Post: #1

I've recently met a girl in a club who gave me her number when she was drunk. When I texted her the next day, she was very responsive and warm, interested in what I was doing, etc. However, at the end of one message, she added:

"Do you remember my name?"

I wasn't sure what to reply to that, but I decided to take the agree & amplify route and say, "of course, (her friend's name)". Then the rest of the message and finally "Just kidding, of course I remember you (her name)".

Looking back, the request wasn't anything unreasonable or bitchy, imo. I should have probably just confirmed that I knew her name and continued gaming. Or maybe she just stopped responding for some other reason. But I think my reaction was bad because she wasn't playing hard-to-get or making some unreasonable demand from me in the first place.

Post: #2

This is a shit test. She's trying to see how many girls you're meeting and if you can remember their names, not sure how you wouldn't if you have them put their name and number in your phone, but what do I know.

Back to your situation, I definitely wouldn't have used her friend's name, nor would I have pulled back and said just kidding. If you're going to joke around, don't be afraid to mess with her a little.

I'd have just said, "Ya, you're Jeff right"

Most girls respond with, "Lol no"

At this point you're usually good to move on, texting her name or just forgetting she asked you.

Post: #3

It is a shit test. You had the right idea but that's not really how you agree and amplify (I think "agree and absurdify" is really a more accurate name for it). The point of that strategy is to agree and then up the ante with something ridiculous, like CJ's example of using a dude's name. Then you don't need to say you're joking, which looks weak, because it's obvious that you are.

These days I'm really trying to avoid thinking of this kind of a thing as a "test" that you need to "pass." The correct response to this kind of female game-playing will come 99% of the time if you have the following mindset:

1. What a silly bitch, I can't take her seriously.
2. So I'm gonna fuck with her.

That isn't to say that I don't have stock answers to the common ones, like taking her drink and finishing it when she asks you to hold it for her or whatever. I just try not to approach it from the mindset of jumping through a hoop that she's set up for you, rather she's a little plaything that I'm talking to for my own amusement and hey maybe we'll bang later if I feel like it.

(Yes, it arguably involves a little bit of self-delusion to have this mindset since in actual fact I am trying to do what's necessary to get the pussy from the moment I approach a girl, but it's still a useful fiction to entertain since it lets you give off that not-giving-a-shit vibe.)

Post: #4

I would assert that agree & amplify is actually a hard one to pull off in this situation.

Her shit test is to insinuate you no longer qualify because you're player and she is meaningless to you. To amplify it, which is to show her how absurd her test is, is to blow it out of all proportions, something like "You're the daughter of the French ambassador I met 2 nights ago aren't you". I don't think her friend is highlighting the absurdity of her test.

To follow it up with a correction is like ringing her number immediately after she has given it to you as a confirmation. I think both show a little neediness.

For the text game of 'qualify yourself', I neg back.

Something like "You're that chick with the <insert her actual hair colour/colour sweater she wore/etc/a feature of hers that she markets herself on> that looked a little quirky, I met you the other night and thought you were somewhat cool. This is your number right?"

Implicitly you're testing her 'coolness' and if she responds back, it will likely be 'yeah' in which she is disarmed, or even trying to qualifying herself again from the neg.

Post: #5

Interesting ideas here. I am still undecided. Hm.
So 3 days later she suddenly texts me "hey, how are you? Sorry it took me that long, I've been busy with work this week, hope you are having a lot of fun". I'll let that stew for a few days, I guess.

Post: #6

Women are retarded, and so are their text messaging games. I wouldn't rush to the phone to respond, but I also wouldn't wait "3 days" to match her delay. Her contacting you again is a good sign, I'd respond with, "Oh good I was worried you forgot my name!" If she texts you back quick after that, respond a few times, but make sure she sends the last text (stupid games, I know). Then the next day, hit her with the "What's up?" text and try to make plans to meet up.

Post: #7

So after 4 days, I send a casual "what's up" text (haven't read this thread before as I was busy and it fell off the first page, but thanks for the good idea), she answers instantly all warm and nice. My 2nd message (something banal about what are her plans for after work) gets no response again. WTF? Even for just attention whoring, I just can't wrap my mind around this kind of behavior. It's just... random.

Post: #8

Sounds like a waste of time here. Even had you sent the best text possible, I don't think you would have gotten her out. Curse of the drunken bar whore.

I might not have gone right into what her weekend plans were though, because she's thinking you want to be included in them, although if she really wanted to see you it would've been ok. I'd have continued with the meaningless banter (again stupid text games), just not responded to one of her messages and then on Monday started over, "Hey how was your weekend" blah blah, hope she says "Boring, etc" then you can come back with that sucks, we should make up for that over a drink tomorrow night.

Either way, the only way you become numb to girls' idiotic texting behavior is through experience.