Post: #151

This guy i knew back in the day, in a mid-size scandinavian city, got laid several times every week.
He did the same shit every time he went out.
Go sit in the bar and chat shit with the bartender, whom he of course knew well, or a friend if he brought one along.
Occasionally he`d go outside to smoke a cig and a girl would approach him, usually around closing time.
That was it.
One time he said hello to a girl he already had slept with in that same bar, and she invites him over to her table with her two friends. Turns out he already had slept with both of her friends before.
Good looking dude, 6`3. Sharp wit, borderline alcoholic. Slept in the day, flipped burgers in the evening, drank and hooked up at night. Played computer games when he didnt work or go out. Had no game theory at all. 100% natural if you will..

Post: #152

(02-09-2019 06:07 PM)KMK Wrote:  I'm jacked but 5'9 with shit hair and women never approach me

Shave it, dude. See "Bald = dominant" thread (should be in my recent history)

Post: #153

Even if you do get approached or find yourself in a social situation where the girl is hitting on you (or so you think), it's no good if you don't have the skills to see it, do something about it and translate that into a number/date. You have to have wit and confidence to do it, a bit of charm and be funny.

I am terrible at identifying if the girl really is chatting me up and because I'm thinking about that it can affect my conversation and finally the confidence to make a move. This is what I need to work on. And so quickly the opportunity is lost to get numbers etc. If you are in a work situation she may be giving her number for those reasons anyway and it would be unprofessional to use it to try and get a date!

Though remember, if a girl decides she is wants you and she is in your social circle they usually make it very clear. That's another thing, if you have a huge social circle then your options are far greater. With the internet people have far less real friends now.

Post: #154

(02-16-2019 01:33 AM)RiskIt4Biscuit Wrote:  This guy i knew back in the day, in a mid-size scandinavian city, got laid several times every week.
He did the same shit every time he went out.
Go sit in the bar and chat shit with the bartender, whom he of course knew well, or a friend if he brought one along.
Occasionally he`d go outside to smoke a cig and a girl would approach him, usually around closing time.
That was it.
One time he said hello to a girl he already had slept with in that same bar, and she invites him over to her table with her two friends. Turns out he already had slept with both of her friends before.
Good looking dude, 6`3. Sharp wit, borderline alcoholic. Slept in the day, flipped burgers in the evening, drank and hooked up at night. Played computer games when he didnt work or go out. Had no game theory at all. 100% natural if you will..

Shows that if you want to get laid who cares what you do for a living. Some people are good at talking good shit in a bar. Also smoking really helps you strike up convos. I don't smoke and hate the smell of it so that's no good for me.

Post: #155

Women do CA. And they do (though it’s not common) CA on the street.

Post: #156

(02-16-2019 09:53 AM)fmman Wrote:  Even if you do get approached or find yourself in a social situation where the girl is hitting on you (or so you think), it's no good if you don't have the skills to see it, do something about it and translate that into a number/date. You have to have wit and confidence to do it, a bit of charm and be funny.

I actually disagree here (as i've mentioned in regards to my very handsome friend) but I guess it depends on things like just HOW attracted to your looks she is (are you a 10/10 male model and she's 7?) and also the type of girl she is, basically.

My slayer friend honestly has basically zero game, and i'd put him up against any average looking PUA with expert game in the world tbh. He kind of breaks all the rules of game, but it doesn't matter. Girls in bars open him, he just asks the usual questions (name, age, job). If it goes awkward and quiet, SHE takes up the slack and thinks of things to say. (man I wish this happened to me!). Often, she will even make the first move. Especially in a club setting. They can be ridiculously forward. He fails shit tests, he fails not setting off her slut defence like by not using plausible deniability, he doesn't DVH, he doesn't really tease, no push-pull stuff, doesn't say much funny stuff, there's no clever verbals. He just runs what I call 'normal guy game'

However, I do agree that it's also a sliding scale. I think there's guys that are good looking, but aren't good looking enough to be able to get away with bad game. So they might fail to show intent, or escalate in a sloppy way, or run out of things to say, and she won't forgive you and you're now toast!

(02-16-2019 09:53 AM)fmman Wrote:  Though remember, if a girl decides she is wants you and she is in your social circle they usually make it very clear.

Interesting. I'm always curious about this sort of stuff as 100% of my lays and stuff are from cold approach. I've never had a a good social circle with lots of girls, or had a job where there's loads of girls etc, and so it's just so alien to me, and I sit there at night wondering exactly how various friends I have who don't have 'game' and have NEVER gotten laid from cold approach manage to bang various hot girls they know from work and stuff! And plus when I did recently for a short time have a hot girl in a new social circle Ii was trying to break into , I realised how 'different' it felt compared to cold appraohc, and I felt very out of my depth. Also felt so hard to escalate as I was esentially in the 'friend' zone straight away. Wasn't getting any signals from her. Just felt too weird to try to make a move on her . But maybe as you say, it's more a matter of the girl making it very easy for them, giving them flashing beacon signals, and then they 'make the move' knowing that they aren't gonna get rejected

I'd love to have a social circle with girls in it, but it's hard to know where to start when you're no longer that young!

Post: #157

(02-16-2019 01:33 AM)RiskIt4Biscuit Wrote:  This guy i knew back in the day, in a mid-size scandinavian city, got laid several times every week.
He did the same shit every time he went out.
Go sit in the bar and chat shit with the bartender, whom he of course knew well, or a friend if he brought one along.
Occasionally he`d go outside to smoke a cig and a girl would approach him, usually around closing time.
That was it.
One time he said hello to a girl he already had slept with in that same bar, and she invites him over to her table with her two friends. Turns out he already had slept with both of her friends before.
Good looking dude, 6`3. Sharp wit, borderline alcoholic. Slept in the day, flipped burgers in the evening, drank and hooked up at night. Played computer games when he didnt work or go out. Had no game theory at all. 100% natural if you will..

but, but, but ... where was his six-pack abs and six-digit bankroll and vintage six-cylinder Italian roadster?
that's what they told me it takes to have sex with a woman. was i lied to?
/sarc

Post: #158

(02-16-2019 09:24 AM)mxb Wrote:  

(02-09-2019 06:07 PM)KMK Wrote:  I'm jacked but 5'9 with shit hair and women never approach me

Shave it, dude. See "Bald = dominant" thread (should be in my recent history)

Pretty much same story here, 5-9", good shape though thankfully my hair is fine.
Only got approached once in the last couple years (Russian chick in Turkey) otherwise have to do all the hard work myself. Not happy but that is life.

To be honest out of all the friends I have, including some good looking successful guys, it rarely happens even to them that they get cold approached. These stories of guys being cold approached are honestly myths, and the "model one's" that do get approached don't really count as they are born with great genetics and that's something that can't really be replicated by most of us.