RE: Does your game change when dating a girl from a different country?
I think also it wouldn't do any harm to point out, I think we're really talking about POST-Catholic and POST-Protestant countries here.... religion doesn't hold much sway over people anymore. But certain aspects of the culture remain, and many of these are very consistent from Colombia, Peru DR, to Brazil, even Quebec and one could count New Orleans in this as well... all of these are "Latin" places to me...
There are advantages and disadvantages to both systems. The Anglo/Protestant places have women who will tend to either like you and let you know about it, or they're not interested and let you know about it. The game is super efficient in these places, and flaking still exists but it's much less of a problem. New York for example is an extreme example of this, despite the fact it's full of Latin people and Caribbean people. New York has a very strong cultural imprint that tends to get stamped on people who have more than a few years under their belt living there no matter what their background is. And frankly the #1 thing I miss about living in NYC is THAT... the ultra-directness and straightforwardness of people.
The Catholic countries have a very different outlook on life. They are much more about APPEARANCES, and tend not to take things so seriously. This is the number one consideration for a US or Canadian expat here IMO BTW. You just can't take things at face value here. So for example, divorce rates here are extremely low, but infidelity is through the roof! The prevailing attitude here is that rules are made to be broken, you just have to be discreet about it, don't make waves.
The fact is, almost ANY woman here in Colombia is up for grabs IF you know how to approach the situation properly. The caveat is that it's very hard to pin a woman down here. The vast majority of Colombians go straight from living with their parents/siblings to living with their spouse and having kids. There's even some overlap often where a newly married couple lives with inlaws and saves up for the down payment on a place. And of course, for most of these women, regardless of their situation, staying overnight is NOT an option; they could seriously wind up going home to find their shit packed outside and the front door locked and nobody answering it!! And I know women here WELL into their 20s who still have 8pm and 9pm curfews! Of course if they're married, it's that much more complicated, and if they have kids etc. etc.
In short, to reference the Manhattan logistics thread, here it's the exact opposite. For a woman to bang you here, she has to make up an excuse, lie to her whole family or almost all of them, perhaps call in sick from work, she'll NEVER have the luxury of bringing you back to her place, you'll do it at your place or get a love motel (these places are all over the city and do real good business for a reason!!) I mean literally I couldn't even count the number of women I've fucked since moving here six years ago, and exactly TWO times did we bang at her place. Once, I was in a swinging but STEADY LTR with a girl and we were at the inlaws and her mom loves me to pieces so she didn't care (no other bf was ever allowed to do this btw), and once it was a girl renting a room in a house and it sucked because she was embarassed that her roommates might hear us. All the rest of my bangs have either been at my place, or the very odd time behind a tree in a park at night, or in a bar bathroom etc. Mostly it's here though because it's so not a big deal for me to bring people here. Colombian women under 30 are usually VERY familiar with the love hotels and bar bathrooms, however, because those are literally their only options in many MANY cases.
Add to this that many Colombian women even though their panties are soaking wet from thinking about you, they often don't let it show because they're afraid of being branded a slut, much more so than their typical North American counterpart. This however, is VERY much city dependent. Women in Cali are much more direct, for example. In general, the warmer the climate, the less the women dissimulate their interest, but this is not a very consistent rule. Ibagué and Cartagena, for example are two examples of cities where women are VERY discreet about things.
I have a Colombian friend (the same guy who swears by Tinder) who teaches at a public school here, and in two years he's banged four of his students, including popping one cherry. Because nothing is permitted and everything is permitted, lines of appropriateness that would be set in stone elsewhere are extremely fucking blurred here. Workplace bangs are also common here, although personally that is one part of the local culture I refuse to adopt: just too messy for my tastes, and I like to keep my personal and professional lives separate.
And of course the quality of Colombian women is incomparable, moreover, the AVERAGE quality of Colombian women is incredibly high. In these cultures, women take care of themselves a lot more, dress to kill, long flowing silken hair is de rigeur here. All Latin cultures exhibit this to an extent. By US standards Colombian women "look like whores" but of course nobody reading this is going to complain about that!!
In short, the advantages of these environments are, MUCH greater avaialability of bangs, and higher quality. The disadvantages are the flakiness, and the massive logistical obstacles that many times need to be overcome to do the deed, combined with the fact that women here are not as obvious about their interest and can be harder to read.
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