Paracelsus
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RE: What are the mindsets of serial killers and mass shooters?
Let's not leave out the likelihood of narcissism.
Spree killers and murder-suicide cases in families often have a common element to them: impending credit collapse. Not collapsed credit, mind you, imminent foreclosure or cancellation of the credit card.
Why is this so? Because the narcissist is suddenly left with the prospect that the image he has carefully constructed for the public to see is going to be ripped away, exposing the real person beneath. When that happens, the narcissism compels an ending, a final act ... or elimination of those people who the narcissist has been trying to convince. Some use the mass shooting as a way to go out but be remembered, to control the ending of their story.
Last Psychiatrist's seven markers of a murder-suicide or mass shooter about to happen:
Quote:1. He's not losing a job, he's losing his ability to keep up the lifestyle:
The self-employed flower salesman was facing accusations of invoice discrepancies from his main customer - which had suspended his contract - and feared a police investigation into his accounts... "His financial world had collapsed, his source of business income or at least 90 to 95% of it, had disappeared in a moment. Their lifestyle, as he knew it, would be over."
1b. The lifestyle often involves some kind of "soft" illegality (accounting irregularities, the use of drugs, etc). The news may cite jail as the main stressor; but the general fear is the irrreproducibility of the lifestyle (e.g. even if he doesn't go to jail, he'll never be able to make that kind of money again, legally.)
2. A sudden, temporary, but unshakable realization that there is no way out of this. "This is the end of me," "it's over," "I'm dead," etc.
Business associates told the hearing that Mr McFall had considered himself "finished" after a meeting about alleged invoice discrepancies the day before his death.
If you hear a man say, "I'm finished", believe it. Especially if it doesn't seem as bad as he thinks it is. It's his inability to see alternatives (which would require another person's perspective) that makes him dangerous.
3. While anyone can see how severe the problem is, no one else sees the problem as insurmountable-- except him. "Why didn't he just...?"
West Mercia Police said the case would probably not have ended up in court but an investigation would have been started if the owners of Stans Superstore had taken their concerns to police.
This is his inability to see things from another perspective except his own. What's obvious to you is not obvious to him, and opportunities to intervene can be missed if you think he "would have thought of that himself." Be concrete, be basic. "Look, are you a legal scholar now? Let's get a lawyer." A lawyer? Really? "Yeah-- I know a guy-- and let him tell you what he sees; if they can get OJ off, they can get you off. If nothing else, it's going to buy you some time..."
The longer he can experience his shame, the longer he will be able to live with his shame (or create a rationalization that will let himself live with it. The goal isn't to solve his problems, but delay him until he can think straight.
4. Media says family murders= financial problems, but the money is merely the cover for the real shame:
The coroner said Mr McFall's fears about his sexual health may have been "going through his mind" when he killed his family, as well as his business worries and concerns over his "social standing".
And from another article:
A computer expert and senior forensic investigator told the inquest he had examined two computers as part of the investigation, one from the McFall's home and the other from his business premises. [An investigator] said someone had been accessing pornography, escort and massage parlour sites and seeking advice for diagnosing HIV.
Illegal activity, affairs, drugs... the money is important because it hides those things, allows him to present himself as something he wants to be.
Sometimes the financial narrative is so compelling it seduces even experienced criminologists. Criminology professor David Wilson:
"They've previously had wealth, had possessions, they went on foreign holidays. The annihilator feels 'given that I can't give my family any of this any longer' as an act of almost mercy, as they would see it, 'I'll take their lives so as to prevent them having experiences of any hardship'."
Wrong, always. It is impossible to think your children are better off dead unless you are unable to see their perspective. If you asked them, what would they say? Why wouldn't you believe them? Why do you think you know better than they do?
They aren't better off dead; you're better off if they're dead. That's the secret that must be undone.
5. SHAME.
"I can't give them what they deserve" is a deflection from "I can't give them what they deserve." The panic is about them becoming aware of your failure.
[the criminologist] believes where they lived was a factor: "Oswestry is a face-to-face society. Those kinds of societies often provide a great deal of support, but if the wheel comes off in this type of society, then everybody knows your business... It's not like they are in a big city where they can simply disappear and become anonymous.
The same applies to honor killings.
The money is most often the final straw; without the money, you can't keep up the appearances...
Murders happen before the exposure, before "everyone finds out." Once they've found out, there is no reason for the murder. So either tell his family, or make him think you have. But then:
6. Sometimes he kills himself, and sometimes he doesn't.
He kills his family because he can't face them knowing. He kills himself because he can't face that they know.
The other reason for the suicide is the sheer number of people who are going to know-- can't kill 'em all.
The likelihood of suicide increases as guilt increases, and decreases the more you can be convinced other people won't know/won't care.
7. A very fine line: it was both spontaneous, and premeditated.
Two years ago another family murder took place near Hugh McFall's town, and McFall was horrified:
I remember Hugh saying 'How could you do that? How can it get so bad that you could do that to your family?... It just doesn't make sense, surely there's other ways out however bad things get?'"
And certainly he wasn't thinking about killing his family before the financial problems hit. But as soon as he decides he's "finished," he starts planning the murders-- weapons/tools obtained, the biggest threat is killed first (i.e. wife before kids), etc.
7. Get out of the house, or at least the bedroom.
75% occur in the home, usually in the bedroom. It is extremely unusual (6%) for the man to kill only the children and not the wife. Since the purpose of this is to avoid shame, leaving the wife alive would be contrary to the point.
If you're the wife, don't go home, especially if he says he'll kill the kids if you don't.
He expands on it a bit in another article:
Quote:There is one predictor; but because familial murders are so uncommon the 50% or so that this one does predict isn't going to get you any mileage. And, unfortunately it predicts precisely because, and only if, it is undetected: the man has a secret.
The article describes how financial problems, loss of a job, etc, are precipitants, but what these murderers have in common is that the financial ruin reveals the Ponzi scheme of their life. He didn't just lose his job; he lost his job and he had debts his wife didn't know about. Or that he was really embezzling the money. Or he lost his job as a bartender so he can no longer pretend he's a bar owner. That's why these men don't murder coworkers, whom they may blame or be jealous of; they murder the people they were trying to deceive.
Hence, the prevention of family murders isn't psychotherapy, it's exposing the lie. They murder because they're afraid they are about to be revealed. You can defuse this by getting past the terror of "about to be." The lie closes you in; having it exposed is painful, but it allows for possibilities, hope.
If you're that guy-- and you know who you are-- own up now because the lies only get bigger. You have already shown yourself to be less than your lie; if it gets bigger, it will be out of your control. You don't know where you'll end up or what you'll be capable of... in ten years.
If you're the wife, subtly make it easy for him to own up, or at least back out. He thinks his main value is in the keeping up of appearances. Repeatedly show him that that ,"the thing," is unimportant to you; show him you love him for something else, hell, in extreme cases suggest to him you've always wanted to live the simple life in Nicaragua.
Or run.
But there are very few things in life that are certain. This is one: if your father or husband tries to kill you, he's not doing it for you.
This'll ruffle some feathers, but -- assuming there is nothing else or conspiratorial in it -- this pathology fits Stephen Paddock, the Las Vegas shooter, pretty well. Guy is in a retirement village, he's had large "transactions" (read: losses) with gambling, no political affiliations, no religion. Using alcohol and drugs doesn't work, but giving away big scads of money says to me he'd had something happen. Something that threatened to expose his life, or he'd had the final epiphany that he was going to die, and that pretty much alone with nothing fulfilled. That sort of pathology has a decent chance of generating the sort of narcissism that sets yourself up to go out being remembered.
Remissas, discite, vivet.
God save us from people who mean well. -storm
(This post was last modified: 12-27-2017 01:33 AM by Paracelsus.)
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