Post: #1

Hey dudes,
been unemployed for 3 months now - and starting to go out of my mind.

Initially the free time was a blessing but now I am finding it hard to motivate myself to find work, let alone to game or improve my lifestyle.

Anyone been in the same situation? How did you cope?

Post: #2

Obvious one: Get a job.

Are you living with parents or friends, or just getting by on your savings?

Post: #3

(10-17-2012 07:37 AM)Architekt Wrote:  Obvious one: Get a job.

Are you living with parents or friends, or just getting by on your savings?

um, yeah. Thats what I am trying to do. Live alone, on social welfare. 27 years old.

Post: #4

(10-17-2012 07:41 AM)unstoppableflow Wrote:  

(10-17-2012 07:37 AM)Architekt Wrote:  Obvious one: Get a job.

Are you living with parents or friends, or just getting by on your savings?

um, yeah. Thats what I am trying to do. Live alone, on social welfare. 27 years old.

What is social welfare? I really wish you guys would put your flag next to your username.

Post: #5

Isn't social welfare in America? To the OP, isn't there anything on craigslist that you can do?

What line of work were you doing?

Post: #6

(10-17-2012 07:33 AM)unstoppableflow Wrote:  Hey dudes,
been unemployed for 3 months now - and starting to go out of my mind.

Initially the free time was a blessing but now I am finding it hard to motivate myself to find work, let alone to game or improve my lifestyle.

Anyone been in the same situation? How did you cope?

I was in a similar situation at one point.

The best advice I can give is to wake up early in the morning and get dressed as if you are going to work.

The next best advice I can give is to treat your unemployment as a job: either give yourself a hustle task, or learn a skill, or go networking. You can still employ yourself and be your own boss, even if you have no resources to pay yourself with.

Post: #7

I was unemployed for about a year aged 17. This was the period of my life where i became one of the worlds most accomplished masterbaters.

But in all seriousness look for seasonal work. 1-3 months worth will be enough to get yourself out of the country and on to a trip in foreign land in search of foreign pussy if thats what you were after.

What do you like actually want to do with your life?

Post: #8

My bro in law was in this situation for some time. Make finding a job your job. Go everywhere, talk to everyone, market yourself for the job you want. Be active as fuck in other areas as well. Read the news daily, work out a lot, etc. When you do get an interview, being this active will give you the same vibe as someone coming to interview that already has a job and is just looking to change jobs. If you get lazy or discouraged, employers can smell that from a mile away.

Post: #9

Start a good weightlifting program and/or join a boxing club. Start doing something intellectually demanding. Either start teaching yourself maths to a higher level, maybe a new language or teach yourself programming. Do this 7/10 hours a week.
Wake up at some time between 6 and 8 o'clock in the morning. Wash, shave, have breakfast and go for a 10 minute walk outside within the hour, i.e between 7 & 9.
Oh yeah and all the obvious stuff about getting a job.

Post: #10

The first thing you should do is start everyday as if you're going to work.

Shower, shave, etc.
Dress well.
Make yourself breakfast.
Grab your laptop, go to a coffee shop and look for work. This is your "unofficial" job.
Grab books from the library.
Work out.

Make yourself a routine. The worst thing that you can do is lounge around your place all day wearing boxers.

Post: #11

I got a fair amount of book-reading done during my unemployment. I would go to Barnes and Noble for 4 hours and read an entire book in the cafe.

Post: #12

(10-17-2012 10:34 AM)Byc Wrote:  The first thing you should do is start everyday as if you're going to work.

Shower, shave, etc.
Dress well.
Make yourself breakfast.
Grab your laptop, go to a coffee shop and look for work. This is your "unofficial" job.
Grab books from the library.
Work out.

Make yourself a routine. The worst thing that you can do is lounge around your place all day wearing boxers.

Yeah hone that routine until your non-work life is like clockwork. Do all the jobs you've been putting off around your house etc and generally get your shit together.

So many people I know are held back by shitty disorganization in their personal lives. Then when you get a job or income going you'll be unstoppable.

Post: #13

when i got laid off i decided i really hated what i did and from there i decided to completely change my environment. i sold my things, rented out my place and moved to latin america to teach english. ive been doing this for 3 yrs or so and i am far happier now then i was working in the 9-5 tie wearing commuting in rush hour job i had before.
side note if you do leave the country to teach english have 5k in savings bare minimum

Post: #14

Exercise like its a religion, spend as little time in your house as possible, sell your television, and read a lot of books. (use ElMech's hack and read them at a cafeteria)

Network, meet a lot of people, and be sure to get/keep one or preferably two girls you can bootycall. No sex can turn a man into a dull boy in a matter of weeks.

Post: #15

Stop being lazy.

taskrabbit.com

Or go on Craigslist.

Send out job applications at night and run side hustles in the mean time. Not moving causes your mind and body to degrade rapidly.

Post: #16

workout
read
regular sleep patterns

and one thing that helped me is have a schedule to even send out resumes and search for jobs. Limit it and focus so you send less stuff out there but with higher quality. Go biking, hiking or walking out in nature.

Post: #17

Yeah dude, send out a shitload of resumes and job applications. Call up friends for leads and see if they have an in. Straight up I've been laid off a couple of times and have never been unemployed for long, while some guys I've known have been unemployed for months due to straight up laziness.

You know how if you keep approaching and talking to girls it's inevitable that you'll get laid?

Same thing with the job search. You WILL get a job if you keep at it.

Post: #18

It would be a little easier to answer this if we had an idea of what skills you have or a little info on your background: However there are a few general things you can do.
-Run down all of your contacts and single out people that may have solid leads on a gig.
-Volunteer or join a organization that needs your time. You can play this as work experience and put it on your resume since any gap longer than 1-2 months is really gonna make an employer wonder. Try to leverage any industry skills you may have in this role(i.e. redesign the website of the organization)
-Put your resume on Monster(and other such sites like Careerbuilder) and/or your college career site(if you went) and pick up some contract work. This is heavily dependent on the industry you worked in and skills you possess
-While engaging in your job search, do side projects that interest you or get a certification for your industry. Also,volunteer to work for free as an intern in places that you could see yourself working. You may have to pick up an odd job, if you find yourself burning through your reserves.
-Have someone review your resume

Also, check out this networking post by Thomas the Rhymer. Lots of helpful tips.
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Post: #19

thanks guys. alot of this is really helpful. will keep you posted.

I am using the time to really bone up on my online marketing skills - I have about 5 websites that are yet to be decently profitable!

Also trying to hack my sleep schedule - finding that using laptop for surfing too close to bed gives me insomnia....so just tweaking things


also pushing myself with day game, or just CHATTING with strangers....I do run a small side business doing proofreading...its seasonal though and the season is over more or less..

Post: #20

Good advice so far. Yes, don't do anything in bed but sleep and fuck:

http://www.umm.edu/sleep/sleep_hyg.htm

I do contract work and go through long periods in between jobs. Definitely workout, and if the money is low forget the gym and do HIIT training at your house. A jump rope, pullup bar, and a couple used dumbells is all you need. Search around the forum for threads, or PM Hades. He knows his shit.

When they say looking for a job is a full time job, they aren't lying. EVERY job you apply to needs to have a tweaked cover letter and resume. That means researching the company you are applying. This takes time and I hate doing it. But it is much more effective than carpet bombing your resume online. Also, look for resources to improve your CV, like this one:

http://www.aie.org/Finding-a-career/Writ...-words.cfm

Try and find some pussy like Germanico said, but I know it's hard when you are living with relatives, broke, and unemployed. No pussy kills my motivation levels.

Game console. This has helped me kill time more than once, and save lots of money. It seems counterproductive, but when you have no options of going out, and are still trying to fill hours in the day, it can let your mind focus on something else for a couple hours, and go back to doing something productive again.

If you have enough cash to move around a bit, read Emechs day game hack. Been doing it for years, and it can produce poosy, and doing it right won't cost much. A cup of joe here and there, lunch on the dollar menu at Mc Donalds, walking around the grocery then just buying a pack of gum or bottle of agua, ect.

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Make saving money a way of life. Shop the sale ads, don't buy anything unnecessary, try to put a little back every week.

Don't masturbate. Seriously. Stay focused.

I've spent many times between jobs and have this down to a science.

edit-Power went out and forgot to add links.

To the OP- Stop being so secretive. We can help you better if you give a little more info, like age, background, ect.

Post: #21

make sure to get out of the house every day, even if its just to go to the mall and walk around in circles, or go to starbucks, order a 1.50 tea and watching people come and go

Post: #22

Don't jump at every job opportunity that seems to be out there. I've been trying to get full-time employment for the past few months. I finally took my resume off Career Builder because the only calls I was getting was from commission only sales jobs. Just got off the phone with another one of the bastards. Even major retailers are starting to push in that direction.

Post: #23

(10-18-2012 08:45 AM)Aliblahba Wrote:  I do contract work and go through long periods in between jobs. Definitely workout, and if the money is low forget the gym and do HIIT training at your house. A jump rope, pullup bar, and a couple used dumbells is all you need. Search around the forum for threads, or PM Hades. He knows his shit.

Thanks for the rep man, I appreciate it.
Unstoppableflow, definitely get yourself on a workout program if you're unemployed. Life's little mishaps tend to be the best opportunities for self improvement.

Post: #24

Man I havent worked a job in about 8 months.
I just work out, read a shitton, leaned several skills, study a ton, play guitar, did a lot of sarging, some online freelancing on the side. Oh and im playing through baldurs gate 2 right now!

I loved it! BUt have to go work a job in 2 weeks again :/ Fuck.

Post: #25

Same situation, been looking for adequate work in the DC area for MONTHS and yet to find anything.

Number ONE thing you can do is EXERCISE. Without it, you WILL feel like absolute SHIT. It will then creep on your confidence and everything else.

Behind that-Number Two- GET OUT. Use the day game hack if you want, but just get the FUCK out. As stated on here, your room/place is only for one thing -sleeping and hopefully hosting chicas or friends. Be getting out with friends, or making new ones, chatting up strangers (only a new friend you haven't met yet), and trying to spit some game on chicas. If you're barely making enough to live it sucks, but do SOMETHING or cut back on certain things so you can at least spend just the transportation costs (metro or gas, whatever it is) on getting out. It will also help with network/social skills, which helps immensely with game PLUS you never know who you will run into that might help you land a job.

Three-if you can, volunteer somewhere to maybe get your foot in the door or as stated-at the very least have some experience in between jobs. The number ONE fear you should have, is that if you are still searching months from now while not keeping your brain/body going-you WILL stagnate.

Now I COMPLETELY understand this is hard to do while employed or underemployed, but you HAVE to. Employment or underemployment is already hard as fuck to deal with, if you aren't doing AT LEAST these two-the downward spiral is hard to stop and you sure as HELL will be attracting no decent chicas your way anytime soon. I just read somewhere (maybe it was here) but when you are employed/underemployed you are probably going to be go through a rough spot. There is NO better time to learn self improvement, which is the MOST PIVOTAL pillar of game. Being VASTLY underemployed the past 8 months, I've had to get creative as FUCK with dates and meeting chicas. Its been a rough time yes, but you HAVE to stay positive and get out to distract you from it at times. You HAVE to learn how to adapt, and get creative if you want any chance at all. You will also have to adapt to the market and try to learn things in your free time to get more marketable.

Another hard thing, is that it is EASY to feel alone when you are unemployed/underemployed and that you are the ONLY one going through it while you see others with work and what not-hell people younger than you that you KNOW you work harder than or are likely smarter than. DON'T believe the hype on peoples Facebooks (don't even get me started on how fake FB has become these days) and know you ARE NOT (!!) alone in this. I think I'm going through a rough ass time, and then I realize there are people married or with kids who are going through this shit. There time is NO better time to learn how to improve yourself than during this time RIGHT now.

Something inspirational I like to work out to....RISE
http://youtu.be/Homukj0sBYU