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London got me down… need some help / encouragement
Whoever said he who tires of London tires of life was shitting himself.
I'm tired of London.
I met a girl on tinder 6 months ago and we got together for four months. 2 months ago we broke up and since then me and a buddy of mine have been hitting it hard, going out Fridays Saturdays and Sundays primarily to clubs/bars and day events.
We get no love whatsoever. It seems to me most people in London go out in groups, and its very hard to penetrate social circles no matter where you go. Everyone is out and about in groups - if that's the case, whats the point in trying to night game, and for those players that do, how do you pull it off? Either we are doing something very wrong, or we are just going to the wrong places.
I have no problem in approaching girls but it seems that most English (and foreign) girls in clubs are there in mixed groups, or there just to dance the night away with their girlfriends and its very hard to isolate (in particular in Shoreditch / Soho / S. Ken etc). Once you get a conversation going inevitably her friend or group is going to pull her away from you and make you look like a sex pest.
For the amount of effort and time that I've spent in clubs in the past two months, the results really don't seem worth it (2 k closes, a couple of numbers, 2 flaky dates).
Is it me or is London just a shit place for night game?
For reference, I'm Indian by background, 6 ft, pretty fit, I do pretty well abroad, and I know that I most certainly don't fit the Indian chode stereotype (according to most of my friends and girls i've banged in the past). I've got a decent job and fashion sense I would think.
Still, it just seems that the night game environment in London is so unyielding - anyone else experiencing the same thing?
I haven't tried day game substantially to be honest (maybe one or two approaches here and there) as I think my mental state is just not there yet. Any tips? Advice? Wingmen out there?
Feeling quite beta these days any advice would be welcome.
(This post was last modified: 09-12-2016 06:13 PM by styleiconx.)
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RE: London got me down… need some help / encouragement
I feel like the best part of being in London is access to the rest of Europe via cheap flights.
Sometimes it helps to make friends with some of the less attractive girls in a group first. Often they're nicer anyway, and showing you can be cool with them will usually get the rest of the group to accept you. Don't try, as an outsider, to isolate a girl in front of her friends. Even if the girl in question likes you, you will often fit the pattern of "guy-hitting-on-friend" and her friends will be cynical. Rather, try to join the group and talk to her as a member of her circle. If you're going out a lot, this might mean touching base with an acquaintance via text on Wednesday, swinging by a bar/club on Thursday to say hey, and then going out with the whole group on Friday. You're more attractive this way, too, because you're having fun with friends instead of overtly trying to get a specific girl.
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RE: London got me down… need some help / encouragement
The key here is to not let the UK or London dating market get you down.
I got into Game circa 2008 and I quickly found that my pre-Game existence in Canada, USA and France was more successful than my Game living in the UK. This is because of the coldness to strangers within British society and the class system and the relative lack of attractive women. Most of the Game literature from the US was based on nightgame where single bars exist. In the UK, clubs are mostly for very loud music, groups and a high volume of alcohol turnover. Add this to the unfavourable gender ratios in clubs, I found that the quality and quantity of women did not justify the cost-benefit analysis.
Also, I would suggest that few men really enjoy nightclubs.
I would suggest meetup whereby you are already part of the group. It means that Game has to be indirect as it is quasi-social circle game.
Looking back into my 20s, I think nightclubs were my greatest waste of resources, time and energy - especially in the UK.
(This post was last modified: 09-13-2016 01:03 AM by N°6.)
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RE: London got me down… need some help / encouragement
I was in a similar postion, with regards to not liking london, now I enjoy it a lot
What I did was:
Deleted tinder
Stopped approaching women born in the UK, and focused just on women from other countries
Started frequenting a bar,and become a regular there (I've been there every day for over 4 weeks, without exception)
Chatted up foreign women that come to the bar
And thats it. The venue selection is very important, you dont want to pick a shit bar/pub like a wetherspoons, but a bar that gets lots of young international women. My advice assumes you're in good shape, dress well, and can afford to go out
Also, go out on your own. I go out on my own more than 80% of the time, and do much better than when I'm with friends. Taking a date/my friends and their friends to my bar, skipping the queue, talking on first name terms with the staff etc, pays for itself
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RE: London got me down… need some help / encouragement
(09-13-2016 09:13 PM)Travesty Wrote: Wow has Australia been officially topped by UK for worst dating market?
I spent some quality time on different occasions with two Aussie chicks in Colombia. They were fun, but they were sort of guyish and mean as shit. They were like English girls except much shittier.
I had fun hanging out with them, they were very pretty, but they had shit ass attitudes and I didn't get laid by either one of them. I left one by herself in the main square of Salento. I just said, "I'm leaving." and walked way.
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The Black Knight
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RE: London got me down… need some help / encouragement
Personally, I did not like London at all aside from sight-seeing/scenery aspects. I just got this vibe and feeling of it being a very tough place to game in general. It seems like everything is working against you there:
Logistics, money, ratios, culture, politically correctness, thirsty men, average quality of looks (crap), and weather (raining all the time).
I had an unbelievable night in London where I got blown out HARD in two different incidents involving English sluts. In both incidents the women were acting like they were very DTF until the very end.
The first time I got blown out, I just chalked it up to logistics (trains shut down WAY too early) and the fact that this was an online slut. She seemed very DTF up until the very end and then just walked off to her train while we were still walking. Just straight up turned in the direction she needed to go while we were talking/walking and kept walking away ... but while still talking and smiling! I just stood there thinking, "This fuckin cunt lol." No stop/pause and goodbye kind of deal. Really weird given the relative DTF vibe up until this point. We had alcohol, two venue changes, and my place was a 7 minute walk away and she pulled that stunt. Figure this was just an isolated incident kind of deal.
BUT THEN, I went and approached a young (18-21 years olds) 3-set at an open bar/night cafe area nearby. They were super bubbly/friendly for a good while (45 minutes) with 2 of the 3 acting like they were DTF. We left the open bar and walked around a few minutes looking for a club (they were eager to keep the party going but not willing to go to my place yet) and but then the group panicked about catching the last train home and started acting like raging cunts out of nowhere. One of the girls (the 1 that didn't seem as DTF but was still friendly up until this point) straight up told me after being pleasant and cool the entire night to get lost! Like stopped the entire group, made a scene, and told me to go away! HAHAHA!
This bitch went 180 in a a hot second unprovoked and the other two girls didn't even check this chick and just sided with her! One minute we are all buddies looking for a place to have fun and the next minute, one bitch is flipping out and telling me to fuck off home while her seemingly DTF friends just sit by and let her act like a raging twat! Fucking madness!
So, either:
1) I had a REALLY off night game wise.
2) London English women are bipolar cocktease cunts.
3) or a combination of both.
I would say London English women are bipolar cockteasing cunts.
Online was relative crap too. Flaky as hell, weirdos, and bad attitudes even by online standards.
Honestly, save your money/energy and:
1) Focus on foreign women/niche game (I blew off a polish chick while there who was pretty receptive and warm to me. What a mistake).
2) Move.
3) Fly to other places. From London, you can get to some decent cities for very little expense and effort compared to most other places.
London, without a doubt in my mind compared to other 1st tier cities, has to be one of the worst places in the world to game. That place is fucked up on so many levels.
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