Post: #2901

Today I did my first Day Game approaches. Results are as followed:

Went off to the Town Center, which is just a big gigantic outdoor mall.
Started at Urban Outfitters, nothing to work with after 30 minutes, headed to the bookstore, no talent at all for the hour I Was there, but I did practice and opener that I planned on using, which I eventually got to use later.

1. After nothing going on, headed to get a smoothie, the guy in front of me asked me about the chips I had in my hand and asked if they were any good. (talk about elderly chat! also found out that he made his own nutrition bars, cool!)

I noticed a chick behind me, a runner type lady, saw her GPS watch and opened with some elderly chat of my own, realized quickly that she was married (not my jam) so I just paid for my drink and sat down and read over some notes.
(Tried indirect game)

2. Went walking around for a bit, it was hot from the rain, so headed to this burger place and sat in the shade under the overhang. An employee sat down next me (she was on break), and I just decided to just speak to her randomly, opened with "So do you guys get free shakes here, because this place is legit" after that, made some small chit chat, found out she was 17 (18 in 5 weeks and going to college but no, just no) knew I had to cut that off quickly, chat ended awkwardly. But again, not trying to go to prison.
(tried direct game)

3. Headed back to the book store to try again. Picked up a copy of a random romance novel and scanned the bookstore for any gameable lady. Eventually found one in the humor section, went up to her and asked "excuse me, I have a kind of weird question to ask, are you familiar with romance novels?" she said no, and had no idea what kind of person would actually read them but she kind of laughed at the question.

I explained to her that I was looking for a romance novel as a gift for a friend, and that we had a running birthday contest to which my friend and I, tried to buy each other the most over the top romance novel possible as we had once saw 50 shades of grey and couldn't imagine anything worse. I told her that he bought me some incredibly cheesy books that I felt I couldn't compete with, and was just looking for her general advice.

Eventually this led me to asking her what kinds of books she's usually into, since she is obviously not into Romance novels. Talked for 30 minutes on random things, she mentioned she had a boyfriend and her being a devout christian, and talked about her church so I 86'd the whole number thing, but made mental notes on the conversation as it went really well.

(indirect)
5. After parting ways with her, I searched for a journal to actually write my notes down, and noticed a girl browsing the clearance bin. I approached the bin, and opened with "do you think I could get away with this Pink Journal?" (a pink journal I had found in the clearance bin) She said yes but, she didnt like the color pink as it gave her headaches as did most colors, we had some light chit chat but she seemed in a hurry, and for the 10 seconds my mind blanked she quickly bounced. So that was that.
(indirect)

I made my way back to the romance section to drop off the romance book, and while scanning for more ladies, I decided to chat with this guy who had a PSG shirt, and talked soccer with him for a bit. I figured I could work on my small talk, I'm learning that being able to chat with any random stranger is good practice.
(direct)

6. I was getting hungry, so I purchased my items and headed to get some other things I needed from Target, nothing popping off there so I headed to this local bar in my neighborhood that I've been frequenting.

There, I grabbed a 'Rowdy' Root Beer and started chatting with the Bartender there who remembered me from the previous week when I had went on a Tinder date there. I add this as number 6 as its one of my goals to become a regular at the bar help with social circle/status etc.
(social game? lol)

7. Went to the grocery store, no suitable ladies in the 20 minutes I was there. I got home and decided to head out to a coffee shop to read a book and to scan to see if I could make some more approaches before the end of the day.

As soon as I walk in, I noticed a girl sitting by herself with a laptop and book out scanning the shop every 30 seconds or so(literally something straight out of the day game guide)

I sat down and read my book for about 30 minutes, then decided to approach her. I walked straight up to her, bent down and asked "how the hell are you able to study with all this loud music?" (there was a DJ playing some electric stuff, a lot of local coffee shops around here do that at night, I'm sure everywhere else too.)

She laughed and explained herself, I asked her what she was studying, then made mention that while I enjoy reading books, that this book was on another level and needlessly complicated, saw her and thought I would come over and say hi. We spent about 30 minutes talking about travel and general things, I made sure to mentally note what parts of GALNUC I had hit. I mentioned that I needed to peace out as I was supposed to meet up with friends later at another venue, got her number, and parted ways.
(direct/indirect)

1/6 and looking forward to having another 'game' day next week.

Post: #2902

(07-31-2016 12:17 AM)mostlykelp Wrote:  1/6 and looking forward to having another 'game' day next week.

Daygame is a numbers game and it sounds like you need to be more respectful of your own time. If a girl disqualifies herself to you you need to eject.

In the 30 minutes you spent talking to a Christian girl with a boyfriend you could have gotten three more numbers.

Post: #2903

Just got a number at the gym, though I guess technically she approached me. I showed up shortly after the gym opened to do some climbing, the only other climber nearby was a mid-late 20's (10-15 years younger than me) HB7 with a nice thick booty in black leggings doing some bouldering. I tried to say hello as I passed her but she had her earbuds in. I put on my harness and climbed routes for a while, then switched to bouldering near her. She'd make eye contact every time I would walk by to get some water or whatever, but quickly look away or back at her phone. She did a bouldering problem then moved to another section nearby, I did the problem she had been working on and didn't get it done. When I looked up she was nearby watching me and smiling, remarking how it's a tough problem. She gave me a bunch of tips and we chatted a bit for 30 min or so. I refrained from asking her name or any significant personal details, she was the first to ask me what I did for work. I got her to laugh a few times and volunteer some personal info about her job and living situation. I finally got the problem solved and she gave me a big smile and clapped. I had to leave so packed up, she walked by and said it was nice meeting me, I said me too and asked if she would like to get coffee sometime and she said yes and I got her number. If I didn't have my kids at home I would have gone for the instadate which would have been a better idea I think.

If the wall had been crowded I would have had a harder time asking for her number, it's a pretty tight knit community and I guess I'm worried about being labeled as the creepy guy hitting on the hot climbing chicks. That's a mindset I'm slowly getting away from and focusing instead on being relaxed and confident.

Post: #2904

Last couple days in DC, went on a 14hr approach blitz. Already ahve several girls I'm seeing here and several others I could be if I had time so was more concerned with pushing past my comfort limits and sticking points. Zero screening, zero concern for IOI's so a much lower rate of return than I generally get but that wasn't the point today. Notes from phone of most notable interactions and a couple not so notable, edited, but excuse any typos -

Out around 12PM
2 set 1 cute 1 chubby - walked by crossing st opposite way, eye contact turned - "excuse me thought you were very attractive and had to say hi."
'Thank you!' bg smile
"What's your name." Friend kept walking... "whoa, don't let your friend run off, introduce me." We shake hands. "Scottish?"
Irish.
Last day in town before going to PA. Heading back to hostel. Smiled but kept trying to walk off, talked for a couple minutes, and let them go - enjoy the Liberty Bell.

Starbucks 2 girls - "Starbucks isn't serving Gelato now are they?"
Friend gave me the evil eye, cutie ' No got over there.'
"OK I won't tell the barista you guys are taking their table."
Chuckle, OK thanks.
Looked too young and disinterested- eject.

German 2 set 1 cute 1 bangable -"worth going in?" (museum).
It's OK.
"Yea I'm prob not that interested, just want AC." Chat a min, they were about to be leaving for NYC, eject

Middle Eastern girl, walking opposite front of air and space, people in between, couldn't stop. Thought a sec then turned chased her down -
"excuse me, I passed you back there and thought you were very attractive, and I'd be kicking myself if I didn't stop and say hi."
Smiles but keeps walking - thank you, I have a boyfriend.
"OK take it easy"

Absolute STUNNER with mom, dad and bro. Blonde, perfect D cup tits about to fall out of her dress, I ached to approach but balked because of the family. Started to chase, then stopped and watched to see if they split off or what, no luck. Does anyone have any approach stories they can share about approaching a girl with her entire family there? Direct, or even indirect? Something to get me to nut up and go in next time The regret did motivate me to work harder and I broke some new ground a little later

Botanical garden ME girl with parents. Waited till she fell behind a few steps, "You're very pretty, I like the jumper."
Oh thank you.
"Man, they need to get some AC in here." I know it's very hot.
Looked nervous, dad turned, I walked off

Blonde girl with family, waited till she walked into next room - "you're very pretty" and as I said this I realized also waaaay too young... Deer in headlights look and no comment, I walked on

Very pretty light skinned ME girl at opp corner in rainstorm with umbrella. Started walking, rain subsided, ran several blocks, caught breath and her under overpass" I dont usually hang out under bridges but saw at intersection back there and thought you were very attractive and wanted to say hi."
Oh thank you! Big smile.
" So hi! What are you up to?
" Trying to catch metro, I think it xxx that's closest?
"Oh I don't know, are you a tourist too?"
Newlywed, lived in DC, hubby just moved up north not too far from me and she was following in a few weeks. Wouldn't give number, took mine " are you gonna text?" With chiding look.
Maybe
"know what they say about maybe..."

Very pretty Asian sitting on pillar at top of long museum steps. Walked up slowly, turned to look at view, walked to doors. Relaxed lower voice to match her energy "They built these incredible doors and then they forgot to put a handle on them" She laughs, I sit on opposite pillar, sip water, pull out phone. Reopen a minute later, talk for 15+ minutes. After 5 mins or so I show her some pics on my phone and go sit next to her. Good vibe, she is all smiles and engaged. Invite for tea, declines, wants to relax and watch view. Coming to my city soon, got her number -
"let me give you my number and you can text when you're around,"
"oh ok"
as I pull out my phone and ask her for spelling- assume sale on her number, she has already said 'yes' - will text her in a week and a half.

I have audio of this one I could upload as well after I edit a few things out.

Owe this one to the recent thread about a (terrible) approach attempt on the beach, but gave me the idea - Meh 35ish blonde in Starbucks. I had oatmeal, coffee
" hey can you watch these for me and make sure nobody roofies them?"
Takes out ear buds, 'sorry?'
Repeat, then "You're not going to roofie them are you?"
Laughs, no.
"OK you look trustworthy..." Give her a wary look and go to bathroom. Come out "thanks, you didn't have to fight any roofiers did you?"
Laughs, no.
Other customers staring openly, she wasn't that hot or that into it, eject.

Mom and daughter approach, a first for me!! They walked by me in Starbucks patio. Chugged my oatmeal and ran a block to catch them, mom was taking a picture, walked up
"good taste in drinks" raised glass "get in there mom"
OK thanks, my dad was in the navy". Took a few photos, then some exaggerated photography poses, walked over
" So is this your daughter?"
It is, xxx (her name)
"I saw you guys back there and thought she was absolutely gorgeous and had to come say hi. And I mean, if this is what I have to look forward to in 20 years I better get to know her right?"(Stole this last line from Honest Signalz)
Haha thank you, daughter looked a bit disinterested/weirded out
"Where have you guys been? Besides Starbucks obviously" cheersed the daughter. Talked for a few minutes. They were headed out of town the next day. Didn't go for number,no point and already pushed myself enough already on that one.

Intern season over for many, approached another one at bus stop, she was leaving tomorrow.

Tango in park, asked several girls passing by to dance, shut down with a smile

5 guys burger - direct approach on intimidating gorgeous mulatto girl with a weave, amazing tits popping out, dressed up, with friend who was being a bit of a cock block. From NYC. Talk for a minute then
"Stay in touch and hit the strip sometime?"
No thank you, I don't really go out that much.
"OK have a good night"
Things to work on here - My body language was too open, not enough, or really any teasing, bit nervous on this one and I think it showed, interaction to short to get over it and build a connection.

Mom and daughter set #2 - ran up behind, then walked past/alongside
"hey"
hello, still walking.
"Is this your daughter "
it is
"I thought she was very attractive and wanted to say hi"
oh we're good. Thank you.
"OK have a good night"


Bought some fireball - sugar and catch a a buzz to switch into night game mode. Girl smoking outside Chinese restaurant. "You're very attractive, are you friendly?" Luxembourg, no IOIs but good basic convo. Asked why I was drinking, probably thought I was hammered. Boyfriend inside kinda vibe, didn't go for #.

Went into bar - started talking to a guy from SF in town for conference, prob gay but cool enough, and very interesting job AND he had a cute girl in group. We talked for a bit about music and work. He got up, girl took his place. Married, talked for 30 mins anyway about winter sports, real estate prices vs income, etc. Cool chick, wasn't happening though.

Back on street, pretty buzzed. 2 blacks girls 1 doing stealth sneak impression. "Damn girl that's quite a sneak you got there!" Thanks "you guys are fucking sexy what's your names" xxx, yyy.
"Nice to meet you I'm Gorgiass. Where you coming from"
Barcelona (bar) you?
Blah blah "where's the party?"
No party, we're going home. Work tomorrow.
"Ah shit. This is my turn. Good luck with work"

Drunk asshole game on the street for a couple passersby. Into a bar for another shot, 6'4" tranny dancing in club, dude was talking about getting fooled by one into a HJ once...DC, I tell ya... Wandered over to Dupont, closed out 18th Lounge, danced with a black girl whose man came email and took her away and a couple Persian hottest who were leaving together.

Several firsts tonight and much progress towards making approaching second nature.

Yesterday - I did get another number from a Chinese girl going direct, and got blown off with a direct approach attempt on an oncoming hottie. My mistake there was hesitating until she was almost passed me, and not smiling as I said "hold up". She turned, but quickly turned away, and because she was past me at that point it was easy to get away.

Post: #2905

Upscale city exburb

Warm up - 3 girls in coffee shop - "those cupcakes any good?"
You haven't had them? They're sooooo good.
"Not yet, I've been resisting. Someone was telling me they were on TV. It seems like every cupcake shop in America has been on a TV show."
Talk a minute, guy walks over, they eject, out door

Cute brunette , wavy hair, tan, jogging clothes on street outside coffee shop, walking towards me staring at her phone - "Hey hold up - I thought you very attractive wanted to say hi."
Smiles- thank you.
"What are you up to today?"
Going home, playing Pokemon.
"they let you out of work this early?"
Not working - Talk about game "this is actually the first time I've seen it in action. So what kind of Pokemon are in XXX?" then "Set on going this way? I was going to go get a smoothie..."
I have a bf, sorry, but thank you!

Sitting Asian girl "You're very pretty are you friendly?"
Oh ummmm.....
"Random I know. Sometimes?"
Yea...sometimes I guess
"Aren't we all sometimes." Friend comes up, gives evil eye, she looks pretty young...
"You guys doing some shopping?"
Yeah...
Age concerns - eject

Couple others didn't log at time and then I started to drive out of town. I see a very cute, natural looking girl with curly brown hair, seems to be very much my type. See a parking spot ahead, pull over, chase her down a couple blocks, slow up 50 ft behind her to catch breath, "Excuse me, I saw you back there and thought you were absolutely gorgeous and had to say hi." Looks early 20s
Oh thank you - smiles but looks a little wary
"Where are you headed?"
Walk couple blocks and talk. A local, moving soon. I had roof access to a nearby building, take her up there. She can climb a ladder like a champ - dig it. Invite her for tour of my city on her travels in a few weeks, get her number, tell her will text in a week when I'm back down.

French (Paris) runner by botanical gardens. Pretty sure it was the same girl I saw minutes before but lost her trying to find parking, must have come back around the block. Cross street while she waits for signal the other way - "excuse me, you're very attractive, wanted to say hi."
Not very interested, meeting parents, young, she ejects

Direct after crossing intersection together - Looked good from behind /side but was a little older, mid 30s and definitely liked tanning. Receptive to opener, laughed, open body language, was going into work. Thin and attractive enough but vapid valley-girl inflections. Didn't bother to go for number

Three black girls walking single file down narrow path- Two chubby, one n middle toned and darker skinned with a glittery G string poking up above her tight black pants. Turn off main street and speed up, walk alongside "Hey. Damn you're gorgeous, what's your name?"
Smiles - Xxx.
"I'm Gorgiass. You guys together?"
Yea they're my sisters
"Well introduce me! Hey sisters, I'm Gorgiass" Shake hands, they laugh.
"Where you coming from? That coffee shop around the corner?"
Yea, what'e the name of it? Oh yea....YYY
" Oh that's where I was headed before I saw you. Well first I saw the lock here and them I saw you."
Got number, called immediately so she'd have it, she called back minutes later 'Is this Gorgiass?'
"Yea"
OK, I'm going to save your number
"Sounds good, I'll talk to you later."

Ginger girl with hippie backpack, smiled as we passed, turned and went direct. Class trip, eject

Gorgeous, curvy black girl with grandma (?) Hesitated 30 secs, then nutted up ran across street between traffic , they turned into woman's shoe store. Don't hesitate.

In my car entering GPS and a young, thicker but very hot Persian girl with friend- Got out, they stopped halfway up street. "How are the cupcakes?"
Giggles - good.
"You are absolutely gorgeous, what's your name?"
Pause, more giggles - Thank you but it's OK.
This was a miscalibration, giggles were telling me that she was uncomfortable even talking about cupcakes, I shouldn't have upped it to direct. I also overstated her SMV in her eyes, even though she was pretty hot she was also young and probably sheltered, was with a chubby meh friend, and didn't know it yet. Telling a girl who thinks she's average that I think she's gorgeous comes across as insincere. Gotta break a few eggs though.


That's it for that area, and probably approaches for me for a little while

Post: #2906

One approach today on the metro.

Standing on the platform, I see a highly attractive woman wearing a colorful dress. I make sure to get on the same car but she is sitting some seats away from me. The next stop, a guy gets on and sits next to her. A lost opportunity...

Or so I thought. The guy gets off the train leaving the seat next to her vacant.

At the next stop I act as if I just boarded the train and sit next to her (her back was towards me so she did not see me riding in the same train car as her).

She's playing some game on her phone. I start to read a book.

After one minute, I turn to her and ask

Me: is that a good game?
Her: yeah, it's (name of game)
Me: I don't know about it. It seems fun. I never really played it.
Her: yeah, it's fun. What are you reading?

At this point she was interested and the conversation was flowing freely. She this was the train. I made sure to ask

Me: hey, what stop do you get off at?
Her: (mentions a stop that is past my stop.)

Knowing I have more time, I continue talking.

Two stops before mine, I ask

Me: You seem cool, we should meet for a drink.
Her: well I don't know
Me: we'll let me take your number

She tells me her number.

I intentionally misdial the last number to see if she corrected me. If she did, then it is a good chance that she was interested in seeing me again. She does correct me. Good.

I continue talking until I get off of my stop.

My stop comes up. We say good bye and I get off.

It was an unlikely approach, but it turned out well given the situation.

Post: #2907

(08-03-2016 07:05 PM)therealpoder Wrote:  I intentionally misdial the last number to see if she corrected me. If she did, then it is a good chance that she was interested in seeing me again. She does correct me.

Fantastic idea for early verification!

Post: #2908

That is actually a good thing to do. I'm going to implement that.

As for me, my approach count has gone down this year, as I've mainly been focusing on money and for some reason I can't really explain, the talent just isn't as interesting. I don't know if that's me or if it really is a drop off this season.

Approached a 19 year old college student yesterday though. I was a bit rusty (I hadn't actually done an approach prior to that since late June), so the jitters always come back. The most important thing for me to keep my head cool was to focus only on moving forward and repeating some phrases in the moment. It works.

The approach was pretty basic and I didn't use any advanced things. Just trying to get back in the game. The mindset prior to the approach was what mattered more, and moving forward while keeping your mind focused on the singular goal, while using the power of self-talk as per Gorilla Mindset chatters away any doubts in the moment (which almost always lead to a non-approach).

Try it sometime, especially if you're new or rusty.

Post: #2909

This was a long time ago, when I was in my late 20's, but I just recalled it. I was much braver then, overseas, than I'd ever been in the U.S. Holds true today in the U.S. It is just easier abroad.

I was living and working in Istanbul, Turkey. Been there a few weeks. Already knew some Turkish from studying phrasebooks and audio.

Noticed a good-looking girl, about 20, tight jeans, perfect shape, long curly brunette hair, on the bus to the center district.
I followed her a few minutes after we got off the bus.
Without hesitation, not knowing anything about pick-up artistry, I caught up to her and opened by asking, in broken Turkish, where Taksim Square was (we were already there, and I knew this, of course).
She then smiled and gestured enthusiastically that it was all around us. I asked her if she spoke English. She spoke some. I used my Berlitz phrasebook constantly. Within, maybe 2 min. of opening, I asked her if she wanted to go to a tea shop; immediately she agreed. No hestitation.
She showed me all of the tourist areas of Istanbul for the next 4 hours!
When parting, I asked her on a date , to see a movie. We agreed on a spot.
She gave me her number.
The next week, she stood me up. Didn't show. After a month I had a Turkish friend call her and translate, since she spoke little English. Turns out she was engaged. Fiancé . Taken.
I don't know what the situation is like now in Turkey. Back then it was not that hard to get a date. Just a date.

Post: #2910

OKay long time. Main approaches so far.
) Friends wedding mid july. Number closed one fb closed another. Didnt go anywhere besides some texts. No regrets dont want it coming back to him, theyre conservative ppl.
) Scared off an air hostess yesterday at the bus stop. Weird, could have sworn she was peeking, and I was indirect.
) Few indirects with inane rambles that went too long at the train station last week. i.e. the fucking train showed up before I finished the spiel. Lesson learnt move faster at train station.
) House parties with friends of friends but there's a lot of white guys who are 'fun' around so it's hard to top that here. No excuses, gotta pick up the clues.

Approachings been slow, busy with work, but finished up a course and developed an idea for work (gotta get that top-dog rating).

So lets go!

Post: #2911

Oh yeah forgot to talk about wins.
*disclosure - have never gotten very far with cold approaches and since I'm able to do it now on demand, with some anxiety, using it as a tool for self growth has less utility. Im drifiting towards stopping given the incredibly low ROI*.

Out with friends on a saturday evening. Coming out of a bakery saw a 6 girl, sweet, unremarkable, looking lost. Went over and opened with an obsv about her purse. Ended up walking with her 5 mins towards where my friends were, number closed. Later on she messaged to ask me to come meet her friends who were amazed some guy had approached her on the streets.LOL. Took her out a week or two later and stopped just short that day (she was adamant) but got far. Great vibe, shes cute, but that was the last I saw of her. Guess too aggressive.

Same night I had met her Id gone out to a house party with friends. Met another girl there whos a yoga trainer/enthusiast. Typical cocky/funny, dancing, isolation. She suddenly got shy and hid away, but messaged her a few days later, got her out the day after the previous girl (in above para). Didn't go far (poor logistics on my part) and last I saw of her too, must be doing something wrong on the dates.

Anyway, hope that story helps those of you still plugging away at it. Ive approached well over 400 since starting after my breakup ~ Oct 2015. Low ROI, but feels incredible to create something from nothing. Screening would likely improve the ROI but fuck it life's short take your shots at the unlikelies ^^

Post: #2912

(08-01-2016 02:17 AM)Gorgiass Wrote:  Last couple days in DC, went on a 14hr approach blitz. Already ahve several girls I'm seeing here and several others I could be if I had time so was more concerned with pushing past my comfort limits and sticking points. Zero screening, zero concern for IOI's so a much lower rate of return than I generally get but that wasn't the point today. Notes from phone of most notable interactions and a couple not so notable, edited, but excuse any typos -

Out around 12PM
2 set 1 cute 1 chubby - walked by crossing st opposite way, eye contact turned - "excuse me thought you were very attractive and had to say hi."
'Thank you!' bg smile
"What's your name." Friend kept walking... "whoa, don't let your friend run off, introduce me." We shake hands. "Scottish?"
Irish.
Last day in town before going to PA. Heading back to hostel. Smiled but kept trying to walk off, talked for a couple minutes, and let them go - enjoy the Liberty Bell.

Starbucks 2 girls - "Starbucks isn't serving Gelato now are they?"
Friend gave me the evil eye, cutie ' No got over there.'
"OK I won't tell the barista you guys are taking their table."
Chuckle, OK thanks.
Looked too young and disinterested- eject.

German 2 set 1 cute 1 bangable -"worth going in?" (museum).
It's OK.
"Yea I'm prob not that interested, just want AC." Chat a min, they were about to be leaving for NYC, eject

Middle Eastern girl, walking opposite front of air and space, people in between, couldn't stop. Thought a sec then turned chased her down -
"excuse me, I passed you back there and thought you were very attractive, and I'd be kicking myself if I didn't stop and say hi."
Smiles but keeps walking - thank you, I have a boyfriend.
"OK take it easy"

Absolute STUNNER with mom, dad and bro. Blonde, perfect D cup tits about to fall out of her dress, I ached to approach but balked because of the family. Started to chase, then stopped and watched to see if they split off or what, no luck. Does anyone have any approach stories they can share about approaching a girl with her entire family there? Direct, or even indirect? Something to get me to nut up and go in next time The regret did motivate me to work harder and I broke some new ground a little later

Botanical garden ME girl with parents. Waited till she fell behind a few steps, "You're very pretty, I like the jumper."
Oh thank you.
"Man, they need to get some AC in here." I know it's very hot.
Looked nervous, dad turned, I walked off

Blonde girl with family, waited till she walked into next room - "you're very pretty" and as I said this I realized also waaaay too young... Deer in headlights look and no comment, I walked on

Very pretty light skinned ME girl at opp corner in rainstorm with umbrella. Started walking, rain subsided, ran several blocks, caught breath and her under overpass" I dont usually hang out under bridges but saw at intersection back there and thought you were very attractive and wanted to say hi."
Oh thank you! Big smile.
" So hi! What are you up to?
" Trying to catch metro, I think it xxx that's closest?
"Oh I don't know, are you a tourist too?"
Newlywed, lived in DC, hubby just moved up north not too far from me and she was following in a few weeks. Wouldn't give number, took mine " are you gonna text?" With chiding look.
Maybe
"know what they say about maybe..."

Very pretty Asian sitting on pillar at top of long museum steps. Walked up slowly, turned to look at view, walked to doors. Relaxed lower voice to match her energy "They built these incredible doors and then they forgot to put a handle on them" She laughs, I sit on opposite pillar, sip water, pull out phone. Reopen a minute later, talk for 15+ minutes. After 5 mins or so I show her some pics on my phone and go sit next to her. Good vibe, she is all smiles and engaged. Invite for tea, declines, wants to relax and watch view. Coming to my city soon, got her number -
"let me give you my number and you can text when you're around,"
"oh ok"
as I pull out my phone and ask her for spelling- assume sale on her number, she has already said 'yes' - will text her in a week and a half.

I have audio of this one I could upload as well after I edit a few things out.

Owe this one to the recent thread about a (terrible) approach attempt on the beach, but gave me the idea - Meh 35ish blonde in Starbucks. I had oatmeal, coffee
" hey can you watch these for me and make sure nobody roofies them?"
Takes out ear buds, 'sorry?'
Repeat, then "You're not going to roofie them are you?"
Laughs, no.
"OK you look trustworthy..." Give her a wary look and go to bathroom. Come out "thanks, you didn't have to fight any roofiers did you?"
Laughs, no.
Other customers staring openly, she wasn't that hot or that into it, eject.

Mom and daughter approach, a first for me!! They walked by me in Starbucks patio. Chugged my oatmeal and ran a block to catch them, mom was taking a picture, walked up
"good taste in drinks" raised glass "get in there mom"
OK thanks, my dad was in the navy". Took a few photos, then some exaggerated photography poses, walked over
" So is this your daughter?"
It is, xxx (her name)
"I saw you guys back there and thought she was absolutely gorgeous and had to come say hi. And I mean, if this is what I have to look forward to in 20 years I better get to know her right?"(Stole this last line from Honest Signalz)
Haha thank you, daughter looked a bit disinterested/weirded out
"Where have you guys been? Besides Starbucks obviously" cheersed the daughter. Talked for a few minutes. They were headed out of town the next day. Didn't go for number,no point and already pushed myself enough already on that one.

Intern season over for many, approached another one at bus stop, she was leaving tomorrow.

Tango in park, asked several girls passing by to dance, shut down with a smile

5 guys burger - direct approach on intimidating gorgeous mulatto girl with a weave, amazing tits popping out, dressed up, with friend who was being a bit of a cock block. From NYC. Talk for a minute then
"Stay in touch and hit the strip sometime?"
No thank you, I don't really go out that much.
"OK have a good night"
Things to work on here - My body language was too open, not enough, or really any teasing, bit nervous on this one and I think it showed, interaction to short to get over it and build a connection.

Mom and daughter set #2 - ran up behind, then walked past/alongside
"hey"
hello, still walking.
"Is this your daughter "
it is
"I thought she was very attractive and wanted to say hi"
oh we're good. Thank you.
"OK have a good night"


Bought some fireball - sugar and catch a a buzz to switch into night game mode. Girl smoking outside Chinese restaurant. "You're very attractive, are you friendly?" Luxembourg, no IOIs but good basic convo. Asked why I was drinking, probably thought I was hammered. Boyfriend inside kinda vibe, didn't go for #.

Went into bar - started talking to a guy from SF in town for conference, prob gay but cool enough, and very interesting job AND he had a cute girl in group. We talked for a bit about music and work. He got up, girl took his place. Married, talked for 30 mins anyway about winter sports, real estate prices vs income, etc. Cool chick, wasn't happening though.

Back on street, pretty buzzed. 2 blacks girls 1 doing stealth sneak impression. "Damn girl that's quite a sneak you got there!" Thanks "you guys are fucking sexy what's your names" xxx, yyy.
"Nice to meet you I'm Gorgiass. Where you coming from"
Barcelona (bar) you?
Blah blah "where's the party?"
No party, we're going home. Work tomorrow.
"Ah shit. This is my turn. Good luck with work"

Drunk asshole game on the street for a couple passersby. Into a bar for another shot, 6'4" tranny dancing in club, dude was talking about getting fooled by one into a HJ once...DC, I tell ya... Wandered over to Dupont, closed out 18th Lounge, danced with a black girl whose man came email and took her away and a couple Persian hottest who were leaving together.

Several firsts tonight and much progress towards making approaching second nature.

Yesterday - I did get another number from a Chinese girl going direct, and got blown off with a direct approach attempt on an oncoming hottie. My mistake there was hesitating until she was almost passed me, and not smiling as I said "hold up". She turned, but quickly turned away, and because she was past me at that point it was easy to get away.

Enteraining. zfg

Post: #2913

Beach today:
Comfortably secluded beach, uncrowded, handful of people every 50 yards or so. Warm. Idyllic.
Situated myself about 30 feet behind, and diagonally to the side of, two women, 20ish.

One was about a 7 or an 8, and the other was rather chunky. The hot one stood up and started posing as her friend took photos of her with cellphone. I laid out my towel and started putting on sunblock while watching them, not really ogling.
MP3 player in my ears, I lit an expensive cigarette. The hot one seemed to enjoy having her perfect tan butt admired- they have radar for this, eyes in back of their heads. They know.

The chunky one was rather aloof. Like I wasn't there. I discreetly checked them out behind sunglasses, making no obvious movements or facial expressions indicating interest. Didn't want to scare the cat.

I wasn't sure what to do with the other woman there. I mean, how do you a approach a pair when there is only one good-looking one?

I had planned to make a comment about the water temperature or the hot sand as I walked a trajectory beside their towels to the shore ,as I passed them towards the water, without necessarily stopping.

I lay on my back for awhile and they left on a stroll down the beach. On my way down to the water to bodysurf, I noticed that popular fantasy book on the hot woman's towel , the one made into a very famous series of movies, rated G.

When they get back , I am in the water still, so I decided to emerge right in line with them. So, I walked, dripping and hairy, with tan, muscular chest; towards them but to the side , facing them diagonally. About 20 feet away, the hot one looks up directly at me for 3 seconds; I am opening my mouth to speak, and she looks away, slightly flippantly, and nervously, as if denying she was sunglass eye -contacting me , definitely checking me out.
So, I felt that this "invitation" to approach closed too rapidly.
Also, I hesitate to approach an unequal pair of women, and I am a lot older than they.

OK, so about 20 min. later, the chunky one walks to the shore to take a dip. Right then , the hot one picks up her book and looks back at me, while adjusting the book sleeve, making movement with her hand while turning her head sideways and behind herself, to look at me. Really fast, but intentional.

I began to smile and almost blurted out "Is that really a good book?" ,or something like that. But, something made me hesitate. Within less than 3 min. the chunky one returned from the water nearby, barely having dipped her feet.

I went in the water again, after eavesdropping on the hot one talking about her boyfriend and how his beard scratches her, something like that. I think I overheard her saying the word "boyfriend" three times.
On my return up from the shore, after energetically bodysurfing and displaying my sun-browned, well -formed, athletic back; the hot one wouldn't look up from her famous book at all, like the first time, but started talking to her friend, giving no body language encouragement. As well I was waiting for her to get in the water alone, so I could use a bodysurfing -water temp opener. She didn't ever get in the water.

What could I have done? What would you do in that situation?

Post: #2914

HalfCentury, the rules exist to prevent common mistakes.
3 second rule is a guideline that applies; there is no need to wait for an ideal time, just do it. Of course, in your case, you might have felt awkward to stay there after getting blown out (most likely outcome no matter what). I find the longer you think/dally, the worse it gets.

Also if you're asking advice about one particular girl, you're already in trouble. Unless you know, you're on the verge of marrying/committing to her.

Also don't pay so much attention to signalling and whether she's looking over, nice to have if you're on the fence but if you want it, go for it regardless.

I've opened exact similar pairs and the hot girls light up. Never goes anywhere (= but chalk it up to the numbers game.

Finally a nice physique is good to have, so is awareness of the book, having a nice opener etc. but knowing the path and walking the path are different things. You still lose out to the dumbass who will go and tell her she looks hot with no qualms.

Better luck next time!

Post: #2915

Thanks Sardines. I appreciate it. Especially the 3 -second rule reminder. I hesitated too long.

How did I get "blown out"? Define what you mean.

I think I hesitated because of the other girl there. I know the hot one would have responded if I had isolated. Or perhaps she just liked the eye game, being admired. They were American girls. Maybe inlanders or from another state. Couldn't tell if they were local. Usually out -of- state girls are friendlier, often more intelligent.

It wasn't important because a few months ago, I chatted up a European surfer (nearly perfect 10) girl standing alone on that very spot, same beach, very easily...until her boyfriend arrived. She looked me straight in the eye the entire time, almost disarmingly, and was charming. Helps that I had just ridden a wave in.

Normally, girls in 20-something pairs don't acknowledge the considerably older guy. It usually is when they are alone that they respond -humanely

Post: #2916

Approach on the weekend:

Was in a hotel lobby near a theme park with some friends. I was hungry and angry at myself for doing what I consider coasting. Although I know it boils down to time management so one doesn't bite off more than they chew as they say in sales:

"Don't walk away while there is money on the table."

I could rephrase that to:

"Don't resort to wanking when there are lizards out there with wet punanies and needs"

Anyway, I was in this lobby and I noticed a nice looking brown skinned lizard with a friendly face. Her skin tone was the colour of ripe plantain, almost orange.

I said to her:

"Excuse me, are you Haitian?"

She said to me:

"No, I'm Colombiana."

I smiled and started to speak to her in my stunted Spanish. She smiled in delight at my attempts and we spoke for a bit on my travels.

I was wearing a darth vader t-shirt and she commented on it, saying she loved Star Wars. I replied that Star Wars is nice but I absolutely love Marvel.

I told her that "Mi pelicula favourita es la guerra de civil con Capitan de Estados Unidos"

We conversed for a while and I dropped my ace on her which was that I am an Englishman. She got even more surprised and we spoke for a bit. She dropped that she sometimes watches certain films with her boyfriend. This used to stump me but after a while, one can navigate around these.

I told her that I now reside in the United States. She was on duty so she had to attend to some people in the lobby querying for some details.

Although I didn't get any contact details or a lay, I felt good. I hadn't done random day game in a while.

Post: #2917

Date tonight from an old approach ditched early for work and my place this week is only a few blocks from the main night strip so I went for a walk and tried to pick up a few stragglers. Little bit of night-streetgame -

Hot brunette in Birkenstocks coming out of club - "Do you know how many clubs I've been kicked out of for wearing Birkenstocks? And don't even get me started on dresses." Some banter then "You know you actually look like my elementary school crush, Jen."
'Oh yea, where is Jen?'
"Don't know haven't seen her in years."
She was eating it up but was slowly walking towards her group and sidled up next to her BF - 'My challenge to you is to look up Jen on FB and start talking to her again!'

yea...that'll happen...

I will be using that crush line again as an opener actually, and if she's a bit cunty as women in this town often are at night going to follow it up with "Yeah, she was...one of... the hottest girls in my class. It was a small school." and smirk

Was coming up on a slightly chubby chick and she turned into 7/11. Followed her in, she wasn't having me but I bought a sandwich. Resumed walking and saw another one eating something standing by the street (9/10 waiting for an Uber - my usual stock opener has been "What's a girl gotta do to catch an Uber in this town?") but tonight

"You are so sexy I'd even give you the last bite of my 7/11 turkey sandwich"
'Oh really? Only 7/11 though? I'm kind of insulted'
"If it was Boars Head I might give you half a bite"
'I can't even comprehend what you're saying right now' or something like that
"You've got a chili dog in your hand, I know it's a little overwhelming"
Teased her about using big words for a drunk girl, English major, banter, then
"Waiting for an Uber?"
'Yea, I think he's here' pulls out her phone
"That's a creepy looking guy, you don't want to get in the car with him. You should come home with me."
Laughs as her phone rings, he's across the street.

Terrible couple hours of PM daygame yesterday, listening to the audio today my tonality and inflections were all wrong. Had just gotten laid twice and my heart wasn't in it. Tonality makes all the difference. Got a number and coffee date from an 18yo Island girl this PM which I wrote about in the Freshman girls thread earlier though so feeling good.

Post: #2918

I'm definitely going through a growth period with my interactions with random women I encounter. Twice last week I opened girls and then when they responded positively I couldn't figure out a way to escalate.

In once case the chick was very attractive, HB8-8.5 and a lot younger than me, but when I asked her how she was doing as we both left the bank she turned squarely to me and asked me the same back with solid eye contact. It caught me by surprise so I just said I was good and kept walking.

Second case I was working in my front yard with my shirt off and a woman walks by on the sidewalk, maybe 5.5-6 at best, probably close to my age. It's hot and I've got the hose to water the garden.

Me: Hi
Her: Hi
Me: You look hot
Her: (slows down) Yeah I am, it's hot today
Me: Want me to hose you down?
Her: Uhhhh ok yeah!
Me: (turn the hose sprayer down to mist and point it at her so she can get in the mist)
Her: Thanks!
Me: Were you down at the music festival?
Her: No, but I walked through it, there's a lot going on
Me: Yeah I was there yesterday
<slight pause>
Her: (shoves out her hand) I'm Marla
Me: (shakes hand) RWS. Where are you headed now?
Her: To my friends house.
Me: Ok.

At this point I let it die, I wasn't that into her and I think she could tell. The way she was acting I probably could have invited her in for a beer and tried to escalate but I didn't really want to.

At the farmer's market the day before I was with my sister and BIL and my kids, we saw this giant dog at one of the stands and stopped to pet the dog. I thought I recognized the woman at the stand, and after we left told my BIL I'm pretty sure that's one of my Tinder matches. We walk around a bit then go back to show my kids the dog. I chat with the woman a bit, find out we live near each other, she tells me her name, very friendly and relaxed. We leave and go chill in the shade nearby, I pull out my phone to check and sure enough she's a match I never messaged. I go back by myself to talk to her and straight up say "So, we're tinder matches." She seemed a bit embarrassed, said "I've not messaged anybody back on there", I think she figured I had messaged her and she never replied. I stayed and talked with her for a few minutes, she asked a lot of personal questions, about my kids, where I work, travel experiences. Some customers came up so I said goodbye. She's a 6-6.5 so I'm not really turned on by her but she seems interesting and adventurous, like someone that would be fun to hang out with. I messaged her on Tinder the next day and gave her my number if she wanted to get a drink.

I also chatted socially with a ton of other people over the weekend. I'm very comfortable opening and talking, but am really struggling with escalating and showing my intent. Fuck these nice guy tendencies are tough to get rid of after so many damn years of being ingrained. I'm having a lot of fun with it and learning.

Post: #2919

No approach, rather asking people how they would go about the approach... if at all.

I was in a Uni cafe, rather quiet there, minding my own business, then, a very attractive, petite student in a short, tartan skirt sat down with her food... 4 armchairs away from. She went back and forth to the bathroom and to get a fork, I was seeking out eye-contact, a head turning my way but to no avail. She seemed completely oblivious to my presence.

What distinguished her, was her clothing: dark yellow top, red tartan short skirt and dark green pantyhose. I was mesmerised! It was a very tasteful combination and I wanted here, right there. Had she looked my way, when I looked at her, I'd made my way... but had impression she was telling everyone "I'm finishing my dissertation, don't bother me!"

But, as they say, only one way to find out for sure...

Post: #2920

(08-15-2016 01:12 PM)ksbms Wrote:  No approach, rather asking people how they would go about the approach... if at all.

I was in a Uni cafe, rather quiet there, minding my own business, then, a very attractive, petite student in a short, tartan skirt sat down with her food... 4 armchairs away from. She went back and forth to the bathroom and to get a fork, I was seeking out eye-contact, a head turning my way but to no avail. She seemed completely oblivious to my presence.

What distinguished her, was her clothing: dark yellow top, red tartan short skirt and dark green pantyhose. I was mesmerised! It was a very tasteful combination and I wanted here, right there. Had she looked my way, when I looked at her, I'd made my way... but had impression she was telling everyone "I'm finishing my dissertation, don't bother me!"

But, as they say, only one way to find out for sure...

Walk up to her. Say you wanted to come over because you liked her clothes. Stick out your hand, say your name. It's that easy.

Post: #2921

(08-15-2016 01:12 PM)ksbms Wrote:  No approach, rather asking people how they would go about the approach... if at all.

"How's the xxx (in this case food) here?" is always reliable and safe. I say that in a coffee shop even if I'm holding a cup of coffee in my hand, doesn't matter.

In this case you could go with something like "I love your outfit, reminds me of the Jamaican flag" and depending on her reaction follow up with "I mean that in a good way" if she looks neutral or negative - safe but boring, or "but I see you don't have dreadlocks so maybe I'm getting my countries mixed up" if she smiles or responds positively.

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Bunch more approaches the last few days. A few highlights
Girl standing in front of the S-tology building "Thinking about joining? Don't do it, it'a bad decision. Tom Cruise is going to be leaving anyway". Banter a bit, ask for name when I lag, continue banter, got a number, been texting.

Cute girl next to street performers - "What'd I miss on the show?" banter about street performers for a minute, she mentions driving a truck - statement of intent "You don't look like the kind of girl who'd be driving a truck, that's kinda hot". Talk for 10 minutes, got a number.

Punky girl in Starbucks charging phone "I like your outfit" Thanks "What are you up to?" In town for a concert, talk music for a while, met up later and fooled around.

Very pretty redhead in heels walking fast, chased down "Excuse me, I saw you back there, you are gorgeous! And you can run in heels, that's a talent" talk for a minute, no number, had a BF but she was beaming

A bunch more direct and a few numbers from it, but I seem to get a lower response rate by text from direct approach. Oh well, on the street there's only so much you can come up with in a split second to approach an oncoming girl. Format for oncoming lately - "Hold up (hand nearest her up to lower chest level in "stop" signal, stepping towards but not in front of her). You are gorgeous/attractive/very pretty/cute and I couldn't let you walk by without saying hi." As I've said before I think it's less important to say how attractive I think she is than how attractive she thinks she is. If she's more dressed up I'll go with gorgeous, generic dress is attractive, and so on. Comes across more sincere if you can get it.

One more mother/daughter approach in an art museum. Not gonna lie, I was nervous as fuck on this one and it showed badly, was trying to talk myself out of it even as I forced myself to walk up. Tough enough for me to do on a street setting, let alone a closed set like a quiet museum. The more I do the more I realize that I'll probably never get a bang out of a mom/daughter approach but if you can force yourself to choke through a set like this, or whatever is pushing your current comfort level, the rest of the day's approaches will seem so easy you won't sweat them at all.

Post: #2922

(08-08-2016 11:01 PM)Half Century Wrote:  Thanks Sardines. I appreciate it. Especially the 3 -second rule reminder. I hesitated too long.

Yep, 3sec, 5 sec, just do it as someone once said. Maybe the fatter girl thinks you're cool who knows?

Quote:Normally, girls in 20-something pairs don't acknowledge the considerably older guy.

Many of us older guys are getting way more attention than ever from college girls. I can't remember the last time I got a bitchy blowout from a pair.

Post: #2923

(08-15-2016 10:33 PM)corsega Wrote:  

(08-15-2016 01:12 PM)ksbms Wrote:  No approach, rather asking people how they would go about the approach... if at all.

I was in a Uni cafe, rather quiet there, minding my own business, then, a very attractive, petite student in a short, tartan skirt sat down with her food... 4 armchairs away from. She went back and forth to the bathroom and to get a fork, I was seeking out eye-contact, a head turning my way but to no avail. She seemed completely oblivious to my presence.

What distinguished her, was her clothing: dark yellow top, red tartan short skirt and dark green pantyhose. I was mesmerised! It was a very tasteful combination and I wanted here, right there. Had she looked my way, when I looked at her, I'd made my way... but had impression she was telling everyone "I'm finishing my dissertation, don't bother me!"

But, as they say, only one way to find out for sure...

Walk up to her. Say you wanted to come over because you liked her clothes. Stick out your hand, say your name. It's that easy.

That's the right answer. Although don't say clothes, say you liked her style. Clothes are impersonal, style is something that girl thinks about at least every 20 minutes.

Post: #2924

Background and the approach:

Me and my mate did "daygame" and approached two chicks in the street yesterday. I ended up having a flirty conversation with one of them while he occupied the other one. Said she wasn't used to guys walking up like that during the day and was about to give me my number (to go for drinks) but then changed her mind and admitted she had a boyfriend, even though they apparently were in really really bad times right now. She agreed to go out for drinks at first, before she told me about her bf.
She said it was weird how a hot guy my age could be single (she's 3 years older) and she asked a few times if we do this all the time and shit, kind of doubting if I had any bf-material (I guess). I'm pleased with the way I got some touching going on and looked sharp and confident as fuck into her eyes during the approach. She laughed and smiled during our conversation and was obviously somehwat attracted.

So I said she could take my number instead and she could send me a text whenever and she was ok with that. So I typed in my number on her phone and called mine, so I got hers now aswell. Sent her a message afterwards, telling her to store my number with care.

My text-question
I got this routine I'm doing when I have to take numbers at night (usually don't take any now) but I'm not really used to take number at "daygame", and I don't know...

She's got a boyfriend and I know that if I can just get her do drinks with me it's gonna be all good. Any cool ideas on what to text next?
I can't be arsed to just sit around and wait for her to get done with her boyfriend.

Post: #2925

(08-17-2016 05:54 PM)DonnyGately Wrote:  

(08-08-2016 11:01 PM)Half Century Wrote:  Thanks Sardines. I appreciate it. Especially the 3 -second rule reminder. I hesitated too long.

Yep, 3sec, 5 sec, just do it as someone once said. Maybe the fatter girl thinks you're cool who knows?

Quote:Normally, girls in 20-something pairs don't acknowledge the considerably older guy.

Many of us older guys are getting way more attention than ever from college girls. I can't remember the last time I got a bitchy blowout from a pair.

Yep, Donny , maybe the fatter girl would have thought I was cool...Yes, and true, many of us older guys are now getting attention from 20-somethings- they display built-in respect, and perhaps are secretly chuckling when we appear obvious, in good-natured fashion, adding it to their ego boost for the day; in that way possibly loosening them up.