(09-03-2012 05:47 PM)Lucky Wrote: Today I was out with my wing.
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Uhh, cool story... but why the hell do you care if the girl thinks you were hitting on some other girl?

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(09-05-2012 12:11 PM)starmaze Wrote: Even if I haven’t got any digits I am happy I made two approaches today. Got out of my comfort zone finally. Its good to feel alive again.
(09-05-2012 12:35 PM)lurker123123 Wrote: starmaze- have you read day bang by roosh? if not you should
(09-05-2012 01:18 PM)starmaze Wrote:(09-05-2012 12:35 PM)lurker123123 Wrote: starmaze- have you read day bang by roosh? if not you should
Yes, i bought day bang last year and tried pet shop opener infield. I even had a photo of a parrot i was pretending to look for in my phone. My problem was that even if i managed to engage a girl in conversation and got # or two they turned to be not interesed eventually. Also i dont feel like beating around the bush for too long. I prefer to state my interest soon and dont waste my time.
Ideally i would go full direct all the time but it takes a lot of confidence and i am not at this point yet right now.
(09-05-2012 12:11 PM)starmaze Wrote: 2 approches today.
1. Girl In black suit. I opened her from the back and asked for direction.
Me: where is x street?
Her: well, I think you must go this way
Me: you don’t sound too sure
Her:oh, well, this is somehere over there
Me: ok but if I get lost it will be your fault
Her: hehe no, you should be fine
Me: I can tell by the way you are dressed you work in office
Her: actually I am just going back from job interview
Me: oh, I see, I should wish you good luck then
Her; thank you
Her: so now you should turn right
At this point she was going to go way her way so I decided to go direct
Me: you know what, I cannot lie, I just approached you because you have interesting style
Her: uhh ? sorry?
Me: you have nice style and I just wanted to talk to you
At this point she seems to be pissed off
Her: oh no..
Me: what is your name?
Her: I have bf
Walks away.
I think I talked too fast due to nervousness becasue she asked what I said twice. I need to remember to slow fucking down.
2. I passed this girl with flower in her hair, then turned back to approach her.
Me: hey, where is mcdonalds here?
Her: I don’t think so there is any around. There is kfc over there
Me: you have some flower hippie style, I like it
Her: oh really?
Me: you look sort of an artistic nature, what do you do? Do you paint?
Her: haha, no, none of that things
Me: where are you heading to?
Her: I in rush
Me: me too, whats your name?
Exchanged names.
Some street salesmen tried to stopped us.
Me: this always happens here, you cannot pass this street without being approach by them
Her: yeah
I tried to engaged her in conversation asking what does she do for fun. Anyway she keeps waking. I stood still.
Me; you know what, as you are in rush and I don’t have much time either . How about exchanging number and get together sometimes?
Her; I have a husband
Me: I don’t believe
Her: I am actually married for 9 years
Me: o god, how old are you? You look like 19
Her: I am 29
Me: oh, I would never tell
Her: how are you?
Me: 34
Her: you don’t look like either. I need to go now, sorry
Me: ok have a nice life
Her: you too
Even if I haven’t got any digits I am happy I made two approaches today. Got out of my comfort zone finally. Its good to feel alive again.
(09-02-2012 09:26 PM)Alpha Mind Wrote: "Excuse me...what's your name? (gives you name). Listen, (name), I'm not usually this forward, but you are absolutely lovely and I'd love to get to know you better over (coffee/tea/a drink) sometime."
(09-05-2012 03:09 PM)Giovonny Wrote:(09-05-2012 12:11 PM)starmaze Wrote: 2 approches today.
1. Girl In black suit. I opened her from the back and asked for direction.
Me: where is x street?
Her: well, I think you must go this way
Me: you don’t sound too sure
Her:oh, well, this is somehere over there
Me: ok but if I get lost it will be your fault
Her: hehe no, you should be fine
Me: I can tell by the way you are dressed you work in office
Her: actually I am just going back from job interview
Me: oh, I see, I should wish you good luck then
Her; thank you
Her: so now you should turn right
At this point she was going to go way her way so I decided to go direct
Me: you know what, I cannot lie, I just approached you because you have interesting style
Her: uhh ? sorry?
Me: you have nice style and I just wanted to talk to you
At this point she seems to be pissed off
Her: oh no..
Me: what is your name?
Her: I have bf
Walks away.
I think I talked too fast due to nervousness becasue she asked what I said twice. I need to remember to slow fucking down.
2. I passed this girl with flower in her hair, then turned back to approach her.
Me: hey, where is mcdonalds here?
Her: I don’t think so there is any around. There is kfc over there
Me: you have some flower hippie style, I like it
Her: oh really?
Me: you look sort of an artistic nature, what do you do? Do you paint?
Her: haha, no, none of that things
Me: where are you heading to?
Her: I in rush
Me: me too, whats your name?
Exchanged names.
Some street salesmen tried to stopped us.
Me: this always happens here, you cannot pass this street without being approach by them
Her: yeah
I tried to engaged her in conversation asking what does she do for fun. Anyway she keeps waking. I stood still.
Me; you know what, as you are in rush and I don’t have much time either . How about exchanging number and get together sometimes?
Her; I have a husband
Me: I don’t believe
Her: I am actually married for 9 years
Me: o god, how old are you? You look like 19
Her: I am 29
Me: oh, I would never tell
Her: how are you?
Me: 34
Her: you don’t look like either. I need to go now, sorry
Me: ok have a nice life
Her: you too
Even if I haven’t got any digits I am happy I made two approaches today. Got out of my comfort zone finally. Its good to feel alive again.
First of all, good courage, heart, and balls to do this. I know it is not easy. Your confidence is growing young jedi!
Now, lets look at these approaches. You are opening indirectly, asking for directions, thats fine. Then you switch to direct and it seems like they get annoyed.
I think they are getting annoyed because they feel tricked. They know that you never cared about directions, it was all an act in order to talk to them. They feel lied to. You were hiding your true intentions.
Here is what I suggest:
1) Don't reveal your lie. Don't say - "I actually just approached you because I wanted to say hello" . If you lie, just go along with the lie. Get the directions and then try to transition into more personal conversations. Don't admit that you were lying. It can make them feel weird.
Yes, I do it sometimes but I am more advanced and I can do it without them feeling strange about it. I do it with a very joking and flirty tone. I make them feel like I had to lie in order to create this serendipitous moment for both us us. My lie seems flirtacious, your lie seems like trickery. If that makes sense.
Get your directions and then try to transition into more personal stuff. It would help to dropped some bait as you are discussing directions.
Say things like - "Your purse reminds me of the girls in new york city" or "are you spanish, you look like a barcelona girl" or "this part of town reminds me of sao paulo" or "is your dress from bali?".
Dropping bait like this could advance the conversation to a more personal and comfortable level.
As soon as she gives you directions say - "thanks, are you from around here?"
or, - "thanks, are you in this neighborhood for work or play?"
or, - "thanks, you look like a banker/teacher/saleswoman" (just guess based on her outfit)
Something like that. Something that will let you transition into general conversation.
2) Go direct. Reveal your intentions from the beginning.
Just say - "Excuse me, can I tell you something? Your have such a different look, where are you from?"
Or use the line Alphamind shared with us yesterday..
(09-02-2012 09:26 PM)Alpha Mind Wrote: "Excuse me...what's your name? (gives you name). Listen, (name), I'm not usually this forward, but you are absolutely lovely and I'd love to get to know you better over (coffee/tea/a drink) sometime."
Or, use a line like the ones Krauser recommends..
"Hi. I want to tell you something. I was just over there and I literally just saw you and wanted to say you look quite nice. Very Spanish. It’s you big black hair, dark eyes, and weird fashion".
Hi. How good is your English? I’m here on holiday and I’ve been noticing something about the women here. You are a real woman. You exactly fit my image of a Croatian girl. It’s your long straight hair, elegant fashion, and funny serious look on your face".
"Hi. Can I just say something real quick? I was just sitting over there when you walked past and totally turned my head. You have a great feminine walk. I’d guess you are a proper woman. You’ve got that soft walk, your hips swaying from side to side, a bit of a too-cool-for-school pout on your face".
Experiment with these and develop some openers that you are comfortable with. Keep it up. Approach everyday!
(09-05-2012 03:09 PM)Giovonny Wrote:(09-05-2012 12:11 PM)starmaze Wrote: 2 approches today.
1. Girl In black suit. I opened her from the back and asked for direction.
Me: where is x street?
Her: well, I think you must go this way
Me: you don’t sound too sure
Her:oh, well, this is somehere over there
Me: ok but if I get lost it will be your fault
Her: hehe no, you should be fine
Me: I can tell by the way you are dressed you work in office
Her: actually I am just going back from job interview
Me: oh, I see, I should wish you good luck then
Her; thank you
Her: so now you should turn right
At this point she was going to go way her way so I decided to go direct
Me: you know what, I cannot lie, I just approached you because you have interesting style
Her: uhh ? sorry?
Me: you have nice style and I just wanted to talk to you
At this point she seems to be pissed off
Her: oh no..
Me: what is your name?
Her: I have bf
Walks away.
I think I talked too fast due to nervousness becasue she asked what I said twice. I need to remember to slow fucking down.
2. I passed this girl with flower in her hair, then turned back to approach her.
Me: hey, where is mcdonalds here?
Her: I don’t think so there is any around. There is kfc over there
Me: you have some flower hippie style, I like it
Her: oh really?
Me: you look sort of an artistic nature, what do you do? Do you paint?
Her: haha, no, none of that things
Me: where are you heading to?
Her: I in rush
Me: me too, whats your name?
Exchanged names.
Some street salesmen tried to stopped us.
Me: this always happens here, you cannot pass this street without being approach by them
Her: yeah
I tried to engaged her in conversation asking what does she do for fun. Anyway she keeps waking. I stood still.
Me; you know what, as you are in rush and I don’t have much time either . How about exchanging number and get together sometimes?
Her; I have a husband
Me: I don’t believe
Her: I am actually married for 9 years
Me: o god, how old are you? You look like 19
Her: I am 29
Me: oh, I would never tell
Her: how are you?
Me: 34
Her: you don’t look like either. I need to go now, sorry
Me: ok have a nice life
Her: you too
Even if I haven’t got any digits I am happy I made two approaches today. Got out of my comfort zone finally. Its good to feel alive again.
First of all, good courage, heart, and balls to do this. I know it is not easy. Your confidence is growing young jedi!
Now, lets look at these approaches. You are opening indirectly, asking for directions, thats fine. Then you switch to direct and it seems like they get annoyed.
I think they are getting annoyed because they feel tricked. They know that you never cared about directions, it was all an act in order to talk to them. They feel lied to. You were hiding your true intentions.
Here is what I suggest:
1) Don't reveal your lie. Don't say - "I actually just approached you because I wanted to say hello" . If you lie, just go along with the lie. Get the directions and then try to transition into more personal conversations. Don't admit that you were lying. It can make them feel weird.
Yes, I do it sometimes but I am more advanced and I can do it without them feeling strange about it. I do it with a very joking and flirty tone. I make them feel like I had to lie in order to create this serendipitous moment for both us us. My lie seems flirtacious, your lie seems like trickery. If that makes sense.
Get your directions and then try to transition into more personal stuff. It would help to dropped some bait as you are discussing directions.
Say things like - "Your purse reminds me of the girls in new york city" or "are you spanish, you look like a barcelona girl" or "this part of town reminds me of sao paulo" or "is your dress from bali?".
Dropping bait like this could advance the conversation to a more personal and comfortable level.
As soon as she gives you directions say - "thanks, are you from around here?"
or, - "thanks, are you in this neighborhood for work or play?"
or, - "thanks, you look like a banker/teacher/saleswoman" (just guess based on her outfit)
Something like that. Something that will let you transition into general conversation.
2) Go direct. Reveal your intentions from the beginning.
Just say - "Excuse me, can I tell you something? Your have such a different look, where are you from?"
Or use the line Alphamind shared with us yesterday..
(09-02-2012 09:26 PM)Alpha Mind Wrote: "Excuse me...what's your name? (gives you name). Listen, (name), I'm not usually this forward, but you are absolutely lovely and I'd love to get to know you better over (coffee/tea/a drink) sometime."
Or, use a line like the ones Krauser recommends..
"Hi. I want to tell you something. I was just over there and I literally just saw you and wanted to say you look quite nice. Very Spanish. It’s you big black hair, dark eyes, and weird fashion".
Hi. How good is your English? I’m here on holiday and I’ve been noticing something about the women here. You are a real woman. You exactly fit my image of a Croatian girl. It’s your long straight hair, elegant fashion, and funny serious look on your face".
"Hi. Can I just say something real quick? I was just sitting over there when you walked past and totally turned my head. You have a great feminine walk. I’d guess you are a proper woman. You’ve got that soft walk, your hips swaying from side to side, a bit of a too-cool-for-school pout on your face".
Experiment with these and develop some openers that you are comfortable with. Keep it up. Approach everyday!
(09-06-2012 10:22 AM)reino341 Wrote: Any examples of compliments you've used in a direct approach? Just curious and looking for some inspiration.
I number closed yesterday with "you look pretty interesting" and today with "noticed you have a pretty interesting face, are you perhaps blahblah"
(09-07-2012 01:37 AM)thedude3737 Wrote: One of those most amazing bodies I've ever seen, gorgeous face, incredible natural tits, great big ass, thin waist. Are all Russian girls like this? I would learn conversational Russian in a year without thinking twice if I knew this was on the horizon. Fucking incredible.
FML
(09-07-2012 01:37 AM)thedude3737 Wrote: fuck fuck FUCK!
Just went for a night out with Slubu, some fashion evening in west hollywood. Ran plenty of approaches, girls on the street, girls in fashion stores. At a few points we were chillin with girls but honest I wasn't feeling any of em (even that chick with the ginormous tits. Face wasn't that great and as you said, they both had wedding rings, not that that matters....)
Anyway, a very long and random story short, Slubu meets up with some chick he had a date with at a certain venue, and I cruise along acting like we're not acquainted. Fine. I open a couple fat fucking blonde heifers and they hit me with some major fattitude. Then I turn around and see her. Guys, I don't get oneitis or fall for girls, ever. But behind me was this girl, dressed in a mini white club dress, white high heels, hair pulled up, that was fucking GORGEOUS. Borderline 9. I see her sitting by herself for a minute and run my approach. She's Russian, barely speaks any English, does some modelling in London, and is waiting on some friends that are gonna take her to another nightclub.
Well, let's just say it was a learning experience. I got her number. Tried reworking my game to everything I've learned about Russian girls on this board, I tried making it rain. I was ready to buy the most expensive bottle of champagne in the bar for this girl but she wasn't interested, wanted to stick to mojitos, so I bought her one. I tried not to be supplicating, I smiled less, tried being a little more cold and "bad boy".
I got what I thought were IOIs. She was asking me personal questions. I went in for kino, got my arm around her a few times, was playing with a mole that was behind her ear, got her to laugh plenty.
At one point she got up to use the bathroom and after 10 minutes I realized she ditched me. I saw her at the bar, told her she didn't finish her drink, and she said, "You go, go ahead and finish for me."
I have no hopes for this girl, but she did tell me to call her tomorrow to hang out and party. I don't see any way I could have ONSed her.
I don't get struck by girls very often. This girl was a solid 8.5, maybe a 9 in my book, and I don't say that lightly, friends. I live in L.A. I see models and actresses on the reg. After getting blown out by this chick, I couldn't stand to talk to another American girl all night so I just caught a cab and went home.
One of those most amazing bodies I've ever seen, gorgeous face, incredible natural tits, great big ass, thin waist. Are all Russian girls like this? I would learn conversational Russian in a year without thinking twice if I knew this was on the horizon. Fucking incredible.
FML
(09-07-2012 11:28 AM)thedude3737 Wrote: Some slightly hungover next day thoughts:
We were in west hollywood in a very gay area. We went out for some Fashion Night Out thing. Literally told a cabbie to take us to the middle of it, found a clothing store bumping some music and people out front, told him to let us out and we crashed it.
Great ratio, probably 50/50, and ALL THE DUDES WERE GAY. Not only that, but I feel like gay guys add a very positive vibe, they walk around complimenting girls like, "Oh honey you look so faaaabulous tonight!" that the girls just seemed genuinely happy and open. We struck up conversations with several girls and for the most part, they were all open and friendly, spent time with a few pairs. No noticeable bitch shields, and no bitchiness in our interactions.
The worst "blowout" we got were some hotties we approached on the street, and even they were friendly, those girls from LMU. Their mother hen came by while we were talking to them and basically told them it's time to go, but there was no rudeness in it.
I was in a little over my head. I've never banged a girl as hot as the one I was with last night, so I was REALLY pushing myself to learn on the fly and to remember my training and the rvf boards. I really wish I had Roosh, Emech, AliB, or other senior player in the corner giving me feedback. Hell, even Kamaki with his knowledge of Russians.
What struck me is this girl's friends never came by while I was there, and I probably spent an hour with her. I started to lightly tease her about it, how it's strange she'd want to be alone and she got all cold and insistent that she likes being alone. She was very hot and cold, giving me the cold shoulder one second and then looking over at me with a warm smile the next. I was trying to be attentive but not needy. I pushed for a venue change but she said her friends were going to be there in 5 minutes, which they never were. She also said she has a boyfriend, asked me where my girlfriend was, I said, "Which one?" She laughed.
At one point she wanted a cigarette so I cruised outside to bum a couple. I haven't smoked a cigarette since a Scorpions concert I went to in like '03 so I was doing my best to fake it and not inhale too much, hold the cig and light it without making an idiot of myself. I was really going outside my comfort zone here and honestly, it felt fucking awesome to get as far as I did. She volunteered her number to me after I asked her what she was doing for the rest of the 10 days she'd be here.
I just didn't understand the ending, she really pushed me away. Maybe it was enough for one night? I didn't get needy on her, in fact, the more time I spent with her the more comfortable and "cool" I became.
Regardless, last night was a milestone. 2 years ago I would never imagine myself approaching a girl like that in a bar, getting my arm around her, getting the number, etc.
This venue and the neighborhood are awesome. Tons of girls walking around, most dudes are gay. You better believe I was getting tons of stares from other hot girls in the venue when I was with the Russian.
....., I was leaving the building and see a latino girl dressed in formal pants and blouse, coming towrads me, we hold eye contact, I hold the door for her, she takes two steps forwards turns around and says thank you, I just say you're welcome and keep walking.... Ding it. There was something in her eyes, a spark something ........ On to the next one.......|
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