Post: #1

If you're looking for a woman for a long term relationship, how much importance do you place on her mom and dad and what their relationship is like with each other?

Example: This girl who I dated was very close with her mom and her mom hated her dad. This girl told me how she has never even seen her mom and dad hug or kiss each other.

And while this girl was very sweet and caring towards me throughout most of our relationship, I could just tell that something was off.

I've read online about "daddy issues" with women but I wanted to get some more opinions on it. Just how severely can a poor father figure in some way, shape or form f*ck a woman up?

Post: #2

Very important. Do not forget that almost all kids grow up to be like their parents. If she comes from parents who don't have a good relationship, or even worse, a single mother, then you can be sure that she'll follow the same path.

On the same idea, it is also important to get approval from their parents for a LTR. You might be able to get away without it, but there'll always be something missing.

Post: #3

I spent only a few months dating my wife, but when I was I did as much to learn about her family and to have her know about mine. Aside from her parents being honest, amiable people, the fact that she was open to my seeing them was a good sign. Girls who have a bad relationship with their family (especially fathers) are very likely to have a bad relationship with you. Likewise a woman who is independent of her family will find it convenient and natural to become independent of you at some point.

Post: #4

This is an extremely rich and interesting topic.

If you can tell that something is off, it probably is. Good news is, daddy issues might swing the good way or the bad way.

On the one hand you have the girls with the Electra's complex, who never knows her father saved for reputation, and thus worship him (or the idea of the father) and hates her mom, who hates the husband and father.

On the other hand you have the dysfunctional, single mother raised girl whom you are best stay away from.

If this girl was indeed sweet and caring toward you, then hopefully we can stick with the first case. I strongly recommend reading more about it, very insightful info about women's subsconcious once you filter out the floating crap.

You need to find out whose team she is on: her mother's, her dad's, or yours?

You can do this by asking her about your dad. Start small "what's he like?", then go on to "what's the best thing about him you remember?" "what you like about him the most?"

Pay attention to her body language during these types of psychoanalysis sessions.

If she hates her father, bad news.

If she loves her father AND mother, great news. Prolly will be a bit clingy, but shouldnt be a problem if she is LTR.

If she loves her father and seeks the same image in you, this is the grey zone where you can either shape a girl into being YOUR girl, or a chronic stalker.

I suggest you PM Onto, a premium member here. He has quite a bit to say about The Father in a girl.

Post: #5

The girl I'm describing above was definitely on her Mom's side. Her mother and her were very close.

She was also a very outspoken feminist and had a poor view on men as a whole, but again I was caught up in her being head over heels obsessed with me I didn't worry about any of this stuff.

That is until she starting getting a bit distant and eventually was gone for good turning into a completely different person. She was a total ice queen and acted as if she never cared about me at all. This was after all he gifts she bought me, all the dinners she paid for, all the on demand sex and no nothing. Just boggles the mind.

Post: #6

5 Very important

Wait, is this a poll?

What does mom look like matters
Parent's relationship matters
Her relationship with them matters

Funny because some of my quickest lays (sluttiest?) have come from chicks from two parent families (presumably solid parents).

Post: #7

I don't care at all. I come from broken home, I have fucked up family myself so her parents or lack of doesn't bother me.

Post: #8

(11-12-2016 05:06 PM)XXL Wrote:  I don't care at all. I come from broken home, I have fucked up family myself so her parents or lack of doesn't bother me.

Why allow your past, which you had no control over, to control your future, which you do have control over?

If you come from a broken home, you're most likely lacking in some relationship skills that you don't even know you lack. Getting a girl that most likely lacks those skills as well increases the risk your relationship will fail.

On the other hand, getting a girl with relationship skills that are on point can make up for your own shortcomings.

Just because you were disadvantaged in that area growing up doesn't mean you have to metaphorically flip the bird at society by dating women with the same background.

If you do that, the only one you're flipping the bird to is yourself and your future children.

The past is the past.

Move on.

Why repeat the mistakes of your parents? So that your children can do the same and the cycle can go on forever?

Break the cycle.

Post: #9

(11-10-2016 06:28 AM)btownbuck89 Wrote:  Example: This girl who I dated was very close with her mom and her mom hated her dad. This girl told me how she has never even seen her mom and dad hug or kiss each other.

That is not a good sign. If a girl hates or doesn't respect her father, she is more likely to be slutty or have other emotional problems and/or problems dealing with men.

(11-10-2016 06:28 AM)btownbuck89 Wrote:  And while this girl was very sweet and caring towards me throughout most of our relationship, I could just tell that something was off.

If you feel like something is off, something is probably off.