Post: #1

I feel as if an overlooked portion of this aspect of lifestyle/game is just flat out being interesting. Most people tend to focus on game as a lifestyle, and while this does pay dividends, especially for people with little to no knowledge of sexual dynamics, being interesting is a key component into being successful with women. It is a pretty complexed and nuanced topic which requires a lot to implement into being successful with women and it does not come down to just bragging about your achievements.

Make Sure They're Your Achievements

I can't stress this enough. I've seen so many good men my age following the old adage that money can buy it all, yet they've been born into much of their wealth. What your parents earned, whether you like it or not, is not yours. Also, in that sense, a man who works at Goldman for 80hrs a week making 120k while focused on his careers his entire life is missing a huge segment of the human experience. Girls aren't usually focused on money in and of itself (aside from a choosey few), but experience and feeling. Girls don't want to hear the nuts and bolts of a business deal, only of how you were able to convince that snooty Arabian businessman to sit down for a few cocktails and for him to reveal his tattered and questionable past. Girls aren't logical creatures, they're emotional.

Indeed, a man with the ability to engage in storytelling is one of the most compelling features to a girl. Without it, you're just like everyone other fish in the sea, which brings me to my next point...

Learn to Market Your Experiences

I'm not speaking of marketing in the business sense, but in the interpersonal sense. Instead of being a braggadocio and taking every possible moment to speak, listen for once. And once you see a crest where you feel as if it's your turn to take over, do so. Don't throw something completely random out their regarding your achievements, do it in a subtle way.

E.g. Instead of saying "That reminds me of the time..." or "When I was in xxx", say something much more subtle, along the lines of "That must have felt so strange to be in that situation. I was stuck in a situation much like that." Make her ask when/where/how. It draws her in. Also, the empathetic line beforehand works to make her feel. It goes back to the whole idea that women are emotional creatures. It all works by tying it into your experience without seeming like you're going out of your way to try to tell her about your experiences. That's a huge facet of being interesting.

Projection

To sum it all up, the most important thing here is that you know you are the most interesting person in the room. Granted, you may not know what the guy next to you has experienced, but assume that you are. If you do, that's half the battle, especially after you've absorbed the last two parts of this post. Just knowing it and projecting it via both body language and "vibe" helps a ton. Who cares what the guy next to you has to offer. You're not trying to game him anyway.

There's my two cents, feel free to add in.

Post: #2

Good points.

I think though that what's interesting is completely relative. When I find someone boring, I don't know if they truly are boring, it may be that we just don't have enough in common. You really have figure out your market. Those are the women who would find someone like you the most interesting. Don't fall into the trap of trying to be interesting to everyone. You can't be all things to all people. For every guy out there, there are at least some women who will think you are intriguing as is. And there are also women who wouldn't want to spend 2 minutes talking to you no matter what you say.

If there are some common denominators that make people interesting is that the most interesting people tend to have a lot of passion about something. They tend to be strong personalities, and provoke strong emotions in people(good or bad). They often have a lot of life experience to draw on. These things can't really be faked.

Post: #3

(11-16-2014 12:02 AM)speakeasy Wrote:  Good points.

I think though that what's interesting is completely relative. When I find someone boring, I don't know if they truly are boring, it may be that we just don't have enough in common. You really have figure out your market. Those are the women who would find someone like you the most interesting. Don't fall into the trap of trying to be interesting to everyone. You can't be all things to all people. For every guy out there, there are at least some women who will think you are intriguing as is. And there are also women who wouldn't want to spend 2 minutes talking to you no matter what you say.

If there are some common denominators that make people interesting is that the most interesting people tend to have a lot of passion about something. They tend to be strong personalities, and provoke strong emotions in people(good or bad). They often have a lot of life experience to draw on. These things can't really be faked.

I completely agree, you have to find your niche. And there's a fine line, as stated, between having life experience and going out of your way to tell it to someone. If it comes off naturally like it's organic, then you're more likely to be interesting to someone because it's not artificial and forced.

Post: #4

Women dont get more interested in you by what you say, its what you dont say. If a women isn't into me from just small talk and basic light hearted conversation and chemistry, but suddenly perks up when I tell her my background, I wont take her seriously for anything other than some short term fun. I may even get more direct with her quickly if she reveals herself to be so transparent, because I would prefer if she walks. Its funny to watch women act this way, I notice it more and more as I get older. If you were a dark mofo you would use this to your advantage.

Post: #5

Being interesting is really easy. Most people are boring.

Seriously, just get a hobby that nobody else has that makes your life better and tell people why it makes your life better. That would make you more interesting than 95% of people. Most guys don't get beyond "I work out and play videogames and go out to bars." Fix up a motorbike or something = worth more than any of the above, storywise. Most girls don't have any hobbies. "I like to relax and have fun and watch movies." I don't know. Anything is more interesting than that.

As far as, "Well that's not interesting" or "You're weird," just tell people they are boring. There are so many interesting people out there and adventures to have, there is no time for you to be told, "you're really weird" by a girl who watches the Kardashians. Just say, "You're not very interesting."

Post: #6

Good point and all. Soup also had a great thread on being cool.

However you can be the most interesting/cool guy in the world and still don't get jack shit. Roosh had a post warning us about being an entertainer. If you can entertain but can't close then you are just an entertainer, spending your wits and interesting life being a clown for girls.

Also, girls have social ADHD. One moment they might be feeding on your hand, the next they will be glued to the new guy wearing a funny t-shirt. Choose a good time and place to get her interested in you. Being interesting in an environment with lots of distractions is a lost cause.

Post: #7

The best way to become interesting is to do interesting things.

Post: #8

Quote:The best way to become interesting is to do interesting things.

I must respectfully disagree.

I used to do many interesting things -- but -- I was not an interesting person to talk to..

Why?

Because I didn't know how to properly present myself in an interesting way.

I was anti-social, I did not like talking about myself, I was a bad story teller, I dressed with no sense of style of fashion, I was a boring speaker, I was nervous around girls, etc.

I worked on these things.

Now, to be honest, my life is a lot less interesting -- but -- I appear more interesting to the public because of the way I talk, the way I dress and the way in which I interact with the people.

For me, becoming more interesting was less about doing interesting things and more about learning how to present myself in an interesting way.

Post: #9

I think this may be for older guys or expats. Or guys wanting to live the Most Interesting Man in the World Dream.

Girls 18-22 just want to party and have fun. If you deem knowing the current popular club, rap songs, indie rock songs, you know how to pour strong drinks, you know how to get girls to cut loose, blast music, take shots, and run red lights interesting....

Well yeah that kind of interesting helps.

Interesting to hot young girls is killing their ADD and taking them for a mental ride.

Here's a simple formula for time with them:

70% - make them talk about themselves and what they like in art / food / pop culture - listen to every damned detail
15% - find a way to get them to drink more and dance
10% - use everything you listen to her about to make fun of her, her friends, and her tastes
5% - check out hot girls around you and make sure they notice, flirt innocently with any one you get a chance to

I don't know where interesting fits in the pie chart of young American chicks. Maybe fame = interesting.

Post: #10

I'd make a slight amendment. They all definitely want to have fun. Not all of them want to 'party,' and that is the overlooked gold mine as far as I'm concerned.

Yes, they may want to go drinking and dancing and do shots with YOU, but that doesn't make them party girls. To me there's a definite distinction.

If you're into club sluts [and many of us are/have been], then you have to know all about their music, in-crowd likes, favorite shots, etc.

Post: #11

(11-21-2014 02:49 PM)Giovonny Wrote:  

Quote:The best way to become interesting is to do interesting things.

I must respectfully disagree.

I used to do many interesting things -- but -- I was not an interesting person to talk to..

Why?

Because I didn't know how to properly present myself in an interesting way.

I was anti-social, I did not like talking about myself, I was a bad story teller, I dressed with no sense of style of fashion, I was a boring speaker, I was nervous around girls, etc.

I worked on these things.

Now, to be honest, my life is a lot less interesting -- but -- I appear more interesting to the public because of the way I talk, the way I dress and the way in which I interact with the people.

For me, becoming more interesting was less about doing interesting things and more about learning how to present myself in an interesting way.

Good points.