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Advice with a girl gone cold - hard to catch
I have been dating a girl i met a month ago for 2 weeks and we seem to like each other. I have already made out with this girl several times but i have realized that im the one that most of the time tries to do the initial contact to hang out or just to say hi. We went out last friday night,it was good, but i havent heard back from her. I have not contacted her since that day but what do you guys recommend, radio silence until she contacts me( so i know she is really into me)? or should i again initiate the first contact? is she just playing games with me or playing hard to catch?
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01-27-2014 03:43 PM
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You're worrying too much about a single girl.
Get out there, talk to other girls, then make out with them.
You are letting this one girl control your frame of mind. Expand your horizons, and you won't shit the small stuff.
01-27-2014 04:28 PM
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I sense that you are a boring to her and she needs more emotional/psychological stimulation from you to stay engaged.

Wait 5-8 days to see if she contacts you. If she does contact you, say you were extremely busy and then ramp up your levels of fun, spontaneity, passion, and excitement. Do a better job at engaging her emotions.

If she doesn't contact you, contact her but do it in way that is fresh and new. You need to shock her system and cause her to have a more extreme emotional reaction to you.

You will have to risk more of yourself to do this but the rewards are also greater.

What you are doing is not stimulating her enough. You need to do more. Talk to her with more of a sense of superiority, suggest a crazy date, do something that she wouldn't expect from you, surprise her, push the limits a little!

Intensify the interaction!!!
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One thing you can do when you are dating a woman is just set up plans for the next time you are going to see each other at the end of the date.

"How about thurday 8pm?"
"Sure."
"Cool, if one of us has to change it, that's fine, but let's plan for then."

But yeah, I also agree with everyone else in the thread. Engage her more, and approach more women

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01-28-2014 12:15 PM
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(01-27-2014 03:43 PM)orko Wrote:  playing hard to catch?

Women don’t play hard to get, they go strictly by their interest level.

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01-28-2014 01:47 PM
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(01-27-2014 03:43 PM)orko Wrote:  I have been dating a girl i met a month ago for 2 weeks and we seem to like each other. I have already made out with this girl several times but i have realized that im the one that most of the time tries to do the initial contact to hang out or just to say hi. We went out last friday night,it was good, but i havent heard back from her. I have not contacted her since that day but what do you guys recommend, radio silence until she contacts me( so i know she is really into me)? or should i again initiate the first contact? is she just playing games with me or playing hard to catch?
thanks!

Giovonny gave you some good advice about what to do now, but I'm going to point out what got you to here. You met her a month ago and you've been dating her for two weeks. It sounds like you've seen her quite a few times since you've already made out with her "several times."

Making out is fine on the first date. Why haven't you escalated further?

The girl has either lost interest because she thinks you don't like her that much (haven't escalated physicality), or much more likely, she thinks you're a boring beta.

You know who's perfectly happy making out with a girl multiple times and doing all the contacting of a girl to hang out? A boring beta. Any reasonably cute girl will have attention from all over, from guys that want to fuck her, not from guys that just want to make out with her and be her bff plus a little tongue action.

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01-28-2014 03:01 PM
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(01-28-2014 03:01 PM)AneroidOcean Wrote:  
(01-27-2014 03:43 PM)orko Wrote:  I have been dating a girl i met a month ago for 2 weeks and we seem to like each other. I have already made out with this girl several times but i have realized that im the one that most of the time tries to do the initial contact to hang out or just to say hi. We went out last friday night,it was good, but i havent heard back from her. I have not contacted her since that day but what do you guys recommend, radio silence until she contacts me( so i know she is really into me)? or should i again initiate the first contact? is she just playing games with me or playing hard to catch?
thanks!

Giovonny gave you some good advice about what to do now, but I'm going to point out what got you to here. You met her a month ago and you've been dating her for two weeks. It sounds like you've seen her quite a few times since you've already made out with her "several times."

Making out is fine on the first date. Why haven't you escalated further?

The girl has either lost interest because she thinks you don't like her that much (haven't escalated physicality), or much more likely, she thinks you're a boring beta.

You know who's perfectly happy making out with a girl multiple times and doing all the contacting of a girl to hang out? A boring beta. Any reasonably cute girl will have attention from all over, from guys that want to fuck her, not from guys that just want to make out with her and be her bff plus a little tongue action.

I havent escalated further because i wanted an LTR with this girl. She is( or seemed) like a conservative and religious girl (she is from a very religious latin american country) so i didnt
want to rush things or seem like i just wanted sex...
Anyway thanks for your comments, i will just forget this girl, i dont gain anything for myself being contacting her all the time and getting evasive answers or nothing...
i also forgot one of the greatest commandments in dealing with girls:
"Dont care about what the girl says, care about what they do.."
01-29-2014 05:35 AM
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Rule #1 to get interest from any girl: Don't be boring, predictable or dependent.

If you have her on facebook, tag yourself in some interesting places. Post rarely, but post some cool stuff you do at the moment: rock climbing, bungee jumping, helping disabled children, having a public speech, riding a quad through woods, attending a topless pool party Angel

Even being arrested will score you massive points with girls even though 5% of them will admit it.

90% of guys do this: spend copious amount of their time online, play video games and the only way they'll get out of their comfort zone is to get drunk on weekend. Be the 10% that stand out.
01-29-2014 06:25 AM
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(01-29-2014 05:35 AM)orko Wrote:  
(01-28-2014 03:01 PM)AneroidOcean Wrote:  
(01-27-2014 03:43 PM)orko Wrote:  I have been dating a girl i met a month ago for 2 weeks and we seem to like each other. I have already made out with this girl several times but i have realized that im the one that most of the time tries to do the initial contact to hang out or just to say hi. We went out last friday night,it was good, but i havent heard back from her. I have not contacted her since that day but what do you guys recommend, radio silence until she contacts me( so i know she is really into me)? or should i again initiate the first contact? is she just playing games with me or playing hard to catch?
thanks!

Giovonny gave you some good advice about what to do now, but I'm going to point out what got you to here. You met her a month ago and you've been dating her for two weeks. It sounds like you've seen her quite a few times since you've already made out with her "several times."

Making out is fine on the first date. Why haven't you escalated further?

The girl has either lost interest because she thinks you don't like her that much (haven't escalated physicality), or much more likely, she thinks you're a boring beta.

You know who's perfectly happy making out with a girl multiple times and doing all the contacting of a girl to hang out? A boring beta. Any reasonably cute girl will have attention from all over, from guys that want to fuck her, not from guys that just want to make out with her and be her bff plus a little tongue action.

I havent escalated further because i wanted an LTR with this girl. She is( or seemed) like a conservative and religious girl (she is from a very religious latin american country) so i didnt
want to rush things or seem like i just wanted sex...
Anyway thanks for your comments, i will just forget this girl, i dont gain anything for myself being contacting her all the time and getting evasive answers or nothing...
i also forgot one of the greatest commandments in dealing with girls:
"Dont care about what the girl says, care about what they do.."

As roissy would say, LTRs should flow from sex, not the other way around. Once you've banged her you will have the emotional advantage - you can "confer" upon her a relationship should you choose.

What i've noticed about all girls - having recently dated a hardcore catholic who wanted to wait until marriage to lose her v card (and she was 23) - is that they will only respect you more and like you more for escalating. Even if she says no, you will have won points in her book.
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