Post: #1

After a long time of being single, I luckily found the PUA-community. I found Styles myspace-page and with curiosity I started reading The Game!
In a few months I got a pretty good result out of it, with a girl I met online. I got laid kind of fast, on the first date. After a few weeks we both figured out that it wasn’t a good match, so we broke up with each other.

Now a few weeks later I this amazing girl that is fun to be with and we have great social connection; I like her.
We met online, started emailing and eventually she agreed to meet me. Before this, she had let me know that “she wasn’t really ready for a guy in that way”. So I wrote back “Let’s just got out, have fun, walk& talk and have a drink in the park. And no strings attached”
We had a few great dates, with a quick kiss each time we left. After our visit to the zoo, standing behind her I hugged her, after she was teasing me to make louder animal noises. So all went well.
We got together again for dinner a few days ago, with plans to take her to beach at sunset afterwards..
She wasn’t really up for that last part, but she agreed that I would drive her home after dinner. When we got to her house, after talking, I stroke her shoulder and neck, leant in forward… “What are you doing?”, she said. “Remember what we agreed upon when we started this?”
Eventually she told me that she still has feelings for her ex and ‘in due time’ she’ll be ready for a new relationship. It was her first boyfriend. She got dumped, and doesn’t want to see him anymore.
She feels like it wouldn’t be fair towards me, if we would sleep together and she stills has feeling for that other guy.
She doesn’t really like to talking about it, getting over him, she says it just have to take time.
Now the funny thing is, we arrived at 11:00pm at her house, after half an hour we talked about her ex, and she left the car at about 2:30am. All this time after trying to understand why she wasn’t past her ex, so to persuade her otherwise, we just talked and laughed, told each other pretty intimate details about love and life.
I tried the “lets agree to meet again in a few months, and if we are still both single and ready and we’ll start something” –deal, but she didn’t want that.
Before I left she did agree that we just hug and when we did(twice), she held on tightly.
We are probably going to meet next weekend, as friends.

Just the constant thought of getting so close to a great girlfriend and not have it really get there.. is eating me!
HOW do I get her to be my girlfriend?

I would appreciate and be very thankful if some of you could give me some advice on what to say to her, how to accelerate the process of her getting past her ex-boyfriend, which routine to take in this situation
Also, she is probably going on vacation in a few weeks, maybe that will help to get past her ex, I mean just the trip with her sisters itself could help.
If you have a few tips, that would be great!

Thanks for taking the time to read this!

Post: #2

this is a painful read. perhaps cuz it reminds me of things i've done in the past. i think you've put yourself too much in the friend zone by discussing the ex and it's time to move on, go out on more dates with girls who don't want to talk about their friggin exes. you are too focused on getting her to be your girlfriend. she is aware of your intentions now, and apparently isn't all that into them. might be hard to hear, but that's what i take away....

i'll edit this...as an aside - i feel like this is the type of chick you meet online. they can be 9s or even 10s...but the admittedly attractive girls i've met online always seem to have some crazy shit going on, issues w/exes, etc. that's why i'm getting into the game - not the virtual game. i'm done w/online stuff

Post: #3

Welcome to the friend zone.

There is no escape.

Post: #4

yep, you are screwed, by own mistaken experiences, you might get to fuck her, but it won't last much, she already sees you as a pet, because you were nice and talking about her ex relationship.
Stop seeing her for a LONG while, see many other girls and I am almost sure, she will eventually call you again for a friendly meeting, ignore her, time passes again, she MIGHT call you again, accept--------> Score and leave.

One thing you learn in life getting girls (Even in good relationships) is that each girl is a complex nut to crack, but their habits can be tipified and like the PUA community knows, exploited.

Post: #5

Quote:Eventually she told me that she still has feelings for her ex and ‘in due time’ she’ll be ready for a new relationship. It was her first boyfriend. She got dumped, and doesn’t want to see him anymore.
She feels like it wouldn’t be fair towards me, if we would sleep together and she stills has feeling for that other guy.
She doesn’t really like to talking about it, getting over him, she says it just have to take time.

Cookie cutter way of saying she won't have sex with you, something that has been repeated millions of times in millenia past

Quote:after half an hour we talked about her ex

It was probably already done by this point, but quite the mistake.

Quote:so to persuade her otherwise

persuade=beg, the fastest way not to get laid

Quote:Just the constant thought of getting so close to a great girlfriend and not have it really get there.. is eating me!

You were nowhere near close, unfortunately.

I think you were too wrapped up in your emotions for this girl that you never stopped to see that her attraction for you was weak because of being too nice/needy.

Quote:how to accelerate the process of her getting past her ex-boyfriend

This is needy game, and needy game doesn't work. Move on from this chick, check out the intro thread, and get to work.

Post: #6

Key phrase: "We met online"

I have never done the online dating thing and have no desire to.

I have never in my life encountered what you have.

My only guess is that it is because "We met online".

- MPM
The Guide to Getting More out of Life
http://www.thegmanifesto.com

Post: #7

yeah online dating is wack. i treat it like 7up - never have, never will. most your other mistakes have been pointed out, though honestly you have to be joking around.

Quote:Just the constant thought of getting so close to a great girlfriend and not have it really get there.. is eating me!

you're kidding right? this type of thought process is not even in the same universe as game.