So true when it comes to how ludicrous it is when a whale with kids in NA will have all these demands of what you need to be and have, and they don't even have a career or have never left their state. It's so absurd it almost made me walk out on a few dates. I've never even considered traveling to the Islands, mostly because I like pale white bitches, but I'll go any place where girls are slim, young and pretty.
Europe and other places overseas has and will always offer a better choice for brothers in NA. I use to drink the Kool-Aid that America was the only place a brother can really get exceptional ass, but this was long ago before I got comfortable with living overseas.
Online dating in NA is garbage for many reasons, but it's yielded some pretty good results for me in Europe, particularly with younger girls (under 20) that I normally wouldn't have a chance to run into. It's easy to get into the mindset of rejections online equals lesser value as a desirable man, but being strong and getting out of the house cancels that. Like anywhere tho, if you rely too heavily on just online dating you'll be disappointing by your results. I always try to mix it up (online/street/club game), and since I've been in EE this past month have learned to get more comfortable in the clubs, which is crucial here. I haven't been big on clubs since I turned 30 so I'm a little out of my element, but I'm still taking opportunities as they come up.
American brothers (which I am) are heavily brainwashed, but also there's potential to be really good because they're very tough and have grown up in the harshest place on earth when it comes to game. Just about every black American dude that I know has some sort of game, especially guys from my generation and older, and have a pretty healthy capacity for rejection. For us it's just another mental hurdle to overcome. America has many contradictions: we're religious but, as Moma pointed out, has some of the freakiest girls out there. Racist but will elect a black president. Money hungry but artistic. Fake but direct. Uncultured but highly sophisticated. It's pretty confusing sometimes, at least for me, as what's acceptable and what's not. When you should be aggressive and when not. When someone is being genuine and when they're not. So I think a lot of the times, that's why black American guys can seem a little off-center to non-BA guys. As a nation we don't have an identity, let alone as a people (black). That's just my opinion.
This podcast was sick. If you guys wanna talk about a black dude's experience in Japan (as well as Germany), in and out of the military, I wholeheartedly offer myself for any future session.