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Wife Hunting Abroad
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(08-25-2015 06:57 AM)Kamaki4 Wrote: Travesty, I agree with you when it comes to Vietnamese; some of the hottest girls in Asia. Heads up though if you are looking at marriage; Vietnamese are generally very sharp and you will run into a lot of girls who will run game on you if they sense you are looking for a wife.
(08-22-2015 08:27 PM)Dr. Howard Wrote: let me also throw out there a non-abroad suggestion of the rural south for wife hunting, 2nd tier cities and 3rd tier towns with an online pipeline...ie online dating with searches centered on middle of nowhere or small town zip codes. The quality is there and if you move them out of lets say, hazard county and they've never been across state lines you may be able isolate them enough to reduce some attention whoring.
(08-25-2015 11:31 AM)MrLemon Wrote: I found my wife in Iowa. Old fashioned girl, grew up with old fashioned parents. Married when she was 25 and I was 34. Not a career girl (when we were dating she was so embarrassed to be working as a receptionist...funny because it was the sexiest thing about her.) Married for many years, with kids. She would not work unless we were desperate, in which case I have no doubt she'd do whatever it took to keep the kids fed and clothed.
So I would suggest: considering making the effort to find an old-fashioned American girl. I know I know...you guys hate western women, for good reason, BUT...
Remember that there are millions upon millions of midwestern and southern girls (and Western cowgirls, and Maine coastal girls, etc etc) still into marriage. They are everywhere. You just don't see them on the media because, guess what, they aren't the attention whores who go for media.
Old fashioned American girls are still smarter, sexier, and have bigger breasts than viet, thai, and columbians. Plus when you have kids, they will be MUCH easier to deal with because you'll have the same cultural roots. When you have kids it's a massive mind-bending burden to deal with multiple cultures. Grandma and Grandpa WILL be heavily involved, and you will be humbly thankful to have them to take the kids for a weekend so you can relax.
Think about it. US is HUGE and has LOTS of submissive sweet girls. Just avoid the coasts and you will find them in abundance. Test carefully to make sure no feminist beliefs (reject instantly if feminism detected).
(08-25-2015 12:08 PM)PUA_Rachacha Wrote:(08-25-2015 11:31 AM)MrLemon Wrote: I found my wife in Iowa. Old fashioned girl, grew up with old fashioned parents. Married when she was 25 and I was 34. Not a career girl (when we were dating she was so embarrassed to be working as a receptionist...funny because it was the sexiest thing about her.) Married for many years, with kids. She would not work unless we were desperate, in which case I have no doubt she'd do whatever it took to keep the kids fed and clothed.
So I would suggest: considering making the effort to find an old-fashioned American girl. I know I know...you guys hate western women, for good reason, BUT...
Remember that there are millions upon millions of midwestern and southern girls (and Western cowgirls, and Maine coastal girls, etc etc) still into marriage. They are everywhere. You just don't see them on the media because, guess what, they aren't the attention whores who go for media.
Old fashioned American girls are still smarter, sexier, and have bigger breasts than viet, thai, and columbians. Plus when you have kids, they will be MUCH easier to deal with because you'll have the same cultural roots. When you have kids it's a massive mind-bending burden to deal with multiple cultures. Grandma and Grandpa WILL be heavily involved, and you will be humbly thankful to have them to take the kids for a weekend so you can relax.
Think about it. US is HUGE and has LOTS of submissive sweet girls. Just avoid the coasts and you will find them in abundance. Test carefully to make sure no feminist beliefs (reject instantly if feminism detected).
Thanks Mr. Lemon for the insightful post.
I'm in a similar boat: 36 years old, about to marry a 27-year-old. She's from EE originally, came here when she was 10, so effectively American. Grew up in Midwest so really nice and down-to-earth, but has strong beliefs about family, religion and her place therein that she brought with her from the Old World. She's already planning on "retiring" from her shitty-ass job when the first kid comes. Has taken up cooking with full conviction and has now become a much better cook than me (I was better in the beginning, but now I'm only allowed to help out, but not actually plan or cook the meal).
The one issue for American guys is that our culture still does not accept fully a large age gap between a man and woman. I would think most families would frown on their young daughter dating a man in his early 30s, and that it would take a lot to win them over. I didn't have that problem as my girl's parents are completely used to that age gap.
Also, a lot of young American girls may be intimidated by an older man. There's clearly expert advice how to overcome that, especially from Giovonny, but it's an uphill battle.
Nonetheless, there are a lot of beautiful, young American women out there who just want a home-and-hearth and will overlook age if you can provide it.
Quote:Lo and behold a week later I ran into this girl while hanging with friends, asked her on a date.
Quote:My wife is surrounded by bitter divorced women who are looking for very sneaky ways to poison her feelings against men. She resists it and I fight it, but she may yet slip and fall.
(08-23-2015 11:18 AM)Travesty Wrote: I have a knife in my gut that pains me to pass up on places like UA, Russia, Belarus, Baltics....
I think from everything I have read on here though over the years realistically as far as Europe is concerned, it would be significantly more difficult to find a proper girl in these countries and either live in that country or bring her back and have it work out compared to Poland, Romania, and Serbia. Maybe I am wrong?
I'd like to visit all these countries for at least a week scouting trip in the next 2-3 years. I need to cut somewhere.
How are Hungarian girls as far as wife material? I have read Budapest threads, never remember too much about their LTR potential.
(08-25-2015 12:49 PM)262 Wrote: ^ A polite counterpoint to Mr. Lemon:
1) Most guys on this site (never mind outside it) aren't location independent (yet, or ever). So most guys will likely be employed in big cities, due to increasing urbanization in the US (never mind the world). That presents logistical problems if you want to date girls outside said cities. Not impossible to overcome, but quite an investment. You'd essentially run long game on every single prospect.
2) Like the best city girls, the best country girls don't need to do online dating. In your End Game post ( /thread-5661-p...l#pid86547 ), you mention that you met your wife through your social circle - which is powerful anywhere, but obviously requires you to become a local:
Quote:Lo and behold a week later I ran into this girl while hanging with friends, asked her on a date.
3) Assuming a lack of location independence, and thus employment in a big city, bringing prospects back to said city risks increasing the probability of a feminist infection. Said girls are more likely to eventually be infected than foreign girls due to cultural similarities. Note that the forum already advises against bringing foreign girls to the US for said reason. Water takes the shape of the container it fills.
4) If a guy achieves location independence, I'd argue his best bet is to find a country whose culture supports his goals, rather than hope his wife won't be infected. In your End Game post ( /thread-5661-p...l#pid86547 ), you touch on this:
Quote:My wife is surrounded by bitter divorced women who are looking for very sneaky ways to poison her feelings against men. She resists it and I fight it, but she may yet slip and fall.
5) Most guys are attracted to girls that are exotic to them (and vice versa). So chances are they'll find Viet, Thai, Colombian, Brazilian, Polish, or Ukrainian girls more attractive than their American counterparts, depending on their tastes and how they look. Polish girls generally have bigger breasts than American girls, if that's your thing, for instance.
6) I'd argue culture is more about values than geography. I'd rather a wife come from a foreign culture that emphasizes traditional families than one where we happened to entertain ourselves similarly.
7) The US is huge, but the world is bigger.
(08-23-2015 06:58 AM)iknowexactly Wrote: I like this suggestion of Mexico, I'm embarrassed to admit I haven't been there but have been to EE and SEA.
The mentality of Filipinos is definitely more alien than Mexicans as far as I can tell from living in USA and meeting many Mexicans, and coming up on a year here and dealing with Filipinos. I like Filipinos but I have no fucking idea what is going through their minds. It is absolutely opaque to me. I do not feel comfortable marrying someone when I don't know who she is.
VP, great wonderfully plotted out suggestions for getting out of The Cube. I have found part-time life coaching over Skype works great, and even a small amount of money makes a difference when your income is low. I leveraged a skill and license I already had and am making money and not in The Cube.
Living over seas even gives you MORE credibility with a certain market as they can see you are a person who can manage to have an interesting life.
I also agree with VP that most dating site girls have some type of problem, either extreme poverty, personality problems or health problems. It might not be anti-sociality, the ruthless party-girl type, it could also be depression, some level of Aspergers, I even met one girl who was clearly schizophrenic.
VPs idea of social network first and spending at least 6 months seems smart. I could not interpret Filipino social cues for at least that long. When you ask a question and they giggle, it means "no fucking way"; it's how they say "no."
Plus keeping her there ( in Mexico) would be much less deprivation, the flights and jet lag are an order of magnitude less stressful than going to Asia. I've read some of the Mexico threads, but are there any suggestions for locations to hunt with a decent lifestyle for the OP ( who is 30) and sneak some in for me (50s)?
Mexico's proximity may be favorable for several reasons:
-- while you're waiting for her papers to come through so she can come to the US, you can visit her easier
-- when you're married and she's in the USA, she can visit home more easily and cheaply so she won't get homesick
-- there are more resources in USA to make Mexicans comfortable even while they are in the USA....
Another off-the wall type idea is there are some cities in former East Germany that are coming up now and still have cheap housing. I've forgotten where but you can branch out there , go to Poland etc .
(08-23-2015 03:16 PM)Travesty Wrote: ^ I will probably only end up trying the Phillipines if no other country sticks out to me before then. I think one of the ones I listed will though without a doubt.
(08-26-2015 04:09 AM)Travesty Wrote: Well looks like Mexico and Vietnam are getting the strongest reviews.
I agree there are some good Southern and Midwestern girls.
Here is the problem with them though. Many many get fat in the late 20s / early 30s. Many. Then, they get REALLY fat. Boner Apocolypse Levels.
If I still in the U.S. I was thinking of a city to move to longterm as a home base that would have the best off chance of finding a good chick.
I am guessing the best U.S. cities for finding a long term chick (sweet not whore 7 in early-mid 20s):
- Chicago
- Minneapolis
- Atlanta
- Texas cities
I know with the Canada fiasco - but for real are Montreal chicks any good for being mothers or are they all quasi french floozies? Montreal seems like an interesting city.
(08-26-2015 04:09 AM)Travesty Wrote: I am guessing the best U.S. cities for finding a long term chick (sweet not whore 7 in early-mid 20s):
- Chicago
- Minneapolis
- Atlanta
- Texas cities
I know with the Canada fiasco - but for real are Montreal chicks any good for being mothers or are they all quasi french floozies? Montreal seems like an interesting city.
(08-23-2015 06:58 AM)iknowexactly Wrote: I like this suggestion of Mexico, I'm embarrassed to admit I haven't been there but have been to EE and SEA.
The mentality of Filipinos is definitely more alien than Mexicans as far as I can tell from living in USA and meeting many Mexicans, and coming up on a year here and dealing with Filipinos. I like Filipinos but I have no fucking idea what is going through their minds. It is absolutely opaque to me. I do not feel comfortable marrying someone when I don't know who she is.
(08-26-2015 01:11 AM)Merenguero Wrote: Age trolling is the new race trolling and we really need to ease up on it.
(08-29-2015 09:34 AM)CleanSlate Wrote: Concur with Brosemite and 262. Be careful with Texas chicks. While they are considerable better, friendlier, more approachable than DC or Toronto, they aren't necessarily better for LTRs than anywhere else:
1. They get fat easily from too much mexican food and the car culture
2. They do try to act masculine out of Texan pride
3. They can drink anyone under the table
4. They ride the carousel hard especially before getting married or soon after a divorce... or worse, DURING marriage.
They can be fun and friendly, but marriage material? Caveat emptor.
(08-29-2015 05:11 PM)Travesty Wrote: ^ For all the guys touting Colorado I lived there for 5 years in Boulder and Denver (the two best cities for chicks in the state).
As an example I went to a university Catholic church for a year or so. Out of 100 girls there was maybe 2 or 3 legit 7's and they had attitudes and game playing knowing they are the hottest chicks.
Denver is even worse.
For example in SoCal you can possibly find an a few 8's that act like 7's and 7's that act like 6's. There are so many here girls can act a point below. That said, there are so many male options they can easily give you a shot then move on quickly. California divorce rate is 70%+.
Look up Colorado on in search: Don't Bang Colorado by Hencredible Casanova... Int'l Playboy had another post.
I lived there 5 years and have chosen to write nothing on the state LOL.
Beyond there being a severe lack of 7's the girls dress and style plain as fuck. Also beyond this! Yes there aren't as many fatties it is more like many girls is 5-15lbs overweight instead of 20-40lbs which counts as obese in these studies.
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