Post: #26

(11-05-2018 07:27 PM)LivingFossil Wrote:  I love white culture its maybe the best

Post: #27

Answering your question: I would advise you to do an university course in your country and this way you would meet more suitable/family oriented girls. One month is way too short, you wouldn't know what this girl is truly like if you only know her for one month. One year you would see her true personality and you have a higher chance to meet more suitable women.

I don't think that is a bad idea at all, if you can afford it, do it. You already know that you won't find a good woman in the west.

Post: #28

(11-06-2018 10:11 PM)LivingFossil Wrote:  Wow, thank yall for responding.

Ill respond to what some have said....

I dont wanna say what country I'm from, but I have traveled all over SA and know very well the differences in the woman I'd say I know this better than most people, mostly like all over the world its a lot is about big city vrs small town.

I do plan on moving back to SA in sometime but, the best place to make money is USA not SA, I must bring her back. I should tell you I do know some Christian Americans that have met SA girls in churches, were girls are down to marry fast, and they have had good long marriages here in the USA.

Honestly I dont know what I want in a wife....this is such a hard question! Feminine, hard working, not a career chaser, good mother, good genetics, similar principals as me.

Ive gone to SA for months at a time for several years....Ive had long distance friends but if there is no chance of my staying there I doesnt really work....it can be done but I think to it right one year is better than a few months

I have never had my life so together, I live way too comfortable here. I got it all but it gets boring. I not gonna say I am busy shooing away models but I only have time for one or two dates a week and I have more than enough decent woman. My game is good I think I do very good for a SA man in America, I think I have an advantage actually. Few SA males in America that are educated, not broke, and lift.

Ive date tons of Asian chicks, family and friends always made fun of me for my yellow fever...it took like a decade but I am FINALLY over it hahaha. I love Asian girls but I just don't wanna share my DNA with them...as in kids.

What's wrong with dating model type girls? That's what I was programmed to like, but as I speak to older men all over the world they tell me about the burden of having a good looking gf/wife....many say its not work it....especially older Colombian men. I think men like woman get jadded by bad experiences, I ve met sooo many American men who beg me to never marry. I'm half convinced but having a wife and kids seems like most "natural" think to do, and in SA and if my family if you dont do it there must be something wrong with your brain or you are gay...thought I have older cousins who stick to pets.

I have been saving half of every paycheck for the last five years. I can easily afford to take a year off and not work, especially if I am at my home in SA where everything is cheap. Here in America live as if I was in SA....cheap with few possessions. I would not need to work while in SA. Id travel for part of the time. I just know that my great job will not be here for me a year later, but I know I can get a decent job very easily in my field when I get back. In fact I don't know if I wanna come back to my USA hometown anyways. I am thinking if I quit it will be July 2019.

My looks are fading at 33! That doesn't matter to the woman, I am still good looking enough and am very confident. I just said that to say I see I am ageing and should take action. Humans were meant to live only to about 40 or 50 civilization is just like a zoo where all animals have record life spans. In SA I can easily date a quality early 20s girls and people would be good with it, my whole family in SA is always trying to hook me up with hot 20 year olds, and Ive dated several but I keep coming back to the USA so whats the point.

All I know is I have been very lucky to have my foot in two worlds USA and SA and see how relationships and woman are in both I am very lucky that I can go between both worlds easier that almost anyone. I just think the responsible thing to go is when I am ready to go the place that matches what I most want. That being said American woman from smaller towns are not that bad. I live in big city, all the woman I date are way too educated, want to keep living in the city, and are career chasers, I actually like meeting less educated woman. Dating doctors, lawyers or girls who make six figures means nothing to me, I am more interested their ratios, principals and non professional passions.

Thanks you for your time, I really think few people can give me good feedback like y'all.

One question:
In order to bring a girl to the USA from SA do I have to legally marry her in a way she could divorce rape me? Can I just marry her in SA to avoid that?

Now you're asking the real questions! If you marry her in a legally recognizable way, even if it's in SA, your finances will be in jeopardy, especially if you take her to the USA

Post: #29

(11-05-2018 10:14 PM)The Lizard of Oz Wrote:  It's a fine idea but you don't need a year. Take a one month leave of absence from your job which I'm sure will be rapturously granted once you explain the purpose. Prepare the ground by asking family and friends in your old country to look for suitable girls, to whom you would be introduced ahead of time. Once you're there you should be able to narrow down your focus to a few candidates within the first two weeks, and make your choice by the end of the month. Then you invite her to visit you in the US to seal the deal.

A month should be plenty of time if you plan ahead -- and if you still fail to find a suitable candidate after a month, it is likely that you would fare no better in a year. Might as well make the whole process as efficient as possible and keep your career on track.

Let me explain what I love about this post, beyond merely how it relates to the OP.

The older you get the less you have the time/inclination to fuck around making everyone guess what it is you really want from them.

Most guys might put out uncommitted feelers at best. Their friends ask them "are you looking to settle down" and fearing they might be saddled with some plain-Jane the man shrugs his shoulders and says "maybe, it's a possibility".

Half of the respondents instantly rule out introducing him to the cute virgin in their choir group.

The friends ask "what are you looking for in a woman" and the man weakly responds "just someone... nice... you know?"

The respondents start picking out ugly girls, because pretty girls are for men with the balls to be a bit more specific, and lord knows if you're not going to lay out some standards then somebody has to be shackled to those hogs.

As the father to a somewhat shy teen boy one of the most difficult but worthwhile things I'm trying to instill in him is to have the balls to decide what you want and ask for it completely unapologetically.

You're asking, not demanding, and you can still be polite, but beating around the bush wastes your time and theirs. If you have the balls to ask, you will be surprised how often people go out of their way to give you what you want. There is something intrinsic about the will to power that makes followers (99% of the population) fall in line and do as they're told.

Go the local deli and look at the difference in the way women regard the men who order precisely without hesitation and the men who umm and ahh for minutes at a time. This mentality filters into all aspects of human relations and frankly if there was one principle I could go back and instill in my younger self it would be this.

Have the balls to decide what you want and ask for it completely unapologetically.

Post: #30

I'm gonna say "no." Read Travelerkai's dating guide. It's about China but he went abroad and found a wife in China and he's not Chinese. He did it with his own two hands and with no help--and he did it without sacrificing his career.

If you're from this country there's no reason you should need to quit your job to find wife material. Like LOZ said, get your family in on it.

Post: #31

I look at it this way:
What value does your money have here in the states? Can you even "buy" what you want here?

For me, the answer is a "no". While I can earn great here in the US, I can't convert any of that to happiness. No matter how successful you become here, you will never have the security of a stable marriage and family.

For me, that was enough to decide on expatriating the United States and pursue a life in a place where I can live a fulfilling life.

Post: #32

You'll never be able to get a better job?

That's some defeatist thinking, at 33. I would stay a few years to get enough experience to take a year off and still have demand when you get on the market.

Otherwise, I'd go for it. I plan on doing the same thing, at your age in Latin America, my nuke option if things don't work out. By then, I'll easily have enough work experience to be able to take time off.

Post: #33

(11-07-2018 08:17 PM)Graft Wrote:  You'll never be able to get a better job?

That's some defeatist thinking, at 33. I would stay a few years to get enough experience to take a year off and still have demand when you get on the market.

Otherwise, I'd go for it. I plan on doing the same thing, at your age in Latin America, my nuke option if things don't work out. By then, I'll easily have enough work experience to be able to take time off.

Latin America is pretty cool. Stick your toes in the water. The more familiar you are with the area, the better decisions you can make. Also, the better your mastery of the language the more capable you are at bringing value to (foreign) employers here. You don't want a local standard salary down here if you can get a gloriful colonist salary. That requires at a minimum enough spanish to tell locals to eat your shit as whores in the way that hits them the hardest (there are so many ways to do this and the difference isn't always country to country, but barrio to barrio).

Post: #34

(11-05-2018 09:32 PM)aeroektar Wrote:  (it's well documented that even good traditional girl can absorb the negatives of our culture and become corrupt).

This.

OP, have you ever dated a girl who was from South America but lives in the US now? I've dated them and also girls who temporarily lived in the west and came back home to SA. They are never the same.

Post: #35

(11-06-2018 01:48 AM)Spaniard88 Wrote:  Totally disagree with both of the above.

Man is a hunter, we chase what we want, and we conquer it.

To chase money/professional upgrades in the hopes that it will lead to a quality woman, especially in the West, is completely off base. If you want to chase money and professional upgrades, by all means do so, but the correlation between success in that area and success with women is very weak in the West nowadays. Sure, if you become a rap star or movie star, this success will translate, but let's be real, 99.9999% of people will not become rap starts or movie stars. Living in a fantasy land where we dole out advice based on that best case scenario is silly.

If you follow their advice, most likely you will achieve some money/professional success. You will also be older by the time that happens, offsetting most, or all, or more than, the gains achieved.

To put the situation in layman's terms, in the West you're better off being unemployed and having a great instagram account than working 60 hours a week, having a fat bank account, and having a law degree, in terms of what it will do for you in regards to meeting women, both of low and high quality.

Work on yourself if you want, definitely, it's a magnificent pursuit, but in no way will it compensate, for 99.9999% of us anyhow, for the losses you incur in this area by staying in the West longer.

One of the posters mentioned how "finding the right one comes unexpectedly," and he's correct in a way, if you were a gay bottom or a woman, this could happen. You can just go for walks and "the right one" can notice your great ass or aesthetic face and come unexpectedly, maybe right on that great ass or aesthetic face. As a man, however, this notion is absurd. The right one will not come along in some freak event, for most of us anyhow, even if you are good looking, and that means if you want a quality girl, you have to actively prioritize the search for that girl.

If you're looking for a girl that's fairly commonly found, then the above advice is actually fine, and I think that's at the core of the divergence in thought in threads like this. If, on the other hand, you're looking for a virgin or low partner count girl from a two parent family who doesn't drink alcohol, doesn't do drugs, has no tattoos, is bright, and is kind and still able to trust 100%, then that search needs to be prioritized if you want a shot at success. Those women simply don't exist in the West in large enough numbers to make finding them by happenstance feasible. Focused action is required for those girls. For damaged women, promiscuous women, single moms, older women, tattooed women, yes, for them, take the advice of the posters above, absolutely, don't prioritize women over career/money if that's the kind of women you consort with.

And on the off chance that either of the posters above did secure a quality woman by following their own advice, then I'm happy for their good fortune, but that good fortune would be the exception, not the rule.

Correct. It's like telling a fisherman to keep improving his casting methods and getting the best lures, when he can catch bigger and better fish by heading across the lake to a better spot.

Post: #36

(11-05-2018 07:27 PM)LivingFossil Wrote:  I love white culture its maybe the best

Me too. And it is. Those fuckers are cool.

Aloha!

Post: #37

I found your message searching for "yellow fever". I registered only to respond your message.

I did something similar to what you plan to do. I resigned from work in my country in order to go an Asian country. I do not know if it was a good decision and I do not know if your decision is good. But my decision brought me suffering.

I did not get a good job. It will be difficult to get a job like I had. And I got sick with depression.

I tried to find Asian wife. I did not find one as I imagined. It was an illusion what I thought about the Asian woman. The reality is different.

What I suggest is: have a plan B. If it goes wrong, what are you going to do? I did not get a good job, running after an illusion.

I'm hoping to recover. But that brought me a lot of suffering. I was depressed for months. And with depression, I can not find an Asian wife.

Think if what you imagine about meeting a Latino woman: is it real or is an illusion?

Think about: what if you cannot get a good job?

Consider also other hypotheses. For example, find a Latina from your country online.

Remember one video of a person who resigned from work in Japan to go to Thailand:

"Making Big Changes in Your Life: Fantasy vs Reality"
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LarCAeCG_7o

He suffered a lot because of that decision and gives good advice in the video.

He says he burned the bridges and had nowhere to return. So he recommends experimenting first, because reality may be different from what the person imagines.

If it does not work, you'd better have a plan. Make a safety net.

(11-05-2018 07:27 PM)LivingFossil Wrote:  I was born and raised in South America and my parents brought me here when I was young, now I am 33.

Here in the USA (most comfortable place on Earth) I have an excellent job which has allowed me to have an amazing life...I make good money, go on vacations often, and am saving half of everything I make, and I have nothing here tying me down.

I have dated all types of women here in America (black, asian, latina, white) and now my game is at its strongest. I am getting laid by good looking girls often.

At 33 I'm older and my looks are starting to fade and I know I want to be married and have kids sooner than later because I don't want to be an old husband/father. I don't really want the married with kids life but that is thinking in the short term, I need to think in the long term.

In my life I do important things with strategy and choosing a wife seems like it needs the most forethought. How does one choose a good wife? I think the best one for me is one from my country or at least from South America.

I think I am lucky because in my country I have family, life is cheap, I’ve been back almost every year I am comfortable there, I have easy access to woman there.

The current white girl I am dating is a young, tall, fit model type, even speaks good Spanish ...but her culture like a normal American girl's is white. I love white culture its maybe the best but in my home I want to speak Spanish and with Spanish speakers I connect at a deeper level than in English. I want a woman who understands my culture but latinas in America are trash compared to South American ones. Plus I can get date way hotter girls there than here.

I am wondering if I should do something crazy like quit for a year to move back home and get a quality wife.

CONS:
I would lose years salary and for what…to maybe find decent wife?
I know I can get a job again in my field but never as good as before.
Is this kinda pathetic idea? Saying in America I can’t find a decent wife in the big city I live in now? Woman are crazy everywhere! Latinas in America suck compared to latinas in South America.


PROS:
I have always wanted to go back home to take a year off climb glaciers, take trips to the Amazon, and have amazing adventures on the cheap because regardless of who I marry I know the party ends after.
I have saved enough where I don't have to work for a year.
It's worth one year of investment for a lifetime of wife ownership?


Advice from the this community is valued! Few people could help me with this other than you all, thanks

Post: #38

(11-05-2018 07:27 PM)LivingFossil Wrote:  PROS:
I have always wanted to go back home to take a year off climb glaciers, take trips to the Amazon, and have amazing adventures on the cheap because regardless of who I marry I know the party ends after.
I have saved enough where I don't have to work for a year.
It's worth one year of investment for a lifetime of wife ownership?

OP, I'm not sure how to answer your question on whether you should quit your job for a year to find a wife down in Latin America. But if you haven't taken a good year off to do some really cool shit that you enjoy at least once in your life, you need to do it. And do it now. I promise you won't regret it.