Post: #1

Tomorrow is the first day in a long ass time I've had to myself to just hang out and do nothing, and I'm spending it with my friend. The only thing is, my friend doesn't know I'm getting into the pick up community, and I was wanting to do a few approaches tomorrow as it will be my last day in a while to be able to do some... how do I go about doing these without my friend clueing in to my new found... "hobby"? I feel as though this is really helpful as well for more discrete pick up, and would help in terms of more casual pick up, so you can literally do it anywhere, any time, and the people you're with will think nothing of it just that you were lucky that day.

Post: #2

your best bet is to make sure go places where there are women you can mingle with
coffee shops, university campuses, bookshops, etc
bars maybe not so much as during the day it's mostly men, the exception being perhaps around lunchtime when you'll also have women coming in, especially if the bar serves food
try to engage with people during the day in general, men and women alike, you don't even have to outright approach as such, just focus on being social, outgoing and upbeat and practise on having humour or witty observations in your conversations where possible
most women will respond favourably to a confident witty man who makes casual conversation with her while waiting in line for coffee or whatever
there's also the 'asking for directions' option, i've found this a great way to get talking to chicks, you can also get her to show you the way to your desintation if it's nearby, gives you a window of a few minutes perhaps to chat and see if there's a good vibe - even if it goes nowhere, it still gets you in right natural social frame for meeting women

Post: #3

(09-27-2012 01:08 AM)carbanim Wrote:  Tomorrow is the first day in a long ass time I've had to myself to just hang out and do nothing, and I'm spending it with my friend. The only thing is, my friend doesn't know I'm getting into the pick up community, and I was wanting to do a few approaches tomorrow as it will be my last day in a while to be able to do some... how do I go about doing these without my friend clueing in to my new found... "hobby"? I feel as though this is really helpful as well for more discrete pick up, and would help in terms of more casual pick up, so you can literally do it anywhere, any time, and the people you're with will think nothing of it just that you were lucky that day.

this should be in the newbie forum....

Post: #4

Don't make gaming your main priority just hang out with your friend and be social. Don't do whack dancing monkey stuff either just be social and ramble about shit.

Post: #5

either do it when you're with him and tell him you look for a GF. or divide your time to hanging out with friends and socializing/cold approach.

also, when you're in a venue you can warm up many cold approaches jsut by being social, having small talk with people around you, commenting others etc, so that it doesn't look like you actually do the pure COLD approach (probably that's what you asking for). check MOMENTUM OF THE NIGHT in my signature for practical info. the simplest tip would be to decide to chat up every person in your proximity (1-2 metres range). nothing fancy, casual chit chat like... "hey i'm new here / nice glasses / when did you get that thing? / don't look at me like that i fall in love so easily / how many hearts have you broken... this week? / did you watch the game yesterday? / you look bored / haha my sister looks bad in that (pointing at her piece of clothing) / etc...

just basic socializing with people. but that can make your life a lot easier (in that venue) since you break the ice early on without hitting on them. nobody (incluing your friends) can call you out on trying some shit on girls. it's good start, girls categorize you as cool social chill guy. and later on when you re-approach you start at 'warm' level cause they had few seconds of pleasant interaction with you before. it's kind of invisible game cause you take time, you don't rush it, you warm up girls more and more to you, you flirt and escalate etc.

in short the whole scene looks like it was spontaneous. like you didn't plan this beforehand. like your interest level increases with time as those girls win you over. so the whole 'seduction' happens more in subcommunication channels (BL / eyes / smiles / touch / tension) rather than in verbal/overt/obvious channels.

this way, nobody can say shit. all they see is some guy exchanging few words with random chicks. and next thing they know the same guy later HAPPENS TO BE with some girls laughing having fun together.

that would be my take on "how to play the game undercover"

Post: #6

(09-27-2012 02:17 PM)XXL Wrote:  either do it when you're with him and tell him you look for a GF. or divide your time to hanging out with friends and socializing/cold approach.

also, when you're in a venue you can warm up many cold approaches jsut by being social, having small talk with people around you, commenting others etc, so that it doesn't look like you actually do the pure COLD approach (probably that's what you asking for). check MOMENTUM OF THE NIGHT in my signature for practical info. the simplest tip would be to decide to chat up every person in your proximity (1-2 metres range). nothing fancy, casual chit chat like... "hey i'm new here / nice glasses / when did you get that thing? / don't look at me like that i fall in love so easily / how many hearts have you broken... this week? / did you watch the game yesterday? / you look bored / haha my sister looks bad in that (pointing at her piece of clothing) / etc...

just basic socializing with people. but that can make your life a lot easier (in that venue) since you break the ice early on without hitting on them. nobody (incluing your friends) can call you out on trying some shit on girls. it's good start, girls categorize you as cool social chill guy. and later on when you re-approach you start at 'warm' level cause they had few seconds of pleasant interaction with you before. it's kind of invisible game cause you take time, you don't rush it, you warm up girls more and more to you, you flirt and escalate etc.

in short the whole scene looks like it was spontaneous. like you didn't plan this beforehand. like your interest level increases with time as those girls win you over. so the whole 'seduction' happens more in subcommunication channels (BL / eyes / smiles / touch / tension) rather than in verbal/overt/obvious channels.

this way, nobody can say shit. all they see is some guy exchanging few words with random chicks. and next thing they know the same guy later HAPPENS TO BE with some girls laughing having fun together.

that would be my take on "how to play the game undercover"

I like it, and that whole thing actually matches my personality... so... I should be able to pull it off. Thanks.