Post: #26

(09-23-2018 06:26 PM)Echovoid_52 Wrote:  When I was 18. Before my friends suicides and murders. Was in my peak in my health and looks. Had plenty of women (also had no disdain for the female gender at that time whatsoever) and generally got along with everyone. Oftentimes didn't have a care in the world.

I'm 26 now and I have happy moments, but I'm mostly a wage slave who has a lot of pent up anger about some past girl issues and my friends murder suicide. Relationship with my family has gone to shit as well. With that said, right around my last semester of college where I was getting into the workforce, I discovered the world of escorts and P4P and I usually bang one model a week. I love it and I'll probably end up doing my whole life as I'm not getting married. My whole week I work a hard 50+ hours so I can go bang a prostitute once or twice a week. I consider myself a loner, but I have many hobbies that keep me occupied. So I'd consider right now to be the best part of my life, but a lot of my happiness is undermined by my angst from the death of my friends amongst other things.

It seems like you bloomed early and also gave up early. At 26, your life is ahead of you. My best friend was also killed when I was in my early 20s, which was extremely sad, but I moved on with my life.

Also, you are too young to do p4p. Read posts from guys in their 40s and 50s here who can still get laid without money. Game is basically a sport and p4p is like taking a motorbike to a bicycle tournament. It's effective but not fun. Do game, don't do p4p. It's hard and getting harder, but it sure beats p4p.

Post: #27

28-29 (now in my mid 30s). Career, social life and creative endeavors all started to come together after years of struggle. Then there was a shakeup at work, some shit happened in my family, and I found myself stuck in an unfulfilling relationship. These problems snowballed into some personal shit I am still recovering from.

Post: #28

When I was 18-20. Everything was still possible. I had free time to do what I liked. Social circle was tight and we hadn't all paired off with wives and girlfriends and moved away from each other through work etc.

Without being morbid though, the main reason for the rose-tinted glasses is that everyone I cared about was still alive at that time! I'm not old, but as you get older, grandparents start to go, then parents and then the odd friend here and there.

I often think I'd like to go back to those days. Trouble is, that would mean me not seeing my wonderful children that I have now!

Post: #29

When I started looking back trying to answer this question I realized that it's a lot harder than I imagined. I'm 29 now, so according to the premise I have been an adult for 7 years. In those 7 years, I was never depressed, I never had trouble getting out of bed, I had many happy moments, both shared and alone, but it's hard to say if I was truly happy. Happiness is too vague a concept and, I realize now, it makes for a bad objective, assessing my own life.

I would say my 'happy' periods were all essentially of infantile enjoyment, instead of proper adult life. When I left college I got an easy job (teacher) that didn't occupy too much of my time and paid well (still the second highest paid job I had), I got high frequently, I had no worries, I was blue pilled on a lot of things and I was for almost two years in this state of disengagement and 'happiness'. But that happiness was toxic and bad for me.

Do I have more happy moments now than on those comfortable years? Probably. Because when I have those moments now, they really mean something, I feel them much more strongly. Whereas before it would just be a strange haze of comfort and laziness, constant self-satisfaction, no challenges, no pain.

I am now content with my life and my purpose, but I don't know if I can say I'm happy as such. I pray for pain, because pain is what makes one grow - and that is antithetical to happiness. Those 'happy' years (along with previous High School and College years) were an almost complete waste - I did read a lot and played a lot of music, but other than that, nothing really that made me grow. I was having fun, but both my brain and body were regressing due to the sterile nature of (at least this type of) happiness and probably the saddest I have been was right after, when I finally got out of that cotton candy fairly tale of a life with no goals and no challenges. It was only when I got out of this comfort and happiness that I grew as a man. I am 'happy' with that growth, but I am not as 'happy' in a general way because I have concerns, worries, challenges and pain.

Anyway, great thread regardless. It made me look back and evaluate my adult life until now and realize I never again want to be in that state of prolonged happiness.

Post: #30

It was an ordinary day. I waited all my orders for business. Because without this I could not open my business. And here came my new logttype! He is in this gallery: https://www.logaster.com/gallery/music-logo/

Post: #31

Reading this thread gives me hope but at the end of the day you're responsible for your happiness. Not Donald Trump, Obama, the GOP, etc.

I'm in my mid 20s and am a late bloomer (never had a gf, still live with my parents, lost my virginity at a late age, worked a lot of crappy low paying jobs, etc). In many ways I could be miserable since I'm a late bloomer but in many ways compared to the rest of the world I'm objectively doing better than 99% of the population. I'm indifferent (not happy or miserable) yet driven to further my standing.

I'm working nonstop until I obtain my objectives (getting laid more, make more money, be location dependent, and eventually have a family). Obviously there's that looming threat of America ending but I just have to grit my teeth and bear down for a couple more years until everything falls into place.

Just my 2c, nothing bad lasts forever

Post: #32

When I lost my virginity at 18. Its the day I turned into a man.

It was like this:

Post: #33

When I was 40 I got a job managing one section of a government research lab in So Cal. Similar to NASA. Spent 6 years with total freedom to buy and build some of the most exotic technology on the planet, I mean this was like working in that movie "the martian". The scientists were all young geniuses who needed me to make their experiments succeed, they were totally dependent on my and I delivered and got the reputation of being a miracle man. I never felt so proud or so necessary. Needless to say, it came to an end because of sleazy government politics.

It's very rare to look back in your life and say "wow, I left something meaningful behind". I had worked in software and digital tech for the rest of my career but those fields are a bit ephemeral....this other job I was building real hardware technology that was uncovering novel science. It was absolutely random chance that I got the job at all and at the time I remember thinking I'd better grab it, despite the relatively low government pay.

Anyway that, and my kids who are amazing, are the only 2 things that really will be left of me someday.

Post: #34

Because of sports, high school, then mid 20s but honestly right now considering all the possibilities, even with the madness you have to deal with within or post the current technological disaster period.

Post: #35

Hard for me to say the happiest time of my adult life, but being a platoon leader in a cavalry Troop for 11 months was the best time I had in the Army and one of the best times in my life. Very rewarding and educational - I only wish I could do it over again knowing what I know now.

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Post: #36

Happily married to a great wife, 4 beautiful sons, business just taking off, paying off the house, car dog and being the provider, father and man I could be proud of.

It lasted a few years before she pulled the divorce and fucked me over for about 10 years.

There has been a renaissance of good times recently, business on tract, money rebuilt, gaming hot women.... But it's missing that greater cause that married family life had, its all a bit hollow and hedonistic now.

Post: #37

^^
Wow that sucks. Sorry. Where do you think went wrong if I may ask? Blue pilled about women? Society crumbling?

I plan on getting married but given how I've lived nearly my entire adult life as a low wage slave and a near non existent sex life I have to wonder what's the grand purpose is to it all. You try to do the right thing by raising your children in a stable environment then BAM it spirals out of control.

@Iloseabet
That's a fair assessment. If you're too happy you're pretty much stuck in a rut and bored in a sense. Well if you ever want to get out of that rut food industry, the military, and janitorial work is always calling you haha

Post: #38

Right now. I'm happy reading this thread right now... in fact I'm so happy doing it that I'm not even thinking about touching any of the other handful of things I could (should) be doing...

If you have the time and power to slack off and sit on RVF for an hour or two then you should be quite happy about your current circumstances, otherwise would you not be doing something that makes you happier? Or worse, you could be stuck in a situation that's preventing you from having this free time that you have right now...

As for the real answer, there was no single period that was the happiest. It's been up/down/up/down/up/down with the seasons and I've enjoyed all of those moments. When things get too good for too long, I get nervous because the "balance" is off so I make sure to completely enjoy the good times. When things aren't going well, feel that pain because you need to know it and remember it to enjoy life more when things are great again.

...The common theme during the good times boiled down to having enough free time and resources to do things that I wanted to do (achieving personal goals). Without goals or achievements, it would have been boring or unsatisfying.

Post: #39

About 4 years ago I lived in a cabin in the woods, just me and the dog and I skied to work.

Good times.

Post: #40

Right now. At 46 (47 tomorrow!) my life is better than it’s ever been:

- Live in a downtown condo (second tier city, but one I like a lot)
- Do tons of fun things from sports to concerts to theater
- Not rich, but have plenty of money to do the things I want to do
- Debt free
- Take planned and spontaneous trips when I want
- Not an entrepreneur, but job is easy, low-stress and pays well
- Daughter grown with successful job and marriage
- Happily married to a pretty woman who cooks, cleans, fucks like an animal and will do anything for me, sexually or otherwise
- Fitness, healthy eating and style all dialed in

I don’t care much about material possessions, so having an old TV, computer and car means nothing to me. But if it did, I’d just get newer ones.