Post: #1

So i've gone through a few stages in my life. In high school I was all about getting my numbers high, and I've gone down as low as 5 (by my standards today probably 4s) to do it, but I also had some of the prettiest girls in my grade. What I noticed during this time is when I approached literally anyone I naturally got laid a lot, but the amount hot girls I would even bother approaching declined significantly. When I didn't get some for a couple weeks it was almost like I hit a reset button and I would start out approaching 9s and gradually drop from there until I got a flag. I was a good looking guy and was in a good social circle in hs so I knew I could get 8s+, so I always wondered if those initial rejections, which really every guys gets did some temporary number on my confidence that led to that spiral. I used to justify it as just making the most of the night or just filling up my dude resume. I always understood that some rejections are part of getting laid and was never the type of person to give up my goals, so now I wonder...

Does the mass volume cold approach lead to somewhat a decline in standards for you?

Fast forward 15 years, I got better looking, have a good income, and naturally figured out how to game better. Yet I still find myself in a variation of that pattern. I don't hit on girls just because i'd be "willing to fuck them if none of my friends see me", but any cold streak I do get immediately sends me to accepting girls I wouldn't bother with on a good month. When I travel to countries where you get premium flags for being white with money I only hit on very pretty girls because I guess in the back of my head I know that even if I get rejected another 8+ is not going to take much work at all. Back home however I just don't seem to have the same pattern. The only time I find myself pursuing 8+ exclusively is when I have several very reliable booty calls on the side. I know I can get quality girls reasonably consistently if I put forth the effort, but for some reason if I got a few weeks without one I end up getting with a 6 and follow her up with other 6-very low 7s.

Don't mean to ramble on too much, just trying to get some input on the psychology behind this and see if others experience the same?

Post: #2

I'm with you. Especially if I'm not getting regular sex elsewhere.

8+ is also a pretty difficult goal.

Post: #3

Same deal here. Though I've found it's faded over time the more girls I've banged. When I first started out I was content with 5s. Then 6s. Now I'm really stretching my limits and will only accept a 6 if she's a slumpbuster like you talk about. I'd rather not get laid for several weeks than stoop as low as a 6.

Post: #4

Agreed. I look back on some old bangs that I used to be proud about and now I just shudder.
Desire for quality is the next step once the desire for numbers gets satiated.

Post: #5

(10-23-2018 01:19 AM)The_e_man Wrote:  Agreed. I look back on some old bangs that I used to be proud about and now I just shudder.
Desire for quality is the next step once the desire for numbers gets satiated.

does the desire for numbers ever get satiated for guys though? i've seen a hell of a lot of 40+ year old guys here that still scour SE Asia for the numbers

Post: #6

(10-23-2018 08:05 AM)finalstep Wrote:  

(10-23-2018 01:19 AM)The_e_man Wrote:  Agreed. I look back on some old bangs that I used to be proud about and now I just shudder.
Desire for quality is the next step once the desire for numbers gets satiated.

does the desire for numbers ever get satiated for guys though? i've seen a hell of a lot of 40+ year old guys here that still scour SE Asia for the numbers

For most guys, yes. If you're the JMULV type and are a pussyhound, no.

Post: #7

(10-23-2018 08:05 AM)finalstep Wrote:  

(10-23-2018 01:19 AM)The_e_man Wrote:  Agreed. I look back on some old bangs that I used to be proud about and now I just shudder.
Desire for quality is the next step once the desire for numbers gets satiated.

does the desire for numbers ever get satiated for guys though? i've seen a hell of a lot of 40+ year old guys here that still scour SE Asia for the numbers

For me, yes. But that's only because I was collecting numbers for the wrong reason. I needed to "prove" to myself and to the world that I was capable of fucking lots of girls. I'm somewhere north of 200 now and I have nothing to "prove" to myself or anybody. I know I can get laid. Doesn't mean much in the grand scheme of things though. My good looking natural friends can get laid with 0.00001% of the effort I put in. What's more important, and harder to quantify and measure, is how many gorgeous women are in your life? Getting a SNL and having the girl never talk to you again isn't that big of a victory. It might be the first few times, but soon you will be wanting more.