Post: #26

(04-24-2017 09:39 AM)Baphomet Wrote:  Does anyone here actually believe that this is not a troll post?

I sure do miss Tuthmosis. At least they posted it in the newbie section, I guess.

Expectation:
Not a troll no other issues 5%
Not a troll but incorrect/incomplete info in his post 10%
Not a troll but forgot to mention he has Asperger 17%
Not a troll but is unaware he has Asperger 18%
Troll 50%

Post: #27

(04-24-2017 11:52 AM)Svoboda Wrote:  

(04-24-2017 09:39 AM)Baphomet Wrote:  Does anyone here actually believe that this is not a troll post?

I sure do miss Tuthmosis. At least they posted it in the newbie section, I guess.

Expectation:
Not a troll no other issues 5%
Not a troll but incorrect/incomplete info in his post 10%
Not a troll but forgot to mention he has Asperger 17%
Not a troll but is unaware he has Asperger 18%
Troll 50%

After this thread as well (/thread-62400...pid1556671) I think the Asperger theory is more than likely.

Post: #28

The game is simple: it's about being a leader, and demonstrating that leadership in every way possible, in every interaction-- not just with girls.

In every interaction with a girl , display leadership. Leaders convey confidence, self-sufficiency. They are dominant. Looks, money, the outward trappings of status -- they help, but they are secondary, and you can succeed without them.

But if you don't display the qualities of leadership, your dick will stay dry and you'll be a virgin forever, despite how you may quantify your other value.

Post: #29

If everything you've said is true, based on how you view the world and the fact that you are high functioning in a profession, you likely have some kind of Asperger's syndrome. There is definitely something going on if you're an attractive man and you still haven't lost your virginity at 30.

Getting diagnosed, figuring out how you can live a normal life with it should be your first priority. Finding a woman who is compatible with you should be difficult.

Honestly, you need to have sex with women to understand how low your empathy is and get a better feeling for how your personality disorder affects your sexual preferences.

Post: #30

Quote:After this thread as well (/thread-62400...pid1556671) I think the Asperger theory is more than likely.

(04-25-2017 01:15 AM)Lance Blastoff Wrote:  If everything you've said is true, based on how you view the world and the fact that you are high functioning in a profession, you likely have some kind of Asperger's syndrome. There is definitely something going on if you're an attractive man and you still haven't lost your virginity at 30.

Getting diagnosed, figuring out how you can live a normal life with it should be your first priority. Finding a woman who is compatible with you should be difficult.

Honestly, you need to have sex with women to understand how low your empathy is and get a better feeling for how your personality disorder affects your sexual preferences.

I'm at a point where I think OP's original request (a mentor) might be exactly what he needs. To be clear, I'm not saying he shouldn't look for professional help.

Post: #31

I can't help but imagine myself being handsome, rich, fit, etc.... Please don't tell me you speak Russian too..

Post: #32

All the weird detailed mention of your sexual fantasies, considering you're a virgin, as well as the mentioning of your penis size (multiple times), is strange, to say the least. How is that relevant here?

Just work on getting laid in any sort of capacity. You have already planned out this moment in your head in perverse detail, when in reality, if it is indeed true you are a virgin, it will be fairly awkward for you, and you'll bust a nut within a minute or two.

So stop thinking about that, and you probably have standards that are way, way too high. Troll suspicions aside, you have a huge ego and very little of what you said is applicable to your problem. Of course some things are relevant, but ultimately you put a great deal of focus on hard numbers and status signalling statements, such as your numerical IQ, wealth, penis size, etc...

Why couldn't you just stay that you're well off, fairly smart, and in good shape? Who gives a shit about your cock size eccept* you, the virgin? Not trying to be harsh, but you can see how your thinking is flawed. Plus your defensiveness to prove your stats with proof was silly.

People here want to help you, but my humble suggestion is to just stop thinking and analysing so much, go out to a bar, get drunk, hit on ANY girl that could get your dick hard, then bang rinse repeat until you can upgrade. THinking about marriage, dominant sexual positions, ridiculous budgeting debates about finances etc... is like a beginner guitar player wondering about which arena he'll play in when he's famous. Just start with the basics and go out there and meet some chicks.

If you are finding that you can't meet any chicks that turn you on, well you are either narcissistic to no end, or maybe (sincerely just maybe) a little

I meant all the above in very good spirits and hope you succeed. Go out there and get 'em!

Post: #33

Quote:Could you roughly give a location/area?

I agree with other posters it would be a bad idea to hunt for a wife right now. I don't doubt your ability to attract a good woman, I do doubt your current abbility to sift through the women that aren't virgin snowflake wife material.
Even if you would meet a woman that fits all your expectations, there are complications. You describe having trouble engaging women when you go out, have zero sexual experience and zero relationship experience.
You could meet wife material now, 5 years from now another member will be banging her and she'll complain about her ex (you) that: didn't get her / didn't make her cum / (insert random shit).

Location: Near north Wales. Nearest city is Chester, UK, about 30 miles away.

I also agree that it would be a bad idea to look for a wife, which is why I want to dip my toe. Though I do think I know how to spot possible good quality women and red flags from listening to a lot of call in shows on nightmare relationships. Though I also recognise I will have serious holes in knowledge and experience and I will need to tread carefully.

(04-25-2017 01:15 AM)Lance Blastoff Wrote:  Asperger's syndrome.

I don't have autism according to a test that I took. Occasionally I am really good talking to women, but often I am really awful. It's something I think I can get over if I force myself through dealing with women. I've overcome other things by throwing myself off the deep end. Personally I think a lot of mental illness is self inflicted and is a convenient excuse for your problems.

(04-25-2017 04:18 PM)crispytaco Wrote:  I can't help but imagine myself being handsome, rich, fit, etc.... Please don't tell me you speak Russian too..

Ne. Ali ja govorim srpskom jezik.

Post: #34

The recent thread, 'Millionaire Playboy Has Hit The Limits of His Success With Women' reminded me of this one due to the similarities in both OPs - namely a long list of bragging points followed by a seemingly incongruous game problem or head-scratching details.

(04-11-2017 09:05 PM)gework Wrote:  My essential stats:

Income: top 0.2% in my developed country of origin, maybe will get into 0.1% this year; self-employed with the ability to have lots of time off (though I don't)
Attractiveness: rated 9.3, 8.9, 9.1 on different sites
Body: recently got back into gear with this, down to about 10% body fat, heading for the rips
Schlong: a good bit above average but nothing to write home about but top 1% of thickness
IQ: above 140
Attraction: I've not been around girls much, but if I am in a club I will get approached, sometimes for straight up sex; occasionally wolf whistled

At first I was like...

(04-11-2017 09:05 PM)gework Wrote:  But:

Girlfriends: essentially zero
Lays: zero

And then I was like...



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The below quote is from another thread started by the OP, 'Facebooking a Lost Oppurtunity' -

(04-27-2017 02:59 PM)gework Wrote:  

(04-25-2017 12:35 AM)Dream Medicine Wrote:  1. Did you skype with Asdfk?*
2. Did you make contact with Whiteknightrises?*
3. Have you attempted to contact any RVFers in your area, in order to establish real-life connections?*

*4. (in relation to all of the above three questions) - If so, what was the outcome? If not, then why not?

1. Contacted to say "thanks for the offer", but looking for someone more local than 1,000s of miles away; though:
2. Contacted Whiteknightrises, just sent Skype
2b. Also contacted by another guy who I will speak with
3. No. Not sure what is the best way to go about this. I live between Manchester and Birmingham, UK.

Back in April you started this thread, asking for advice and mentoring. In addition to the detailed advice provided by myself and others, you received direct offers of help from multiple members such as Asdfk and Whiteknightrises. You also stated that you live near a number of big cities, so finding like-minded blokes should not be a problem if you put in a bit of work.

In response to my question "Have you attempted to contact any RVFers in your area...?" you responded "No. Not sure what is the best way to go about this". Once more, as linked in my first post in this thread, see here for the 'why' and 'how' to meet fellow RVFers. With this in mind I am wondering:

1. Have you met up with any RVF members?
2. If so, then let us know how it went. If not, then what action have you taken over the past four months to find a mentor and connect with fellow game-aware blokes?

This forum is populated by countless great men who are interested and invested in the success of other deserving, like-minded guys. It can be deeply satisfying to be involved in the growth of fellow men who, among other things, view self-development as a long-term journey, show openness to constructive feedback and appreciation for the advice given, and above all, bring integrity and a positive vibe to those around them. This sentiment is reflected here through the outpouring of goodwill and joy when a struggling member lifts themselves up (examples: one, two).



Conversely, it can be discouraging for a volunteer mentor to answer a request for advice and to see this advice thrown back in the mentor's face or clearly ignored. Consider how common it is for rookies here to ask for help and then fail to help themselves by outright rejecting the advice provided (example), by appearing to accept positively-aimed feedback yet fall back into pessimism (example), or by simply disappearing without explanation (example). Given the prevalence of such posts, you can see how a measured dose of skepticism is warranted across the board, and even more so in this case. Frankly I don't know if your supposed situation is actually possible.

If you cannot demonstrate that you have followed through with any real-life effort here, it would be reasonable to conclude that you are either (a) deliberately insincere; i.e., you invented an online persona - a pitifully lame move, (b) seriously lacking in self-awareness, i.e., you made gross exaggerations due to a delusion of grandeur, representing a roadblock to self-mastery, or (c} merely unmotivated; i.e., you're unwilling to commit to self-development, which would just be disappointing. If however you have put in some work offline then I will be pleasantly surprised, very surprised in fact, and give you props. I'm certainly open to having my doubts proved wrong.

What's more, making a public request for help and then not accepting the generous offers would be disrespectful to say the least and quash any of your remaining credibility. This lack of engagement also reduces the chance of other, more earnest rookies receiving help, as it merely adds to the readership's general fatigue of belief about the real-life dedication of new guys asking for help. There are plenty of potential mentors on board here, many with more patience than me, however there is a clear limit on the time any volunteer teacher will sacrifice when the student isn't ready to learn.



In closing, I still want to give you the benefit of doubt because if you're for real -- somehow? -- then you have a lot of potential. Indeed I do recognize your gift of gold as a possible sign of genuine investment. Finally, I welcome the desire to build real-life connections through RVF and would be happy to see more of it.

Post: #35

Your standards are way too high to be a virgin.
Fuck a chubby bitch and get it over with.
You're trying to hunt big game when you haven't shot a squirrel yet.

Post: #36

Learn how to spell. Get your house right, first.

Post: #37

Claims 140 I.Q. yet cannot correctly spell the word "except" in the thread title...

Post: #38

I hev averting acep spelling.

Post: #39

(08-10-2017 05:22 AM)RexImperator Wrote:  Claims 140 I.Q. yet cannot correctly spell the word "except" in the thread title...

Why all the negative covfefe?

(08-09-2017 09:52 PM)Dream Medicine Wrote:  1. Have you met up with any RVF members?
2. If so, then let us know how it went. If not, then what action have you taken over the past four months to find a mentor and connect with fellow game-aware blokes?

This forum is populated by countless great men who are interested and invested in the success of other deserving, like-minded guys...

Conversely, it can be discouraging for a volunteer mentor to answer a request for advice and to see this advice thrown back in the mentor's face or clearly ignored...

If you cannot demonstrate that you have followed through with any real-life effort here, it would be reasonable to conclude that you are either (a) deliberately insincere; (b) seriously lacking in self-awareness or (c} merely unmotivated;

1) No. Only messaging on here.

2) I'm busy with work so my efforts have been limited, but I received some decent advice, motivation and prodding from the messaging here and from two people I know from. On this advice I have shifted from my default position of having putting virtually no effort into meeting women to dabbling on and offline and the experience has been useful. I've learn a lot and observed a lot. I've searched here and elsewhere to follow up on and I've come to two conclusions:

i] I've consciously recognised that I have one key problem: social skills and by extension my social circle. Recently I took a personality test called the Big Five Personality Traits and was given as being in the bottom 15% of extroversion and bottom 15% of agreeableness. That translates to I prefer to be alone most of the time and I don't get along with most people particularly well and am generally not instantly likable. On top of that I would say I am bipolar inhibited (to coin a term). Meaning that a lot of the time in social situations I will shrink away, avoid etc. This I've all learnt from my father, who I barely remember anything of throughout my whole childhood. My model for a man is someone who is virtually unseen, doesn't say anything and doesn't express himself.

ii] I've realised that the positive or desirable (in my opinion) traits I do have are either not valued or not marketable (due to i]) in my country. In my country it seems that social status is the key to getting access to beautiful, young women. I don't really have any social status. Most of the women in my orbit have made some sort of advance (through an intermediary), but they are chubby at best leftists. I just couldn't go through with that. I accidentally got talking to an attractive Pinoy online and never had I been greeted with such instant appreciation from an attractive woman before. So I read here and plummed the depths further and found there was a sea of attractive SE Asian girls out there who think I am a good catch and will let me know straight away; rather than the painful jumping through hoops that I'd have to do in my own country. My experience with British girls is I just don't feel particularly at ease with them as it feels there is no interest from them and I have to prove myself; and for someone who is far-individualist there is no cultural resonance. Talking with these SE Asian girls I am quickly at ease due to their enthusiasm for me or if they are reserved they are usually so adorable that I am able to show my enthusiasm for them. This stops my bipolar inhibition from kicking in.

But it takes a lot of time to communicate with a lot of girls and I don't have much time, but right now I am in Serbia (work), then going to Hong Kong (work, meeting one girl, but I don't really plan on anything with her, just building the experience bank), then off to a country in South Asia to meet a 9.

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I know it is frustrating when you try to invest in something like this and it doesn't appear to be appreciated. I had a few people reach out, who I have spoke with to varying degrees.

And the advice here can be great. Whenever I have all sorts of queries I now Google [site:rooshvforum.com] as there are lots of people knowledgeable on lots of topics here. On other forms I've been on in the past you always seemed to get threads where people never really addressed the OP's question or just couldn't. The knowledge level here is.

But as for serious gaming. It's not something I was really interested in. I was mainly interested in just getting a bit more experience. I've subsequently realised that pub, clubs, bars are not the sort of place I should be going. Those sorts of places attract polar opposites to me, which is another reason why I have to leave the dying culture of The West.

Post: #40

1. Mad autism. No one who isn't a liar or has some disorder posts their penis size or IQ. You just don't do it.

2. Denial. You claim work as the reason for not getting laid, but the reality is, the hardest working men still find time to get laid. Most of them find the time to even get married, and then even more the to cheat on their wives. You should've been laid 15 years ago if all of this is true and you don't have autism.

3. Advice- you've been given multiple offers of mentorship and seemingly taken none of them.

- In summary, I think you're either a liar or super weird, and in the benefit of trust, I'll go with the latter. Stop working so much, do some p4p HJs so you can be a touch more normal, find some cool male friends, learn to run game (even if you choke at the sex part, you want to at least get invited into a girl's bed, and figure out what that's like). Spend time on tinder, meet women. Go to a bar, meet some dudes, live a little.

Post: #41

I see a lot of paralysis by analysis by the OP, which actually is a trend in the "high IQ" people that I know.

1. Go to a dive college bar with all your amazing good looks, money, spaceship sized penis etc..

2. Wait until girls get drunk enough to approach you, as they will if you have the qualities you describe.

3. Take home and bang.

You won't get a 9 or 8 or whatever, but if that is what is most important to you, then you may not be fixable, as your expectations are not lining up with reality.

Baby steps. No need to take any personality tests, navel gaze, or otherwise, just simple concrete actions. From personal experience those first simple steps are by FAR the hardest to take, because they are so easy to delay and rationalize away. Same with starting a business actually.

Post: #42

There isn't much point in arguing over if I am or am not X. But all of my problems with women are in my mind. If you are weird, then it's something you can work on loosing. When I go into my normal mode of interacting with attractive women I am pretty sure I would go into the weird category, but when I am just myself I am fine. Recognising this and other aspects of myself that need working on have been important.

But I won't have to write this story now, my V was lost yesterday morning to the girl mentioned, in Hong Kong.

Post: #43

(08-27-2017 06:20 AM)gework Wrote:  There isn't much point in arguing over if I am or am not X. But all of my problems with women are in my mind. If you are weird, then it's something you can work on loosing. When I go into my normal mode of interacting with attractive women I am pretty sure I would go into the weird category, but when I am just myself I am fine. Recognising this and other aspects of myself that need working on have been important.

But I won't have to write this story now, my V was lost yesterday morning to the girl mentioned, in Hong Kong.