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Stoic's Lounge
The purpose of this thread is to discuss and share insights and challenges related to Stoicism in our daily lives.

Perhaps you would like to share a quote from the ancients.

Perhaps you applied or practiced a Stoic principle or virtue in your life today, and would like to discuss the result.

Perhaps you struggle with understanding a Stoic concept.

If so, let's struggle together.

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I just started reading 48 Laws of Power and am a bit apprehensive. I can see that from a Stoic perspective, being aware of and applying the laws potentially upsets our inner tranquility. At the same time, this awareness would adapt one to the social games of our world, which in the long run benefits tranquility.

Question is, are these laws applicable with a Stoic life? Many of them run counter to a life of tranquility, at least at a glance.
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Good thread.

Has anybody read The Daily Stoic? Reviews?

What do you think are the negatives of stoicism?

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(03-12-2017 11:16 AM)redbeard Wrote:  Good thread.

Has anybody read The Daily Stoic? Reviews?

What do you think are the negatives of stoicism?

Great book. Contains many gems and explains many teachings from a modern perspective; still, the ancients seem extraordinary close to us even when directly quoted, which is why Stoicism is so fascinating. Recommended the book as an introduction on Stoicism to several friends.

I read it in about a week; since it contains 365 'daily' musings, it became quite dense after a while, and reading many pages a day hindered me absorbing many lessons on a deeper level. I'm just too impatient for one lesson a day.
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I haven't read that one yet. Admittedly I'm not a huge fan of Ryan Holiday, having read some of his other stuff, but this one might actually be decent.

For those who want a practical and comprehensive guide to stoicism I'd suggest A Guide to the Good Life: The Ancient Art of Stoic Joy. It's one of my favorites, along with the original material from the ancients themselves of course. As DarianFrey mentioned, one of the benefits of Stoicism is that one really doesn't need to look too far beyond the original works, seeing as how so much of it is directly applicable to our lives today.

Currently I'm reading Seneca's On the Shortness of Life. It's very short (the book, though one could make the same argument about life), but I'm enjoying it so far and it's a real kick in the ass.
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I did a recent book review on Letters from a Stoic by Seneca here. Stoicism isn't life-changing but it is a helpful guiding light. I love how it instills being unreactive amongst the modern swarms of feminine and victimized men. To give an example, I currently work at a very busy hospital. During certain times, it gets overwhelming especially because my position is the limiting factor for everyone else. I've seen many of my peers break down, lash out, and cry on the job. A lot of these guys are trying to low key game nurses and it doesn't float well when everyone sees them publicly lash out/break down. I know this isn't all due to stoicism, but since I've been reading it, I feel like I have an impregnable wall for stress. It just doesn't sink in like it used to. If I really get overwhelmed I just go to the restroom, splash some water in my face, take a few deep breaths, remind myself that adversity only makes me stronger, and leave with a smile.

Illimitable man had a tweet a few days ago that stuck with me,"Aggression in action, stoicism in reaction."

The daily stoic is a good twitter handle if ya'll like daily quotes.

One of my favorite Seneca passages...
"Until we have begun to go without them, we fail to realize how unnecessary many things are. We've been using them not because we needed them but because we had them. Look at the number of things we buy because others have bought them or because they're in most people's houses. One of the causes of the troubles that beset us is the way our lives are guided by the examples of others; instead of being set to rights by reason we're seduced by convention. There are things that we shouldn't wish to imitate if they were done by only a few, but when a lot of people have started doing them we follow along, as though a practice became more respectable by becoming more common. Once they have become general, mistakes may acquire in our minds the status of correct ones."

Edit: Mirin the youth in this thread.
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The 48 laws of power is a great book to study in addition to living a stoic life.

If you read Robert Greene's books (I've read 48 LOP, Mastery, 50th law, AOS, and currently reading 33 strategies of war) he brings a lot of stoic thinking into his books. One thing that he has written that has kept me clear of a multitude of problems are "Anger and emotion are strategically counterproductive."

This is a good interview to read:
https://dailystoic.com/robert-greene-interview/


I enjoy reading/listening to Meditations by MA and Epictetus' works as well and I think RG's books are great supplements to the stoic classics
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People seem to always appreciate the stoic. I figure it to be that they need a rock to clasp onto when things are not turning out their way.
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This instruction by Marcus Aurelius has stuck with me:

Quote:Begin each day by telling yourself : Today I will be meeting with interference, ingratitude, insolence, disloyalty, ill-will, and selfishness--all of them due to the offenders' ignorance of what is good and what is evil.
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I'd like to start an Epicurean's lounge just because of this. tardtardtard

Though I'll be watching this thread closely as well.

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(03-13-2017 12:23 AM)oilbreh Wrote:  This instruction by Marcus Aurelius has stuck with me:

Quote:Begin each day by telling yourself : Today I will be meeting with interference, ingratitude, insolence, disloyalty, ill-will, and selfishness--all of them due to the offenders' ignorance of what is good and what is evil.

Good one.
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(03-12-2017 11:16 AM)redbeard Wrote:  Has anybody read The Daily Stoic? Reviews?

Never heard of it; all of these modern money-grab repackaged "365 days of Stoic Lovey-Doveyness Calendar with Inspirational Quotes" are just pilfered from the far superior originals, which are quite readable in translation. Please avoid the lame dumb-down versions and instead read the classic originals:

https://www.hackettpublishing.com/the-meditations
https://www.hackettpublishing.com/the-ha...cheiridion

Buddhist Equivalent:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dhammapada

Epicurean Philosophy, a Man's alternative to Stoicism:
https://www.hackettpublishing.com/the-epicurus-reader

Quote:What do you think are the negatives of stoicism?

I've studied Stoicism (really it is a 'religion' for men, as opposed to the ones for women & children) for years. Accordingly, I am aware that has serious limitations that should be kept in mind. It's far more useful in defense than offense; ignores biology and even psychology; represents a Greece that was subjected, not the Periclean and Golden Age; and Epicureanism offers an alternative possibly more useful to modern neo-masculinity.

The greatest argument I've read though, from an essay on Sir Francis Bacon:

Baron Macaulay Wrote:An abject superstition, which Democritus or Anaxagoras would have rejected with scorn, added the last disgrace to the long dotage of the Stoic and Platonic schools. Those unsuccessful attempts to articulate which are so delightful and interesting in a child, shock and disgust us in an aged paralytic; and in the same way, those wild mythological fictions which charm us when lisped by Greek poetry in its infancy, excite a mixed sensation of pity and loathing when mumbled by Greek philosophy in its old age. We know that guns, cutlery, Spy-glasses, clocks,-are better in our time than they were in the time of our fathers; and were better in the time of our fathers than they were in the time of our grandfathers. We might, therefore, be inclined to think, that when a philosophy which boasted that its object was the elevation and purification of the mind, and which for this object neglected the sordid office of ministering to the comforts of the body, had flourished in the highest honour for many hundreds of years, a vast moral amelioration must have taken place. Was it so?

Look at the schools of this wisdom four centuries before the Christian era, and four centuries after that era. Compare the men whom those schools formed at those two periods. Compare Plato and Libanius. Compare Pericles and Julian. This philosophy confessed, nay boasted, that for every end but one it was useless. Had it attained that one end? Suppose that Justinian, when he closed the schools of Athens, had called on the last few sages who still haunted the Portico, and lingered round the ancient plane trees, to show their title to public veneration:— suppose that he had said, " A thousand years have elapsed since, in this famous city, Socrates posed Protagoras and Hippias; during those thousand years a large proportion of the ablest men of every generation has been employed in constant efforts to bring to perfection the philosophy which you leach; that philosophy has been munificently patronised by the powerful; its professors have been held in the highest esteem by the public; it has drawn to itself almost all the sap and vigour of the human, intellect—and what has it effected? What profitable truth has it taught us which we should not equally have known without it? What has it enabled us to do which we should not have been equally able to do without it?" Such questions, we suspect, would have puzzled Simplicius and Isidore. Ask a follower of Bacon what the new philosophy, as it was called in the time of Charles the Second, has effected for mankind, and his answer is ready—

"It has lengthened life; it has mitigated pain; it has extinguished diseases; it has increased the fertility of the soil; it has given new securities to the mariner; it has furnished new arms to the warrior; it has spanned great rivers and estuaries with bridges of form unknown to our fathers; it has guided the thunderbolt innocuously from heaven to earth; it has lighted up the night with the splendour of the day; it has extended the range of the human vision; it has multiplied the power of the human muscles; it has accelerated motion; it has annihilated distance; it has facilitated intercourse, correspondence, all friendly offices, all despatch of business; it has enabled man to descend to the depths of the sea, to soar into the air, to penetrate securely into the noxious recesses of the earth, to traverse the land on cars which whirl along without horses, and the ocean in ships which sail against the wind. These are but a pan of its fruits, and of its first fruits. For it is a philosophy which never rests, which has never attained it, which is never perfect. Its law is progress. A point which yesterday was invisible is its goal to-day, and will be its starting-post to-morrow."

We have sometimes thought that an amusing fiction might be written, in which a disciple of Epictetus and a disciple of Bacon should be introduced as fellow-travellers. They come to a village where the small-pox has just begun to rage; and find houses shut up, intercourse suspended, the sick abandoned, mothers weeping in terror over their children. The Stoic assures the dismayed population that there is nothing bad in the small-pox, and that to a wise man, diseases, deformity, death, the loss of friends, are not evils. The Baconian takes out a lancet and begins to vaccinate. They find a body of miners in great dismay. An explosion of noisome vapours has just killed many of those who were at work; and the survivors are afraid to venture into the cavern. The Stoic assures them that such an accident is nothing but a mere [phantasia].

The Baconian, who has not such a fine word at his command, contents himself with devising a safety-lamp. They find a shipwrecked merchant wringing his hands on the shore. His vessel with an inestimable cargo has just gone down, and he is reduced in a moment from opulence to beggary The Stoic exhorts him not to seek happiness in things which lie without himself, and repeats the whole chapter of Epictetus (To those who fear want.) The Baconian constructs a diving-bell, goes down in it, and returns with the most precious effects from the wreck. It would be easy to multiply illustrations of the difference between the philosophy of thorns and the philosophy of fruit—the philosophy of words and the philosophy of works.
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scrambled, very interesting share. Thank you.

I have zero knowledge of Epicureanism and you've motivated me to change that.

I believe that the Stoic practice of recognizing what is within and without our control is paramount to living a good life. Right now, that is the biggest takeaway from Stoicism for me. It's neither defensive or offensive; maybe both?
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(03-13-2017 01:02 PM)scrambled Wrote:  Never heard of it; all of these modern money-grab repackaged "365 days of Stoic Lovey-Doveyness Calendar with Inspirational Quotes" are just pilfered from the far superior originals, which are quite readable in translation. Please avoid the lame dumb-down versions and instead read the classic originals:

https://www.hackettpublishing.com/the-meditations
https://www.hackettpublishing.com/the-ha...cheiridion

^This. I'm not going to say a book like The Daily Stoic is worthless because I haven't read it, and clearly it's beneficial to some people, but I'm not impressed with Holiday's previous forays into the world of Stoicism.

I read The Obstacle is the Way and it was a complete waste of time. It took him 200+ pages of historical anecdotes, some misused and/or taken out of context, and casual skimming of Stoic wisdom to basically tell us, "when life gives you lemons, make lemonade." That's it. He basically came across like an amateurish Robert Greene who just recently discovered Stoicism and found a way to market the hell out of it in its most watered down, juvenile form.

(03-13-2017 01:02 PM)scrambled Wrote:  I've studied Stoicism (really it is a 'religion' for men, as opposed to the ones for women & children) for years. Accordingly, I am aware that has serious limitations that should be kept in mind. It's far more useful in defense than offense; ignores biology and even psychology; represents a Greece that was subjected, not the Periclean and Golden Age; and Epicureanism offers an alternative possibly more useful to modern neo-masculinity.

The greatest argument I've read though, from an essay on Sir Francis Bacon:

Baron Macaulay Wrote:An abject superstition, which Democritus or Anaxagoras would have rejected with scorn, added the last disgrace to the long dotage of the Stoic and Platonic schools. Those unsuccessful attempts to articulate which are so delightful and interesting in a child, shock and disgust us in an aged paralytic; and in the same way, those wild mythological fictions which charm us when lisped by Greek poetry in its infancy, excite a mixed sensation of pity and loathing when mumbled by Greek philosophy in its old age. We know that guns, cutlery, Spy-glasses, clocks,-are better in our time than they were in the time of our fathers; and were better in the time of our fathers than they were in the time of our grandfathers. We might, therefore, be inclined to think, that when a philosophy which boasted that its object was the elevation and purification of the mind, and which for this object neglected the sordid office of ministering to the comforts of the body, had flourished in the highest honour for many hundreds of years, a vast moral amelioration must have taken place. Was it so?

Look at the schools of this wisdom four centuries before the Christian era, and four centuries after that era. Compare the men whom those schools formed at those two periods. Compare Plato and Libanius. Compare Pericles and Julian. This philosophy confessed, nay boasted, that for every end but one it was useless. Had it attained that one end? Suppose that Justinian, when he closed the schools of Athens, had called on the last few sages who still haunted the Portico, and lingered round the ancient plane trees, to show their title to public veneration:— suppose that he had said, " A thousand years have elapsed since, in this famous city, Socrates posed Protagoras and Hippias; during those thousand years a large proportion of the ablest men of every generation has been employed in constant efforts to bring to perfection the philosophy which you leach; that philosophy has been munificently patronised by the powerful; its professors have been held in the highest esteem by the public; it has drawn to itself almost all the sap and vigour of the human, intellect—and what has it effected? What profitable truth has it taught us which we should not equally have known without it? What has it enabled us to do which we should not have been equally able to do without it?" Such questions, we suspect, would have puzzled Simplicius and Isidore. Ask a follower of Bacon what the new philosophy, as it was called in the time of Charles the Second, has effected for mankind, and his answer is ready—

"It has lengthened life; it has mitigated pain; it has extinguished diseases; it has increased the fertility of the soil; it has given new securities to the mariner; it has furnished new arms to the warrior; it has spanned great rivers and estuaries with bridges of form unknown to our fathers; it has guided the thunderbolt innocuously from heaven to earth; it has lighted up the night with the splendour of the day; it has extended the range of the human vision; it has multiplied the power of the human muscles; it has accelerated motion; it has annihilated distance; it has facilitated intercourse, correspondence, all friendly offices, all despatch of business; it has enabled man to descend to the depths of the sea, to soar into the air, to penetrate securely into the noxious recesses of the earth, to traverse the land on cars which whirl along without horses, and the ocean in ships which sail against the wind. These are but a pan of its fruits, and of its first fruits. For it is a philosophy which never rests, which has never attained it, which is never perfect. Its law is progress. A point which yesterday was invisible is its goal to-day, and will be its starting-post to-morrow."

We have sometimes thought that an amusing fiction might be written, in which a disciple of Epictetus and a disciple of Bacon should be introduced as fellow-travellers. They come to a village where the small-pox has just begun to rage; and find houses shut up, intercourse suspended, the sick abandoned, mothers weeping in terror over their children. The Stoic assures the dismayed population that there is nothing bad in the small-pox, and that to a wise man, diseases, deformity, death, the loss of friends, are not evils. The Baconian takes out a lancet and begins to vaccinate. They find a body of miners in great dismay. An explosion of noisome vapours has just killed many of those who were at work; and the survivors are afraid to venture into the cavern. The Stoic assures them that such an accident is nothing but a mere [phantasia].

The Baconian, who has not such a fine word at his command, contents himself with devising a safety-lamp. They find a shipwrecked merchant wringing his hands on the shore. His vessel with an inestimable cargo has just gone down, and he is reduced in a moment from opulence to beggary The Stoic exhorts him not to seek happiness in things which lie without himself, and repeats the whole chapter of Epictetus (To those who fear want.) The Baconian constructs a diving-bell, goes down in it, and returns with the most precious effects from the wreck. It would be easy to multiply illustrations of the difference between the philosophy of thorns and the philosophy of fruit—the philosophy of words and the philosophy of works.

Personally I think this misrepresents the Stoic mentality somewhat. It makes it seem like Stoicism is just this passive, reactionary philosophy that is primarily designed to allow one to endure hardship without taking any meaningful action toward a better life. I disagree.

My understanding of Stoicism has always led me to believe that it's mainly about two things: 1) recognizing that which is in your control and that which isn't, and 2) making the most of situations that are in your control to the extent that you can, while not worrying about outcomes or scenarios that you can't control.

This mentality requires a man to embrace a virtue-based ethos in order to apply himself fully to each and every situation in life, and then letting the chips fall where they may when it comes to aspects of life that are out of his control.

Even grave misfortune can be viewed as an opportunity to grow one's inner strength and cultivate a more virtuous character if you apply yourself fully to making the best of that situation. By the same token, I don't believe that the aim of Stoicism suggests a man should forgo the pursuit of worldly pleasures or personal excellence. He just shouldn't be ruled by those pleasures, or put so much emphasis on them that he'd crumble into ruin should they be taken away. Basically you have to keep things in perspective and remember what is truly important in life.

When it comes to what we can and can't control, things basically fall into one of three categories:

1) Things we have complete control over. Usually this stuff entails aspects of the self, like our mental state, our drive toward self-improvement, different forms of enlightenment, the way we allow others to influence us, etc. We should devote much of our energy to working on these aspects of our lives because, not only will they yield the most fruit, but they also cannot be taken from us easily.

2) Things we have partial control over. These would be things like our careers, our relationships, our health, etc. We should always do our best to improve these aspects of our lives to the best of our abilities, but at the same time we must accept the fact that, in spite of our best efforts, sometimes things won't go our way. We can take solace in the fact that we applied ourselves to the best of our abilities, and use the experience as a learning tool to hopefully affect a better outcome in the future.

3) Things we have no control over. These could be things like getting hit by car that careens onto the sidewalk, or dealing with the sudden, unexpected death of a loved one. We should try not to worry about these things at all, but simply deal with them as they come and try to uphold our virtuous character throughout the ordeal.

As far as Stoicism being better suited to defensive living, it certainly excels in that realm, but I think that if you apply it properly then it's a comprehensive philosophy that can both drive you to accomplish great things while simultaneously giving you the tools to deal with whatever difficulties arise in life, and doing so in a most admirable way.
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(03-13-2017 12:26 AM)Comte De St. Germain Wrote:  I'd like to start an Epicurean's lounge just because of this. tardtardtard

Though I'll be watching this thread closely as well.

I'll start a cynic's lounge. I'll begin by switching from nofap to public-only fap.

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(03-13-2017 12:26 AM)Comte De St. Germain Wrote:  I'd like to start an Epicurean's lounge just because of this. tardtardtard

Though I'll be watching this thread closely as well.

I'll start a cynic's lounge. I'll begin by switching from nofap to public-only fap.

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Love this philosophy however it can make you go nuts when realizing that life is full of pleasures, a cup of coffee in the morning, scrolling Facebook for hours, speaking to girls, pleasures seem to be anti-stoic. Implementation is difficult but perhaps slow and steady and not expecting immediate results is in fact Stoic in itself. I'm reading Letters now.
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(03-14-2017 07:02 AM)PragueDude Wrote:  Love this philosophy however it can make you go nuts when realizing that life is full of pleasures, a cup of coffee in the morning, scrolling Facebook for hours, speaking to girls, pleasures seem to be anti-stoic. Implementation is difficult but perhaps slow and steady and not expecting immediate results is in fact Stoic in itself. I'm reading Letters now.

I wouldn't agree pleasures are anti stoic. Perhaps the way a stoic reacts to pleasures are different than a non-stoic, such as not being overly emotional, however.

Stoicism is more about accepting and understanding things as they are and experiencing them in a calm, unreactive, yet appreciative fashion.

This can also be helpful in pickup. When a girl flakes, or if you're in the middle of an approach and she says "omg it's Becky!" and runs off to meet her friend, the stoic would just realize that as a dog barks, so this is something women naturally do.

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Quote:More and more Americans today are becoming Stoic dropouts. They are not illiberal, and certainly not reactionaries, racists, xenophobes, or homophobes. They’re simply exhausted by our frenzied culture. They don’t like lectures from the privileged and the wealthy on the pitfalls of privilege and wealth. In response, they don’t hike out to monasteries, fall into fetal positions, or write Meditations. Instead, they have checked out mentally from American popular entertainment, sports, and the progressive cultural project in general.
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Quote:The new monastics likewise avoid new movies. The fall-off in movie viewership is not just due to the advent of cable television and streaming video over the Internet. Nor is the rub that new movies are mostly short on plot, dialogue, and characterization, and long on cardboard-cutout comic-book heroes, explosives, car crashes, and sadism.
The problem is also that there are finite ways of portraying a good-looking, young, liberal, justice crusader uncovering yet another corporate or oligarchic plot — by villains with southern accents or Russian tattoos — to pollute the planet, promote white privilege, or hurt justice crusaders. The actors, directors, producers, and studios are themselves multimillionaire corporatists who are trying to convince themselves that they are not multimillionaire corporatists — and this is another reason that some of the public has long ago lost interest in these scripted morality plays.
Monastics are tuning out the media. Listening to Brian Williams warn of fake news would be like paying attention to Miley Cyrus’s reminder about the need for abstinence. New York Times columnist Nicholas Kristof, who is often said to be the ethical conscience of the paper’s op-ed page, recently begged the IRS to commit a felony by sending him Trump’s tax returns.
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Quote:When everything is politicized, everything is monotonous; nothing is interesting. There are only so many ways one can express existential hatred for Trump, turn the Aztecs into the Founding Fathers, or show disrespect for the National Anthem (Kneeling? Or clenched fist held high? Or just sitting? Or turning one’s back? Or talking over the music?). So millions tune out and retreat to reading what was written before 1980, or to watching movies of a past age or seeking their own tribal ties of the mind.
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^ Dropping out isn't Stoic in the slightest; it's the opposite, a surrender to ego and passion. The moron NatRev writer is misusing the word while having no understanding of it. Being passive isn't any philosophy, or everyone would naturally be at the state of the Stoic wise man.

Seneca Wrote:Among the many fine sayings of one friend Demetrius there is this one, which I have just heard; it still rings in my ears. "No man," said he, " seems to me more unhappy than one who has never met with adversity." For such a man has never had an opportunity to test himself. Though all things have flowed to him according to his prayer, though even before his prayer, nevertheless the gods have passed an adverse judgement upon him ...

"But," you say, "the path by which we are called to go is steep and rugged." What of it? Can the heights be reached by a level path?
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That National Review article's opinion about Stoicism is complete nonsense. He completely misinterprets the philosophy. Stoic thought is certainly not beyond criticism, of course. There are legitimate criticisms that can be leveled against it, just like we can poke holes in any system of thought, if we want to. But the writer of that article is not informed about the subject matter.

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(03-14-2017 07:02 AM)PragueDude Wrote:  Love this philosophy however it can make you go nuts when realizing that life is full of pleasures, a cup of coffee in the morning, scrolling Facebook for hours, speaking to girls, pleasures seem to be anti-stoic. Implementation is difficult but perhaps slow and steady and not expecting immediate results is in fact Stoic in itself. I'm reading Letters now.

I would observe that both Zen buddhists and Stoics arrived at something like the idea of negative visualization independently: far from rejecting pleasures, you should learn to want the things you actually have as much as you want the things you don't have. This is done by accepting the inevitable future in which you no longer have them. Seneca says that all that we have is only borrowed from Fortune.

https://en.wikisource.org/wiki/Of_Consol..._To_Marcia

In context, Seneca is consoling a mother who has lost her son, but it applies to small pleasures, too. One day, you may no longer be able to drink coffee, scroll Facebook, or speak to girls. Maybe tomorrow. You can be distraught over this and go into denial about your own mortality, like the average person, and assume that you will always have tomorrow, or it can be an energizing thought that motivates you to extract every drop from today, taking them as they are and for what they are because they are there now. That's true whether it's enjoying coffee or making time for your son.

To put it another way, they don't urge you to put aside the pleasures of a luxurious home, but rather to know that it might one day burn down, and that this is just the way of the world and there's no use getting bent out of shape about it. What's important is making virtuous decisions and if pleasures come to you in doing so, that's a feature, not a bug.
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i was a stoic - long time ago.

i've suppressed my "negative emotions", i've denied my inner pain/suffering/grief/losses and kept up a solid "frame-front" - with women and with life. it worked - for a while - but it was neither pretty nor particularly pleasant - most of the time that is.

then i let go and let myself FEEEEEEEEEEL.

i descendent into chaos and completely uprooted my life. i've laid in the fetal pose for hours. i contemplated suicide [through fasting - lol] multiple time. i've waited, waited and waited for perfect clarity of action to be taken avoiding - in the meantime - distractions of pussy, drugs and glitter.

and you know what? it worked! today i can experience a FULL range of human emotion - from anger to love to hate to passion to fear to anxiety to boredom to jealousy - without losing my center, without having to withdraw from live, without having to shield/cut myself off, without folding.

it's the purgatory worth going through.

DOWN WITH STOICS!
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Possible you were repressing and not actual practicing Stoic philosophy; actual Stoic Philosophy requires a independent study and a lifetime of practice. Also, once you go Stoic, you can´t go back, since you are more mature as a being. Also, Stoicism isn´t about lack of feeling, it´s more about avoidance of "bursts of passion", since those are an immature response to adversity, and it is that response which makes people suffer.
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(03-24-2017 11:40 AM)scrambled Wrote:  Possible you were repressing and not actual practicing Stoic philosophy; actual Stoic Philosophy requires a independent study and a lifetime of practice. Also, once you go Stoic, you can´t go back, since you are more mature as a being. Also, Stoicism isn´t about lack of feeling, it´s more about avoidance of "bursts of passion", since those are an immature response to adversity, and it is that response which makes people suffer.

i dunno man. i LOVE "bursts of passion". it's my m.o. it's how i get shit done.
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