Post: #1

I'm very new to game, and essentially stumbling in the dark. I have a couple conversations on tinder that I would like the forum members to review, and tell me where I've faltered.
In particular I would like to know what the girl wanted from me, and how she wanted me to reply with in the Elvira/Vampira conversation, and what caused the other chick to blow me off in the end.
Any alternate responses would also be appreciated.
Also, my gut feeling is that I should move on, but if you think otherwise, please state so.

Post: #2

family guy only common interest


she's 6'0"

Post: #3

Move on- she told you you blew it. If game is a # game tinder is that exponentially. keep it short and teasing; this is how I've gotten results on tinder. I see you're teasing but I think giving too much to their short replys. Also, even if you don't know anybody in the area make it sound like you have something fun going on. Usually I wait my replies out longer than hers and when she is replying right away and it's a high point in the convo I say something like we should do xyz What's your # or this app is awkward give me your # and let's hang out sometime. I notice you replied real quick while hers were often hours later. This implies you've got no other plans\ options. Don't creep them out with the joking around or take it to too weird a place too soon no chick wants to end up a skin suit and that's in the back of their mind with tinder and online game. Good luck man keep at it.

Post: #4

Your overall text game seems solid. You have the bantering down better than most. It seems at the end with both of those, your sexually charged texts scares them away. It's a tricky balance. You want to come off as a fun/sexual guy, without being a horn-dog. With these two girls it seems after they have agreed to meet you, just go into logistics mode and set up a date w/o any sexual innuendo.

Definitely move on with the second chick. With the first one, one last text in a few days with some vampire humor (but not super sexual) wouldn't hurt.

Post: #5

Ok, what did I misread with vampira? She seemed as if she wanted to get together. Why was she asking all that? What was she getting at?

Post: #6

You are not setting the frame.

When you tell her "You can bite me I volunteer" that's basically a needy "Please kiss me". Same with the "Am I allowed to come over?" line.

I would have wrote it more like this:

Quote:You: Elvira princess of the dark...

Her: A lot of people call me that and I get sad. I was going for the Vampira look :/

(I would have dropped the vampire thing right here since she doesn't start role playing as a vampire but tells you it's just a look)

You: Well, what else are you missing on?

Her: You are mean. What are you doing? I am at a friends house.
(Don't tell her what you are doing. Make up some silly shit)

You: Running naked through the streets stealing ice-cream cones from kids.

Her: Ah. Well I live down the street in Hide park.

You: Lets go meet at XY. Whats your number?

Your job with the black girl is pretty solid. When she asked how tall you are just tell her she'll see when you meet. That "Tall enough to lick your pussy" response was kinda off.

And yeah. Move on. Learn from your mistakes.

I am no master at tinder game. Just my two cents.

Post: #7

The last sentence with the Black girl would have worked if she was a slut.

Generally girls don't like to be reminded they are sluts even when they are. The key is to lead the interaction and relation towards sex without explicitly mentioning it.

If you say "I'm tall enough to reach the inside of your belly button". She would feel like a slut if she said yes even though she liked you in the beginning.

Post: #8

Thanks y'all. There is hope for me after all--I thought I was doing much worse.

Post: #9

so what is the best response to "how tall are you?" I was asked that question too and I replied "How tall do I look in my pics?" to which she said "I don't know, that's why I asked". Bitchy response so I didn't reply back to her. I'm 6'0" so not trying to hide anything. But if I respond matter of factly with my height am I "allowing her to set the frame"?

Post: #10

(06-02-2014 07:59 PM)Vaughn Wrote:  so what is the best response to "how tall are you?" I was asked that question too and I replied "How tall do I look in my pics?" to which she said "I don't know, that's why I asked". Bitchy response so I didn't reply back to her. I'm 6'0" so not trying to hide anything. But if I respond matter of factly with my height am I "allowing her to set the frame"?

Honestly, I would've just told her my height. I understand why she gave you a bitchy response, though—you obviously can't deduce someone's height from a pic; you can only make assumptions. You're most likely taller than her anyway so it works in your favor because girls find taller guys more attractive. And to answer your question, no. It's not a shit test so you're not allowing her to set the frame.

Post: #11

Another one for the hive mind of RVF--I got this girl to want to meet with me, but she went silent. Almost a week later she re-engages, and I have no clue as to how to respond... I have not yet responded, would love your input.

Post: #12

Some guys use tinder just for logistics but you gotta feel it out - I've noticed with some girls they need some simple chit chat over an extended period of time to build a certain rapport until they will meet.

In this case she's re-enganging and wants to talk to build a little bit of rapport. I'd let her do the talking by going "wyd" or some simple banter like "just got back from a run. it's hot out!"


On another note, why are you setting a date for 4 days in advance? girls can't keep a schedule like that. set the date either tomorrow or the day after tomorrow (and that's pushing it!) If she gives a time when she'll be free 4 days from now tentatively set up something to do "later on in the day" and then hit her up the day before to remind her (because she forgot) and nail down specifics.

Post: #13

Is that your picture? Anyway to repost them to remove your image?

Trying to help with your privacy.

Post: #14

(08-04-2014 12:09 AM)samsamsam Wrote:  Is that your picture? Anyway to repost them to remove your image?

Trying to help with your privacy.

My likeness is not exactly top secret information. If you see me on the street say hi. I may provide you with the info on the closest pet shop.

Post: #15

This is unrelated, but have you thought of switching up your fashion? Your picture reminded me of Kip from Napoleon Dynamite.



The real actor, when dressed up and groomed properly, looks like this:



You will probably get more positive responses.

Post: #16

(08-04-2014 12:30 AM)edtf Wrote:  This is unrelated, but have you thought of switching up your fashion? Your picture reminded me of Kip from Napoleon Dynamite.

You will probably get more positive responses.

Dang boy--warn people! Holy hell I just changed my profile pic.

Post: #17

(08-04-2014 12:37 AM)OBJ Snakebite Wrote:  

(08-04-2014 12:30 AM)edtf Wrote:  This is unrelated, but have you thought of switching up your fashion? Your picture reminded me of Kip from Napoleon Dynamite.

You will probably get more positive responses.

Dang boy--warn people! Holy hell I just changed my profile pic.

Some girls go for the unique-beard hipster look, if you're getting matches rock it. My pics do better with activity and a half smile though.

You basically told the third girl that you were free all week and would keep it that way if she would hang. A better response would have been, "I'm busy Friday but don't have plans for Thursday evening let's xxx". Flake risk planning that far out but it's better than nothing, if that's the other option.

For going sexual I've found that adding after it decreases radio silence incidents. Makes clear that you're being fun and not creepy. And asking for the number immediately after going sexual is probably a bad idea.

Take a few hours to read through the main Tinder thread and your game will improve. Not bad banter all in all though.

Post: #18

(08-03-2014 11:22 PM)monster Wrote:  In this case she's re-enganging and wants to talk to build a little bit of rapport. I'd let her do the talking by going "wyd" or some simple banter like "just got back from a run. it's hot out!"

I sent her "wyd" a day later. so far no response.

Post: #19

(08-04-2014 08:09 PM)OBJ Snakebite Wrote:  

(08-03-2014 11:22 PM)monster Wrote:  In this case she's re-enganging and wants to talk to build a little bit of rapport. I'd let her do the talking by going "wyd" or some simple banter like "just got back from a run. it's hot out!"

I sent her "wyd" a day later. so far no response.

dont sweat. she sounds flaky.

keep playin the numbers game