Post: #1

I'm meeting a girl tomorrow. She said "I want to talk". I feel like she wants to talk about commitment. She is alright but I don't want to commit right now but I want to still meet her. What is the good way to answer question "who are we?" and what frame should I hold?

Post: #2

Dude you open ALOT of threads in the newbie section that can be answered in the Player's Lounge

I'd suggest doing that from now on, or at least doing a forum search for a similar thread to answer your questions.


If you don't want to commit, and she wants commitment your options are limited.

-Tell her you enjoy being around her and would like to keep hanging out BUT you can't give her commitment because you're "too busy" in life right now, and it "wouldn't be fair" to her - reinforce that you do like her and do enjoy her being around.

-End things with her, a man with options won't have a problem leaving this girl on a good note. By doing so, it leaves the door open to her coming back around and banging. Simply tell her you can't give her commitment, and it wouldn't be fair, so we should end things on good terms - BUT if she ever wants to hangout again the door is open.

Post: #3

Say you already have a girlfriend; works everytime

Post: #4

Whatever she says in this context, assume she's bluffing, call her bluff by agreeing with her, and feel your way from there:

She says she wants to break up: assume she's bluffing and agree it's over. If true, it's over and you keep your dignity. If not, she was using dread game. verbally agree that it's over, and commence physical escalation if you want to keep her as a plate.

She says she wants commitment: assume she's bluffing and request her to demonstrate what an awesome girlfriend she is. If true, she'll jump through fire for you, if not, you'll quickly find out and know that she was really trying to break up, or assert dominance over you as her handbag man / beta provider.

Always be very wary of giving significant commitment to a girl who isn't on enthusiastically on board with your mission in life. And if you don't have a mission, fix that first and worry about commited relationship afterwards, because it's almost impossible to sustain one for long with a top gal if you are somewhat aimless in life.

Assuming the meeting has already happened, my guess is she wanted to break up. How did it go?

Post: #5

I was late about 20m. She wasn't even angry. We get one drink in pub then wine and sex at my place. After thar she went with her friends to the party and I went with mine. There was no any serious talk but I'm better prepared for the future.

Post: #6

Lol, classic. I suppose I jumped the gun a bit. The basic point here is that it doesn't matter, because most of the time you shouldn't take what girls say seriously anyway, partly because it can change as fast as their moods. Tomassi has classic article on the subject.
https://therationalmale.com/2012/09/14/amused-mastery/