Post: #1

Hey guys, I messed up a phone conversation with this girl and I need to recover tomorrow.

We went out for drinks on tuesday and had a fun time and agreed to see each other on the weekend. So she calls today and I'm kinda surprised but I'm able to maintain a cool attitude. At least at first. She tells me she's been feeling like she has the flu and feels sick and I say "I say this alot but I got to say it one more time...(pause).... you're so cute. Thats so cute that you're feeling sick and you call me to talk" She loves it and says "Awww well why don't you come over and take care of me? *giggles* No I'm just kidding." I realized that was an amazing response but I froze up and didn't say much.

So she says she doesn't know if she will be able to go out tomorrow if she's feeling sick. What it have been too needy/pussy to say "Well maybe if I can come over and make you some soup."

Anyways I messed it up real bad in the end. We were ending the conversation and this comes out of my mouth,

"allright well if you need anyone to talk to call me" I can tell she gets slightly weirded out and she says "ok" and we hang up.

I don't know where that wussy line came from but I hope I never say it again.

I need to call her tomorrow to see if she wants to go out or is still feeling sick. Do you guys think I can say, "Hey you want me to come over and make you something to make you feel better?" Anyway to say that in a funny way kind of downplaying the offer and maybe telling her that she is going to owe me a dinner if I do it?

Post: #2

I don't understand why you'd want to spend a weekend night over at some sick girl's house. I don't think this a good a move. If she can't go out, tell her that you hope she feels better and catch up with her next week.

Post: #3

Yea you are right. Just that I'm leaving the country and won't be back for a few months so I was looking for a close.

Post: #4

(08-28-2009 02:23 AM)Riker Wrote:  Just that I'm leaving the country and won't be back for a few months so I was looking for a close.

Do up your crib,

Forget about the phone call, or other bullshit from the past.
Call her. Ask if she's feeling better. Hope to high hell for a yes. You'll get it.
After she says yes cut off anything else she says. Sound relieved. Then say "thank god" or similar. Say it in a way so she says "why" or similar. From here on out you do the talking. Tell her you are leaving the country for a few months and you want to fuck, and say fuck, her before you leave. Tell her there's no way your waiting until you get back. Tell her now you won't spread any shit wherever you're going. Ask her where she is and you're tell her you are coming to get her.

Aloha!

Post: #5

Hey Kona,

The story is that I met her dancing tango and there was this other guy she was seeing that also just left. And she told me she didn't have sex with him because he was leaving and she knew she'd get attached. I teased her about being dramatic and boring when she said that.....maybe I should have said "Yea, thats how I am too" in a sarcastic funny way.

Anyway I can't just bust out the I'm coming over to fuck you cause I don't think I created enough attraction.

Post: #6

(08-28-2009 07:02 AM)Riker Wrote:  Hey Kona,

The story is that I met her dancing tango and there was this other guy she was seeing that also just left. And she told me she didn't have sex with him because he was leaving and she knew she'd get attached. I teased her about being dramatic and boring when she said that.....maybe I should have said "Yea, thats how I am too" in a sarcastic funny way.

Anyway I can't just bust out the I'm coming over to fuck you cause I don't think I created enough attraction.

Well you're still my man, its cool,

Just think about the math though brah. How often do you tango? What are the odds of a girl tangoing in one night with two guys leaving town? What are the odds of you right before leaving, tangoing with a girl that leaving stuff on her mind?

What if in her mind "it takes two to tango" means fuck the second one.

Then there's this expert advice: /thread-995-po...ml#pid6615

And why's everybody leaving town?

Aloha!

Post: #7

With a big mistake like this the only way to "correct" it is to pull back for a while so you confirm to her that you really aren't needy. I'd say no contact for a week.

Post: #8

"I don't know where that wussy line came from but I hope I never say it again. "

So funny.

Hell, your leaving town, try again.

If I were you, I would avoid "sick girl" and just go out and swoop other girls.

- MPM
The Guide to Getting More out of Life
http://www.thegmanifesto.com

Post: #9

Alright I'll stay away guys. I need to meet up with her this weekend to get some CDs she borrowed so I'll let you know how that goes.

Post: #10

(08-28-2009 06:03 PM)Riker Wrote:  Alright I'll stay away guys. I need to meet up with her this weekend to get some CDs she borrowed so I'll let you know how that goes.

Share what happens man.
I thought you had it even before I knew about the cd's and tango. Nobody knows you like you though brah. Stick with that shit.

And hey, your names Riker and your talking about going away. If thats the case man:

A Hui Hou. Get home soon!

Aloha!

Post: #11

(08-28-2009 06:03 PM)Riker Wrote:  Alright I'll stay away guys. I need to meet up with her this weekend to get some CDs she borrowed so I'll let you know how that goes.

Give us the update.

- MPM
The Guide to Getting More out of Life
http://www.thegmanifesto.com

Post: #12

you are too much curious about the outcome..and you really want to bang this girl...iam in doubt that you got only choice in ur life and that is this girl.

this is a v needy game...wont work....move on.

Post: #13

Yea nothing happened. Thing is the more I care and try the more I get laid usually. The less I care the less I try. I need to learn to try and not care.

Post: #14

"I need to learn to try and not care." = Game

- MPM
The Guide to Getting More out of Life
http://www.thegmanifesto.com

Post: #15

(09-14-2009 10:33 PM)BaltimoreBachelor Wrote:  Remember, the goal is to bang women in general, and not any one woman in particular.

Well said bro.

Post: #16

wtf why is no one lambasting OP for all this nauseating 'cute,' 'soup,' and 'maybe we can talk' crap. man up and straighten this shit out - 86 the 'well aww shucks maybe...' BS idea too. sorry, but you needed a tongue thrashing and a good shake. i don't think i was too harsh.

that being said, i agree that you need to just lay back outta sight outta mind on that houdini tip for a little bit. can't cure a neediness issue with more attention and neediness. it's like pouring gasoline on a fire. let that shit smother for a bit, then break out your driest kindling and get after it.

Post: #17

Thanks Von, being that nice guy is so unattractive. Its in my veins though, I need to detox myself into more of a bad ass.