Post: #1

Hey dudes,

Anyone have good advice for learning how to dance? I have always felt like such a chode the times I've gotten out on the dance floor. I have a good sense of rhythm and play multiple instruments, but it's as if I can't translate that to my body movements. I can do the typical swaying bobbing crap at concerts etc but I know I'm missing out on a big chance with girls at rock shows. I guess I'm a total noob at dancing with girls in a sexual manner and not being goofy as hell. I used to hate the idea of dancing but I can see its value and how it could be a lot of fun. There are cheap ballroom dancing classes in my city, is it worth doing that or too old fashioned? I'm just looking to gain the ability to approach and competently dance with girls I want to bang, nothing too fancy. Another weapon in the arsenal. Thanks

Post: #2

(09-04-2013 12:58 PM)Fender_Bender Wrote:  Hey dudes,

Anyone have good advice for learning how to dance? I have always felt like such a chode the times I've gotten out on the dance floor. I have a good sense of rhythm and play multiple instruments, but it's as if I can't translate that to my body movements. I can do the typical swaying bobbing crap at concerts etc but I know I'm missing out on a big chance with girls at rock shows. I guess I'm a total noob at dancing with girls in a sexual manner and not being goofy as hell. I used to hate the idea of dancing but I can see its value and how it could be a lot of fun. There are cheap ballroom dancing classes in my city, is it worth doing that or too old fashioned? I'm just looking to gain the ability to approach and competently dance with girls I want to bang, nothing too fancy. Another weapon in the arsenal. Thanks

FB There are quite a few threads on the forum related to dance. I refer to several of the dance threads in my posting earlier today.

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You did not say which city or area you are in.

I personally believe that it would be a good consideration to choose a kind of dance that is popular in your area - b/c the kind of dance that is popular in a given area will vary in different parts of the country.

And, if there are multiple dances that are popular, you may want to consider which ones have young women participating in that kind of dance. Of course, you may not want to chose a kind of dance that is not personally appealing to your tastes.

Accordingly, I would recommend that you would start learning one kind of dance and focus on that and then branch out from there.

In that regard, if you are learning a new dance, probably, it would be good to spend several months of at least 2-3 times a week focused on learning the one dance, and then see how that goes.... After a couple of months, you may want to reconsider or to see whether if you should keep focusing on just the one dance to improve your skills in that dance.

Post: #3

FB: I just went out for a jog, and I kept thinking about the question of ballroom dancing and whether that is old fashion.

I believe it is not necessarily that ballroom is old fashion; however, what kind of chicks are you getting at those venues in your location?

Girls seem to love the idea of guys wanting to learn ballroom dancing, and especially the cougars. Yet the question must remain what kind of talent is there at those locations in your town, then it may be o.k. to learn that. I become a little worried about attempting to learn too many styles at once, unless you pick up on these kinds of things quickly. Usually ballroom could mean that you are learning ten or more styles at once, and you should figure out if that interests you b/c it would make me go crazy. My philosophy was to focus and to learn salsa formally, then afterwards, I learned chachacha, bachata and merengue (which are the four main genres that they play in salsa clubs in my location). I pretty much self taught myself in chachacha, bachata and merengue by incorporating salsa dancing into the steps of those other styles.

Post: #4

I want to learn to dance like this guy....



Or Michal Jackson



Or Napoleon Dynamite

Post: #5

Get this DVD, it's good.

http://www.amazon.com/Nightclub-Dance-Hi...ub+dancing

Post: #6

I'm with JayJuanGee on this subject.

Find out which style of dancing offers the most young and attractive women in your area. I would learn that until you have competent skills in that style and feel comfortable to bridge off into other similar styles of dance.

Once you are competent in the styles of dance similar to the original style you can break off into other completely different styles.

If the style you would like to become better at is salsa JayJuanGee is the person I would talk to.

I can offer advice on any hip hop style dancing so if that is the style feel free to pm me.

Post: #7

Watch other guys and go to classes/clubs if you can. A lot of styles will translate decently to others, so if you learn salsa or bachata it'll probably help you make sense of house beats that you hear in clubs nowadays. If you're feeling more ambitious you can look into popping or house or even breaking, though those styles take more time investment (especially breaking) and are solo (which has its uses in clubs)...if you're in a medium to large city you should be able to find people practicing those kinds of styles and they'll help you out with it.

Also I notice that a lot of musicians have trouble translating their musical sensibilities to dance, and it's probably because they're two different mentalities. Musicians have to understand a song/part logically, while dancers have to internalize its spirit...if that makes any sense. Try to forget about the musician state of mind and just feel the music when you're learning.

Post: #8

These two videos cover your issues well:

Post: #9

(06-26-2015 07:44 PM)Saga Wrote:  Watch other guys and go to classes/clubs if you can. A lot of styles will translate decently to others, so if you learn salsa or bachata it'll probably help you make sense of house beats that you hear in clubs nowadays. If you're feeling more ambitious you can look into popping or house or even breaking, though those styles take more time investment (especially breaking) and are solo (which has its uses in clubs)...if you're in a medium to large city you should be able to find people practicing those kinds of styles and they'll help you out with it.

Also I notice that a lot of musicians have trouble translating their musical sensibilities to dance, and it's probably because they're two different mentalities. Musicians have to understand a song/part logically, while dancers have to internalize its spirit...if that makes any sense. Try to forget about the musician state of mind and just feel the music when you're learning.

I agree with you Saga, and you make a lot of good points, and when push comes to shove, if you want to learn to dance, then it is probably good, as Realologist suggested, to focus on one genre and then to build your moves, as you get more comfortable, then continue to expand your moves and really put practice into your schedule on a regular basis...

In the beginning, when you are adopting such a goal, then targeting about three days a week for practice would be good, of course, you could practice less or more than 3 days a week (but of course everyone has other competing interests in their lives too).