Post: #1

Hello guys.
I met this girl on the street the other day. The first interaction was good and I got her number. I set up a date for today in a coffee shop very close to where I work. She didn't show up and sent me a text half an hour after scheduled time. She says "I had a meeting that over run. I won't be able to make it today. Can we reschedule?"
What would you do? Give her another chance and reschedule or don't even reply to her text and delete her number?

Post: #2

(01-23-2019 09:58 AM)Sir_Night Wrote:  Hello guys.
I met this girl on the street the other day. The first interaction was good and I got her number. I set up a date for today in a coffee shop very close to where I work. She didn't show up and sent me a text half an hour after scheduled time. She says "I had a meeting that over run. I won't be able to make it today. Can we reschedule?"
What would you do? Give her another chance and reschedule or don't even reply to her text and delete her number?

Give her a chance to meet again-make it a night date at a bar and first the round of drinks is on her.

Post: #3

Coffee date was a bad idea. But she offered to reschedule so that's a good sign.

"Ok, im busy during the day the rest of the weeks, lets get drinks tomorrow night. 8 at *bar near your place*"

Dont offer a weekend night. Reeks of low social value.

Post: #4

Fuck coffee shops, harder to escalate and she will be drinking COFFEE, Take her to a bar and slide a couple drinks down her throat.

Post: #5

It wasn't gonna be a coffee date. We were gonna meet up in the coffee shop, drive to an amusement centre, play some fun games as I challenged her in air hockey. Have dinner and get some drinks after. I thought I would have enough chance to escalate if I do this.
Then I'm inviting her out for some drinks tomorrow night. Thanks guys. Appreciated.

Post: #6

Make it clear to her right away that for flaking on you, she owes you anal. #imsoalpha #alphamoves #dontbeabetabitch

Post: #7

(01-23-2019 11:02 AM)Sir_Night Wrote:  It wasn't gonna be a coffee date. We were gonna meet up in the coffee shop, drive to an amusement centre, play some fun games as I challenged her in air hockey. Have dinner and get some drinks after. I thought I would have enough chance to escalate if I do this.
Then I'm inviting her out for some drinks tomorrow night. Thanks guys. Appreciated.

NO FOOD!!! Just a bar near your house with alcohol only. Get the pussy first, then get to know her-she owes you time, she wasted yours......

Post: #8

You think she's thinking that deeply about this? Be cool about it.

"Sure I had something come up too. Let's meet at x at y time."

Post: #9

No dinner on first date, please.

Post: #10

(01-23-2019 11:41 AM)TeachNExplore Wrote:  You think she's thinking that deeply about this? Be cool about it.

"Sure I had something come up too. Let's meet at x at y time."

except that is a lie and will be harder to keep straight.. Just reschedule with teh drinks like they said above, but DO NOT mention that you showed up to the date and that you basically got stood up and are ok with that... If she brings it up like asking you if you showed up or how long you waited just say some shit like "I go there all the time with coworkers or alone on my lunch break so it's no big deal" or something that saves face but is PLAUSIBLE (the saying you also had something come up is clearly a lie).

Post: #11

The less you care about shit like this the better off you are.

Like others have said, just keep it casual and cool with your response.

Atlanta Man has the best response here.

Post: #12

I would just write
"Sorry , who is this ? Where did you find my number " ?

Post: #13

Echoing the chorus.

Brush it off and try again if you're into her. These young girls, even the average ones, live in such a state of abundance that it's no big deal if they miss a 'date' with a guy. They've already got several hitting them up, and they instinctively know they'll meet another cool guy soon enough.

Her being flaky is indirectly disrespectful and inconsiderate, but before you've started banging a girl regularly everything has to be 'no big deal'. That said, you should never tolerate outright disrespect, such as her making fun of your appearance, your career, your lifestyle etc.

Also, she did you a favor. Coffee 'dates' are lame as fuck - unless you're meeting in a park or museum with a cafe and can walk around and pour bourbon into her cup.

And for some unsolicited advice: you shouldn't be looking to take her on a 'date' like all the other soy-eating pussy thirsty chumps out there. You're taking her on a mini-adventure, the type of which should feel like a natural extension of the way you live a good life. She's simply invited to come along to have fun, flirt, and add some color to the afternoon/evening.

Post: #14

(01-23-2019 09:58 AM)Sir_Night Wrote:  Hello guys.
I met this girl on the street the other day. The first interaction was good and I got her number. I set up a date for today in a coffee shop very close to where I work. She didn't show up and sent me a text half an hour after scheduled time. [...]

She stood you up, tepid lead. She texted, so it isn't dead but you need to roll off for 24 hours before getting back to her to re-gain your value and, ideally, make have her chase you (unlikely but there's skill to everything). Focus on other leads that are interested in you...

Post: #15

(01-23-2019 09:58 AM)Sir_Night Wrote:  Hello guys.
I met this girl on the street the other day. The first interaction was good and I got her number. I set up a date for today in a coffee shop very close to where I work. She didn't show up and sent me a text half an hour after scheduled time. She says "I had a meeting that over run. I won't be able to make it today. Can we reschedule?"
What would you do? Give her another chance and reschedule or don't even reply to her text and delete her number?

If I actually got stood up, went to the venue and waited, I would have replied with a firm "No." with no explanation or further follow up.

Post: #16

Her response sounds logical and straightforward so I’d give her another chance. Basically she’s not making up a bunch of excuses and cancelling on you. She actually had a meeting go late and couldn’t even respond to you in quick enough time because of it. Life happens, try one one time with her. I think she likes you

Post: #17

Thanks for your help guys. We're meeting with her Monday evening in a pub, close to my place, to grab some drinks.

Post: #18

(01-24-2019 04:44 AM)Sir_Night Wrote:  Thanks for your help guys. We're meeting with her Monday evening in a pub, close to my place, to grab some drinks.

Let us know how it goes and good luck

Post: #19

Sure. First drink is on you and if you are late again I'm going to bend you over my knee and give you some spankings

Post: #20

(01-23-2019 11:44 AM)Cation Wrote:  No dinner on first date, please.

One of my friends took a girl out he met on Tinder this week on a first date to a damn steakhouse haha.
In 2019, some golden rules still are broken.

Post: #21

(01-25-2019 03:42 AM)lunchmoney Wrote:  

(01-23-2019 11:44 AM)Cation Wrote:  No dinner on first date, please.

One of my friends took a girl out he met on Tinder this week on a first date to a damn steakhouse haha.
In 2019, some golden rules still are broken.

Explain to me why so many are anti dinner dates? I've had lunch dates that started off in pubs or coffee shops and then because it went so well its evening by now and we are both hungry. I suppose you are going to say keep the first date to 3 or 4 hours. I understand that but I'm a no rules sort of guy and go with the flow. Plus I like eating out. Is it a not having to pay for her food thing?

Post: #22

(01-25-2019 06:15 PM)fmman Wrote:  

(01-25-2019 03:42 AM)lunchmoney Wrote:  

(01-23-2019 11:44 AM)Cation Wrote:  No dinner on first date, please.

One of my friends took a girl out he met on Tinder this week on a first date to a damn steakhouse haha.
In 2019, some golden rules still are broken.

Explain to me why so many are anti dinner dates? I've had lunch dates that started off in pubs or coffee shops and then because it went so well its evening by now and we are both hungry. I suppose you are going to say keep the first date to 3 or 4 hours. I understand that but I'm a no rules sort of guy and go with the flow. Plus I like eating out. Is it a not having to pay for her food thing?

I'm not trying to watch a girl eat or point out stuff stuck in her teeth.

I'm an interactive kind of date guy, give me a pub, billiards, and darts.

Lunch/Dinner/Coffee dates are BORING, it's the standard cliche thing.

You have to step outside the cookiecutter date pattern, be more interactive and fun.

My dates don't last 3-4 hours because I've got shit to do, especially if it's an evening date.

I workout before my date and try to not to go to bed too late, so it forces me to have a small window.

When you spend a ton of hours on the first date, you're giving her EVERYTHING up front, when instead you're giving her a sample of what you have to offer, and she wants MORE, so it builds attraction to meet up next time.

I'm in the mindset of sorting girls outs, if she turns out boring, I'll bounce in 30-45 minutes.

If she's attractive and fun I'll spend 2 hours with her, maybe 3 if I have time.


You might be a no rules kind of guy, but there are reasons they are rules, I'll bet you've lost a few girls who ghosted after the first date, after you invested alot of time into that date.


Don't be that guy.

If you're going to have dinner and want company - sure that's fine. IF you know what you're doing.

If you want to spend hours upon hours with said girl, that's fine, IF you know what you're doing and gauging her correctly.

Post: #23

(01-25-2019 07:10 PM)kaotic Wrote:  You might be a no rules kind of guy, but there are reasons they are rules, I'll bet you've lost a few girls who ghosted after the first date, after you invested alot of time into that date.
Don't be that guy.

Yes you are right. And a lot of time pre-date. I suppose it makes me think more time invested = more reward & more chance of it.

(01-25-2019 07:10 PM)kaotic Wrote:  If you're going to have dinner and want company - sure that's fine. IF you know what you're doing.

If you want to spend hours upon hours with said girl, that's fine, IF you know what you're doing and gauging her correctly.

I suppose it depends on the girl and the situation

Post: #24

The last time a girl ghosted me after confirming for a date, it was a first date and on her birthday weekend. I (mistakenly) agreed to meet up that Friday, and 2 hours before we were set to meet, she sends me a text saying she was at the salon getting her hair done, and was running late. I replied back do we need to reschedule, which I did not receive a response until 4 hours later.

I had invested time into the first date, and after that as kaotic said above, I have limited first dates to 2 hours max, and drinks with rare exceptions.