Post: #1

Hey,

I wondered whether you guys bring up your fetishes very early into a conversation with a girl or if you actually wait for a long time? I saw no thread yet which discussed this topic.

Me for instance, I bring up my foot fetish kinda early into a conversation. I mention for instance how I like to massage women's feet or that I like to do some 'artistic' stuff with pictures of women's feet or that I write stories based on the inspiration women's feet give me etc.

So of course some women get intrigued and all in all it fits well into my 'image' because I want to give this image of this 'weird but intriguing' guy.

I had no negative experience so far and in the long-term I got what I wanted. Sure, some women went and where saying stuff, but hey plenty of other women out there. I noticed however that European women tend to be more closed-minded, whereas Latinas are very open with that, I wonder why?

What about you? What are your opinions?

Post: #2

Most guys here will give you the same advice: show, don't tell.

With women, you'll get a much better result with this kind of shit if you can communicate it non-verbally. If you've got a foot fetish? Reward and compliment her when she shows off her feet or paints her toes. She'll be more likely to do it again, and then instead of being seen as the creep with the foot fetish, you're seen as the guy who made her feel good.

Save the serious fetish talk for your serious girlfriend, but even then you'll still be better off communicating it non-verbally.

Post: #3

As IB says, show don't tell.

Go slow, introduce slowly and gauge her reaction.

Post: #4

There's cool fetishes and preferences like mild bdsm, role plays, domination etc. and then theres the ones that barely any women enjoy like a foot fetish.

Its probably okay to hint at the former but the latter; not a chance.

Post: #5

Around 40% of men have the foot fetish, and it's natural fetish that people are born with unlike some that are caused by pornography.

Post: #6

(03-13-2019 01:55 AM)Benc Wrote:  Around 40% of men have the foot fetish, and it's natural fetish that people are born with unlike some that are caused by pornography.

It is quite common and I've heard women sigh with relief when I tell them what i'm into and say its not a foot fetish.

Its so bizarre how so many guys feet and so many women don't have the same feelings.

Post: #7

(03-12-2019 05:16 PM)Investment Bro Wrote:  Most guys here will give you the same advice: show, don't tell.

With women, you'll get a much better result with this kind of shit if you can communicate it non-verbally. If you've got a foot fetish? Reward and compliment her when she shows off her feet or paints her toes. She'll be more likely to do it again, and then instead of being seen as the creep with the foot fetish, you're seen as the guy who made her feel good.

Save the serious fetish talk for your serious girlfriend, but even then you'll still be better off communicating it non-verbally.

The thing is I mostly want to involve my fetish(es) as well, so that's why I just mention it as early as possible. I look somewhat trustworthy, that's why I think nobody thought of me as a creep and I always put myself into the role of this 'weird guy'. Yes, I embrace this role and it worked for me so far.

(03-12-2019 06:52 PM)RatInTheWoods Wrote:  As IB says, show don't tell.

Go slow, introduce slowly and gauge her reaction.

The thing is if you do it slow, it might backfire. I used to do it first like that, but nowadays I don't as it is not worth it.

Post: #8

Look up second generation verbals and sex talk and use those techniques to introduce it in conversation.

Basics is to express through the convo

- that you are good at sex
- that you don't judge women for enjoying sex
- that you will be chill and not clingy if you all smash
- that she will be safe and have an enjoyable time

Basically you take secret society concepts and verbalize that to her so she doesn't have to guess.

So in OPs case you could tell some story about how you originally got into this thing and that at first you were apprehensive but then you tried it with this one girl that you were super comfortable with and now you really enjoy it and isn't it cool how you can discover new experinces like that and doesn't she think it sucks that slightly odd realms of sexuality are so judged by society when sex is such a fundamental part of life, etc etc

Post: #9

(03-12-2019 10:43 PM)flyinghorse Wrote:  There's cool fetishes and preferences like mild bdsm, role plays, domination etc. and then theres the ones that barely any women enjoy like a foot fetish.

Its probably okay to hint at the former but the latter; not a chance.

Every woman loves having her feet massaged and touched. They only say they don't like a foot fetish because they would rather have men fawn over the things they can control.

I like to watch my girls change out of their clothes and get into a shower or bath. I would never say this, but I have also never had a woman tell me off for kicking back and enjoying the show.

Post: #10

(03-13-2019 01:26 PM)Laner Wrote:  

(03-12-2019 10:43 PM)flyinghorse Wrote:  There's cool fetishes and preferences like mild bdsm, role plays, domination etc. and then theres the ones that barely any women enjoy like a foot fetish.

Its probably okay to hint at the former but the latter; not a chance.

I like to watch my girls change out of their clothes and get into a shower or bath. I would never say this, but I have also never had a woman tell me off for kicking back and enjoying the show.

That's not a fetish - that's just appreciating a womans body.

Post: #11

(03-13-2019 06:16 PM)flyinghorse Wrote:  

(03-13-2019 01:26 PM)Laner Wrote:  

(03-12-2019 10:43 PM)flyinghorse Wrote:  There's cool fetishes and preferences like mild bdsm, role plays, domination etc. and then theres the ones that barely any women enjoy like a foot fetish.

Its probably okay to hint at the former but the latter; not a chance.

I like to watch my girls change out of their clothes and get into a shower or bath. I would never say this, but I have also never had a woman tell me off for kicking back and enjoying the show.

That's not a fetish - that's just appreciating a womans body.

True, but in a voyeuristic way