The Beast1
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RE: The autism thread
^ No^
I've been very close friends with people on the spectrum some stronger than others. They've always identified me as being on it as well which i find strange.
It's heartbreaking trying to explain human social graces. These folks really do not get it and struggle continously with things we take for granted.
Boys on the spectrum have it worse off. Women speak entirely in code so imagine not being able to intuitively understand facial expressions, body language, and above all sarcasm. The nuances of human interaction via the gut feeling are all lost.
In the past, these children were generally unteachable and ended up living as peasants or were simply killed off. Nowadays, their gifts can be exploited and used if they're properly identified.
I'd say autism is just the INTJ archetype turned up to 11. They really do need special school and teaching. As for factors, i say the mother's age is a big factor in it.
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RE: The autism thread
My son was diagnosed with Autism at 3, but up until that point he behaved like a normal toddler in most ways. He would eat everything we placed in front of him, eye contact seemed normal and he wasn't overly fixated with certain items (although at that age it can be hard to tell) His speech was delayed due to prematurity and he had a trach, so some delays were expected. I've had to go 15 rounds with teachers, administrators and school districts to ensure my son gets the type of education that not only challenges his ability to learn but recognizes his skills without further alienating him because of his differences. Hard to strike the right balance, but we are working on it everyday. His quality of life is what's most important, but as a parent I have to remember not to define happiness from my point of biew but from his standpoint.
As far as the vaccine/mercury vs age of the parent argument, I can't say I have a conclusive answer. My ex had our son in her late 20's, not a spring chicken but by no means over the hill either. In our case, she had to see a fertility dr. on a few occasions so only God knows...
As a result my patience has improved, and my sense of humanity has never been more pronounced. My teenagers are quickly approaching adulthood. (yikes) so I try to look forward with open eyes and be thankful for my kids good health notwithstanding.
Hasta luego
MDP
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dain_bramage
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RE: The autism thread
I was thinking of starting this kind of thread actually. I mentioned it on the forum lounge.
I've had mostly positive experiences in regards to autistic people. That being said those of them have been higher functioning and not running around flapping their hands and throwing objects around the room. I know one that was my age in elementary and high school. His knowledge of warships, tanks, planes, history, and political matters is bloody incredible. Whatever he puts his mind to he does remarkably well.
I was never one of the popular kids for various reasons so I was drawn to similar people with similar interests and they happened to either be full on aspergers or some kind of odd personality.
I think some of the autists are so lost in their obsessions that socialization doesn't get the right amount of attention. They lack the talent at opening conversations. That being said if you are to talk about their favorite subjects and activities you will be amazed at how talkative they really can be. Its the initiation that is very difficult for them. I am not sure how they can overcome that obstacle. Fear and anxiety about rejection can keep them isolated from people which only makes the situation worse. Some are quite averse to talking to people and especially to the opposite sex which is in conflict with the desire to get laid. Its like they don't know the rules to the game being played and its either impossible or too tiring to learn them well. They get overwhelmed.
They are not all like Rainman. There's varying degrees on the spectrum. I have known two that are some of the most annoying people I have met. I've met two that have been pleasant but one of the which that wasted my time too often. What is common is the inability to be socially intelligent.
What I am wondering is whether it is possible for an autist to learn game Or are they doomed to be alone without the sexual and emotional needs being met? Are they going to be stuck like poor Forrest Gump having the ultimate one- itis and getting treated like garbage for year after year? Maybe if 'game' was made to be fun like their video games with rewards for increased skill they could at least learn some skills to interact with women?
I think those that were from single mother households need strong male role models to guide them through the processes of getting with a woman until it becomes second nature. I don't know. I'm not a psychologist.
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They Call Me Mister Tony
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RE: The autism thread
(10-18-2016 06:25 PM)dain_bramage Wrote: I was thinking of starting this kind of thread actually. I mentioned it on the forum lounge.
I've had mostly positive experiences in regards to autistic people. That being said those of them have been higher functioning and not running around flapping their hands and throwing objects around the room. I know one that was my age in elementary and high school. His knowledge of warships, tanks, planes, history, and political matters is bloody incredible. Whatever he puts his mind to he does remarkably well.
I was never one of the popular kids for various reasons so I was drawn to similar people with similar interests and they happened to either be full on aspergers or some kind of odd personality.
I think some of the autists are so lost in their obsessions that socialization doesn't get the right amount of attention. They lack the talent at opening conversations. That being said if you are to talk about their favorite subjects and activities you will be amazed at how talkative they really can be. Its the initiation that is very difficult for them. I am not sure how they can overcome that obstacle. Fear and anxiety about rejection can keep them isolated from people which only makes the situation worse. Some are quite averse to talking to people and especially to the opposite sex which is in conflict with the desire to get laid. Its like they don't know the rules to the game being played and its either impossible or too tiring to learn them well. They get overwhelmed.
They are not all like Rainman. There's varying degrees on the spectrum. I have known two that are some of the most annoying people I have met. I've met two that have been pleasant but one of the which that wasted my time too often. What is common is the inability to be socially intelligent.
What I am wondering is whether it is possible for an autist to learn game Or are they doomed to be alone without the sexual and emotional needs being met? Are they going to be stuck like poor Forrest Gump having the ultimate one- itis and getting treated like garbage for year after year? Maybe if 'game' was made to be fun like their video games with rewards for increased skill they could at least learn some skills to interact with women?
I think those that were from single mother households need strong male role models to guide them through the processes of getting with a woman until it becomes second nature. I don't know. I'm not a psychologist.
I'd like to chip in my two cents. As a fellow high-functioning guy who was diagnosed with mild autism as a kid, I can relate to some of this. In fact, I was one of the brightest kids in my school. And (not to toot my own horn), I can be pretty talkative as well.
Reason I joined the forum is because I want to I think that it is possible for this autist to learn game.
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RE: The autism thread
My son was diagnosed with autism at a very early age. I was crushed. At 2-3 he really wouldn't engage with people. No eye contact, etc... I got him help early with a Defeat Autism Now doctor. Turns out that after some tests, his body was holding on to heavy metals to a high degree. I gave him a few rounds of Chelation, gluten free diet and learning therapy sessions among a bunch of other things. He still couldn't speak after he turned 5 years old and to a large degree, skipped playing with toys his entire childhood, he was simply not interested.
He's now almost 9 and his speech is great, as well as his social interaction. It was pleasing to see the 'light' come on within him when he read the name tag of a cashier at the store and told her "you have a nice name" (Rose). Or when he understands the humor of,and laughs when he hears Michael Savage demolish idiot callers on his radio show. Those are big deals for a kid on the spectrum, to get social nuances that many do not. When I tell people he has autism they are shocked. He carries on conversations and is an absolute genius with his phone, tablets and building games on X box.
If your kid is diagnosed get them help early. There are great resources that your state Health and Human Services can provide and a Individualized Education Plan from a good county school. An all of the above approach really worked for my kid. Diet, training and chelation if he has trouble with metals in his metabolism. But most important, these kids need love and patience.
There are so many ideas about the causes of ASD. I am still very skeptical of the vaccinations. The hospital stuck my boy with a bunch at once. Kids don't need Hepatitis vaccines on day 2! I still refuse vaccs for him and claim religious grounds with his school. Until doctors can come up with a definitive cause then I'm not ruling things like vaccs out.
Uzi
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