Post: #1

Alright, so I had sex with this one girl, for the first time, a couple of months ago who is friends with my best friends now wife. We had his wedding this past weekend and I was the best man. The thing is, I couldn't get out of bringing this girl as my date because she was already invited to the wedding. She literally lived in the apartment next to my friend and his wife, and so I basically had to quasi date her up until the wedding, and take her to the wedding. My friend bought a house and moved out of the apartment last week, the wedding is over, and so now I can break "it" off with her. She outright admitted, in public, dating me because she liked the way that I banged her. So I don't feel so bad. never promised anything anyway, even though I know she likes me a lot. Me not really liking her kept her liking me a lot, as per the way dating usually works. Anyway, this is just a somewhat relevant but non-essential aside to my primary question.

While at the wedding, a bridesmaid started hitting on me, hooking up with me, and telling me that she wanted to have sex. Now this girl was tall, blonde, had big beautiful eyes, big beautiful lips, and was pretty hot in a real sultry way. I'd say a 8.9 with the .4 points extra added for height. Being 5'8" I'm not used to tall hot girls hitting on me without me putting in some serious time, and so she is exotic for me. I generally don't even hit on girls taller than me because, well, most aren't and because I just see it as it being more unnecessary work being that most tall girls want a guy who is at least as tall as them. Yes, I know in theory it doesn't matter, but I'm the laziest guy you'll ever meet.

So this girl is moderately drunk, talking dirty, telling me that I should have slept with her the night before (not going to get into it), asking me where I've been hiding (we just met that weekend), and we're basically hooking up wherever my date isn't. In the end, having an actual nice guy center(ya gotta go deep) with a hardened player exterior, I don't sleep in the same room as the bridesmaid and instead sleep in the room with my date and bang her(last one for old times sake).

The next morning I see the bridesmaid at her door and she's hugging all over me. Just hanging on me. My lil' head in her shoulder. This is a good sign, as it means that the antics of the previous night weren't just an alcohol fueled indiscretion on her part. She has some interest in me. She look insanely hot in her pajamas, tassled hair, and with her big sleepy eyes. Without the blur of alcohol to aid in hiding sloppy game, I dont get too into the hugging, although I'm there for a couple of minutes, and basically just tell her that I'll talk to her later. She goes back to sleep (there are other people in her room - so no chance for significant morning moves on my part) and I eventually leave the hotel without talking to her again. No number exchange, no setting up another time to talk to get together, and me just playing it cool. I see this as solid game (no relationship seeking, no neediness, I'm basically playing defensive at this point). Anyway, she is good friends with the bride of my best friend, and so I can gain the number if I so choose.

Here's the thing. I'm used to having an easy time playing it cool, and having the girl chase me while I hit her with direct game. It works. However, I actually like this girl a little, although I can totally emotionally ice her out as well if necessary. I'm a soldier. But being that I actually like her, which isn't usual, I don't trust myself not to overdo the player routine. I did well on the night of the wedding, for example at one point, I told her "no more hooking up" (this is always gold - but of course I meant it - I was nervous Id get caught and really hurt my dates feelings) and sent her storming away, only to come back later and push me into a bathroom.

But sober I dont trust it not to come off as not contrived in the beginning, although Ive said and done nothing to give it away as of yet. Nothing is worse than transparent player behavior, when the guy actually likes a girl. I just have to act a bit more than normal. I can do it. If I spend more time with her, I'll find little things to devalue her over, and my vibe will be more natural. But I'm not quite there yet. I know how quickly the tables can turn, and so I dont want to lose any upper hand that I may have. I also need to mention that I get the vibe that, especially without alcohol, it'll take tight game to land this girl solidly.( Oh yes, we'll be getting drinks). I can do it, but I need some help easing back into the situation.

So, how should I approach the situation? Should I get her number and call this week? It now Tuesday and I last saw her Sunday. I don't want to let it go cold.

Should I wait until I see her socially again (could be months)?

Maybe my friends wife could conveniently set up a soirée involving the four of us at her house(theres an extra bedroom).

Should I wait for her to call?

Even though I know not getting the number is good defensive game (that is not overly responding to her sexual interest - especially when no sex was gonna happen that weekend), but it also makes it a bit trickier to contact her. I still like the way I played it regardless. I still have the mindset that it doesn't matter if I ever hook up with this girl again, and so I believe that I'm still good. Otherwise, I'd be sunk. But I don't want to be stupidly let a good thing go to waste, either.

Not sure, and I know that asking advice goes against Rooshes Maxim that if you have to ask advice, you wont land her. But I've played it well till now, and basically just need help easing back into some contact with her. After that, I'm confident and solid. I basically just need a good excuse to get in touch with her, without it seeming like I'm chasing her. What do you think?

Post: #2

"Maybe my friends wife could conveniently set up a soirée involving the four of us at her house(theres an extra bedroom). "

If the friends wife is a team player like that, you are golden grahams.

"but it also makes it a bit trickier to contact her."

A lesson I learned a long time ago. Always get the girls number. Makes life simpler.

- MPM
The Guide to Getting More out of Life
http://www.thegmanifesto.com

Post: #3

This whole thing may be over my head but it looks like you're over complicating the situation. You have tight game and the chick is into you. I don't think you need an excuse to contact her, just see her cause you want to. I don't think this girl will care about you getting her number from someone else, I think it would just look like you weren't totally into her but something changed where you thought about it and then decided you wanted to see her.

Post: #4

(10-20-2009 08:29 PM)Riker Wrote:  This whole thing may be over my head but it looks like you're over complicating the situation. You have tight game and the chick is into you. I don't think you need an excuse to contact her, just see her cause you want to. I don't think this girl will care about you getting her number from someone else, I think it would just look like you weren't totally into her but something changed where you thought about it and then decided you wanted to see her.

Cool. I know I'm over complicating it. Too much thought. My bad. Your right man. She is into me. If I didnt like her a bit, then I wouldn't overthink it and I wouldnt need to ask. I would just call, or I wouldnt and let it go forever. I wouldn't care what she said or thought when I did call, or what the outcome was. All this strategizing. WTF. lol. This is a bad sign, but I'm glad that I asked. See what I mean? Overplaying it because I like her a bit...retarded.

I need more practice with girls that I actually like, and less notches. The notches are easy. The ones that you like a bit(this one for this very brief period I'm sure - gotta put her through the paces) are tougher. Thanks again fellas. I'm always learning. I'll let you know how it goes.

Post: #5

Try and surround yourself with lots of girls you "like". You'll like each relatively less and it will maintain your tight game. Then if you want you can have a long term thing with the best of the pack.

Post: #6

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It seems pretty simple and clear. Bang the one you want, ditch the other, and keep going.

Post: #7

You should've got her number, when you don't get the girl's number, you're gonna have a bad time.

However, you can ask your friend about this and see what his wife can set up, hopefully for this upcoming weekend.