Post: #1

I think in general the fatigue and stress reduce a woman's sex drive after childbirth, but then there is the compensation factor.

Now she's not a hot chick any more, she's a Mother, and that might make her Power Hamster run faster so she'll want to prove she is still attractive.

Opinions?

I don't want to get into the morals of it, but this generally will mean making her sneak around behind Daddy's back.

Remember moralists, your opinions are unwanted here--at least by me. Just go to church and talk to your invisible friend about the horrible sinners, he'll tell you how much he loves you and you'll live forever.

Post: #2

I relate women w/ children to the movie Alien. Offspring changes those bishes. They'll do whatever it takes to keep whatever crawled out of their vagina alive. They leech onto one man, until they've sucked away his soul, and finished him off w/ a false DV charge. Or coached the parasitic little creature they nurture into filing a false molestation charge. It doesn't kill a woman's sex drive, it increase their survival drive.

That pain a man feels from being fed upon might as well be an Alien busting outta his abdomen. I'm sure the pain is similar.

Don't take my word for it. Feel free to breed.

Post: #3

I see your logic - and it may be true in a few cases - but I would say its definitely NOT the norm. Unfortunately. Once they have kids - their priorites change big time. Plus they are exhausted. Its very hard for them to get out of "mommy" mode. YMMV.

Now unless you are talking older women - cougars - kids are gone - need to feel/prove they are sexy again/still.

Post: #4

Are we talking women that have just had children and are at home nursing, changing diapers and possibly still with the father? Or are we talking girls that are raising a 3+ year old on their own? There's a big difference. IMO, the later usually still has a high sex drive, and is often more willing to move quickly due to their time and opportunities to go out being limited.

Obviously if they ask you to meet the kid, you should just cut off contact.

Post: #5

How much does having a kid kill their sex drive?

It depends on their age and depends on the woman.

A significant portion of pregnant women become much hornier! When that happens, they often get used to being hotter, hornier, and dirtier - seeking out their man (or more men, as the case may be).

For these women, getting preggers AGAIN (and again) may well be desirable for them, Or else there are other outlets, male or female or even porn. Being a horny mommy can become a lifestyle for many.

About one-third of women do not find their sex-drive affected by aging out of youthful beauty. But a majority do within the 26 to 34 age range. This is when female testosterone maxes out and women think most like a man, needing more and loving more sex! (And don't start me up on estradiol/testosterone ratio issues, whatever! Anti-male and lesbian American feminists saw to it that "Human Sexuality" textbooks in the 70s that mentioned this issue no longer did by the 80s. I know because I've looked.)

I am active on a Hotwife site (women who enjoy threesomes, usually but not at all always with males, or else someone on the side). We ran a member survey of the women on the age they decided they enjoyed more than just one man's dick in their life and needed variety. (Mind you, ADD/HD and Bi-polar women and men both are prone to this way of copeing with their disorders.)

We discovered that 31 was the median age - half older, half younger. This corresponds well to the age of maximum female testosterone. And a full one-quarter do so by the time their college years are up.

In my experience, the more sexually adventurous people are, the more they are simply accepting, enjoying, and using their higher sex drives.

There may be one useful external marker for a woman (or man) being higher than averagely sexed: a double chin!
(Mind you, I'm trying to get psych grad student friends to do this research properly - with Facebook and other online data bases out there, the raw data is available. Further more, there are also studies showing another genetic/his sex-drive link: namely, that men with feminine facial features and women with masculine facial features are higher sexed. So my theory is not with out precedent.)

THINK ABOUT THIS correlation in your leisure time: how often are Hollywood movie stars/porn stars also with a butt-chin?
Among the first, over 80%. Among the later, 90 to 95%. (The obvious variable needing to be controlled for this study is exhibitionistic traits.)

That may help a man in choosing a woman with high-sex potential.

Another thing a man can do is much more important: teach her to enjoy FREQUENT and wild orgasms or become a better lover - hopefully both! The first can be accomplished by buying your woman a vibrator (at least two - pocket rocket and Hitachi Magic Wand, or similar). Teach her to masturbate - and do so with you as part of foreplay.

The second is greatly helped by by knowing how to give your woman G-spot orgasms. There is an epic ten year-long thread at Literotica.com, "Try This & Report back" (with 135 pages) by "Mr. G." on doing so! (HEY, has no one written a book about this thread yet???? Oh well - I've got too many book ideas anyway.)

Orgasmic freaky women are the most fun you can have in bed! Teach her to love orgasms and I don't think children are much of a barrier to enjoying sex more and more. Most women who love it young will love sex more as they grow older. In part, pregnancy makes a woman more curious about their body's potential for experiencing pleasure.

(YEAH - I know, this might need another DATA SHEET somewhere here.... But later.)

To sum up my answer question: other than in being exhausted by childcare, having children need not diminish a young woman's sex drive. Choosing or teaching a young woman to enjoy being more sexual is the best way to avoid this.

Now, how much being religious or too traditional with "my parents didn't have sex" attitudes could change this happier outcome is a different matter. And I-exactly don't know!

Post: #6

REGARDING that epic Literotica thread, it runs to 2013. Eleven years! LivelyLilly writes:

I had a phenomenal multi-orgasmic experience with my man yesterday...it was physical, mental, emotional, and dare I say spiritual. When our minds, bodies, and hearts align and fit so well together, anything is possible. While it doesn't take me two minutes to get my first g-gasm (and it never did), once I get one, the subsequent ones are stronger and easier to attain. I completely surrender to the experience. I enjoy him fucking me until I go spastic. Mmm, can't wait for more!

If you can do this for your woman, she will always be gratefully and in your debt. No matter what does (or doesn't) happen. Like mine.

Post: #7

Sex serves no purpose now that the offspring have been created. The brain now focuses on child-rearing rather than mate-seeking.

No different than other animals. There's really no need to reason anything beyond this.

Post: #8

It makes it go higher.

At least for extra-marital or "baby-daddy", which is what I've done.

Post: #9

idk I've been with fairly slutty moms so...?