Post: #1

Hey guys, first post here and looking for some advice on what I should be doing to get laid more often.

Basically, I get laid twice a year if I'm lucky and it's usually while I'm drunk and on vacation. I have never soberly approached a girl and had anything come out of it. I was a virgin until I was 20 and was also pretty out of shape up until that time. Since then I lost some weight and got some more confidence. I'm 23 now.

I still don't comprehend how guys all around me are getting laid and hooking up with random chicks at the club. I see guys making out with girls at night clubs and it just seems like a pipe dream for me at this point. I'm pretty shy around girls if I'm not drunk and have complete shit game on tinder although I get a decent amount of matches who I find very attractive.

Basically, how the fuck can I find a friend with benefits or work it so I can get laid more often?? I have a really nice car, good sounding job and I'm not that bad looking. I know if one of you were put into my shoes you could clean up no questions asked.

Where do I start? I have a bunch of tinder matches waiting for me and I have absolutely no clue what to say to them.

Thanks

Post: #2

Club game isn't for everyone.

Have you tried online game, party-house game or day game?

I use a dinner date model here in Beijing that gets me the bang 1/2 times, but I'm practically useless in a club.

Tailor your game to who you are, but build some courage and actually try approaching girls. It's a huge rush to learn that you have big enough balls to go talk to another human-being.

Post: #3

Suits is right. Build your game around your personality type, whatever that is.

That's the only way you'll be successful in the long run.

And your car, job, house doesn't matter. You ego, confidence, and physique does.

Post: #4

(09-04-2017 08:20 PM)Whalehellothere Wrote:  Basically, I get laid twice a year if I'm lucky and it's usually while I'm drunk and on vacation.

Assuming the quality of girl is decent, that's not that bad. At the very least, it shows you have it in you to attract women.

Quote:I was a virgin until I was 20 and was also pretty out of shape up until that time. Since then I lost some weight and got some more confidence. I'm 23 now.

So from that I gather you used to be fat and now you've lost some weight. Are you muscular/do you lift? If not, start immediately. Nothing in this world can offer such a boost in so many different facets: appearance, self-esteem, confidence, health. When you have you own shit together, approaches and dates seem infinitely more manageable.

Quote:I still don't comprehend how guys all around me are getting laid and hooking up with random chicks at the club. I see guys making out with girls at night clubs and it just seems like a pipe dream for me at this point.

I'm an awkward dancer, terrible at conversing in noisy/chaotic environments, and not remotely a club person, and I've still made out with girls in the club. Basically if that seems like a pipe dream, then you're overthinking it. My club game: Pick a target (best chance by far is the girl there with one or two friends who are both dancing with a guy at the moment), ask "wanna dance?", dance with her, ask a few menial questions (name, where are you from, etc), and if she doesn't bail after 10 minutes or so, go face-to-face and she'll get the message. Nothing remotely clever is expected of you in this environment. And in terms of making out right there on the floor, you'll face less resistance than you think, although good luck getting these girls to respond to future texts.

Quote:Where do I start? I have a bunch of tinder matches waiting for me and I have absolutely no clue what to say to them.

Try to come up with some quip unique to each girl based off her photos or description (if she has one). You have no idea how much this sets you apart, in a good way, from the dumb fucks spamming every girl with "hey beautiful." Just be sure to AVOID PHYSICAL COMPLIMENTS like your life depends on it.

If individualized openers are too much effort, or in cases where you're drawing a blank, have a humorous canned line ready. You can Google "tinder openers" to get some examples.

Post: #5

Agree with Suits, agree with LINUX.

I started by reading "The Game".

Also, I kept going to bars and clubs when I was first starting out, and not succeeding. Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result is the definition of insanity, as the saying goes.

From a few months into this journey, I realized I was much better at day game than night game. But I had crippling approach anxiety to talk to women. Roosh's "Day Bang" helped me overcome this by spelling out exactly how to start a conversation.

Someone in person could help you much faster than a book, but you may not be in a place with lots of forum members.

It's not an easy journey. Things have to get really bad first, before you're going to be manic and driven to turn your life around.