to a show, she is an actress, I had to text a few people that had available comps to give out). and then she cancels. I responded with "k" because it is so fucking dismissive.

if she balks at coming over to my house for a first date, I next her. I am sure she is getting plenty of other offers, she is legit hot(maybe a 7.5 or an 8) but I am not bothered.

Post: #233

(06-05-2014 12:08 PM)eradicator Wrote:  

(06-05-2014 11:59 AM)kaotic Wrote:  

(06-05-2014 11:41 AM)eradicator Wrote:  

(06-05-2014 11:36 AM)kaotic Wrote:  

Quote:Yeah, that was a pathetic flake. Sleep on it and respond. Party on, Garth.

But what would be a good response?

"K"

Here is the flake I got last night(she is cancelling our plans for this evening)

"Hey there. I am so sorry but I am not going to be able to make it tomorrow. I'm moving some stuff this week and it's taking longer than I thought it would. I apologize. I will contact you next week once things have slowed down."

I have a few others. 2 of them were really hot ukrainians that flaked at the last minute. I was doing so good this year with having chicks not flake. I guess I was due for a stretch of this.

The thing with "K" is she already apologized and said she owed me. I don't think "K" would get me anywhere. Wouldn't this be the perfect opportunity to have her hangout on my terms again....in essence a restart in planning ?

I was thinking a little tease and "since you owe me now you can meet me at xyz and you buy the first round since you flaked last time"

You can. I am just going to tell my flake, if she contacts me, to come to my house and chill. That way if she flakes again, at least I put no effort into the date and am not losing any time. I had to do some decent legwork for my flake to set the date up. It didn't cost me any money or anything, just my time. And when I finally had it sorted, I was relieved(it involved getting her comp tickets to a show, she is an actress, I had to text a few people that had available comps to give out). and then she cancels. I responded with "k" because it is so fucking dismissive.

if she balks at coming over to my house for a first date, I next her. I am sure she is getting plenty of other offers, she is legit hot(maybe a 7.5 or an 8) but I am not bothered.

In your case I'd of done the same thing. Her meeting me at the bar (2 min drive from my house) isn't much effort. If I had to pull strings and put effort I'd say "k" and/or next her.

Post: #234

3 flakes in the past week

Made a date with a girl for Wed night. We chatted on OKC a bunch, moved her to text, chatting back and forth on text and made DBT plans for Wed - Mon I shoot her a text to let her know the details decided on. simple "Hey what's up" no response. Called her Tues late afternoon not answer, left a simple "Hey it's General Stalin calling about plans tomorrow, call me back when you can xxx-xxx-xxxx" no call back. Dead lead.

Made plans with another OKC girl for tonight. Same deal, built rapport on OKC message then moved to text to talk logistics. Called her the other night to build some comfort and chat plans. She seemed DTF for sure - taking the train to my place in the evening and saying how she just had to be home by 7:30am for work. She texted me yesterday "Bad news - got scheduled to lead a training Thursday night because my coworker had a family emergency. Can't come over anymore :/" - no counter offer. I played the bitch move and tried to guilt her: "You gonna counter offer or is this your way of flaking?" she replies "I work at a rape crisis center, so counseling, training, and events come up a lot. Not my way of flaking."Still didn't see a counter offer in there. I might restart he next week but this is officially a cold lead.

Went to a bar with a couple friends last week. One of my friend's gf is a waitress there and we got friendly with the staff. Was talking to a cue bartender all night (she was kind of cunty/playing hard to get but whatever). I ordered a 16oz ribeye with sides and she said I wouldn't eat it. Told her if I eat she's coming over to watch netflix documentaries with me (beta but whatever). I ate my food but she already told my friend's gf ahead of time to give me her number. In like Flynn? I call her a day or two later no answer leave a voicemail no call back. Text her 3 days after
"Flaky McGee sup"
"Hey! Just heading into work"
"Fascinating when are you free"
"Hahah to be completely honest, after my summer classes are over at the end of june between those and work I don't have a lot of free time"
"gay"
"Gotta make money and get my degree!"
"Snoooooore"

Fucking next.

Post: #235

Hah! I just got flaked on while I was in the process of typing up a flake text myself. The lizard in question is a 21y.o. redhead and I was really only interested in the young/redhead flag. Got a couple other better options, and just didnt feel like going in to town tonight anyway.

Got to say, this is the first time I have been happy to have a flake.

"I hate to say it but I called in sick to work today and I was hoping if I slept I would feel better but I keep vomiting. And I dont want to spread the sickness."

lol....ok sister.

Post: #236

(06-05-2014 03:30 PM)MtnMan Wrote:  Hah! I just got flaked on while I was in the process of typing up a flake text myself. The lizard in question is a 21y.o. redhead and I was really only interested in the young/redhead flag. Got a couple other better options, and just didnt feel like going in to town tonight anyway.

Got to say, this is the first time I have been happy to have a flake.

"I hate to say it but I called in sick to work today and I was hoping if I slept I would feel better but I keep vomiting. And I dont want to spread the sickness."

lol....ok sister.

Did you respond???

Post: #237

(06-05-2014 08:03 PM)Thesoloist Wrote:  

(06-05-2014 03:30 PM)MtnMan Wrote:  Hah! I just got flaked on while I was in the process of typing up a flake text myself. The lizard in question is a 21y.o. redhead and I was really only interested in the young/redhead flag. Got a couple other better options, and just didnt feel like going in to town tonight anyway.

Got to say, this is the first time I have been happy to have a flake.

"I hate to say it but I called in sick to work today and I was hoping if I slept I would feel better but I keep vomiting. And I dont want to spread the sickness."

lol....ok sister.

Did you respond???

yea, just "not fun, feel better"
I'm calling this number dead, which is fine by me.

Post: #238

(06-05-2014 11:36 AM)kaotic Wrote:  

Quote:Yeah, that was a pathetic flake. Sleep on it and respond. Party on, Garth.

But what would be a good response?

I was thinking along the lines of

-10 points for the late reply, you're losing me, looks like you've got some ground to make up !

or something more teasing ?

I use a point system on dates to tease girls and bring out their competitive spirit. I just continue to deduct one point at a time for stuff that is out of their control. I do it in a joking sense so girls know it is playful and flirty. I only begin it as soon as I physically see the girl is getting into me (leaning on the table, lots of eye contact, etc). Never before that.

At the end of the night I always remind them how many points they are under par and offer them a few points if they go out again with me later that week. I don't know where I came up with it because I just came out of me naturally on one date, and I have been using it ever since. It, along with other factors, has greatly reduced girls flaking on a follow-up.

(06-05-2014 03:21 PM)General Stalin Wrote:  "I work at a rape crisis center, so counseling, training, and events come up a lot. Not my way of flaking."

Uh... Drop this girl immediately.

Post: #239

Just flaked on by med school girl from okc. Got this text one hour before date, "Hey, so sorry but my cousin needs me to babysit last minute tonight. Can we reschedule for Thursday."

My response- "Lol." This is a transparent lie of a flake. I don't think she is that cute so I'm letting it go. I have a date with a much hotter Russian on Thursday anyway! Kind of relieved since I wanted to relax tonight.

Post: #240

I just got flaked on.

What are some good text responses for when you get flaked on, but still want to try to get her out later?

Right now I've been using "gayy" and if she does it again "double gay". It's been fine so far but always looking for something better.

Post: #241

I just got flaked on. She didn't even call or text to say why. I met her in a pool party, she gave her phone and I text her the next day. I'm working, so I don't answer back and call her the next day to set up a date, hanging out by the pool and drinking. I still have another date for Friday, but I hate it when this happens.

Post: #242

Got flaked on last night big style....was staying in a hotel with work...matched with someone on Tinder and started gaming her via text....I had been upgraded to the Honeymoon suite in the hotel so had a huge four poster bed and spa tub....she was asking me loads of questions about the room so sent her pictures. Told her to get a taxi over to the hotel and see for herself and she said no need as she could see the hotel from her house and would walk..

Agreed that I would meet her in the bar in 5 minutes and would be a gentleman and a drink would be waiting for her.....carried on gaming via Tinder and posted a picture of her drink on moments which she liked....told me she was leaving her house and would see me in 5 minutes...no further contact...not even an excuse from her...just a plain no show!

Post: #243

I just got flaked on, TWICE!

Set up some plans with a bish I met off Tinder 2 weeks ago for 4 p.m. lunch then progress to my apt, I get a text from her at 7 P.M.: "Hey phone died" I text back "way to waste my time". She responds swearing her phone died and she wants to see me, although whats app clearly shows my messages delivered to her phone haha.

Just incase had another bish who i pulled off the street lined up for 5:00 P.M. She has been promising for days that we would meet up. Text her around 4 to see if we are still on for 5 . I get a text around 8 "sorry reschedule" "kisses".

I'm like wow, how tf do I get flaked on twice in one day. And what's the most upsetting is I blew off plans with a cute bish I just recently started banging for these gd corn flakes

Post: #244

not sure if this counts as a flake, but holy excuse batman.

her: Sure that message was for me?; p

me: no but now it is. let's hang out

her:Id like to, but they're renovating the house and im not even sleeping there. Had to stay at somebody else's house

what does her house getting renovated have to do with anything lmao

Post: #245

How do you act if you run into a girl who's phone flaked on you?

(Met her at a club, had a nice chat, made out but no more than that but she gave me her (real) phone no.)

I mean I'm not going to text her again but I wouldn't ignore her if we bumped into each other on the street.
Any ideas on things to say in case that happens?

Post: #246

(07-10-2014 02:44 PM)kaloha Wrote:  How do you act if you run into a girl who's phone flaked on you?

(Met her at a club, had a nice chat, made out but no more than that but she gave me her (real) phone no.)

I mean I'm not going to text her again but I wouldn't ignore her if we bumped into each other on the street.
Any ideas on things to say in case that happens?

Play it cool, act like you never even had plans for her, even better if you run into her with another girl on your arm.

Post: #247

(07-03-2014 04:22 PM)Welshguy39 Wrote:  Got flaked on last night big style....was staying in a hotel with work...matched with someone on Tinder and started gaming her via text....I had been upgraded to the Honeymoon suite in the hotel so had a huge four poster bed and spa tub....she was asking me loads of questions about the room so sent her pictures. Told her to get a taxi over to the hotel and see for herself and she said no need as she could see the hotel from her house and would walk..

Agreed that I would meet her in the bar in 5 minutes and would be a gentleman and a drink would be waiting for her.....carried on gaming via Tinder and posted a picture of her drink on moments which she liked....told me she was leaving her house and would see me in 5 minutes...no further contact...not even an excuse from her...just a plain no show!

Is it possible she did come to the said bar and did look who you were and may be didn't like what she saw or you were not her "type" and or a discrepancy between pics and real self.

I have flaked on girls when i saw that they were secret internet fatties but did text them that something come up and i won't be able to make it. This is weird that she didn't even sent a text afterwards. Something genuinely bad could have happened to her but don't dwell on it, On to the next one .....

Post: #248

interested in knowing how these approaches took place. I usually don't get flaked on if a girl gives me strong eye contact pre-appraoh. IF a girl gives me strong eye contact, I get flaked on like 1-2/10 times.

Post: #249

Horrible flake yesterday. Basically I was not going out because a very hot girl I know was partying close to my house and said that after closing hour she would come by. Closing hour is at 2.

Anyway, first all was good. She says she will come soon. At two I send her whatsup, you coming? She says she went to an afterclub with her friends (illegal club until 5-6) but she will come soon. The friends cant know so that why she has to be sneaky, she says at latest 3 she will be out (texts this at 2.30). Me at 3 whatsup? No response. I give her a call at about 4 since there is no reaction. Doesnt pick up. No show and I kept up until half past 4 goddammit.

Next day excuse. Yeah when I left the club I came across a person I really dislike, I got angry, went home and went to sleep immediatly. Me: why didnt you text or pick up the phone? her: the battery was almost dead. Me: It was ringing and it takes like 2 sec for a text... I dont believe any of your story. Her: I know, Im very sorry but thats how it went. Me: radiosilence

Shes a coworker of me, sitting in the same office so it will be slightly awquard on monday I guess. Anyway total disrespect of her. Should have told me she wasnt coming, even if it was for another guy (most likely scenario), atleast I didnt have to wait up like a dick.

Im gonna ignore her for a good while. If she brings it up, ill tell her she has no respect. I know to keep the fucking going, it would be better to go lightly over it like I dont care. But I care, people should respect me, I dont care if she goes, theres other girls waiting, so I prefer the hard response.

Post: #250

First she sends me a picture of her holding some baby, then this:

lol, "I have to reschedule because my brother isn't going to come home soon enough for me to get home. I'm watching his kids and he went to a funeral and I don't know when he'll be back. can we go later?"

me: "10:30 then."

her: no reply.

me: will that time work?

her @ 10pm "I'm still not home yet. I'm sorry. Can we reschedule"

me: ok

her: *no reply*

Did I do this right? How the fuck does your brother neglect to mention that he's dropping his kids off with you because of a funeral? She's either stupid or her brother is as terse as clint eastwood.