Post: #26

Coffee is NOT for closers!!!

Post: #27

(06-23-2013 02:54 PM)MrXY Wrote:  Coffee is NOT for closers!!!

Absolutely .....well said!

Old news now but proven and tested so many times in my younger years.

You can't change what doesn't work.

Ahh the lays I could have had.... so sad

Post: #28

So what if the girl's 18 or something and you can't bring her into a bar? Coffee dates are viable options for the younger set.

Post: #29

Coffee breath would be my bigger concern in such situations, unless there is nutmeg and cinnamon involved.

But if you can ensure good hygiene on both parties always go for it.

Post: #30

(08-15-2013 06:02 AM)aphelion Wrote:  So what if the girl's 18 or something and you can't bring her into a bar? Coffee dates are viable options for the younger set.

Go for ice cream. Girls like sweet things and it will put them in a good mood. You can have fun with just picking flavors. She'll get ice cream on her face and you can wipe it off or laugh at her. You can let her try your ice cream and try some of hers. Then you can take a stroll, sit on a bench, and start working.

Even though I stood up for coffee earlier in this thread, truth be told, it may well be the worst of the traditional date ideas. Worse than a movie date. Caffeine plus bright lights, surrounded by people on laptops. Sounds like an office. Which makes sense because coffee dates can easily become like interviews, especially for guys new to the game.

Post: #31

Don't completely discount coffee dates.

In an ideal world we would all take girls to bars that were right next to where we lived, have one drink and bang.

Unfortunately it doesn't always work out like that.

Coffee can be an opportunity to build some comfort with a girl, especially if she is younger so she trusts you.

Coffee shops can be good to keep the ball rolling, build a bit more attraction whilst also doing other things, as she may not be confident in going for a drink with you just yet.

This is more true of foreign girls.

Yes it is more drawn out, but it also has its advantages. You can meet a girl for a coffee at 5-6pm for 30 minutes, see what she's really like without giving up your night for someone who turns up to be a tool and you don't get laid anyway. That way you can still go out with your buddies in the evening and pursue more women!

(06-23-2013 06:18 AM)Vicious Wrote:  Oooooor if you can instadate someone from a day game pickup. In that case I'd do a 20 my min sit down before declaring I have something to attend to and suggest to follow up with happy hour.

This is a good idea. I've done this before where I've insta-dated a girl for coffee and I met her later that evening and took her to my place. I got the bang on the second date.

Post: #32

kiss on any date

i had a first date with a girl a few weeks ago at 9:20AM for coffee. Thats right, 9:20 AM. I dropped off my kids and met her at that time for coffee. We sat on park bench near by and I was kissing her at 9:45AM. This was the first time I had ever met her.

Kiss anytime. Coffee is fine, its all about your attitude.

Post: #33

(06-20-2013 08:42 PM)Gmac Wrote:  Don't do coffee dates unless you're already fucking her.

I don't get this mentality.

A coffee date can be sexual as hell depending on your attitude. I bought this girl an iced coffee and grabbed her and kissed her ten minutes later.

I'm kissing girls whereever whenever. you just gotta go for it. make it known that you're a sexual being and you're after it.

lots of eye contact and then blammo, kiss.

the date i mentioned above was a _before work_ coffee date.

i kissed her several times and one good make out as we departed at 9:50AM. She said she got nothing done all day because she was just thinking about that kiss.

We banged the next time I saw her. And didnt need no date for that either, I just went right over to her house.

I hate girls that drink a lot. I will never guide a date to anything alcohol focused, ever. Most all girls are cool with that, the ones that aren't, got problems.

Post: #34

No idea why coffee dates are looked down on. Obviously don't stay at the Cafe the whole time, but I have had plenty of success meeting a girl at a daytime non-alcoholic venue and bouncing around from there. The walk-and-kiss is a good move here.

For instance, a recent first date:

Met at Starbucks. Talked for a little, left.
Went into a music store, she and I both play, we fucked around on cool instruments.
Walked around, got lost, kissed her when we were both lost.
Walked around more, found a park, chilled for a while.
Got some really good donuts, went to a sculpture park and looked at art, made out a little more there.
Went our separate ways.

Later that week we boned.

I mean, if you don't have the TIME for this sort of thing, I totally get it, that was an entire day, but it was enjoyable.