Post: #26

Somebody should take away YOUR presents just for thinking this.

Aloha!

Post: #27

(11-27-2016 02:09 AM)JoyStick Wrote:  I know, I know.... Beta as fuck!

I care for this girl still. She was a good one and I was a dick to her and she got fed up and moved on. We been broken up for a couple months now but still keep in touch on Snapchat. I'm really torn. My feelings want to get her something because I care for her, but my brain says "quit being a little bitch, she gave up on you".

If I do get her something though, it would be something cheap but sentimental like a box of her favorite chocolate and a card.

I wasn't going to put this in the game forum at first because I'm not even sure what my intentions are. I do still have feelings for her but I'm not trying to win back her love with the gift or anything like that.

Please give me some advice and examples of your personal experiences if possible. Thanks in advance guys!

Sorry for my rambling.

I feel you Don Juan.

I was in the same situation 1 month ago (I broke things off with my EX exactly 2 months ago, 0 contact). I went to Mexico for business and I stop by a supermarket and bought her a hot sauce she really likes. One that you can only find in Mexico.

I was thinking in bringing it to her because I know she will like it.

After my return I sat down and thought. Why am I doing this? Do you still care about her? Do you really want to risk confusing her? do you want to fuck her again? Do you want this gal in your life again?

What would happen if I go to her place with a nice bottle of Mexican hot sauce only to see a new guy going out of her apartment?

All this shit was going throw my mind.

The reality is that I broke things off because she was driving me insane with her insecurities, and I wanted to fool around with other plates.

Instead of going to see her. I invited one of my plates for taco night, I use the hot sauce on our tacos, had some margaritas, wild sex and kicked her our on an UBER 3 hours later.

Now I feel like I really move on. You should do the same.

Good luck

Post: #28

Something like this happened to me one Christmas

I had a chick I was dating and we broke up like two weeks before Christmas, and so I started seeing the 2nd chick on my bench seriously. I was still fuckin around with the 1st chick, but we were constantly arguing and fighting so things were deteriorating rapidly, but I was trying to hold on and fuck her some more or whatever. I hadn't talked to the 1st girl for about a week before Christmas, so as an experiment of sorts I bought them both similar Christmas gifts, got them each a cheap pair of $25 earrings and some flowers and candy.

I went by the 1st girl's house like the day before Christmas and left her a gift bag, thinking I was doing something nice...well she calls me back a couple hours later and she's fuckin PISSED...saying, how dare I get her some cheap ass earrings after all the shit we've been through! I'm like well isn't it the thought that counts at least I was thinking of you and trying to reach out, and you didn't get me ANYTHING, where's your Christmas Spirit bitch! She basically says I better go get her some nice jewelry if I want to keep talking to her, and proves herself to be a thoroughly ungrateful bitch.

So I did go back to the store to get another gift... I bought the 2nd girl some way more expensive jewelry! And she couldn't have been more gracious and nice about it, she proved herself to be a class act whereas the 1st one proved herself to be the selfish psycho she was. It was an easy choice for me to move on from there. I would have been much better off totally ignoring her and not wasting my time or money on Girl #1, and to this day she still drunk dials me randomly wanting the D. Girl #2, still sweet and pleasant as can be.

The moral of the story for me was, save your money and buy a nicer present for someone new, they will appreciate it more than a bitter ex would.

Post: #29

no.

Post: #30

I did something similar. I bought my ex-wife some of her favorite chocolate a few months after we broke up (but before the divorce was finalized) and she appreciated it. Even thought about getting back together because she said she was really touched by the gesture...

Try it if it's something you really wanna do, I guess. No easy answers here.

Post: #31

I sent my ex of 4 years a Christmas card the first year after we broke up (start of December).

We ended on semi-alright terms and she was a genuinely a good person, I no longer had feelings for her but I wanted to show that I did still care.

I've not done it since.

In your case, I'd probably leave the situation alone and do the best to move on if it was me.

Post: #32

No.No.No, unless you are trying to fuck her again.

She has someone else now to buy her gifts.

Post: #33

Why not just buy her new boyfriend a gift?

Quit pedestalizing dat poosy man!

Like Kaotic said, you need to get to the bottom of why you feel this would be even something to consider. That's your real issue. You need to figure out why that is and unfuck yourself.

Here's a suggestion:

You said you were "a dick" to her. So you probably feel guilty about it. Been there. It does you no good whatsoever to feed into guilt, especially when it comes to women.

However I will take it a step further and say you're being driven to do this in order to forgive yourself for your perceived transgressions against her, real or imagined.

Forget about being forgiven. Forgive yourself.

The last relationship I had that was over a year was almost 3 years ago now, and we ended on bad terms. I felt horrible and for a month or two was very guilt laden about the whole thing. She wanted nothing to do with me, ect.

The moment I stopped thinking about how I'd fucked up, how everyone knew what an asshole I was, and how I'd simply never be where I was with her again, I was liberated. I was able to look in the mirror and say, "Yes, you did fuck up. Yes, you were an asshole. But so what?"

After that I went on a tear.

Give yourself the gift. The gift of new pussy.

Post: #34

(11-27-2016 02:09 AM)JoyStick Wrote:  I care for this girl still. She was a good one and I was a dick to her and she got fed up and moved on. We been broken up for a couple months now but still keep in touch on Snapchat. I'm really torn. My feelings want to get her something because I care for her, but my brain says "quit being a little bitch, she gave up on you".

I'm gonna go against the grain here but why not just tell her exactly that? Never apologizing is, in theory, a good rule in relationships. But it's not like you're trying to get this one back or anything like that. I see nothing but positive coming out of this:

- You feel better about the situation (assuming you really were a dick and it's not some undeserved self-blame / guilt)
- She's not going back in the sea as a bitter and resentful woman (atleast not as much)
- You've saved yourself some $$$.

If you really "care for her" as you said, let her know that you were a dick and wish her luck with her life. Then it's radio silence and you move on.

Buying a present doesn't accomplish a damn thing.

Post: #35

I don't see what that accomplishes either, other than making him feel better.

When you apologize people expect you to change, i wouldn't even throw that out there. Sure OP was probably a dick or whatever but what does that really mean? He wanted what he wanted and he clearly didn't get it.

He should just move on and address his own issues within a personal context that has nothing to do with this girl.

Post: #36

My ex-wife and I exchange gifts occasionally if I'm there celebrating with the kids. It just depends on the maturity of the r/s.

Post: #37

^makes sense

it depends is a good answer

Post: #38

If you want to waste your money, go for it. Think of this you could save that money for something that you yourself wants. You claim you still have feelings, do what some other guys said and go approach some girls.

Post: #39

I just got a present from my ex-girlfriend. She came to my apartment, trespass and knock at my door.

She wants to get back together and she will do whatever.

She wasn't that bad just disrespect me a few times.

fuck....

Post: #40

(12-21-2016 10:11 AM)Palo_alto Wrote:  I just got a present from my ex-girlfriend. She came to my apartment, trespass and knock at my door.

She wants to get back together and she will do whatever.

She wasn't that bad just disrespect me a few times.

fuck....

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Post: #41

(12-21-2016 10:11 AM)Palo_alto Wrote:  I just got a present from my ex-girlfriend. She came to my apartment, trespass and knock at my door.

She wants to get back together and she will do whatever.

She wasn't that bad just disrespect me a few times.

fuck....

Any woman who disrespects you will do it again, more and more eroding your self worth.

Why the hell are you getting presents for someone you broke up with ?

Secondly, read that thread Stalin posted, fix yourself.

I don't give a shit what she was like, DO NOT CONTACT HER AGAIN.

Get that pussy off the pedestal immediately, and start hitting up other girls in your life man.

Post: #42

As others have said in this thread, not the best thing to do. Time to move on

Post: #43

I guess you could give her a shoe box of all the hair clips, bands, panties, and other small shit she left behind in the bedroom and bathroom.

Post: #44

Why not just wish her happy holidays?

No money spent, sentiment is still there, but you're not investing too much in it (and money is the least of investments I'm referring to).

Post: #45

(12-21-2016 05:37 PM)Nascimento Wrote:  Why not just wish her happy holidays?

No money spent, sentiment is still there, but you're not investing too much in it (and money is the least of investments I'm referring to).

i agree just text happy holidays stay safe

Post: #46

No

Post: #47

Unless she has been diagnosed with cancer or it's some kind of insurance policy to avoid future drama (a one in a thousand case), absolutely not.

Just message her and say you hope things are going well for her, maybe a year or two after your break-up. A gift is usually going to appear melodramatic and creepy.

Even then, any contact with exes should be frugal, bar unavoidable encounters in public or work.

Post: #48

(11-27-2016 02:09 AM)JoyStick Wrote:  I know, I know.... Beta as fuck!

You said it.

NO.

Post: #49

No.

Post: #50

At absolute most send her a "merry christmas" text way late in the day or on the 26th or something.

I wouldn't be communicating with an ex on social media or text at all either, unless she reaches out. And even then, ignore her for the first few weeks or month, and only respond after that time period if she reaches out.

Some form of nexting needs to be used on exes.