Post: #101

@ Beijong

If she won't put out then give her the boot. I would.

Not sure about how much you like sex and getting off, but I like it an awful lot. I would not be with a girl who won't please me. Sounds like she's been doing this for a little while now and you didn't nip it in the bud right away like you should have, so I would honestly consider her spoiled goods as far as pleasing you in bed is concerned. You need to correct bad behavior ASAP or else it quickly becomes status quo.

There are other girls.

Post: #102

Boot her, she's making up excuses and bullshitting you.

Stalin's right, if you don't put a girl in check or "no" her - that bitch is gonna do what she damn pleases.

Fuck that.

As for OP you really need to tighten up your texting game, even though she's responding pretty well to you.

Also don't be texting bitches late night or view her snaps - radio silence after 9. Let her hamster do the rest and spin trying to figure out what you're up to.

Don't shit where you eat, don't swipe on her friend.

So far you have a good thing going.

P.S. If a bitch says hit her, choke her, slap her, etc. do it.

YOU haven't been doing your job in bed.


These are things you should be guiding her with, doing to her, without her asking.

YOU should be dominating her ass in bed and giving commands, not the other way around.


When she's telling you, "I've never done that before", "I've never had that used before" "That hurt but I liked it" "You left marks/welts on me"

Then you're doing her job and making it memorable.


P.S.S. You should be doing this and introducing toys into the bedroom, like whips, cuffs, binders, eye covers, etc.


This bitch wants you to be her own personal Christian Grey.

Make it happen.

Post: #103

(09-16-2016 04:36 PM)kaotic Wrote:  As for OP you really need to tighten up your texting game, even though she's responding pretty well to you.

Also don't be texting bitches late night or view her snaps - radio silence after 9. Let her hamster do the rest and spin trying to figure out what you're up to.

Don't shit where you eat, don't swipe on her friend.

So far you have a good thing going.

P.S. If a bitch says hit her, choke her, slap her, etc. do it.

YOU haven't been doing your job in bed.


These are things you should be guiding her with, doing to her, without her asking.

YOU should be dominating her ass in bed and giving commands, not the other way around.


When she's telling you, "I've never done that before", "I've never had that used before" "That hurt but I liked it" "You left marks/welts on me"

Then you're doing her job and making it memorable.


P.S.S. You should be doing this and introducing toys into the bedroom, like whips, cuffs, binders, eye covers, etc.


This bitch wants you to be her own personal Christian Grey.

Make it happen.

inspiring. thank you, kaotic. i owe you few rounds of beers.

Post: #104

(09-16-2016 04:36 PM)kaotic Wrote:  P.S. If a bitch says hit her, choke her, slap her, etc. do it.

YOU haven't been doing your job in bed.

A word of caution, a little caveat

I know a girl who said she liked all that stuff, and said she liked pretending to resist but really actually liking it... So after telling a guy all this he came over and was kinda rough the way she said she liked it and she got a bruise on her arm and went around saying she was raaaeeped and was gonna call the cops on him.

Girls who say that stuff aren't always right in the head. Unless you're really sure about what your doing and who with, best to play it safe

Post: #105

So I think I've been doing a great job being aloof and not caring (maybe too good of a job). Now I'm wondering if I'm losing her interest.

So last Thursday night, she was texting a little more than usual, asking questions to keep the conversation going. She was on her period and mentioned she was "lowkey dying right now". I ignore it and I get this:

her:
"Not even going to ask me if I'm okay?"
"You are egocentric arent you?"
"Dont want to blow ur head up even more"
"Come pick me up and buy me boba"

I ignore that stupid command and say "I'm not gonna get boba with you, but you can get some and deliver it to me.

(The rest I attached)

Radio silence from me until she snaps me late Friday night while she's at a club. I snap her the next day. We are each other's #1 best friends on snapchat, which I think is cute, and I'd like to keep it that way.

One more significant thing I noticed is that she cancelled her friend request to me on facebook. She's asked me multiple times before why I haven't accepted it, and I said, "we aren't there yet". She responds "you're ready to sleep with me but you can't be my friend on facebook?"

I know it's girly of me to notice the cancelled friend request, but I'm wondering if it's a hint that she's moving on.

I'm seriously considering cupcaking with her a little through text to possibly see her Tuesday night. It's been 2 weeks since I've fucked her and I want get back to business.

Kaotic, travesty, and others: how would you restart from that text? (attached)

Post: #106

(09-16-2016 03:37 PM)General Stalin Wrote:  You need to correct bad behavior ASAP or else it quickly becomes status quo.

This is so true. It's just a simple sentence but it's golden advice.

I will admit I still have a problem with this, I'm battling my laidback, easy going personality to instantly call out things I don't like that don't matter that much.

With very important things like sex, I will obviously call it out, but I've been guilty of doing it in a lame way (taking too long to say anything and having the wrong frame when saying it), or an over the top way (breaking up over it and then having marathon makeup sex, come to think of it, maybe that's the best way)

I think it is important to do it INSTANTLY, just like training a dog. And of course the frame of how you say it is very important. It can't be you 'asking' her to change, more like x needs to change or else y will happen.
If you can do that without coming like a psycopathic dictator obsessed with power, control and micromanaging unnecessary things, that's perfect. She has to understand what you're saying is reasonable.

A lot of times a girl will do or say something that annoys me, so I tend to think about a response for a couple or even 5-10 minutes, which gives away the fact that something's not right with me. This is pretty beta behaviour I guess.

Then the longer I leave it to mention the problem, the worse the reaction from her will be, and the less likely that behaviour will change. It's probably better to just react badly rather than give her some more measured way of saying the same thing later.

Sometimes I'm pretty easy going, having a good time, drinking or something and something she did or said won't bother me until the next day when I realise. That's annoying as fuck because you can't even do anything by that point. I've tried and again it just will make you look lame.

Post: #107

Imagine if this girl knew there was an entire team of professional womanizers on the internet coaching her fuckbuddy on how to keep her.

Post: #108

(09-19-2016 07:17 PM)General Stalin Wrote:  Imagine if this girl knew there was an entire team of professional womanizers on the internet coaching her fuckbuddy on how to keep her.

I sometimes think of what if she found this thread with screenshots of all her text messages. Scary...

Post: #109

Update: I might be losing momentum with this girl. We ended with great sex last time we met up, and then she had her period week. We had sex again this week, but only went 1 round due to headache. The sex was so so.

Today, we started talking about how too structured she thought I was. I attached how it went down.

There is some truth to what she is saying. I am older and I have other things going on so I do need the structure in my life. This is the way I make the most of my time. But sexually, I am ready to make that bitch my sex slave. I want to prove her wrong.

I get some feeling that she is reconsidering our relationship. I am not ready to let this girl go. How would you respond?

Post: #110

Judging from what she is alluding to, it sounds like over the course of your time seeing this girl who have fallen into the trap of over-gaming, or rather, being too tryhard in "setting fram" and "being alpha." Makes you seem more like a stubborn tightass than a fun-time laid back guy who's down for whatever and goes with the flow. Why don't you want to fuck her hard and slap her around? That shit is fun. She wants to let loose with you sexually but you're not letting her. Why don't you want to go on fun little trips and adventures with her? Do you not enjoy her company aside from just sex? If that is the case then you wouldn't be making this thread about how to keep her around.

You need to lighten up. Have fun, do what you enjoy, and don't get so caught up in being so stern, stoic, predicable, and tame.