Post: #51

I don't mean to hijack this thread, but I have this girl who always asks me to bring my friends when we go out. What the hell does she want?

Post: #52

(10-11-2014 12:34 PM)roid Wrote:  I don't mean to hijack this thread, but I have this girl who always asks me to bring my friends when we go out. What the hell does she want?

A gangbang.

Probably attention tho...

Post: #53

(10-11-2014 12:34 PM)roid Wrote:  I don't mean to hijack this thread, but I have this girl who always asks me to bring my friends when we go out. What the hell does she want?

It could mean a lot of things, you never really know what's thinking.

How should you handle it?

Say yes, and then bang the friend.

WIA

Post: #54

(10-11-2014 12:34 PM)roid Wrote:  I don't mean to hijack this thread, but I have this girl who always asks me to bring my friends when we go out. What the hell does she want?

I'm going to assume you've banged this lizard already?

Post: #55

This just happened to me. I was pissed I wasted my time with her. I was playing long game (weeks of conversation) with this Asian 8HB I met on Badoo. Finally decided to meet with her at the mall after several weeks of online conversation, she said she might bring a friend, I just played it cool and let her. Her friend was a fat whale unfriendly dumb looking girl 2/10. I tried to be positive and think that maybe I can win the approval of her friend on the spot so my chances are better. The whale didn't appear to like me, I felt cock blocked. Jealous of her best friend maybe? At the end of the "date" I texted her "I don't think we can be together because your friend doesn't appear to like me lol". Her response "she was just looking out for me because she doesn't want me to get hurt". Very dumb. I tried to continue light gaming her online and it stopped by her saying "I have a bf now.". It's a shame I put a lot of time into this girl. I really think Asian girls have high expectation from guys. I have yet to have a successful date with an Asian girl. Still learning from mistakes.

Post: #56

You're not an ATM, a tampon, or a third wheel. If she brings her friend, tell her you're glad she did because you're leaving to be with a much hotter chick. Too many women in the world to deal with time wasters

Post: #57

To me, if you did an adequate job building attraction when you approached the girl, and if you made it perfectly clear the intent was romantic/sexual in nature, then the girl bringing a friend along on the first date is a sign of disrespect. She obviously isn't taking the interaction seriously or isn't on the Same page as you. And as for the "safety" aspect, I get it. But at the same time, you're meeting in public, not in a dark alley. Best to move along with someone who will value your time and take things more seriously.

Post: #58

This happened to me recently in SE Asia. She showed up unexpectedly with a female friend. Big mistake - the friend turned out to be hotter and to have better English. During the date I found a way to add the hotter friend on FB without being too obvious about it, using the excuse that I was sending her a link to a video that came up in conversation. The next day I FB messaged the hotter friend, and bingo, got the lay and we spent a glorious week together. Revenge is sweet!

Post: #59

(10-11-2014 12:34 PM)roid Wrote:  I don't mean to hijack this thread, but I have this girl who always asks me to bring my friends when we go out. What the hell does she want?

She's an attention whore.


Also to stay on topic, like others said if it's clear you're going on a romantic date and she brings a friend it's nothing but disrespect, entitlement, and female fuckery. I had a girl try to do that before I texted her an hour before the date and she was like "hey I'm downtown with my roommate we'll meet you in 45 minutes". I told her I wanted to hang out 1 on 1 and she said "oh well my roommate was sick and we haven't hung out in forever I prommissseed her".

I said "ok you guys have fun I'm going to meet up with my friends then and maybe we can reschedule next week"

She quickly changed her tune and was like "oh wait I wanted to hang out though are you sure? ok fine have fun tonight are you free next tuesday?"

Don't play their fucking games. Have your plan in your head and if they wanna fuck things up when you've already agreed then fuck em. I'm way too grown to be dealing with their little fuck fuck games. Walk the fuck away if they force you to. They'll respect you more for it or you'll lose them. Both are better than giving in IMO.

I eventually fucked that girl a couple weeks later on our 2nd date FYI and a few more times after that.

Post: #60

Well, my sister did that to a guy she met on FB. She actually tried to make it a double date of sorts.
He didn't like it of course and she, in turn, didn't like the way he took it.
Fortunately, it didn't work out between them.

When we talked about it, our conversation went like this:
Me:If you don't trust a guy to go out alone with him, don't date him.
Her:But I met him through FB, I knew nothing about him.
Me:It's simple then, don't date guys you meet through FB.

Case closed.

Post: #61

Only time I was ensnared in this trap was about a month ago. Met at venue a block from my place- was surprised (she didn't tell me she was with friend), but kept my cool. Vibes were good. Tried to escalate when friend went to bathroom. Remained jocular- lightly negged her about bringing a friend and made joke about threesome. Girl was very tipsy and I probably could have gotten her back to my place if friend wasn't present. Realized I wasn't gonna be able to gain further traction or isolate (they both came from NJ and were planning on going home together). I decided to bounce after 20-30 mins. Girl seemed to be annoyed and caught off guard by me exiting. Texted within the week with some callback humor- never heard back.

Post: #62

Having friends along on a date is not always a bad thing, from my experience.

In past occasions, I've had women bring a couple of friends along. I go along with the change in plans, but always maintain a frame of the type that her friends are joining us as references for her date-worthiness, rather than her attempts to frame me into proving myself to them. There's cheeky games you can play along the way - for e.g., have the friends buy drinks/dinner/etc.

If you play your cards right, her friends ought to be trying to convince her that she should jump on you asap, and trying to convince you that she's worth it. You should also plan for the right time during the date to splinter away from the group (it helps to have a wing or two that can help you with this).

Post: #63

(04-29-2017 11:32 AM)choothia Wrote:  Having friends along on a date is not always a bad thing, from my experience.

In past occasions, I've had women bring a couple of friends along. I go along with the change in plans, but always maintain a frame of the type that her friends are joining us as references for her date-worthiness, rather than her attempts to frame me into proving myself to them. There's cheeky games you can play along the way - for e.g., have the friends buy drinks/dinner/etc.

If you play your cards right, her friends ought to be trying to convince her that she should jump on you asap, and trying to convince you that she's worth it. You should also plan for the right time during the date to splinter away from the group (it helps to have a wing or two that can help you with this).

I agree it CAN be good but I would never go with it unless I was in the mood for it. Yeah sometimes you're like yeah whatever but no man should do this if he's not down for it.

Better to cancel than to go on a social outing he doesn't want to go on. And in my experience most times a friend on the date, especially here in the US, is just bullshit.

Post: #64

I friendzone a girl if she is planning on bringing a friend to our date. Yes, I am the one doing the friend zoning, not her. If it is a low maintenance date like I am casually going out to burn a couple of hours, I'll hang out with them and then leave when I am bored(if the woman liked you, she will message you and ask why you left etc in which case I just tell her exactly why, I find girls like this stuff because not only do you not come off as thirsty but it also provides tension).

Since I have poor logistics most of the time, I usually elect not to go out with I know she is bringing a friend. I think it is a waste of time and a sign of disrespect.

Post: #65

(04-29-2017 09:47 PM)Darkwing Buck Wrote:  

(04-29-2017 11:32 AM)choothia Wrote:  Having friends along on a date is not always a bad thing, from my experience.

In past occasions, I've had women bring a couple of friends along. I go along with the change in plans, but always maintain a frame of the type that her friends are joining us as references for her date-worthiness, rather than her attempts to frame me into proving myself to them. There's cheeky games you can play along the way - for e.g., have the friends buy drinks/dinner/etc.

If you play your cards right, her friends ought to be trying to convince her that she should jump on you asap, and trying to convince you that she's worth it. You should also plan for the right time during the date to splinter away from the group (it helps to have a wing or two that can help you with this).

I agree it CAN be good but I would never go with it unless I was in the mood for it. Yeah sometimes you're like yeah whatever but no man should do this if he's not down for it.

Better to cancel than to go on a social outing he doesn't want to go on. And in my experience most times a friend on the date, especially here in the US, is just bullshit.

An agreed date between you and a girl implies you and a girl, and no-one more. If you buy a car for X amount of money, you buy a car not a car with a shark swimming in a car's trunk to deal with (unless you're happy to roll as a thirsty guy showing you have no options and willing to have your hand bitten off by the shark). it's a major disrespect she doesn't see you as a viable romantic prospect. Cancel in advance if you can or leave them if she brings a friend(s) unexpectedly, and wish them a nice night out and do not contact again. If she comes back and apologises for wasting your time, reconsider another date, fully on your terms - you decide the time, the venue, she comes sharp on time.

If she doesn't respect the tacit agreement between you and her in the beginning, the worse it will get as the time progresses and more fitness tests to deal with. Essentially, you allow yourself to be locked up as an orbiter. Even if you fuck her some time later, the dynamics are controlled by her because you allowed her to control the frame by rolling on a date with her and friend(s).

I wonder if anyone was in a situation where a girl wanted to bring a male friend(s) on a date?

Post: #66

Quote:.I wonder if anyone was in a situation where a girl wanted to bring a male friend(s) on a date?

Yes. I was unaware of it till she showed up to the date, with some hipster orbiter harry potter looking guy. After about five minutes I told him "Alright, you have to leave now".

He looked at her like he had been shot, waiting for her to say something. She gave him the "idk what you want me to do" look.

I ended up banging her that night, in the ass. In retrospect she was a disrespectful dumpster fire of a slut. Don't tolerate this kind of shit, it's just a sign of the crap you'll have to deal with later.

Post: #67

(05-01-2017 12:19 PM)Steelex Wrote:  

Quote:.I wonder if anyone was in a situation where a girl wanted to bring a male friend(s) on a date?

After about five minutes I told him "Alright, you have to leave now".

He looked at her like he had been shot, waiting for her to say something. She gave him the "idk what you want me to do" look.

Post: #68

(05-01-2017 12:19 PM)Steelex Wrote:  

Quote:.I wonder if anyone was in a situation where a girl wanted to bring a male friend(s) on a date?

Yes. I was unaware of it till she showed up to the date, with some hipster orbiter harry potter looking guy. After about five minutes I told him "Alright, you have to leave now".

He looked at her like he had been shot, waiting for her to say something. She gave him the "idk what you want me to do" look.

I ended up banging her that night, in the ass. In retrospect she was a disrespectful dumpster fire of a slut. Don't tolerate this kind of shit, it's just a sign of the crap you'll have to deal with later.

This reminds me of a time in high school I was flirting with this girl who was really hot and I was working up to us dating. Then comes along this other guy, trying to flirt with her, interrupting the conversation, just fucking clueless and obnoxious. I took a sec and thought about it, acknowledged he was trying to swoop her and I had to do something pronto.

So, I said to the dude, "Z, can you please leave? Me and M were having a great conversation until you showed up, and I want to talk with her, and not you."

He had a very similar reaction, looked shocked and heart broken. Mumbled something about, "But I want to talk to M too..." and my reply was, "I was here first, go away."

The girl, M was all, "That's so rude, I can't believe you just did that" etc etc. I think I said something vaguely like, "He was wasting our time, now it's just us again."

We were dating the next day.