Post: #1

Lets say you have a girl you never banged. What is your text to telll her to come hang out? Whats your text if you are hanging out with your boys and want her to come out?

I text: "Hey. Ill be out in [City] hanging out with my friends. You should come if you are free"
Tell me if that it is a good text.

Post: #2

I'd drop 'if you are free'.

Post: #3

(03-16-2017 10:08 PM)Iso Wrote:  Lets say you have a girl you never banged. What is your text to telll her to come hang out? Whats your text if you are hanging out with your boys and want her to come out?

I text: "Hey. Ill be out in [City] hanging out with my friends. You should come if you are free"
Tell me if that it is a good text.

In an ideal scenario, she should be wanting to hang out with you. If there's time, perhaps going another route more beneficial. Show value, don't ask. Exchange a few pings, casually asking what she's up to in general. If she likes you at least a bit, she'll reciprocate. Here you throw a bait - assume a sale. Text her you're going to the best party of the year with best people in the city and all are welcome (it doesn't really matter what it will turn out like, really). So:

- you project high value
- non-neediness
- she can't reject you by rejecting your offer
- if she wants to join, you're in control. Then you can amp it up and tell her to bring her female friends. Win-win .

Always protect your frame. If anything, I'd rather schedule a date with a girl, as long as I know she's into me. You have your buddies anyway, and surely there will be some broads you can hit on. Why care about any particular girl?

Post: #4

Second dropping "if you are free".

I'd also reference a specific activity instead of just saying you'll be with friends.

Last one I sent was this.."hey I stumbled on this retro 1920's bowling alley I was going to check out this weekend. you should come!"

Post: #5

I'll be out in xxx. You should join.

You don't need to lay down the specifics to try and entice her. Regardless, if you are out having a good time, it shouldn't matter if she joins. If she wants to tag along, great, if not, get an even better girl's number and take her home.

If she is into you, she will come out because she is curious and intrigued. Specifics can ruin it, especially if it doesn't align with her interests.

Post: #6

Why so much emphasis on how to ask her out? You're the prize - not her.

A simple "I'll be in the city tonight w/ some friends. You're welcome to join" should suffice. The way I see it is all of this focus on text game before the bang is truly a mind fuck. There's no really no way to mess up an invitation like this unless she's not interested at all.

Post: #7

(03-16-2017 10:08 PM)Iso Wrote:  Lets say you have a girl you never banged. What is your text to telll her to come hang out? Whats your text if you are hanging out with your boys and want her to come out?

I text: "Hey. Ill be out in [City] hanging out with my friends. You should come if you are free"
Tell me if that it is a good text.

Wow this is quite different than growing up in the 90's. Back then, we had to use our mouth. You had to talk, work your way thru conversation, learn to think and react on the spot.

Now you're asking for advice on what to text, if your text is good enough? I'm not trying to be rude but your frame is all off, your mindset all wrong. It doesn't really matter what you say but how you say it, how you follow it up and your ability to converse, verbally or thru text.

Seems to me the art of conversation is dying amongst our younger generation. We used to have to call the landline, get thru the mother or father first, then get the girl on the phone.

Post: #8

OP - most women will not want to hang out with you and a group of strangers your first time hanging out. First date should definitely be 1 on 1. Don't invite her out on the town with your crew. Also, surprising a girl with sudden plans when you haven't even hung out with her once yet is not good either. Start with this:

You: "what's your sched this week?"

She will then either tell you what days/times she is free giving you the green light so you can pick a date that you would like to make plans with her, or she will dodge the question which will let you know she's not interested in getting together with you.

Post: #9

"Let's meet up and grab a drink this weekend. I'll be free on Friday"

Plain and simple, no need to complicate. If she's interested in you, she'll accept your invitation; if she's legitimately busy, she'll suggest another day.

Post: #10

If I'm hanging out with ny boys and I haven't banged her yet, then I do not want her to come out.

"Hey lets grab a drink this week, are you free Tues or Weds night? "

Post: #11

"I have scheduled an appointment for your first interview at 7:30 at Bar xxxxxx"

Post: #12

(03-18-2017 12:38 AM)rainy Wrote:  Seems to me the art of conversation is dying amongst our younger generation. We used to have to call the landline, get thru the mother or father first, then get the girl on the phone.

Overcoming that nervous feeling you'd get in the gut of your stomach back in the day before you dialed the digits was the toughest party.

Post: #13

"I'll stick it in your bum till kingdom cum" gets them out every time