Post: #1

I'm not an inherent dark triad/sociopathic type so the worst I've done was cut off all lines of communication when I decided I was finished with her. Total radio silence. I was too lazy to come up with a proper exit strategy so I just deleted her from my existence hoping she would just forget about me and move on.

She ended up tracking me down by driving to my house and demanded an explanation. She went on a tearful, long-winded rant about how she was trying to play it cool & not seem too desperate so she didn't contact me even though she was agonizing on the inside over the fact that I had been ghosting her, blah blah. I basically just told her I was too busy with no further explanation. I ended up banging her once more after that and then officially broke it off with her soon after.

Post: #2

Don't be surprised if she shows up pregnant a few weeks after that. That's how I was caught. Never make that decision again if you can't get along with a women you're trying to leave.

I do still have a girl from Oklahoma find my number somehow every few years. Supposedly I took her virginity. If you find an answer that gets them to leave you alone, go ahead and share it.

Post: #3

I've only ghosted on two girls ever, one because she was a fucking psycho stalker, and the other was only after a single lay where I wasn't sure what the hell was going on down there with her, and I didn't know what to say.

I don't feel particularly bad fading out after a one night thing...girls have done it to me with extreme prejudice several times over the past year so they should know the score. If I've seen her a couple times and I don't see things working out for longer for whatever reason, in the past I've just sent them a polite text letting them know that I don't feel it's gonna work. I've never had a girl get particularly miffed after that one; usually just something like "okay, thank you for letting me know." In a situation like that the fact young women generally have lotta options can work in your favor.

If I've been seeing her for longer than that I think she deserves the in-person breakup. And yeah, there may be some tears and ranting...letting down girls who aren't loons but one just doesn't feel are good enough is almost as hard for me as it might be for them...though I think the fact that they're able to feel those emotions but also keep them in check without going full psycho bitch may be a sign they could be solid LTR material for someone. But I sleep easier at night knowing I can take the bad with the good.

They probably don't realize it in the heat of their emotions, but any Western woman who guys here could tolerate long enough to develop a more-than-booty-call relationship with lasting many months, with the kind of notch counts some dudes have, I'd say is a fairly decent indication that they're already close to top tier.

Post: #4

A soft next won't get crazy bitches off of you. It doesn't matter how old they are, or, if they are currently with another guy. In my experience when I'm tired of a girl I give her some BS about my feelings not being there, or something equally as vague. When I want a break but want to hit in the future, I soft next them, and say some BS about "finding myself", "life's struggles" "finding my purpose",etc.
You have to ask yourself if you are completely ready to leave her for good.

Post: #5

(08-15-2016 12:37 PM)Rushjones Wrote:  A soft next won't get crazy bitches off of you. It doesn't matter how old they are, or, if they are currently with another guy. In my experience when I'm tired of a girl I give her some BS about my feelings not being there, or something equally as vague. When I want a break but want to hit in the future, I soft next them, and say some BS about "finding myself", "life's struggles" "finding my purpose",etc.
You have to ask yourself if you are completely ready to leave her for good.

Yeah, this is why if you're looking for a regular thing (more in the direction I'm going these days) rather than racking up notches, it's a good idea to screen for the crazy real real early.

For my part I'd never go through the personal effects of a girl without her knowledge, but if I'm in her bathroom and there are medication bottles lying around in the open, I might very well glance at those. I have a bit of knowledge such that I can take a guess what a particular thing might be for.

One of the nice things about online sites like OKC that give the user a lot of space to blah blah about themselves (and many girls there do) is that the looney tunes always give themselves away through their verbage. It's like many of them are actually proud of it.

Post: #6

I'm actually pretty bad with this. I can't really recall a time where I just sat down with a chick and broke up with her off the jump. My strategy or lack of is just ghosting. I've done this to 100's of girls in my life. Once I'm done with them I just block them or just ignore their messages. They get the hint after a couple weeks of me not responding to them.

I was dealing with this chick in Connecticut just a couple weeks ago. 100% cooperation and she always used to buy me stuff even though I probably make 4x what she makes. Burberry ties, dinners, she even offered me to go on trips with her. The truth is I couldn't stand her though. She just talked way too much and she is older then me so I kind of felt the vibe like she was trying to tell me what to do sometimes.

Last time I dealt with her I told her basically I had other chicks and didn't have that much time. She tried to guilt trip me into spending more time with her and she was crying hard. Very disgusting site for me as I have no feeling for her at all. After that I just ignored eveything. She still txts me every couple of days though which is so strange to me. Very clingy girl, I'm actually surprised she hasn't tried pulling up on my hotel yet.

Can't wait to get out of Connecticut, only three more weeks. The girls here are crazy.

Post: #7

I broke up with one girl so damn many times, and after a blowout or argument she would call me and apologize for the arguments and i'd end up taking her back. Probably my fault for being so forgiving, but eh no regrets, the pussy was good.

I threw a girl's purse and clothes out the front door into the bushes

Cheated on one multiple times and she found out about it after going thru my phone

Had my parents tell her she wasn't welcome at their place anymore

Got into a fight w a dog's owner after I kicked his dog that ate my food on a park bench, and the girl I was with got pissed

Got into arguments with a girl in front of her friends, and one on a vacation at a friend's house, and got into an argument with one girl's family for their poor hospitality

And they still wanted more, you just have to maintain FRAME

Post: #8

After thinking about this a bit, I wanted to amend my post.

I've never treated women badly for fun on some Dark Triad shit, or as Rick James would say..."See I never did things just to do them, like it's something to do.... yeah I grinded my feet in his couch!"

Any time i've ever treated a woman "badly" or whatever the worst scenario was between us, it was typically as retribution or atonement for where she disrespected me and I felt she needed to be checked. Whether it was a verbal altercation that she started or it was an instance of her wasting my time and not prioritizing our relationship, in every case where I treated a girlfriend badly it was with righteousness I was letting her know her behavior wasn't tolerated. And that is the key reason that they come back for more after being treated badly, because most of the time they know I was in the right and they were wrong for what they did as well. And if they aren't able to even realize that, they aren't relationship material anyway.

I'd never hit or get physical with a woman, but women also innately know when they've done something wrong, and most of them subconsciously feel they should be given boundaries or punished when they act up, and they will respect you more for putting them in their place instead of being the guy who lets them walk all over you. Bottom line, when you're right about something don't back down, hold firm on your frame and make them bend to your will and righteousness and don't let them twist you around like a pretzel and try and manipulate your feelings. When you know you are right about something Stand like a mighty oak in a hurricane, and when the storm passes, typically she will come back to you with smiles and rainbows knowing she was wrong and whatever you did you did out of love and respect for what is right and true.