(03-09-2016 07:59 AM)shy Wrote: Unreal!
I just almost got into a fight with 2 Migrant men. I was studying outside on the University Campus, because the weather is nice and it's not too cold. I shared Company with 2 female fellow students who are decent looking, but since they are in the same Major as me, I don't think it's worth the potential Trouble. Anyway, so I have been seing a small Groups of Young arab men roaming the campus. I didn't think much of it since, my University is really mixed up with all Kinds of races. People from all over the world are studying here.
As we are sitting outside on a bench and enjoying the sun, I see 2 "refugees" Walking towards us. They sit down on a nother bench which is about 10 feet away from us. They are staring at me and the Girls. To be honest, I don't know what they are even doing here, since they don't want to study or learn, I suppose they just roam the Campus, to check out all the Young Girls, or maybe out of borrdom. The fuckers start to throw Little pebbles and branches at me and the Girls. Anytime we look over to them in disbelief, they look away and giggle, only to start throwing stuff again, when we try to concentrate on our studies. The Girls were shocked and wanted to go inside, but I didn't want to. I put down my book, walked over to them and asked "was soll der scheiss?"(what's this shit about?) They didn't answer me and started looking at me with Aggression in their eyes. I knew they were only looking for Trouble, but I just couldn't believe it. I asked:"Why are you throwing shit at us? WTF?" The smaller one replied without looking at me:"Go back to your whore Girls, asshole." I pushed him of the bench without a warning and he fell backwards on the ground. The taller one stood up and tried to punsh me and he hit my shoulder. I slit several feet backwards to gain some distance. The taller one came after me and attempted some kicks. Unfortunately he landed one of them in my stomach and I stumbled backwards. Then I heard a screaming, which came from the Girls and two proffessors, which apparently saw the Scene. Motherfuckers ran away. Now as I am reflecting it, I got pretty lucky. They would have seriously fucked me up, if I didn't get any help. I don't engage in any martial arts Training so I don't know how to fight. I never got into a fight before and I was shaking afterwards, even though nothing happend. I will start to take classes in Jiu-Jitsu next week.
What is this shit? How can they roam the fucking streets and waste their time like that, annoying People? What's going on in their minds? They must clearly know, that stuff like this will have consequences, so I don't see any rationality in their behaviour. What makes me even more mad, was that the proffessors, didn't want to call the Police or any officials. "Let's make no big deal out of it."
Fucked up Germany, I will get out of here as soon as I got my degree. Fuck this place.
You were lucky, you learned several valuable lessons without suffering the kind of physical damage one might usually expect having handled the situation so poorly:
1. These guys were being mildly annoying, but at the point you took action, fundamentally harmless. You, by your behaviour, escalated this shit to physical conflict.
2. You are particularly ill-equiped for conflict, never having learned to fight. This is a classic modern-youth mistake. You are so divorced from reality that you actually seriously thought that you could swagger up to a couple of lowlifes, having no skills of your own, and be aggressive without facing consequences. What the hell did you think was going to happen? You're lucky you didn't get stomped into the mud.
3. You handed them a get out of jail free card by initiating physical violence, and doing so so ineffectually that they were able to get up and make you look stupid. Honestly, anywhere other than at a liberal arts university, you'd be lucky to still be breathing.
I'm not trying to be unpleasant to you, but it is important that you realise just how ineffective and delusional you were. This is the first step towards unfucking yourself:
1. Accept that you are weak, and that CURRENTLY you are mentally and physically incapable of harming another human male, however harmless that male himself may be. Right now you are absolutely, demonstrably, at the bottom of the food chain. If you don't accept that fact, you will continue to delude yourself and will get yourself hurt more seriously in the future. If you do accept that fact, then you can get to work on changing it.
2. Forget BJJ, it has its merits but honestly it does not develop the same fighting mentality as striking arts do, and you don't want to have to be on the floor or have your arms tied up for you to be effective. Go immediately to a fight gym that does boxing, Muai Thai, or kickboxing. You can transition to MMA later if you like, but for now, nothing with any cuddling or active resting on another man's chest for you. Spend 6 months training 3 times per week to fight. make sure you have 20 rounds minimum sparring experience under your belt in 6 months time. After that, if you like, do BJJ, wrestling, or any other excellent grappling/cuddling based discipline. As good as these sports are, they do not build the same kind of attitude and resilience that striking arts do. You have to learn to take punishment, to be hurt and demoralised, as well as tired, and still fire back. You do not have to develop this quality in a grappling art, no matter what some may claim. Real world violence is about your ability to sustain damage and hand out significant trauma in return.
3. Eat and lift, if you don't already. Doesn't matter if you get a little soft (not chubby) for now, you need to become a deterrent threat in your own right. You're also not trying to be the next great boxing prodigy, just be bigger, meaner, and skilled enough to fuck up someone's day.
4. These guys chose you, out of all the students on campus, because you looked like prey to them. You need to realise that fact. Predators leave other predators alone unless they have no choice, this is a fundamental reality of human interaction. 'Real recognises real'.
5. Don't ever start a fight you aren't prepared to finish. Pushing people off benches is for pussies and signals to guys who'll fight that you don't have the stones. Be polite, but be dangerous. Had you known how to fight, you could have politely asked them to stop their behaviour, and if they got smart, you could have given them calm, focused advice about where that attitude might lead them.
6. If you are serious, and would like to take my advice, then you are welcome to contact me over PM and I will try to help you in more detail.