Post: #1

I met a girl on okc. She's a 6, a little chubby. She spoke for almost 2 hours non-stop I interrupted her to share my experiences. I was a bit naive to this dating game. Though I got a bang in a rather interesting situation in the past. Well I haven't tickled her romantically during the conversation.

She is actually starved sexually that's what I discovered. In fact she kept things like how many times she's masturbated online.

So my question was, I didn't get why she said she didn't feel the connection. I am from a different country.

Being the first person to meet in person from okc, I was wondering why she said like that.

Some background info. The setting was pretty normal. I didn't escalate anything because she's well educated and mature enough I didn't want to say anything to feel I am thinking of her as a slut. So I thought I will pretty much ask her out later for a hangout. But instead I asked her, if she's interested in a date and thats the response I got.

I am unable to analyze what happened. Please throw in ideas guys.

Post: #2

LOL, suspicious post.

You've never NOT felt a connection with anyone?

Your situtation is exactly like the one described in this song

Post: #3

Am I the only person that thinks okcupid is a cesspool of disgusting whores?

Post: #4

(04-06-2013 07:13 PM)Lights Wrote:  Am I the only person that thinks okcupid is a cesspool of disgusting whores?

I don't think so. So far, I got a lot of replies. I was also successful in pulling off numbers but nothing happened. I have a great pic, but without a smile, very sober. I gotta change that soon. My friends say I've got a great smile ( Not fucking myself ).

I see the dating scene this way. People are looking for somebody who can tickle them romantically. If girls are whores, men equally are. I am still dealing my way through these dating websites.

Honestly it's a game of numbers. You don't have to be super hot to get laid. At least that's my experience. She'll turn on for "what you say" - Never hit her directly.

Since you don't know the mental state of fickle minded girls. It's hard to actually assume she's gonna come for you no matter how pretty you look, unless she is in the mood.

Online dating is passive method of interaction. It doesn't take you far unless you meet them in person.

Though I am new to this : A good opener always got me a reply.

These are the steps I follow

1. Good Opener - Polite, honest and something funny
2. Making her feel secure i.e. you are not a troll

This is the tricky part where you can fall into the Friend Zone / Romance - dependent totally on
a. whom you run into.
b. time of the day / week

3. Be receptive > Ask yourself : What the fuck does she want?
4. Now make your language romantic and asking her out to meet in person.

This approach actually worked for me. But the thing was, all the people whom I met are pretty far. At least served a good experimentation.

Exclude "Attention Whores" You DGF- look for people who are "sexually starved" - This requires clarification - Girls generally don't put up their "period" status online i.e. they don't say casual sex, even an "interest in friends" works.

"A girl wants to get banged as much as a guy wants to" - Just that it's a pain in the ass for guys to work this way through to get pussy.

And finally Don't Give a Fuck...Enjoy frustrating chics, dump them verbally, they just can't handle that , if you get a bang that's great. If not chase somebody else.

Post: #5

(04-06-2013 07:11 PM)guerrilla Wrote:  LOL, suspicious post.

You've never NOT felt a connection with anyone?

Your situtation is exactly like the one described in this song

LOL that was awesome. I thought I will get laid, having known how much she is starved.

Post: #6

It is not worth analyzing why a woman does whatever she does whenever she does it. Women act on emotions and their emotions can be influences by 1000 different factors of which you know of only one: you! The bottom line, you went for it, got turned down. You move on. That's it! Any time a woman say anything other than a Yes, it's a No.

Post: #7

(04-06-2013 07:07 PM)axiomatic Wrote:  I met a girl on okc. She's a 6, a little chubby. She spoke for almost 2 hours non-stop I interrupted her to share my experiences. I was a bit naive to this dating game. Though I got a bang in a rather interesting situation in the past. Well I haven't tickled her romantically during the conversation.

She is actually starved sexually that's what I discovered. In fact she kept things like how many times she's masturbated online.

So my question was, I didn't get why she said she didn't feel the connection. I am from a different country.

Being the first person to meet in person from okc, I was wondering why she said like that.

I am unable to analyze what happened. Please throw in ideas guys.

You want to know why she did not feel any connection??

Who knows and I would not care if I was you. That was maybe her way of saying she wasn't attracted to you. Maybe there was too much friction. Maybe you didn't spark arousal in her. Maybe she doesn't think you are sexual enough for her. Ad infinitum......

Most girls you meet will not want to sleep with you, it's a fact, get over it and move on. Most girls will be neutral or negative towards you and the ones you do meet who like you might find there is too much friction so don't analyse, be grateful she was up front and told you early on so you don't have to waste any more time with her.

Shit, if I had a pound for every woman I met who did not feel a connection with me I would be able to afford a very nice bottle of wine. If I had a pound for every time I have tried analysing why a girl did not feel the connection with me I would be able to afford a pint of beer.

Forget it and on to the next one because ultimately there is no definitive answer to your question unless she comes on here and posts a response. Unlikely to happen.

Post: #8

(04-06-2013 07:13 PM)Lights Wrote:  Am I the only person that thinks okcupid is a cesspool of disgusting whores?

actually not a cess pool of whores. Depends on the nature of the person and the immediate situation. Most of the women I get response from are well educated - message in complete sentences.

I recently pulled out another sexy girl, a 7 may be. Frankly, I didn't find that these women are "just" into sex. They are looking for friendship and later the benefit part

You are lucky if she's in the phase of a having a period. She's horny and will supposedly respond to an inkling of sexual talk.

I got very bad responses talking in a rather indirectly sexual tone twice and stopped altogether.

Post: #9

(04-06-2013 07:07 PM)axiomatic Wrote:  She is actually starved sexually that's what I discovered. In fact she kept things like how many times she's masturbated online.
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Some background info. The setting was pretty normal. I didn't escalate anything because she's well educated and mature enough I didn't want to say anything to feel I am thinking of her as a slut. So I thought I will pretty much ask her out later for a hangout. But instead I asked her, if she's interested in a date and thats the response I got.

I am unable to analyze what happened. Please throw in ideas guys.

She wanted you to escalate. You didn't, she lost interest.

Post: #10

You are absolutely right. I have been thinking about this a lot these days and it made sense. I talked about all shit other than escalating it.

I am clueless how I can talk to her in a sexy fashion. That day she fed herself with a lot of shit, spoke for 2 whole hours until she got tired of talking.

Also, what I noticed, she always corrected her jacket. Admittedly, I was good online when it comes to escalating, I couldn't here. I realized how stupid I was. I could have actually gotten a bang.

She starves sexually a lot. According to my friend's formula - he asked me not to talk sex with girls, let it happen slowly and hence I didn't want to piss her off outright talking about it - he's an amazing alpha.

As a newbie I got numbers whenever I wanted, I wasn't that bad whenever I approach a girl randomly, but I want suggestions when it comes to how do I actually get along sexy slowly - suggest some examples please.......

(05-05-2013 10:25 AM)Ensam Wrote:  

(04-06-2013 07:07 PM)axiomatic Wrote:  She is actually starved sexually that's what I discovered. In fact she kept things like how many times she's masturbated online.
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Some background info. The setting was pretty normal. I didn't escalate anything because she's well educated and mature enough I didn't want to say anything to feel I am thinking of her as a slut. So I thought I will pretty much ask her out later for a hangout. But instead I asked her, if she's interested in a date and thats the response I got.

I am unable to analyze what happened. Please throw in ideas guys.

She wanted you to escalate. You didn't, she lost interest.