Post: #26

(08-14-2017 06:41 AM)MrTickle Wrote:  

(08-14-2017 04:43 AM)MrTickle Wrote:  With the most important first.

1. Social media 2 years. So many negatives.
2. TV 5 years. Welcome back 3 to 4 hours per day of my life (60 full days over the last 5 years)
3. Alcohol 1.5 years. Saved a ton of money and no more wasted time with hangovers
4. Caffeine 6 months. After getting through a week or so of headaches. Days are much more level with energy. Less peaks. More productive overall.
5. Sugary food/drink 1 year. Again leveled out my energy during the day. Look and feel much better too.

Almost forgot:

1.5 Porn 2 months now. Realised that it was rewiring my brain. This has been the hardest one to crack and before 2 months there were many failed attempts. Think I've got it sorted now.

Came in here to write porn too. If you ever relapse, don't sweat it. Remember that watching porn once or twice isn't nearly as bad as having the habit itself. It's constant exposure that does you in.

Porn actually isn't that bad in moderation (once every two weeks maybe). But as you and I both know, it's a tough habit to control.

Post: #27

I have given up:

1) Giving fucks about matters that I cannot influence directly or indirectly in a measurable way. This includes world affairs, Somali pirates, and Fukushima reactors. Act locally if you want to change something.
2) Giving advice to people. I rarely change my opinion so I assume others are the same. Red pill advice is reserved for the few who are at least seeking it.
3) Porn, fapping, alcohol, smoking, and other substances. Get your shit together and you will not need liquid courage, cheap dopamine, and fake happiness to feel complete in this wonderful world
4) Trying to understand women and change their nature. I love cats.
5) Getting offended, emotional, or "hurt". These are all pussy-related issues.
6) I have never given a fuck about sports, MSM, and other propaganda tools.
7) Trying to be the smartest guy in the room. Stay low like an ocean and all rivers will flow to you. Sometimes you win by not uttering a single word.
8) Saying "Yes". "No" should be the most used word in your vocabulary.

Post: #28

TV/Movies (It's all just Jewish propaganda/social engineering nowadays anyways)

Weed

Post: #29

(08-15-2017 01:34 AM)Nascimento Wrote:  

(08-14-2017 06:41 AM)MrTickle Wrote:  

(08-14-2017 04:43 AM)MrTickle Wrote:  With the most important first.

1. Social media 2 years. So many negatives.
2. TV 5 years. Welcome back 3 to 4 hours per day of my life (60 full days over the last 5 years)
3. Alcohol 1.5 years. Saved a ton of money and no more wasted time with hangovers
4. Caffeine 6 months. After getting through a week or so of headaches. Days are much more level with energy. Less peaks. More productive overall.
5. Sugary food/drink 1 year. Again leveled out my energy during the day. Look and feel much better too.

Almost forgot:

1.5 Porn 2 months now. Realised that it was rewiring my brain. This has been the hardest one to crack and before 2 months there were many failed attempts. Think I've got it sorted now.

Came in here to write porn too. If you ever relapse, don't sweat it. Remember that watching porn once or twice isn't nearly as bad as having the habit itself. It's constant exposure that does you in.

Porn actually isn't that bad in moderation (once every two weeks maybe). But as you and I both know, it's a tough habit to control.

I've tried moderation before and it has not worked out for me. I think abstinence is the only solution for my character type.

Post: #30

- Mainstream legacy media (Including TV and legacy newspapers).
- Chasing pussy.: Don't get me wrong. I love sex, but at my age women have lost their luster. This reddit post accurately describes my situation. LINK
- Social media: I fucking hate using facebook, instagram or whatever social media page is popular. I know that some guys here use instagram to game girls, but I respectfully disagree when they say that Instagram is a requisite to game women
- Mainstream movies: I find the new movies very boring.
- Mindless internet navigation: I'm struggling to overcome this annoying problem.
- Junk food and sugar: Since I stopped eating crap I feel more energetic.

Post: #31

(08-15-2017 02:26 AM)speculator Wrote:  8) Saying "Yes". "No" should be the most used word in your vocabulary.

Amen. I started doing this about a year ago and wow, what a difference it has made in my life, both work and personal.

Post: #32

fast food
non diet soda
video games
facebook

Post: #33

Binge drinking myself into oblivion. This one is obvious, but the time you spend drunk is very unproductive and the time you spend hungover is even worse.

Spending too much money on going out in general, dinners, etc. I've since learned how to cook a variety of things for much less.

Arguing with leftards on Facebook. It's a fun distraction for sure, but you're never ever going to convince them of your point of view.

I still do it sometimes, but I generally make fun of them and disrespect them, make vague assumptions about their personal lives and I'm usually correct. Fact is, people who spend all their time making political points on Facebook don't have a whole hell of a lot else going on.

Watching porn. I haven't noticed much different since I quit watching it to be honest, but I was never addicted to it in the first place.

Saying things I know to be untrue. This was lifted from one of Jordan Petersons lectures. I have basically stopped lying to the best of my ability and I noticed my personal relationships with people have improved. I'm also more honest with myself, which furthers my goals in life.

Post: #34

Social media, TV, news, and wanking. I gave up drinking and smoking but went back to it because it made my life much better despite the obvious drawbacks.

Post: #35

TV
I consider myself lucky as I already stopped watching TV about 10 years ago. Programmes that were bearable, let alone enjoyable, became fewer and fewer and I never really could stand the commercials.

Side fact, most people aged 40+ seem to have a very hard time to comprehend how somebody could go without TV...

Video games
I spend most of my teenage years playing video games. While I keep fond memories of certain games published around the turn of the millennium and good times with friends, I regret having wasted so many hours on it (especially the solo ones).

However I'm also a little proud that I made it out of the swamp by myself: When first going overseas I made sure I only have a computer that can't run modern games, so it was cold turkey from arrival. There were a few fallbacks with old games but nothing serious, and nowadays I can hardly imagine choosing the virtual world over the real one.

Soft drinks/lollies (sugar)
I'm not fully there yet but I've radically cut my sugar intake. A couple of years ago I'd easily drink one to three litres of soft drinks in a week, have cookies and other shit.

Now I eat fruit or nuts if I feel like having a snack, and while I can't pinpoint specific health improvements courtesy of this change, I know it's much, much better for the body.

Next goals: Massively reduce carb intake and slowly reduce "mindless internet navigation", as DrCotard nicely put it.

Post: #36

Social media: I still have LinkedIn, but I use it for professional purposes

I'll have been off of Facebook for 2 years come December, while I miss connecting with people I haven't seen from time to time, the constant propaganda being put by partisan friends on Facebook got old and annoying after a while. I just got tired of it.

Post: #37

-Facebook: Deleted it 5 years ago, never looked back. Great for mental health.

-TV: I don't watch broadcast tv or mainstream media

-Online dating: Online dating sucks for a lot of minority guys in major cities. After deleting all online dating profiles and focusing on approaches I got more women, higher quality women, and didn't waste time getting rejected by fat sluts. It was amazing. Online every girl rejected me and in person I get attractive women.

Post: #38

Porn.

Got serious about dumping it 2 years ago after reading 'your brain on porn' and realizing the side effects in my life, and can honestly say it was one of the best decisions of my life.

Now I'm very much an evangelist about it... I basically believe all of the problems with Western Civilization are exacerbated 10x (if not directly caused) by guys wacking off to porn.

Post: #39

1) T.V, it just resembles 'Pravda' now with the predictable left wing story lines.
2) Chasing pussy, I agree with the above posters. I spent so much time chasing after girls, to the point where you realise it is a relentless task that never is worth it in the long run. I am happy with my 'notch' count and will approach girls when I see fit, but the sentimentality that I had for them previously has gone. Especially as where I currently live there is a real shortage of feminine girls.


3) Debating politics, most people are simply not interesting. The left wing friends I had, have retreated and geniunely do not want to hear any view points. The divide is so large now that we might as well be on opposite planets.

Post: #40

worrying

Post: #41

How were you able to achieve this?

It's not that easy to simply switch off, especially if worries are work or finance related.

Post: #42

Cigarettes, watching my dad die of lung cancer was my motivation. They aren't cool anymore anyway, smokers are like social pariahs and most girls I date think they're disgusting, which they are.

Post: #43

(08-17-2017 07:28 AM)Lagavulin Wrote:  How were you able to achieve this?

It's not that easy to simply switch off, especially if worries are work or finance related.

There is a very simple way - acquiring an opiate habit. OTR may have something better.

Post: #44

(08-17-2017 10:31 AM)H1N1 Wrote:  

(08-17-2017 07:28 AM)Lagavulin Wrote:  How were you able to achieve this?

It's not that easy to simply switch off, especially if worries are work or finance related.

There is a very simple way - acquiring an opiate habit. OTR may have something better.

Well you could go to opiates but I find that anti-anxiolytics like diazepam or ativan work better with much less deleterious effects.

However, narcotics aside, I have found as I get older that a lot of the stuff that I would worry about in the past is stuff that always ended up working out in the end. As this happens more and more to you, you tend to stop worrying so much about things. There really is no other way to reach this point though other than living life and going through a bunch of shit and surviving it.

Post: #45

(08-17-2017 07:28 AM)Lagavulin Wrote:  How were you able to achieve this?

It's not that easy to simply switch off, especially if worries are work or finance related.

You know what is better than worrying?

Acting.

Even if your actions can't directly improve what you're worried about, even going for a walk and brainstorming ways that you could positively affect that area of your life is better than sitting there being worried about it.

A LARGE part of most people worrying is over things they can't affect, or things they THINK they can't affect.

Your mindset can be either the largest obstacle in your life, or the absolute best rocket fuel. I am by no means great at it, but even at a minor level the passage of time/experience gained has shown me this.

The earlier in life you learn this and try to control your future, the better.

Post: #46

(08-17-2017 07:28 AM)Lagavulin Wrote:  How were you able to achieve this?

It's not that easy to simply switch off, especially if worries are work or finance related.

Excellent question thank you.

In my experience the idea of worries being an on or off thing is in fact part of the problem. There exists this idea that there is either worrying that keeps you up at night or you are in a beach chair somewhere not thinking about anything. While certainly the beach chair sounds better neither are a solution to giving up on worrying.

Worrying usually seems to be tied to some outcome. My solution to giving up on worrying is to break down the steps toward the desired outcome. An honest evaluation will help you figure out what needs to be done. In many cases people who are constantly worried about finances simply spend or are contractually obligated to spend more than there income. So instead of either cutting expenses, raising their income or both they "worry." An honest evaluation may reveal simple steps to reverse worrying. In the case of many normal working Americans they spend $1200 a year on cable for example which as employees they may have had to earn $1500 pre tax to pay for. If they make say $40,000 a year, this is 3.75% of their earnings. So this means that a significant portion of their work goes toward being fed programming that causes more anxiety... A couple more things like this and they have regained control of 10% of their expenses. Flipping it back around to the positive side would reduce the worry of such a person drastically, and reduce the associated compounding problems such as credit card debt, another source of worry.

In no way am I saying this describes you its just an example of where the realization then a step-plan reverses the ravages of worry.

Personally in my case I also used to be prone to doing stupid things that are distractions. I like buying cars to flip but rarely make money. Instead of making money I end up with a driveway full of cars, constant projects, time taken away from my real business, multiple insurance bills, and "worry" about how much money I will make or lose. When I stopped, my worry went down.

Then, there is the past or past mistakes. It is a mistake to worry about something you already did. If in the example above I lost $1000 on a car then instead of worrying the sting of losing should simply be a reminder for me and I have to tell myself that these projects consume time and money and are only going to add to burden of worry. What to do with the free time and money is a great problem to have.

Take a look at my NIPS thread it is somewhat related.

All of my examples are small scale but I assure you if the principle works small it works big. When you view all the problems as a sort of game to play and go for the outcome you want, worry has no place and no involvement.

Post: #47

(08-13-2017 02:07 PM)El_Gostro Wrote:  Alcohol and caffeine.
I have nothing against the people who continue to consume them, many in moderation. I abused them for too long.

Same for me. Made a huge difference. Additional side effect benefit is that I spend less time in the bar which I use to more productive ends.

Post: #48

Well said AO

Post: #49

"Well you could go to opiates but I find that anti-anxiolytics like diazepam or ativan work better with much less deleterious effects."

Diazepam is pretty hardcore, please don't do that
I used it for a few weeks and towards the end my memory was like a sponge and the withdrawal was completely tits up, although not very long in my case.


I do love me a good cup of Kava though. I wouldn't drink it around people you're not willing to hump though, lol.

Post: #50

Awesome contributions guys. Here's my list:

- Alcohol. I rarely drink at all, and when I do it's usually a glass of wine. Whereas previously I drank it regularly when I went out during college, now I avoid beer almost at all costs.

- TV. No point in watching it anymore. At a certain point of my life I realized my own life is much more interesting than the lives of fictional characters in movies and TV shows. I also stopped watching sports, and found out it's healthier to actually practice sports yourself than to watch others do it.

- Video games. The worst of all; this addiction made me lose so much valuable time in my youth.

- Procrastinating. I cut this down to the max. In my free time I'm either planning, or doing something useful that increases my value and makes me a better man. Reading, weightlifting, dancing, socializing, investing, you name it.

- Atheism. During college I was a shy, frustrated omega who read Dawkins and Nietzsche and thought he was really smart to reject all that silliness about God. Thank God I was never a SJW, but merely a sexless loser, but still, I'm never going back to that road.