Post: #26

OP, how old are the two of you?

This is what you should have said: "It's complicated."*

*Source: http://heartiste.wordpress.com/2010/05/2...e-to-hear/

Post: #27

I love you like kings love queens, or like a gay geneticist loves designer jeans (genes)

Post: #28

(04-13-2012 05:11 PM)durangotang Wrote:  I Googled around for a good answer to this because I don't like agree & amplify for this question. This forum came up with what I thought was the best answer
Shit Test: Do you love me?
Reply: Nope, I'm using you to get to your best friend. Didn't you know?



I'd like to hear what other people come up with one this very serious shit test. Nice thread.

Here's one off the top of my head:

Shit test: Do you love me?
Reply: Ask me after a blowjob.

Fuck my shitty response above. This guy's responses are pure gold.

Post: #29

Hahahaha I thought about "It's complicated", but it sounded a bit too mean! In retrospect, maybe I should used it. But I haven't had any trouble since, the only texts she sends me of late are sexy ones.

I'm 25 and she's 18.

Post: #30

(04-13-2012 06:59 PM)HiFlo Wrote:  I think this way of speaking tactfully avoids answering her question while still giving her something to latch onto.

That's my tactic. It's worked so far.

Post: #31

this is my standard answer to the question "do you love me" or "I love you"

me: You are not hard to like.

Post: #32

Well, do you? Your feelings should alter whatever your answer is.

When I don't, I say "don't ask me that".

When I'm iffy, I say "sometimes".

And if I do I say something affirming.

I find it irritating when the girl needs emotional assurance but I have none to give, so I just try to shut that down. I see nothing wrong with showing my irritation at the question. "Don't ask me that" works for me. Perhaps followed by something like "look to my actions".

Really though, it is a bit of a faux pas to ask that question from someone, as I think everyone really knows. That's information that you volunteer - you don't extract it at the point of a question. Nothing wrong with slapping a girl down a bit for pushing the issue.

Yes, it doesn't placate her demons, but then so what. A little anxiety over the issue never hurt a relationship, and she can get her dose of assurance through non-verbal means such as through physical affection.

Emotions mean something to me, and bonding is real enough, and so I'd rather not trivialize intimacy with false assurance. I feel what I feel, take it or leave it. Nobody gets to demand assurances of something that isn't there. And if it is, I'll let it be known, one way or another, on my terms.

This is a shit test in the same way that "do you think I'm fat" is a shit test. You fail if you feel the need to spare her feelings and be tactful.

Yes, you are fat. Lose weight.

She may as well be asking "Are you afraid of saying the wrong thing to me? What if I really put you on the spot; are you going to squirm around like a little bitch?"

People think being blunt and to the point is off putting. Maybe. But on the whole just being a man is doing your job, and that's what she'll be attracted to. Lose the battle ("yes, you're fat") and win the war (her respect).

Just take command, in whatever way is compatible with your inner strength and honesty. Don't let her control the frame by dancing around in a little side step jig as she tries to pin you down.

Post: #33

Ok so I'm late for this, I haven't read previous replies. My take:

Forget that this is a shit test, answer what you really feel. If you lie to her and say you love her, your going to get alot of shit later on that you'd wish you never met the girl.

If by saying no you lose the bang, you automattically pushed that eject button you had griping for a while. Like Black Knight said, asking that after 2 weeks is just plain whack, be careful with that.

Or you can make the hamster keep spinning but giving an answer that doesn't exactly mean Yes neither No.

Post: #34

Yes, I love me

Post: #35

Will somebody please explain to me what is so terrible about texting back "yes". If that is too long and passionate then you could abbreviate it to "y".

It seems to me that the girl is extending herself and showing vulnerability by even asking. Then if you reply with a single word, it isn't try-hard.

I guess she will then ask "How do you love me," etc. At that point I guess you resort to "It's complicated".

Post: #36

Since mental has already bumped this, I'll provide a little update. It turned out well and, while it I still think it was weird that I got that particular question before "I love you", she has gone a long way in proving that she's sincere and really does her best to please me. I eventually graced her with "I love you too" after she popped it the 2nd time. Overall, I'm satisfied with our relationship and she continues being really nice.

Things are good. Lalalalala.