Post: #26

Listen to the near unanimous advice. And stop even thinking about this guy. However bad you think you had it, from your description you can rest assured that half the planet has it tougher every day and they don't go around with a chip on their shoulder. You have all the knowledge in the world at your fingertips, potable and hot water, a warm bed, food, relatives who will invite you to gatherings, education, and more. I've been through some shit, plenty of us have. I'm happy because I chose and still choose to focus on the positives, not dwell on past negatives. If you focus on negativity you get more of it. Sounds like new age BS but it's true. Tony Robbins "Get the Edge" downloaded off Limewire back when that was a thing changed my life, mainly because of the bits about feeling geniuine gratitude for what we have, which is really nothing more than focusing on positives.

Passing out pictures of him smoking weed is a pathetic, underhanded move. If someone told me they did that I'd lose all respect for them, just as all your relatives will do for you when they find out what you did, and they will find out. Yea, you might hurt his reputation but you'll hurt you're own too. Where I come from you'd hurt your own rep a hell of a lot worse. Getting pleasure from the suffering of others while causing it to yourself is the definition of spite, and that's no way to be.

You want to hurt this guy? It's been said already - succeed. If you act all mopey around him he'll know he had a lasting effect on your psyche, that makes him dominant over you even to this day, and that's the best way to make him happy. Do you think guys who are winning - rolling in dough with a hot girl on each arm on a Dominican beach give two shits what uncle Fred did to them a decade ago? If you go into this gathering still caring enough about him to do a juvenile stunt like pass out pics everyone will know that you're not a winner - and no one cares what a failure thinks.

Work on yourself and your psyche so that you're not in this weak, reactive state, then next year you can be the life of the party with a hot girl on your arm and deny him rapport when he seeks it - if you even still feel the need, which I bet you won't.

Post: #27

My hippie parents preached peace and love and togetherness and they were mostly just junky neglectful parents. Its was like the coolest thing for my friends to see me with almost zero supervision. My mom encouraged me to screw girls but she was so stupid and irresponsible. To this day it just kills me. I want to let go.

That was in Canada. Today I live in Florida and it is devoid of true hippie culture for the most part. One time I drove through this hippie place in central Florida and saw totally tripped out / broken homeless Rainbow people tripping in the woods and living there in drunken Rainbow camps. Its bad news Brown down here...

I dunno... Take care of yourself. Life is short. If people try to slow you down, push them back and tell them to shove it. And love it. Be mean to people who deserve it and enjoy mistreating them if you need to. Be a kind person and it will be totally transparent and people will like you for it. Rip the negativity out of their soul sucking guts and cram it back down their worthless throats telling them they should thank you for the abuse.

Dont be afriad to lose everything you have got in order to figure out what you love to do in life.

You are the king.

In your life time you will encounter lots of people that will do everything it takes to discourage you and derail you from your dreams. Its up to you for learning howto identify these people and how to deal with them.

Post: #28

This is all poor advice. If this guy has done what you say he has, bring the full force of justice on his ass. Letting people run over you is the reason why real assholes exist in the first place. Give him one chance to explain himself, and if he's not remorseful and pays you back your money, shame him + call him out in front of everyone. Be factual, him smoking weed isn't a real good way to do it. Show statements make it completely neutral as possible, this will give you the high ground.

All this kumbaya stuff is shitty advice on how to be a man and fight back. You think Trump would take this shit? No, he would blast on twitter. You tell me if you think he's a "loser".

Post: #29

(12-27-2016 11:42 PM)Putin Closes Wrote:  This is all poor advice. If this guy has done what you say he has, bring the full force of justice on his ass. Letting people run over you is the reason why real assholes exist in the first place. Give him one chance to explain himself, and if he's not remorseful and pays you back your money, shame him + call him out in front of everyone. Be factual, him smoking weed isn't a real good way to do it. Show statements make it completely neutral as possible, this will give you the high ground.

All this kumbaya stuff is shitty advice on how to be a man and fight back. You think Trump would take this shit? No, he would blast on twitter. You tell me if you think he's a "loser".

There is more than one way to fight; this is a choice of weapons. OP could get a gun and show him some real power by making the guy beg for his life, doesn't mean that's the best idea. The means by which we go about things tend to give a lot more definition to ourselves than the ultimate ends. OP could do something to him and get 30-life, or he could build a fantastic life, either will make him the overall winner, but one is definitely more problematic in the long run than the other.

Post: #30

(12-28-2016 12:10 AM)Alpharius Wrote:  

(12-27-2016 11:42 PM)Putin Closes Wrote:  This is all poor advice. If this guy has done what you say he has, bring the full force of justice on his ass. Letting people run over you is the reason why real assholes exist in the first place. Give him one chance to explain himself, and if he's not remorseful and pays you back your money, shame him + call him out in front of everyone. Be factual, him smoking weed isn't a real good way to do it. Show statements make it completely neutral as possible, this will give you the high ground.

All this kumbaya stuff is shitty advice on how to be a man and fight back. You think Trump would take this shit? No, he would blast on twitter. You tell me if you think he's a "loser".

There is more than one way to fight; this is a choice of weapons. OP could get a gun and show him some real power by making the guy beg for his life, doesn't mean that's the best idea. The means by which we go about things tend to give a lot more definition to ourselves than the ultimate ends. OP could do something to him and get 30-life, or he could build a fantastic life, either will make him the overall winner, but one is definitely more problematic in the long run than the other.

I highly doubt showing a couple statements is going to ruin the other guy's life. Anytime you do want revenge, make sure to do it within the confines of the law. If you have no actual evidence of the wrong, then learn from it and move on. However, if you do have evidence of the transgression, then pursue it to the fullest. One's reputation is the most important thing you can have.

No one is going to look down on you if you present a neutral case (with evidence) and let people decide for themselves. If you run away when getting trampled on, that's not a fight. That's called getting your ass whooped and bending over some more. Not to mention, your lack of action may result in someone else getting scammed.