Post: #1

Hi Guys,
I have a huge problem which is killing my game pretty bad. I, like most of people here, started the game late, after bunch of setbacks with women. Those setbacks involved two attention whores . They sucked the life out of me.

Anyway, fast forward . I learnt the game, hit gym , and change my style . I get daily compliments about my style from different females. I even see women biting their lips when they see me.


The problem is that since I dealt with attention whores in the past and the female attention given to me is relatively new.

As a result , I believe each female IOI's as attention seeking . And this kills me my game . Because I either wait too long till I approach or I approach with self doubting , then when I get blown, the voice inside my head keeps saying " yeah , she was attention whore . she was never into you." Then this self-fulfilling cycle starts again and again.


On other hand, I do cold approach and I am successful at it . I just keep blowing the chances of getting the girls who are into me from the beginning .


I hope it is clear what I am going through .

Post: #2

Quote:The problem is that since I dealt with attention whores in the past and the female attention given to me is relatively new. As a result , I believe each female IOI's as attention seeking

I have a friend who calls this "former fat kid syndrome". A guy gets his life together, learns how to handle women, gets in shape, but his self-doubt still lingers and he dismisses IOIs because in his head, he's still that fat kid.

Next time a girl gives you an IOI, don't dismiss it. Tell yourself, "That girl thinks I'm hot."

Keep doing this until you believe it.

Post: #3

(09-02-2018 01:51 PM)Alpone Wrote:  

Quote:The problem is that since I dealt with attention whores in the past and the female attention given to me is relatively new. As a result , I believe each female IOI's as attention seeking

I have a friend who calls this "former fat kid syndrome". A guy gets his life together, learns how to handle women, gets in shape, but his self-doubt still lingers and he dismisses IOIs because in his head, he's still that fat kid.

Next time a girl gives you an IOI, don't dismiss it. Tell yourself, "That girl thinks I'm hot."

Keep doing this until you believe it.

I have had this same issue in the past, and sometimes still do. It does get better to certain degree as you progress through practicing middle game and beyond. But what really makes it better finding emotionally healthy girls you really click with, who have the right attitude, and follow your lead. Look for those girls.

I'm about halfway through Roosh's new book, which is excellent by the way, and deals the deck from this very same viewpoint. Which is what sets our fearless leader apart from the scores of other schmucks selling "have any woman you want in 5 minutes".

Just keep at it, stick to your game basics- be aloof, don't smile too much or open up about anything too personal beyond what your passions may be creatively, professionally, or hobby-wise (provided its not video games or some other vagina dryer), don't compliment women ever for now, and certainly NOT on their looks or appearance.

The warm, friendly, open girls will reveal themselves to you.

Post: #4

How many approaches have you done? The bigger picture is you got to get to your 100 and then 300 then 1000th. Most issues get resolved by then.

Post: #5

New at this myself. But I'd say keep going for it. Fake it till you make it.