Post: #1

I work in Finance so women understand that my hours are a bit long. So what I do is agree to meet for drinks at the bar. I tell them a time when I know I'll still be at work. Around 30 min before, I text her saying Im still at work, dont think I will be off soon. Then, I suggest just meeting for drinks/food at my/her place, instead of going to the bar since I'm so tired after work..

Its worked on 2 girls, but I havent really used it in full force. What are your thoughts on this? Reminds me a bit of Paul Jankas model, only his was a bit more direct.

Post: #2

If it's working don't change it.

Try it on a bigger sample size, say 15-20 girls and report back.

Post: #3

Be careful when it happens t to you. A 35 year women i went out twice, constantly flaked saying she has multiple business and freelance appointments. I think, this time her excuses were mostly true. Even so, the two times I saw her, she was visibly tired and exhausted from work and lack of sleep. Not DTF material anyway.

I nexted her (or she nexted me?). There is no point on investing your time in people without the time for you. Unless you are very high value to her, she may think you are too busy and may quickly consider any of her other options.

Post: #4

(10-18-2013 11:46 AM)Ternarydemonite Wrote:  Be careful when it happens t to you. A 35 year women i went out twice, constantly flaked saying she has multiple business and freelance appointments. I think, this time her excuses were mostly true. Even so, the two times I saw her, she was visibly tired and exhausted from work and lack of sleep. Not DTF material anyway.

I nexted her (or she nexted me?). There is no point on investing your time in people without the time for you. Unless you are very high value to her, she may think you are too busy and may quickly consider any of her other options.

I had a similar issue with a 26-year-old financial advisor just starting her own "practice" (or whatever they call it). She inherited a location from an outgoing older peer and had an incompetent secretary she had to keep on for a year. She must've spent 5 minutes bitching about the level of incompetency, it got to the point I tuned her out. By the end of the conversation we both knew it wasn't going to work out (I'm shocked she even tried dating) but I learned "business woman" is a potential red flag.

Post: #5

I took a girl out a couple times. Each time she'd bitch and complain about a coworker. It got to the point where she was texting me about it giving me updates. I played along for a little bit... Got tired of the bullshit and disengaged. Broke off contact

Post: #6

(10-17-2013 08:28 PM)TrueSlyr Wrote:  Its worked on 2 girls, but I havent really used it in full force. What are your thoughts on this? Reminds me a bit of Paul Jankas model, only his was a bit more direct.

2 out of 2?

And what is full force?

Sounds like a good gameplan to me.

Post: #7

tried it on an OKCupid girl and failed

thoughts?

Post: #8

(10-19-2013 01:51 PM)TrueSlyr Wrote:  tried it on an OKCupid girl and failed

thoughts?

I've gotten girls OKC straight to my place for the first date. It's not going to be as effective as you've never met face to face, and sends off warning flags. They KNOW sex is on the agenda. However, if she does come over...it's yours to lose. My thoughts on your texts:

Don't ask. Keep it short: "Running late. I'll pick up a bottle and come to your place." If she shuts you down, just say okay and suggest an alternative. None of this, "X or Y? We can do blah blah blah if you like."

Be a man about it. "Bar XYZ. 7pm. Wear a dress."

Post: #9

(10-19-2013 01:51 PM)TrueSlyr Wrote:  tried it on an OKCupid girl and failed

thoughts?

Ok I'm no expert, I'm actually right on the bottom level, but my thoughts are that you played down the idea, rather than making it seem like it would be a fun thing to do. Your texts dont seem to give off a good vibe.

Also - replace Could I with Lets and it probably would've panned out much differently

Post: #10

I also do similar, mainly due to generally being busy all of the time. I find it allows scope to be more forward once meeting, due to your indifference on the build up to meet. It's also a smart tactic when girls are flaky as you know if she ever flakes, she knows that you don't give a fuck, as your busy anyway.

Post: #11

I use weekend business flights on occassion to flake out of dates and comitements . It works, but don't do it all of the time

Post: #12

(10-20-2013 10:57 AM)frenchie Wrote:  I use weekend business flights on occassion to flake out of dates and comitements . It works, but don't do it all of the time

Yeah I agree, unless of course you no longer wanted to speak to the girl.

Personally I find that the positive of busy guy game, it means at whichever stage when you want to flake out, she already knows your really busy in general anyway, so it's easy to just say "im flooded with work".

Post: #13

Just tell them you have to work late then suggest the bar NEXT to your apt.

This is pretty foolproof, tbh.