Post: #1

what does it mean when a girl starts to shit test,and ask you to do stupid tasks for her more than usual?

Post: #2

more than the usual?
what kind of tasks does she usually make you do? lol
that's probably pat of the problem, she's already using you.

don't be a tool.

Post: #3

(04-14-2014 07:01 PM)SteezeySteve Wrote:  what does it mean when a girl starts to shit test,and ask you to do stupid tasks for her more than usual?

If you want the most accurate advice, you should include a lot more detail/history on the situation. Sounds like you're her errand boy or if on te off chance that you're not already doing a bunch of things for her, she doesn't respect you much.

Post: #4

(04-14-2014 07:04 PM)FrenchCanadian Wrote:  more than the usual?
what kind of tasks does she usually make you do? lol
that's probably pat of the problem, she's already using you.

don't be a tool.

not like she's using me i don't actually do anything she asks... She's just tried testing me a lot more
examples-
drops water bottle on purpose and asks me to pick it up
completely acting like she cant pick up her chair,and asks me to help her
paper falls on the floor, acts like it was my fault and asks me to pick it up for her
doing an assignment in class and says she's gonna leave the class and implies that she thinks i'm gonna give her the answers when she comes back..

Post: #5

(04-14-2014 07:19 PM)SteezeySteve Wrote:  not like she's using me i don't actually do anything she asks... She's just tried testing me a lot more
examples-
drops water bottle on purpose and asks me to pick it up
completely acting like she cant pick up her chair,and asks me to help her
paper falls on the floor, acts like it was my fault and asks me to pick it up for her
doing an assignment in class and says she's gonna leave the class and implies that she thinks i'm gonna give her the answers when she comes back..

Sound like opportunities to flirt to me.

Are you interested in her?

If so, she drops her water bottle, pick it up!

"Sweet, free water" with a grin, don't give it to her when she tries to grab it.

Pick up her chair....set it on her desk...set it somewhere it's not supposed to be.

etc...

Post: #6

(04-14-2014 07:19 PM)SteezeySteve Wrote:  

(04-14-2014 07:04 PM)FrenchCanadian Wrote:  more than the usual?
what kind of tasks does she usually make you do? lol
that's probably pat of the problem, she's already using you.

don't be a tool.

not like she's using me i don't actually do anything she asks... She's just tried testing me a lot more
examples-
drops water bottle on purpose and asks me to pick it up
completely acting like she cant pick up her chair,and asks me to help her
paper falls on the floor, acts like it was my fault and asks me to pick it up for her
doing an assignment in class and says she's gonna leave the class and implies that she thinks i'm gonna give her the answers when she comes back..

Yeah, sounds like she's already using you for her own humor. If a girl constantly gives you shit test, one of the best things is just silence and a look of indifference, and say "ok" or "interesting."

Or do like Aneroid said, and in the future use it to flirt. Girls drops something on purpose...pick it up and say something funny/flirty..."wtf is with people who litter..." then throw it in the trash, give her a wink.

This girl sounds immature by the way. I'd probably throw something out there like, "u play little girl games often?" sly smile....

Post: #7

(04-14-2014 07:01 PM)SteezeySteve Wrote:  what does it mean when a girl starts to shit test,and ask you to do stupid tasks for her more than usual?

She's taking your for a fool. Just tell her to fuck off.

Post: #8

Yeah but she also displays very submissive behaviors to. like after the water bottle thing she weny into the class and waits for me to finish chilling with my friend and his gf outside and as soon as i walk says "steven!" with a big ass smile on her face,and pulls my chair out for me
or with the worksheet thing came up with excuses just to work with me instead of the kid she normally is supposed to work with (type of kid who woud give her all the answers she wants for dayz)

keep in mind this is all during one class period. This girl just seemed to be displaying herself differently

Post: #9

It means that as you are casually ignoring her bullshit and constantly creating conditions that will leave you two drunk and alone, you should also be approaching other women in order to find a girl who is more agreeable to you and pleasant to be around.

Edit: She is toying with you. Simply playing with and exploring the power she has over you.

Post: #10

(04-14-2014 08:17 PM)SteezeySteve Wrote:  Yeah but she also displays very submissive behaviors to. like after the water bottle thing she weny into the class and waits for me to finish chilling with my friend and his gf outside and as soon as i walk says "steven!" with a big ass smile on her face,and pulls my chair out for me
or with the worksheet thing came up with excuses just to work with me instead of the kid she normally is supposed to work with (type of kid who woud give her all the answers she wants for dayz)

keep in mind this is all during one class period. This girl just seemed to be displaying herself differently

Next time she drops something or infers you provide some effort to assist her, do nothing or simply walk away.

Her reaction will reveal if she is either attracted to you or just using you as a chump.

When a guy provides effort or money to a girl who is an unproven prospect at the point, it almost always lowers her sexual estimation of him.

Post: #11

(04-14-2014 08:42 PM)BDawg Wrote:  Next time she drops something or infers you provide some effort to assist her, do nothing or simply walk away.

Her reaction will reveal if she is either attracted to you or just using you as a chump.

When a guy provides effort or money to a girl who is an unproven prospect at the point, it almost always lowers her sexual estimation of him.

what type of reactions reveals attractions ,and what type reveals her using me?

Post: #12

(04-14-2014 08:48 PM)SteezeySteve Wrote:  what type of reactions reveals attractions ,and what type reveals her using me?

This will go against things you see and listen to from the media, but if you are firm with your terms and continue to put her on ice she will either gravitate to you or be elsewhere.

It' s proxemics.



She will be elsewhere and bitter if her intent is to have you as a nonsexual date substitute.

You don't want that role anyway

She will get closer and turned on if you, within reason, treat her like crap for these demands.

That would be the role of a potential lover.

Post: #13

(04-14-2014 08:48 PM)SteezeySteve Wrote:  what type of reactions reveals attractions ,and what type reveals her using me?

If you ask these questions, then you can never get past your own ego.
Ignore it, and instead steamroll forward through bullshit, and proceed with normal escalation. Get her isolated, and go to work.
She doesn't affect you, you affect her.

By asking if SHE is attracted to you, or if SHE is using you, is saying she has control over your actions in either case.

You shouldn't give a fuck either way, because she either dances to your music, or you just continue on your way.

Some girls are like little yipping dogs jumping at your ankles, trying to get a reaction out of you so they know they exist in the world. Be the big dog and carry on your way, she can go with you, but you won't let her chart the course.

Sorry for the weird metaphors, but I'm just repeating the same thing in different ways over and over again, maybe one mental image will click and stay with you.

Post: #14

(04-14-2014 09:03 PM)spokepoker Wrote:  You shouldn't give a fuck either way, because she either dances to your music, or you just continue on your way.

Some girls are like little yipping dogs jumping at your ankles, trying to get a reaction out of you so they know they exist in the world. Be the big dog and carry on your way, she can go with you, but you won't let her chart the course.

I agree with this.

My submitting to care either way, he is sabotaging himself.

If he really wants to know, he is forced to turn the tables on her demands to see whats up with her.