Post: #51

Premature for whom? Think about it and get back to me.


Thats my take. To me premature is if you can barely get 3 strokes and your load is spent. 5-10 minutes pretty good. Here is my approach the 1st nut comes quick the 2nd is for her.

Post: #52

Bumping this thread... has this ever happened with just one particular girl?

So the other night, after some foreplay and having to pull her face off my dick so I wouldn't blow in her mouth, I tried slow stroking her in the missionary position and blew my load embarrassingly quickly. I blamed her, she laughed about it, we went to sleep. Woke up, and in the morning... we're spooning and I slide it into her from behind while we're both on our side. I swear I didn't get 20 strokes in and I blew a fat load in the condom again while I'm in her. I couldn't have gone slower...

Fucking sad, I thought. I can only imagine the disappointment. This wasn't my first time fucking her, we banged it out in my car about a week prior. Much better performance, hell, she hit me up next day thanking me for the fun.

Last night, different girl (that I have also previously had sex with). Foreplay followed by sex... some nasty animal sex all over my bathroom. Bashed her pussy in with the fury of a thousand suns, gave her squirting orgasms and a funny walk in the morning. This morning she told me I ripped her pussy. I had her blow me to orgasm after about 45 minutes of straight-up beast fucking, the kind of fucking I had intended on giving that other girl instead of being a two-pump chump.

Kinda bummed out, because I know it was disappointing. The girls that get their pussies broken always call back.

So again, has this ever happened with one girl? It was like that end scene of The 40-Year Old Virgin, and I didn't quite know what to do about it. Apart from face that she's probably going to laugh about it with her girlfriends and get her cock fix somewhere else... I'm just confused with how it happened. Especially since I've fucked her before

Post: #53

Don't even stress it man. Most dudes cum quick, at least that's what chics tell me after I bang them out for 30 mins. But no one is immune to the quick nut, it happens. The best thing that worked for me was edging for an hour a day. That's just a nick name for masterbating to the point of no return and when you get to close you stop let your arosual subside, and than start again.

Post: #54

As a man, you cum when you want to. It doesn't matter what she thinks. If you want to cum immediately, do it. If you want to bang her out for hours, do it. It's your pleasure that matters more than hers.

Post: #55

best thing to do is practice by yourself, make yourself almost cum, then stop and try again

Post: #56

(04-17-2012 04:29 PM)soup Wrote:  As a man, you cum when you want to. It doesn't matter what she thinks. If you want to cum immediately, do it. If you want to bang her out for hours, do it. It's your pleasure that matters more than hers.

Have to disagree with you on that even though I like your attitude towards it. This is one area wear you are not being a man just because "you are doing what you want". Granted its better to have that attitude if you do cum quik than a pussy aplogetic one, but if you cum in two minutes every single time, that's not a man. That's a little boy. And she will tell her friends, and instead of her friends wanting to fuck you because you banged her from every angle for a half hour they will not be curious at all to sleep with you. Girls talk man.

And how can I minute be satisfying? I've came that quick before, it sucks, feels so much better when you last. And the best way to last is to re program yourself through jerking off... make it a Personal challenge, jerk off for an hour and don't cum at the end....do it for a month straight...if your problems not fixed its def mental/anxiety isssue. But that's what fixed me, as young teens we get into bad habits of trying to jerk off as quick as possible to bust that nut...up to you to reverse it now, which is very possible. That's just my take.

Post: #57

Desensitizing condoms + Viagra

Post: #58

There's also desensitizing spray. Good advice Midnite. That sounds like it could work.

Post: #59

My problem recently, although it has been a recurring theme at points in time, is I've been having a weird combination of not being able to get hard, then once I get hard, I've been "two-pump chumping it" and cumming way to fast. This has happened with my last two notches, but it only happened the first time I fucked them. Both times we were drunk coming home from the bar, so obviously alcohol was a problem, at least as far as the "whiskey dick" goes.

I think the cumming too fast part might be a combination of anxiety and having endured month(s) long dry spells, so I got too sensitive to the touch of the wet poonanie. However, this was just an issue the first time or two we had sex, fortunately I was able to get repeat business with both chicks, and threw it down massively on subsequent sessions.

I can relate to Fujiwara though, because it's odd how sometimes I'll be pumping away for an hour, but others I'll cum like a school boy after a few minutes. I tend to perform best during the second sex session of the day/night after I've already gotten the first nut off, it allows me to be less sensitive and keep going.

As far as erectile dysfuntion and getting hard or cumming to fast, I think part of this has to do with watching too much porn. I remember the night I was having a hard time staying hard, in my mind I was thinking about pornstar bitches trying to get aroused and stay hard, meanwhile I have a chick in real life licking my cock, it's a strange and unhealthy mind-body disconnect going on there. Not sure if that applies to all guys, but just a thought.

Post: #60

@MidniteSpecial: You are saying you did that everyday up to 1 hour for 1 month straight?

Post: #61

(04-17-2012 04:29 PM)soup Wrote:  As a man, you cum when you want to. It doesn't matter what she thinks. If you want to cum immediately, do it. If you want to bang her out for hours, do it. It's your pleasure that matters more than hers.

The thing is that I did not cum when I wanted to! Things that I like to do during sexual encounters are a)get some head, b)fuck her face, c)fuck her into a convulsing puddle of her own fluids, and after these prerequisites are met, d) blow my load when I want to, where I want to.

Ejaculating before I get my fix of fucking isn't even pleasurable for me, ya dig?

Post: #62

http://www.livestrong.com/article/334001...aculation/

Btw why is this in game?
I had trouble finding it as it didn't make sense to be in the Game forum.

Post: #63

(04-18-2012 12:14 AM)Dansmedia Wrote:  http://www.livestrong.com/article/334001...aculation/

Btw why is this in game?
I had trouble finding it as it didn't make sense to be in the Game forum.

It doesn't, its just a normal tendecy here for sex-related posts to be posted on the Game board.

Post: #64

Are you having "romantic" sex? Looking longingly in her eyes, lots of passionate kissing, teasing with light touches and all that? Are you holding your breath a lot?

Stop doing that (at least for the first 5 times).

Remember to breathe deep, focus your eyes (not allowing them to become blurry) and just enjoy the moment without thinking about the nut.

Post: #65

It's probably been mentioned, but rub one out in the shower before you hit it.

Post: #66

bust that (too early) first nut and practice the art of maintaining an erection after the nut and press on.

I used to do this when I was younger... it felt soooo good I couldn't hold it... in fact, I couldn't do hardly shit because I was so sensitive. So I would just go right ahead and bust and then push through it. Make sure you have a good position for maintaining thrusts to keep things pumping.

After the orgasm subsides and you are going at it again, you become a sex god who can do anything. Push through the sensitivity of the nut and don't let it drop off.

Once I got good at this, I set my record of busting 4 nuts without stopping or dropping. It didn't matter when the first one occurred, it was a 2 hour session anyway.

I doubt I could do more than 3 in a row, now.

Post: #67

I haven't read the other comments yet, but I'm going to jump in.

There is esoteric knowledge, thousands of years old, dedicated to your dilemma. You could call it sexual yoga, but let's just use modern language; it's kinesthetic visualization.

Normally we walk around in a haze, barely aware of either our own thoughts or our bodies. For sex you need to be finely tuned in to what you are feeling in your body.

And here is the esoteric part. Sensations in your body have a dimension you never yet considered. Some call it "energy", but there is a way of feeling that is not about skin pressure, temperature, or friction.

Here is why I name Chi-kung, or Taoist Sex, or Tantric Sex, or Kundalini Sex as kinesthetic visualization. First off, the kinesthetic sense is what you feel when you put your hand behind your head and wiggle your fingers and know where your hand is. If you are kinesthetically aware of all parts of your body at once, that is a type of visualization, as you are holding in your mind a complex detailed arrangment.

So to fuck well and last a long time, you have to start with the elements of awareness, then gradually fit them together into a whole.

Learn the basics first. Focus on the chakras. Next you must open up a strong powerful flow of energy up the spine. Once you do that you'll start to really feel "energy" as distinct from skin sensation. Next you'll have to study standing chi-kung practices, focusing especially on feeling energy below your feet. Yes, it sounds hooey fooey, but strangely enough, that makes no difference to your kinesthetic visualization. You are creating a fantom limb, however this fantom limb integrates with your visualation and affects it. When you ground below your feet you feel "grounded". Your perineum and anus will relax, your blood pressure lower, and on and on.

Then you have to open up above the crown of your head. Do standing but moving chi-kung exersises for this, as well as exercises that you can do sitting down. But the strongest exercise for this is during sex. Use all the powers of concentration you muster to focus on the top of your head and above the top of your head while you fuck. Forget about your dick - just focus intently above your head. You will start to feel the fuck energy up there. The next part requires that you have no shyness. While fucking, scream and sneeze up all the energy from the base of your spine out the top of your head. You may feel this very strongly - it's not a joke. It might feel like a cannonball of energy is moving up your spine and out the top of your head.

Practice your chi-kung exercises every day, and also do simple shamata sitting meditation. The two work together - neither is complete alone. Doing it every day is important, as the changes are gradual and cumulative.

Eventually when you fuck you will be doing intense chi-kung, and feel powerful energy below your feet, have a whole body energetic visualization going on, and you will be screaming your head off. And you will be able to last forever.

You will feel that you are power incarnate.

Post: #68

Great post xsplat! I've always been interested in the Chakras, but my experience with it does not go beyond theoritcal reading, and just barely.

Maybe some videos regarding these chi-kung and how to open the chakras. I want to try this out.

Post: #69

Astounding post, xsplat.
If you guys can't find it. It's called Qi Gong as well.

Post: #70

(04-18-2012 05:54 PM)xsplat Wrote:  I haven't read the other comments yet, but I'm going to jump in.

There is esoteric knowledge, thousands of years old, dedicated to your dilemma. You could call it sexual yoga, but let's just use modern language; it's kinesthetic visualization.

Normally we walk around in a haze, barely aware of either our own thoughts or our bodies. For sex you need to be finely tuned in to what you are feeling in your body.

And here is the esoteric part. Sensations in your body have a dimension you never yet considered. Some call it "energy", but there is a way of feeling that is not about skin pressure, temperature, or friction.

Here is why I name Chi-kung, or Taoist Sex, or Tantric Sex, or Kundalini Sex as kinesthetic visualization. First off, the kinesthetic sense is what you feel when you put your hand behind your head and wiggle your fingers and know where your hand is. If you are kinesthetically aware of all parts of your body at once, that is a type of visualization, as you are holding in your mind a complex detailed arrangment.

So to fuck well and last a long time, you have to start with the elements of awareness, then gradually fit them together into a whole.

Learn the basics first. Focus on the chakras. Next you must open up a strong powerful flow of energy up the spine. Once you do that you'll start to really feel "energy" as distinct from skin sensation. Next you'll have to study standing chi-kung practices, focusing especially on feeling energy below your feet. Yes, it sounds hooey fooey, but strangely enough, that makes no difference to your kinesthetic visualization. You are creating a fantom limb, however this fantom limb integrates with your visualation and affects it. When you ground below your feet you feel "grounded". Your perineum and anus will relax, your blood pressure lower, and on and on.

Then you have to open up above the crown of your head. Do standing but moving chi-kung exersises for this, as well as exercises that you can do sitting down. But the strongest exercise for this is during sex. Use all the powers of concentration you muster to focus on the top of your head and above the top of your head while you fuck. Forget about your dick - just focus intently above your head. You will start to feel the fuck energy up there. The next part requires that you have no shyness. While fucking, scream and sneeze up all the energy from the base of your spine out the top of your head. You may feel this very strongly - it's not a joke. It might feel like a cannonball of energy is moving up your spine and out the top of your head.

Practice your chi-kung exercises every day, and also do simple shamata sitting meditation. The two work together - neither is complete alone. Doing it every day is important, as the changes are gradual and cumulative.

Eventually when you fuck you will be doing intense chi-kung, and feel powerful energy below your feet, have a whole body energetic visualization going on, and you will be screaming your head off. And you will be able to last forever.

You will feel that you are power incarnate.

This sounds cool and is making me hungry for Chinese food. You can also imagine that you are a cyborg or something, or use the force. Just imagine Yoda giving you a blow job. That should hold off the unwanted love blast.

That said, if you have a mind of abundance, and know that you can pickup a different girl pretty easily, you don't have to worry about holding back your manhood so a girl can get an orgasm.

Post: #71

(04-17-2012 11:32 PM)Fujiwara Wrote:  

(04-17-2012 04:29 PM)soup Wrote:  As a man, you cum when you want to. It doesn't matter what she thinks. If you want to cum immediately, do it. If you want to bang her out for hours, do it. It's your pleasure that matters more than hers.

The thing is that I did not cum when I wanted to! Things that I like to do during sexual encounters are a)get some head, b)fuck her face, c)fuck her into a convulsing puddle of her own fluids, and after these prerequisites are met, d) blow my load when I want to, where I want to.

Ejaculating before I get my fix of fucking isn't even pleasurable for me, ya dig?

Just listen to your dick. If he wants to cum, let him cum. It's got to be about his needs, first and foremost.

Post: #72

Soup, sex as I'm describing it can be 1000 times more pleasurable and intense than average sex.

People have sex like that because they prefer it. Not only because of the obvious advantages it bestows them in the sexual marketplace.

Post: #73

(04-17-2012 10:18 PM)FretDancer Wrote:  @MidniteSpecial: You are saying you did that everyday up to 1 hour for 1 month straight?

Yes for 30-minutes to 1 hour everyday...cured my premature ejaculation.

Post: #74

with wanking, if u do it too long, when u cum the orgasm is not nearly intense, if u let it cum first time or when u lasted like 6-15mins. Sometimes it is funny, u jerk off for 3/2hrs it so hard especially when u wake up middle of the night hard as fuck, then u get a little distracted, ur dicks stops getting hard, it takes almost another an hour and half to get super hard even if so much hot porn, then u nut in like a min.
Sometimes when ur dick is hard, u don't feel shit, it takes forever like over an hour to cum and cum is lame.
Dude, just jerk off like crazy and try to control ur dick, stop ur self from cumming, slow down.

Post: #75

"premature ejaculation" is up there with "creepy" as female to male shaming language.

You have to re-frame it.

In my experience, if I "premature" ejaculate, it means I really don't want to have anything to do with her.

Listen to you dick more. What is he saying?

"get me out of here!"

or

"Put me back... feels so good."