Post: #1

Yo guys.

Long story short, been dating this girl for about 5 months, everything was going great. Recently, we had to spend some time apart for work reasons and she started acting kinda weird and distant (classic).

I took the bait and asked her what the deal was, and she said that she isn't sure we have enough in common, and that she's trying to figure things out, but that she wants to see me when she gets back to our city.

Question is do I just next her or just go cold on her til she gets back or just ignore her?

I know this shouldn't matter, but she's crazy hot, and I think that is clouding my judgment here. Thanks guys.

Post: #2

Next.

"trying to figure things out" = she's already losing interest or lost it. May have banged another dude, but not necessarily.

Telling you she wants to see you when she gets back is her way of stringing you along to not bang other chicks.

She's unlikely to be girlfriend worthy at this point having expressed what she did. After you don't respond for some time it will eat at her and she'll try much harder to meet up. At that point you'll have to decide if you want to keep banging her on the side.

For now though, move on.

Post: #3

(06-14-2016 11:26 PM)GlobalMan Wrote:  Next.

"trying to figure things out" = she's already losing interest or lost it. May have banged another dude, but not necessarily.

You're right. It's useless to try and apply logic when nothing is objectively wrong in the relationship. thanks man

Post: #4

I am glad to see that you know where your game might be lacking and came here for help. You were able to recognize that by you putting her on a pedestal is clouding your judgement. You say she is hot but there are tons of other hot girls out there who would love to be with you if you game them right.

Typical signs she's already moved on and just holding onto you as a safety net.
1. Time apart in a different city where you can't catch her fucking with other guys.
2. She is not sure you have enough in common after 5 months and trying to figure things out is her way of saying she guys don't have chemistry anymore and she found someone else already and is gonna have you have a backup in case things go wrong.
3. She wants to see you when she gets back is her way of turning you into an orbiter and to check if you have moved on away from her already.

I highly suggest just going cold on her and then when she gets back to the city again if you feel like it meet up with her so you can get a better read on how much she has changed since you last saw her. But I highly warn you not to make her your girlfriend and she has already quit that position and has shown she is unqualified to return.

Bang her if you feel like but nothing more than a Friends with Benefits at this point.

It's summer time now so I suggest you change your mindset to having an Abundance Mentality as there will be hot girls everywhere for you to have fun with. You can date them later in the Fall/Winter.

And I hope the city your girl went to was not Hollywood because the amount of girls I have met that easily cheat on their boyfriend's back home is depressing. I feel bad for all the boyfriends out there who put in all the hard work to do nice things for their girlfriend and take all the bs she gives only to have her come out here to visit and cheat on them like it's harmless.

If you need something to motivate you to move on from her try watching this video and understand what they are saying.

Post: #5

You went beta.
Some other guy got her vagina to tingle.
She realized it while she was away. Either she met some guy that was better out of town, or she met someone in town.

1) Change her name in your phone to do not contact, and archive her texts

2) Text her back that "you *never* really felt an emotional connection", and then pull your SIM card for the rest of the night. Credit to whoever coined that.

3) Learn some game and immediately start going out.

WIA

Post: #6

Soon she's gonna be telling you
"I need some time",
"let's just be friends" & finally
"I met this guy"...

You'll been dating for 5months,
That's a pretty decent run in the modern day.

But it's over now, welcome back to jungle homie.
You never truly left.

This is how women break-up with you in the modern day.
An ambiguous, drawn out, sexless & taxing process.

Post: #7

That "never really felt an emotional connection line" is pure gold.

Post: #8

One tip, which I'm sure I'll mention again sometime...

"Text" a notepad app on your phone instead of texting the girl. A lot of times your anxiety is to just look at your phone, hope for something, hope for something to respond to, etc. If you open your phone and want to text something but know you shouldn't text, just type the text you were going to send into the notepad app. Plus your brain is tricked into thinking you did something productive (toward getting laid).

I still do this. I have a google keep widget on my phone with a note called "Texts not sent"...you'd be surprised how quickly it fills up with stupid useless shit.

Post: #9

That's a really good idea. I was lucky enough to type them out and just sit on em for a while. Noticing later how pathetic some of them were later.

For the op, one of the best ways to avoid that is by having a couple on the side who are hitting you up. That way when she hits you with that BS you can easily let it roll off your shoulder to her confusement.