Post: #1

Here it is: my friends are planning to go to a popular nightclub for New Years Eve. The problem is, I feel really out of place in nightclubs and I get the impression everyone's staring at me because I'm weird. I've gone to clubs before, with a different group of friends, with the intention of nightgaming but as soon as I'm in, I freeze the fuck up and can't remember any game advice.

My goal is to do one of the following:

-Kiss a girl
-Dance with a girl
-Get a girl's contact info

Failing that, I want to:

-Enjoy the night anyway

How can I enjoy myself, or even pull a girl, when I have this overwhelming anxiety? What steps can I take before NYE, and what can I do on the night, in order to get rid of this anxiety and enjoy the night? I'm planning to drink a lot anyway.

Context:

-I'm 18
-Virgin, never had gf
-Kissed a few girls at house parties
-Probably a 7/10 in looks, and I have decent sense of style
-I started daygame recently, got 2 numbers but no dates or bangs
-Not very confident atm, but hopefully that will improve as I continue to work out and cold approach

Post: #2

Drinking should help then go dance with a girl, if you get rejected dance with another girl.

Post: #3

Things will get better for you, the more experience you have.

So go out and create as many experiences as you can.

It may be a good idea since your young to just get a girlfriend. Once you've built up your self confidence being promiscuous will become natural.

If your root problem is anxiety, and a lack of self confidence. You must find a solution. If you have anxiety issues look into meditation, yoga, sensory deprivation tanks, anything to get rid of your anxiety. Self confidence will only come through experience, so be that laid back humble guy. Set realistic goals, and work towards there.

Post: #4

These goals appear a bit random. If you freeze and forget everything, it means you are trying to remember or do too many things at once without the experience and insticts to guide you.

Instead, start with a goal of practising one element of game - approaching. Make your goal to make X approaches. If you want a motivator, give $100 to your mate and tell him to give you $10 back every time you approach a girl. Then, memorise ONLY one or two openers from any reliable PUA source (e.g. the book bang by Roosh). Use them and see the kind of response you get. The outcome doesn't matter, the only thing you want to find out is how they react to your approach and to gain confidence in approaching.

Getting a decent reaction from a certain opener? Next night out, use that opener and then focus on building attraction. Again, either memorise a routine from PUA material or improvise depending on the environment. The aim is to get to a point where the girl will ask you questions about you (name/age/location/ who you here with etc) without you having asked first.

Keep practising in stages of progression (approaching, kino, attraction, qualifying, comfort, closing etc) and you will be more comfortable at each stage and will be getting closer and closer to being able to bring girls back/set up dates with them. The point is, you can't become good at picking girls up from clubs in general before you practise each element one by one so that you don't freeze. You will develop your personal 'default routine' for each stage. Afterwards you can start identifying ways to adapt your actions based on different scenarios and also looking at ways in improving your weakest stages.

If you try and do everything at once, it will only lead to frustration and prolong rather than shorten the time it will take for you to improve your game.

Post: #5

Hey pol, check this thread out by Samseau for dance routines and overall guide, /thread-5002.html
It improved my nights out a lot, I am sure you could learn something from it, it could boost your confidence too.

Post: #6

Follow the G Manifesto nightlife prep routine.

http://www.thegmanifesto.com/2013/02/ten...ml#content

Quote:1. Take a little Vampire Nap. This can be from anywhere to 10 minutes to and hour long depending on my schedule and what I did the night before.

2. I glup a cup of Green Tea. This wakes me up from my nap and clears the gulliver.

3. I go through my stretch routine. I may post this sometime. This is kind of a new thing for me in the last 4 years, but is essential. You have to be loose and flexible on a night out. Also bust out some ab exercises and maybe push ups depending on my workouts that week.

4. I put an Ice Pack on my eyes. This relieves the puffiness from the night before and feels really good. While I have on my Ice Pack, I

5. Shadow Box. I will typically make my crib warmer for a little sweat flow. This gets you real loose. I will Shadow Box to some dope tracks.

6. Foam Roll. Foam Rolling takes all the kinks and knots out of your body. It is pretty amazing. I actually looked at getting into the Foam Roll Biz for a little while, but declined. I decided I didn’t want to be “The Foam Roll Guy”.

7. Apple Cider Vinegar. I bust out a shot of ACV with some water. Rinse out the mouth after.

8. Shower. A good dose of Aqua-therapy never hurt anyone.

9. When I step out of the shower, a Custom Suit literally appears on my body. It is kind of strange. I usually Shadow Box for a little more just to feel the vibe.

10. Pour myself a Cocktail (Vodka Soda with a lime; cleanest cocktail you can drink) and spark up a smoke.

Now I am ready.

Post: #7

Do you have a wingman?
It's easier to have the "I don't gine a f." image with one and easy to approach groups. Of course I'm talking about somebody with some game, not a weirdo.

Post: #8

Hm. Why the goals? They will put you under pressure, you will come across as thirsty. Chicks will feel it.

My advice would be on having a good time, letting your hair down, dancing, having fun with your friends. These vibes will be picked up by girls, and things then might escalate.

Take it easy.