Post: #51

(06-26-2018 01:18 AM)Kona Wrote:  Let's say the waitress is a sexyblittle vixen you give her the origami heart money tip, write your number on it and you are in style:

Maybe that's how JJRoberts' friend got your number.

Post: #52

One of my friends gets numbers by tipping waitresses with dollar bills origami'd into bowties.

Post: #53

What the F... am I doing wrong? I sent her a polite email saying I am not interested. But then I said we can go for green tea -- thinking she will reject -- as I am so use to rejections. Instead she accepted and is now messaging me when is the best time to meet.

my message:

Ola, I am fine - thanks. I am learning spanish -- I also am interested to visit Rio - but I hear it is not safe to visit now. Do you know? Also I was only joking with you on Sat when I gave you that paper rose -- I am only looking to make more friends right now -- and you seem like a nice person. Most people from Brazil whom what I have met so far all have been nice. So I am surprised that it is such a violent place.

next message:

Lo siento, pero yo no like to add friends to my FB unless I know them very well. - or else I will be on FB the whole day. I am trying to keep my time on FB to a minimum. But messenger works fine.

If you like to go for some green tea sometime, I often go to Kensington Market - or if you like to join my Spanish class on Thurs nights at 7pm at a cafe near Bathust abd Bloor -- you are also welcome.

Orbrigado -- Sid

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I do need to practice and develop my very poor dating skills. Are the Gods forcing me to date a girl I have no attraction to -- bc you have to go through 100 toads first and pay your dues.

I have no interest in her at all. But she has a pleasant personality. Or should I become more harsh and cut the connections? I have no desire to escalate -- and no desire to meet her. Or should I go with the mindset I need toi pay my dues?

Please advise from the experienced. And cut the jokes to the minimum.

Post: #54

Oh man. You invited a girl to green tea when you didn't want to go?

Post: #55

(06-27-2018 10:16 PM)Bain Wrote:  And cut the jokes to the minimum.

Beyond All Seas

"The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe.
To be your own man is a hard business. If you try it, you'll be lonely often, and sometimes
frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself." - Kipling

Post: #56

(06-27-2018 10:22 PM)The Catalyst Wrote:  Oh man. You invited a girl to green tea when you didn't want to go?

As I said I am so use to rejections that I was sure it would be another reject. So her acceptance caught me off guard.

Post: #57

(06-27-2018 10:16 PM)Bain Wrote:  What the F... am I doing wrong? I ....And cut the jokes to the minimum.

First off, they speak Portuguese in Brazil, and you're learning Spanish.

Second, nobody is out to be mean spirited, jokes are funny, but we want to help. We love you buddy.

Third, your way of telling her you weren't interested was to ask her to go drink greentea? Does that sound logical to you?

Aloha!

Post: #58

Petition to change name of thread to

Origami Thread [Formerly: "What is the best way to tell a girl you are not interested"]

Post: #59

Just tell her you already have a girlfriend.

Post: #60

(06-25-2018 06:33 PM)Latan Wrote:  Damn, that's a hard problem to solve, can't help you mate
By the way, I also have one : my dick is too big, what's the best way to reduce it?

Thanks.

I stole this from Simeon_Strangelight but it might help your dick problem.

Post: #61

Tell her you died in an accident and have to attend your funeral.

Post: #62

The only time me rejecting a girl when wrong I had to beat her father up (he approached me in public yelling and screaming, then shoved me.)

Shit how hard is it? Just don't call her a fat ugly bitch or something like that.

BTW asking a girl on a date tends to make them think you want to go on a date with them.

Post: #63

(06-27-2018 09:42 PM)The Catalyst Wrote:  

(06-26-2018 01:18 AM)Kona Wrote:  Let's say the waitress is a sexyblittle vixen you give her the origami heart money tip, write your number on it and you are in style:

Maybe that's how JJRoberts' friend got your number.

You know I bet JJ Roberts could origami the fuck outta some shit.

Edit: yeah I had to correct some errors there.

Aloha!

Post: #64

Seriously, though, the premise of this thread is largely mental masturbation. You don't even actually have to tell her you're not interested, OP. Just don't respond to her messages anymore if you don't want to go out with her.

It's really that simple.

I hate to be a dick about it, but it's not a big shock to me that you're struggling with dating if you need a thread for this one simple situation.

To be more constructive here, you really need to Stop overanalyzing everything. And definitely stop making flowers for girls you don't want and asking them out for tea. This whole thing is such a waste of your mental energy, especially the fact that you're still dicking around in email with this girl you have zero interest in just because you feel you owe it to her to let her down gently...

Not to mention letting yourself worry about it enough to start a thread here and poke this tiny challenge to death with other men. (I.e. yet more time and energy invested on something you didn't want in the first place.)

I mean, think about this for just one second: Do you believe any valuable woman would want a man so spineless that he's locked up in an email banter with some girl he doesn't like just because he's not assertive enough to say no or ignore her? I think you know the answer to that question...

This is some tough love here, and I'm really not trying to purposely insult you, but I don't see what else can really be said. Bottom line is I don't think your problem is with game - it's your inner frame. You need to harden up a little bit. You need to learn to refuse or ignore what you don't want in life and push for what you do want - that's the type of attitude and demeanor women want in a man.

Read "No More Mr Nice Guy"; you're a textbook case of a guy who needs to read it. Seek out other books on increasing your assertiveness.

Then start making flowers for girls you actually do like, asking them out for tea, and eventually fucking them.

I won't say that dating is easy. The fact that game forums exist proves that it's not.

But you're definitely making it all harder than it needs to be by letting yourself get all caught up in this type of nonsense.

Post: #65

OP, one of the best way be good at game is to have an "abundance mentality" and currently you don't have that, because you don't have lots of options.

If you are a guy with many options, you would not even be investing so much time and effort over a girl that does not interest you at all. The best thing to do right now, is just to stop replying to her. If you feel bad, just reply to her a few weeks later, saying you're busy. But you should not feel bad, many girls who have options will do this to a guy they are not interested in: they will simply not reply to his messages.

You should invest more time into upgrading yourself, and chasing girls who are more worthy.