Post: #1

I just had dinner with my friend/wingman. We talked a bit about the fact that my approaches have gone way down. I told him about a girl I met while waiting outside my professor's office last Monday. I could tell she was sexually aroused and found me attractive. We wound up having coffee after we met with our professor. Granted now I had stayed home from work that day due to a miserable cold but while I was having coffee with her I became acutely self-conscious of how I was turning this girl off completely in spite of myself. We talked about this a bit, he suggested it was an inner game issue.

We parted ways he went home and I went to our usual practice bar/beer garden which had a good number of women who presented themselves well enough for me to find attractive and interesting, however the most I could manage to do was tell a only one girl I liked her coat, in spite of the fact that I observed signs of interest such as hair touching after making eye contact from more than one woman. This doesn't feel like approach anxiety it feels more like approach paralysis. While I was sitting against the back wall completely alone it occurred to me that the reason why I was unable to approach anyone was probably because deep down I consider myself superior to them in some way shape or form, and the thought of being socially rejected by them is something I'm unwittingly trying to protect my ego from. The game hasn't been fun, all I've been experiencing lately have been unpleasant realizations about myself such as these, which I've never had much difficulty coming up with on my own.

This sux,

Scud

Post: #2

The laws of seduction & social interaction are laws of nature so you cannont take rejection personally. Rejection is not a reflection of your relationship to your targets but a reflection of your knowledge, respect and adherence of the unwritten rules of "The Game" (I kinda of hate that label).

You have fear of rejection. This is a fundamental ingrediant of approach anexity. Period. See this.

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I like the fact that this hard for you and that you aren't having much fun lately, seriously, tells me that your pushing your old restricting comfort zones to achieve a different social out come. You are just infront of a break through and the more approaches and posts that you do the faster that break through comes. It takes dedication, so be a friend to yourself and take whats yours...before the next guy does.

Post: #3

(09-17-2011 12:01 AM)Scud Wrote:  I consider myself superior to them in some way shape or form, and the thought of being socially rejected by them is something I'm unwittingly trying to protect my ego from. The game hasn't been fun, all I've been experiencing lately have been unpleasant realizations about myself such as these, which I've never had much difficulty coming up with on my own.

This sux,

Scud

I know what you mean man. I talked to a chick the other night for a good while but couldn't quite tell if she was feeling me or not. She was ok looking but I felt like I was better than her. lol. We rode home with my friends and I didn't even ask for her number because I was thinking she might say no and I didn't want that to happen in front of my friends. I'm kind of pissed at myself now and feel like instead of getting turned down in front of my friends that I just showed them that I have no game. Fuck. Live and learn.

Post: #4

You guys are worrying far too much about your pride and rationalizing too much, and not getting in the dirt.

With girls it's like video game. You have to go through the earlier levels and push your way up. It has to be very clear that approaching and getting numbers and what nots is to be done as to build a skill set that later can be used with any girl... but first, you need to get down and dirty with what you have.

Meaning no offense, I think that seeing yourselves as "superior" to girls and thus not working them is actually a defense mechanism where you compensate your fear of approaching and the gritty emotions that come with it by over-rationalizing in order to avoid getting in touch with these feelings and actually take action. It is a way to rationalize and overthink yourselves out of action and practice, meaning you don't go through the necessay levels and improvements to get good at this. Meaning you are taking things far too seriously as well.


Get down there in the dirt and do your work. It is not this one girl that will define your value as a person (none will).

Hit 'em with what you have and work your way up. Want cool, pretty, ""superior"" girls? You'll have to build a skill set with the "" lesser"" ones till you get what you want

Oh, and have fun with it!